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Texting A Woman – 15 UPDATED Texting Rules To Follow

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Today’s content is all about Texting a Woman. So Make sure to read this before you text her!

The rules have changed my friend, and after sending thousands of text messages and selling countless copies of my book, Turn Her On Through Text, I can tell you that if she’s not texting you back, it’s probably because of one of the following mistakes that almost every guy makes.

When you learn how to text girls the right way that I’m about to show you, it’ll set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her. When you’re texting a woman like this.. She’ll text you back faster. She’ll text you first and you’ll be the guy she chooses and all the other guys she’s texting will be left high and dry.. Ghosted!

I’m going to give you 15 crucial texting do’s and don’ts including how not to be needy and turn her off.

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TEXTING A WOMAN
15 Updated Rules To Follow

15 – STOP BEING NEEDY

Honestly, this could be a lot higher on the countdown, but in fact, all of these are so important – stop being needy. There are two ways that guys commonly come off as too needy..

Number one is texting a woman too much, texting all the time. I mean, come on, man, you’re a busy guy. You’re on your purpose. You have a mission in life. It’s not to be sending her text messages all the time and getting that little hit of dopamine every time you hear that ding on your phone. So what you need to do is just keep your phone on silent and only check your phone a few times at specific times, every single day, instead of always texting a woman back right away and sending her tons of messages, be doing your thing, just be focused on your job, your passions.

And when you check your phone a few times a day, that’s when you reply back. So what if she has to wait a few hours? Let her wonder what you’re doing now. I’m not saying that as a manipulation tactic, where you see her texts and you say, “Ooh, I got to wait two hours to text her back.” I’m saying, don’t even check your phone. So that way you’re just naturally going to text her back two hours later.

Sometimes it will be right away because she sent you a text and you happened to be checking your phone. Other times she’s going to have to wait.

The second way guys are needy is they just send really long text messages, have rambled, and even gone for 18 pages.

Look at the text before you send it and just think to yourself, is there any way I can shorten this? Do I really have to send three sentences? Can I just say that in one sentence? Cause imagine you text her and she looks at her phone and she sees all these messages in a row from you, or maybe it’s just one big message from you if just met you and she doesn’t really know much about you, then she’s just going to assume that you’re needy.

So in general, just keep your text short and to the point, double check it before you send it.


14 – CHAMELEON APPROACH

The chameleon matches his environment. Now I’m not saying you should match exactly how she texts you. When you’re texting a woman, It’s not about mirroring exactly, or using the exact words or the same exact amount of emoticons or texting her back the exact length of time that it took her to text you back just like a command.

The chameleon doesn’t change into a rock or tree. He just kind of matches his environment. So I want you to kind of match her texting style.

If she’s sending you really long texts, then feel free to write a little bit longer. If she texts you back right away, then feel free to text her back a little bit quicker. This is kind of like the exception to the previous rule. She’s using tons and tons of emoticons – then feel free to use a few more..

But don’t turn into a chick. Don’t overdo it. Just notice her texting vibe, her texting style and match it just a little bit, because we feel more comfortable and we like people that are like ourselves.

When you’re being totally different, like she sends you these long, long texts and you send her one word replies and she texts you back right away. But you wait 10 hours? There’s going to be so much of a disconnect. She’s going to feel like you guys are totally not on the same page and you’re probably not going to get a date with her.

So don’t copy.. Don’t mirror.. Just match her texting style.

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13 – DON’T BE BORING

Don’t bore her to death. I knew a really attractive girl and she had a crush on this guy that she worked with. And finally he asked for her number and she was all excited. And then the next day he sent her a text:

“Hey.” She immediately lost interest but she gave him the benefit of the doubt. And she sent a reply like, “Hey, what’s up?” And he wrote back “Not much, you?” And she told me that her attraction for him died after just two or three text messages.

Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your text short, like I said earlier, but I think you can be a little bit more original than “Hey” or “What’s up” or “What are you doing?” In fact, never send a one word text. You’re smarter than that. You’re more clever than that. I know you can come up with something better and if you’re struggling, you want to have your texts fun, flirty a little bit cheeky so that when she sees a text from you, she’s smiling and she’s enjoying it. And she’s looking forward to your next text.


And along with not boring her to death, is always use proper spelling and grammar. Unless of course you’re using the chameleon approach. Other than that, spell out your words. Don’t use a “u” to replace the word “you”, because that’s like texting like a 13 year old girl.

You’re better than that, man. If she sees all these cheesy abbreviations and you’re missing periods and you’re not capitalizing words and you’re misspelling words, what is she going to think about you?

All she knows about you are the words that you’re sending on the screen. You could be a freakin’ genius, but if you’re texting her like a little kid, she’s going to think that there’s not much up there next.

12 – GIRLS WILL FLAKE YOU AND GO COLD

Girls will flake. It’s just the way it is. And they will go cold sometimes. And I know how frustrating it is. You really like this girl. She’s so pretty. And then you don’t hear back from her. And I know what it’s like, man. It sucks.

You meet a girl. Maybe you approach the girl you got out of your comfort zone. You risked embarrassment. You had this great interaction. You felt the sparks flying and then she doesn’t reply to your first text. Or maybe she does reply.. You have a little exchange back and forth. And then all of a sudden.. Where the heck did she go? She’s gone.

And so you text her again, no reply. And then maybe even texts her a third or fourth. Hopefully not a fifth and sixth time. Cause chances are, she’s not going to reply. You got to understand, man. It’s just the way it is. Sometimes women are not going to text you back.

Oftentimes they actually do it as a test. They want to see, are you really as cool as you seem or are you going to get all butthurt and all worried and freak out when she doesn’t text you back for a day?

Because trust me, man, some guys freak out just because the girl didn’t text him back. He sends text after text, after text, “What happened?” “What did I say wrong?” “What are you doing?” He goes through all these emotions. Then he starts getting mad at her.

Don’t be that guy. She wants to make sure that you’re a cool grounded man. That just because she doesn’t text you back or she texts you the wrong thing or she says no, the first time you ask her on a date or she even flakes on the date, that you’re not going to freak out that you are a calm grounded man.

Think about it.. If you freak out just because she doesn’t text you back, it means you only have one option that you’re putting all your eggs in her basket and that you really, really, really like her. That’s why you’re so mad that she’s not reciprocating that attraction back, which is basically the definition of needy.

It means you have no options.

So you need her and you’re latching onto her and freaking out when it doesn’t work out. So what if one or two fall off the radar? You have other options. And if you don’t have other options right now, ask yourself, “Why not?” Is it because you’re struggling with meeting women and approaching women in real life?

If that’s the case, man, we can help you out. We have all sorts of boot camps all around the world where we take guys in the field and show them exactly how to walk up and approach beautiful women in a way that is confident, smooth, and a way that women absolutely adore.

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11 – SENDING NAUGHTY TEXTS TOO SOON

Oh, man.. we’ve all done this one; Sending sexual texts too soon. Now this could be high risk high reward in that – If she reciprocates the sexuality, then hey, it’s game on.

But it’s risky, man, because there’s no body language or tonality through texting a woman, she can easily misinterpret whatever sexual innuendo or sexually charged texts that you sent her wrong way. And it can just totally creep her out unless you do it the right way.

If you want to get her all hot and bothered, whether you just met her or you’ve been texting her for a long time – do it in a way that’s very safe so that she won’t think that you’re a freak or a creep because you’re going to use the same seductive language that women absolutely devour in romance novels.

Now in today’s day and age, it seems like nobody talks on the phone anymore, right? Everybody’s texting, which is why you need to get her on the phone because it will set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her.

Think about it. She’s texting 20 other guys. And honestly, if she’s an attractive woman, that might be the case, but the only guy she actually had a real on-the-phone conversation with is you, who do you think she’s going to want to go on a date with? Who’s she going to feel more comfortable with, who is she going to feel like she knows better?

Because she’s going to hear your tonality. She’s going to be able to sense your vibe and what kind of guy you are just from a short phone conversation. Texting, which is just words, accounts for only about 7% of communication. The rest is body language and tonality.

Once you have a short conversation with her on the phone, she’s more likely to say yes to you because she’ll feel like she just has a better sense of who you are as long as the phone conversation was pretty good. If you get on there and you’re all nervous and you don’t know what to say, and there’s all these awkward silences then yeah, you’re pretty much just shooting yourself in the foot.

Also, you need to set up the phone call the right way. You cannot just call her out of the blue nowadays. So I created an entire video that shows you exactly how to call girls in today’s day and age. You can check that out in the video below or HERE.

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Make sure to watch it, man, because if you can master calling women on the phone nowadays, you have a huge advantage.

10 – SEND HER COOL AND AMAZING PICTURES

They say a picture is a thousand words because you can only convey so much emotion or spark so much emotion in her through words, but with a picture you can do a whole lot more.

For example, when texting a woman, you can show her what you’re doing that day. You can give her a little insight into your life. Some of your passions, or if you’re into working out, you can send her a picture when you’re all pumped up at the gym that might even turn her on a little bit.

Don’t look like you’re bragging, man. Bragging is never a turn on.

One way that I like to do it is by using a cliffhanger text, which is just the text that implies there’s more to the text and it kind of leaves her hanging, right? Like you’re hanging off the end of the cliff, get it? Cliffhanger.

For example, “You know what kind of animal you remind me of?” “…” She will always respond to that. Cause she wants to know. And then I just sent her a picture of the animal and she’ll be like, “Oh, it’s so cute!”

9 – GO FOR THE DATE ON A HIGH NOTE

Next I recommend that you always go for the date on a high note. What that means is that anytime you escalate, the interaction escalates just means you’re going to the next level going for the first date is the next level in the interaction.

If you do it at a low note, for example, just out of the blue, you don’t know what kind of emotional state she’s in. She could have had a horrible day and then you text her, “Hey, let’s hang out.” And by the way, never text her “let’s hang out,” have an actual plan.

But if you go for it while she’s not in a great mood, she’s likely to say no, but if you’ve been texting back and forth and you’ve been using some of the texts out of my Texting Cheat Sheet and she’s laughing and she’s loving the back and forth texting exchange, and then you go for a date on a high note, she’s a lot more likely to say yes to the date.


8 – END THE BACK AND FORTH FIRST

What that means is if you’re texting a woman back and forth, like you’re kind of having a conversation. You know, she texts you back. You text her back every couple minutes, ping-pong back and forth.

YOU end it first. Why? Because you’re a busy guy. And I don’t mean just pretend you’re a busy guy that you got to go and you have nothing to do. Actually have a life, have to do you, man. You don’t have time to send her 50 text messages back and forth. So after a few back and forth, end it first, just tell her what you got to do.

“Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll text you later.” Or “Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll call you at eight. Will you be free?” And then set up a phone call. If she’s constantly the one that ends the texting conversation, it’s putting her in charge. It’s putting her in the lead and it seems like you have nothing better to do.

Like she’s the busy one and you’re the one chasing her. Now, if you can’t end it first, she tells you she’s got to go. No big deal. It’s not the end of the world. Don’t freak out just as a general rule. Try to end the interaction first. And the easiest way to do that is just have a busy life.

7 – GHOST HER / GIVE HER SOME SPACE

Next is kind of on the same token, but a little bit different. It can come off a little manipulative, but this not what I’m intending. Hopefully you don’t take this the wrong way..

You can ghost her.

Now let me back up. I don’t mean completely ghost her and you disappear forever. What would be the point of that? Don’t do that. What I mean is just give some space in the interaction.

If you, on average, text her every day, then stop texting her for a day or two. If you on average text her every other day then stop texting her for like three, four, five days. This is really going to make her think about you.

Assuming she likes you, she’s going to be wondering what’s going on. “Why isn’t he texting me back?” And she’s going to be thinking about you a lot.

People actually fall in love with one another not while they’re together necessarily, but when they are apart, when they’re thinking about the other person.

Don’t do this as a manipulative tactic. Just do this as a way to give your relationship, your newly found relationship, probably – some space. Just to see what happens. Does she text you after a day and just notice, maybe she’ll become the one that texts you back first. And if she doesn’t text you first, no big deal. Just restart the texting conversation.

You can chastise me all you want, but this technique flat out works for texting a woman. And I don’t want you to do it like, “Okay, I’m going to stop texting her.” I just want you to be busy. Don’t make texting a woman your number one priority. Go do something. Go camping for a couple of days, go on a weekend trip with your family. Again. What it all comes down to is being a guy with purpose. A guy who’s on his mission in life.

He’s got sh*t going on besides texting one particular girl that he just met. I’m not saying you should do this to your wife or girlfriend. No, I’m talking about a girl that you just met or maybe you’ve only been on one or two dates with her. It’s very early in the relationship. This can even sometimes speed the relationship up to the next level.

6 – BE PERSISTENT

Now this has all happened to us. We’ve all had women I assume that have ghosted us or just started going cold and didn’t text back. The key is to be persistent, man.

Keep the texting a woman fun and playful. Like I said earlier, don’t freak out. Don’t start giving her a bunch of sh*t just because she didn’t reply back. Or even if she doesn’t say yes to the date right away, don’t get all needy and give her ultimatums. In fact, I just had a client who was texting his girl that he really, really liked.

He was using word for word, text messages from Turn Her On Through Text. So the interaction was going awesome. She was texting him first. She seemed really excited to text and to eventually see him.

But when he asked her out, she said she was busy that weekend. And so instead of just being a cool guy and saying, “Okay, no big deal.” and keep texting and then try to go for a date next weekend, he got all affected and he sent something like, “Look, I don’t want to play games with you. I like you. If you don’t want to see me, then let’s just stop talking to each other!“

Don’t do that, man. Just be persistent. Nothing’s a big deal. Just try again. In fact, even if she stops texting you, don’t just give up just because she didn’t reply to your last texts.

Maybe she’s busy. Maybe she forgot. Maybe she’s texting other guys. That’s pretty likely, but guess what? Those other guys will likely shoot themselves in their foot. Don’t do that to yourself. Just be persistent. Wait a couple of days and try again.

The next couple of tips are really juicy, man. So pay attention, take good notes.

5 – GET HER SOCIAL MEDIA

Nowadays, man, I highly recommend you get her on social media if you’re texting a woman. If you don’t have social media, it’s not the end of the world. I get it, man.

It’s addictive. And maybe you want to go down that rabbit hole. Cool. But if you got Facebook, Tinder or Snapchat, or if you’re watching this someday in the future, whatever is next, make sure to use it because you can stay on her radar a lot more.

One time I met this girl exchanged numbers and I hadn’t gone back to that city and hit her up for four years because I was in a relationship. And when my relationship ended, I went back to that city and a girl was really pretty. So I hit her up and guess what? When we met up for the date, she was like, “Wow, I’ve seen all your traveling. I know you went here and you did this..” It was surprising she knew everything that happened in the last four years because she was following me on Facebook.

Now imagine she wasn’t following me on Facebook. I only had her phone number and then I texted her four years later. She’d be like, “Oh, why is this guy texting me? I barely remember him.” So again, it goes back to having a cool life. If you have a cool life, post your pictures on social media and then every girl you meet, add them to your social media.

You can just text them on social media. However, when I meet a woman in person, I first get her social media. I use what’s called a “yes ladder.” I say, Hey, do you have social media at sea? She says, yes. I say, cool Instagram. She says, yes, that’s two yeses. Then I say, cool, write it down here. And she writes it in the contact app on my phone. And then after she’s done writing her Instagram handle, I say, cool, write your phone number as well.

And they usually say yes, because I’m starting with a small yes and I’m building up to a bigger yes. Hence the name “Yes ladder.” And the reason I get both is because I’d rather text her through standard SMS texting because chances are, she doesn’t have as many guys hitting her up using her phone number on standard SMS.

And if she has a public social media profile, then chances are, she has a lot of guys hitting her up if she’s a really attractive woman. So when you first meet her, get her phone number and her social media, make sure of course she’s following you. Then you have the best of both worlds.

4 & 3 – GO FOR THE DATE QUICKLY + MAKE YOUR MOVE

Next is one of the biggest mistakes I see when I’m working with a client one-on-one or in a bootcamp with regard to texting a woman. And I look at their phone, I’m looking at their texting conversations. I’m scrolling like this, I see all this back and forth.

And it’s usually pretty good because they’re using texts from Turn Her On Through Text, but they’re not asking her out. And one time I spoke at an event that had a lot of women in the audience and I asked the women, what’s the biggest challenge or gripe that you have towards men when it comes to dating.

They were all in consensus that they were frustrated that men don’t make the move. And they specifically said during the texting interaction, they’re texting back and forth and the girls are frustrated because the guy never asks them out or he just waits too long..

I know we live in a modern feminized world where women want to be just as equal as men. And you know, women should be asking out men, but quite frankly, women are still feminine and they want a man to be a man and take the lead and take charge and ask her out.

Stop waiting for her to ask you out because it’s probably not going to happen. So use those text messages and go for a date quicker rather than later. And if she says, no, remember: be persistent. It’s no big deal. Keep texting back and forth and try again. Now there is a fine line of being persistent versus being overly eager or needy. And it really just takes practice finding where that fine line meets.

If you’re unsure, veer on the side of not over texting a woman.

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2 – USE THE YES LADDER

The “Yes ladder” technique is a way to kind of program somebody’s brain. You get them saying small yeses before you go for the big yes.

Smart salespeople use this technique all the time. Instead of saying, “Would you like to buy this car?” They go for a smaller yes like, “Do you like this car?” “What do you like about the car?” “Would you like to drive the car?”

So you can use the same principle when it comes texting a woman and going for a date, instead of just saying, “Hey, would you like to go out with me sometime?” – Nothing wrong with that, but it’s kind of generic and it’s going for a big, yes. Instead say something like, “Do you like ice cream?” She’ll probably say yes.

Then as long as she’s not new in town, you can ask her if she knows of a specific, popular ice cream shop, like “Have you ever been to frosted cones on Elm street?” And she’ll say, yes, I love that place. And then it leads you right into asking her out.

Now you have to make sure you ask her out the right way. Not like, “Hey, want to hang out sometime??!” you gotta ask her out like a man, give her some options. And I show you some really effective word for word, texting examples in Turn Her On Through Text and in the Free Texting Cheat Sheet.


1 – NO UNSOLICITED PICTURES OF YOUR JUNK

Rule number onefor texting a woman: please, guys. No unsolicited pictures of your junk.

If she asks for it.. FINE. I’ve had a few girls ask. I usually send them kind of teasing pictures. I don’t show them the whole thing. I’m not going to give you examples. Don’t worry, but don’t just send her a Dick pic out of the blue.

I’m pretty sure that has never worked in the history of texting. Actually, it probably has worked, but it’s just way too high risk high reward.

Don’t do it. It’s gross. It’s kind of like going up to every girl at the bar and saying, “Hey, let’s go have sex.” It’s all just a numbers game at that point.

Instead, have some skills when it comes to texting.

If you’re interested in working with me or one of our team members live infield to help you actually approach women in real life or to handle your inner game, the thoughts and beliefs and the mindsets that are holding you back then I’ll put a link down below with more information, make sure to check that out!

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That’s all for now, man! Make sure to check our content if you’re looking for more ways to master texting a woman you like.

Keep up the great work, and stay awesome.

Cheers for now,

Matt

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How To Approach Women During The Daytime (Honest + Infield Footage)

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Today’s content is all about how to approach women during the daytime! (Video footage included, man!) Approaching women and talking to girls isn’t only done in bars or clubs. In fact, we have had more authentic, memorable and enjoyable experiences when we approach women during the daytime.

Check out coach Jules Bia explaining his methods on how to approach women during the daytime, complete with footage of him approaching girls during the day in Playa del Carmen, Mexico:

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HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN DURING THE DAYTIME
with Coach Jules Bia

In today’s video, we show:
– how to approach women during the daytime
– how to approach girls during the day in the street, the beach, shops and malls
– how to approach a girl without being a creep
– how to approach girls during the daytime and get her number
– how to approach women in public places
– how to approach a girl NOT in a bar or club
– how to approach women in the street
– how to talk to a girl during the day
– infield footge from Jules Bia of The Attractive Man team
– examples of daygame approach,
– how to talk to girls with confidence
– how to talk to women and charm them

Here are Jules’ principles to keep in your mental checklist when you want to practice how to approach girls during the daytime:

WARM UP

Just like workouts. Just like public speaking.. Top athletes do it before game time, teachers and professors do it before major events, actors and performers do it before the big curtain rises. It makes TOTAL sense how important warming up is when mastering how to approach women during the day.

So, we love to warm up by talking to random people we meet everyday. Regardless of who they are, if they don’t look completely busy, give them a greeting – talk to them, give them a wave. Its a great warm up to set your mood and activate those happy hormones.

During nighttime approaches, we go and talk to everyone right from the start – if its in the bar or club, we talk to the bouncer, the first person we meet when we enter, the first group we meet.

Once you’ve warmed up, you won’t be so jumpy, anxious, fidgety. I almost never get tongue tied if I had an awesome warm up before I approach gorgeous women. So I want you to be more social, be a bit more dynamic, and warm up! Its going to help overall confidence, and social skills.

FEEL IT IN YOUR BODY

Ever heard the phrase “its all in your head”? Years of coaching men has helped us understand, majority of men’s problems are internal. They keep overthinking, they keep relying on mental cues, they keep thinking “what do I do now?” “what happens if I do this?” “what if she says this?” “should I do this after this and this?” “what if she says no?” “what if she says yes?”

The problem is.. All of your thoughts aren’t happening in the REAL world. You’ve beaten yourself up before you even made a move.

You’re supposed to FEEL it. You’re a human, with feelings, with sensors, with hormones that activate, with a body that responds to stimuli. Attraction is supposed to come naturally, not from a book that you pull out in your head. Being too much in your head? Overthinking? Believe me, it won’t end up well.

You see, some BAD advice would be “memorize this” and “practice this line and routine”. Imagine how that would feel like – are you some robot that only responds with a specific line or when a specific input is given?

So men, make sure to feel it in your body. Sure you might feel scared at first..you might have some jitters, but I want you to feel that and own it. Don’t lock yourself out of your feelings because you’ll never be able to tap into that natural, attractive you if you shut all of that out.

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TAKE CHANCES

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” True. Most men want to play it safe. Also true.

Risk taking is never easy. It requires you to exit your comfort zone. But what that does is it opens up new and amazing oppurtunities for you. And effort plus oppurtunity always equals success.

Sometimes, all guys need is a good push. You could be hanging on the edge of your safe bubble, almost ready to break your limits and become better – but you can’t find it in yourself to bust through. Why? It could be the fear of pain, the fear of rejection, afraid you’ll be humiliated, or afraid you’ll get hurt.

Men, life has been throwing curveballs all this time. And the “no pain, no gain” mantra was created for a reason – not just for the gym and working out – it applies in real life as well.

Approaching beautiful women that you might feel are out of your league is a complete risk on your part. But you know what? Experiencing the pain of rejection and learning from it is better than feeling the regret of not doing it. And most of the time, interactions even end well for our clients.

It was only after stepping out of their comfort zone that our men have realized that they can do better in dating and in their lives. It is by taking chances that we truly improve. It is by facing your demons and fears, where you can find the courage and confidence to be the best version of yourself.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all”


INVEST IN YOURSELF

Now, this is self-explanatory but I’ll have to emphasize this. Don’t make “how to approach women during the daytime” or flirting, dating, approaching women your main focus in life. That will create a needy mindset, and will set you off.

What you should be doing, is investing in yourself. Its YOUR life, and YOUR happiness. Don’t think that people-pleasing will always lead to your happiness. Seeking others approval, and doing things for them rather than yourself will lead you to a depressive state.

Invest in yourself, man. That’s the best piece of advice I can give you right now. Seek out a better you everyday. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Develop yourself, and natural attraction will follow.

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Ways To Turn A Girl On INSTANTLY (Honest & Ethical Attraction)

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I’m going to tell you 5 surprisingly simple ways to turn a girl on instantly. If you’re interested, you can make a woman want you, and you can start doing these right away to attract more women and spark romantic, and even sensual feelings the moment you meet them.

I call it the five P’s.. And the last one is by far the most powerful. It can either totally creep her out if you do it wrong way or it can turn a girl on instantly when you do it the right way, which I’m going to show you:

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WAYS TO TURN A GIRL ON INSTANTLY

I really liked this quote by Dan Brown. He says,

“Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”

-Dan Brown

Quick lesson about ways to turn a girl on instantly: One common mistake. Most guys avoid all tension in life. And we call these “nice guys” or “pleasers.” They never want to rock the boat or look bad or cause any friction.. And women find them sweet and adorable and they befriend them, but they’re not turned on by these types of men. Or should I say boys? For that matter.

You see, a man who avoids all tension is just not attractive because he’s kind of a wuss and women are not attracted to terrified men who avoid all tension and play it safe in life. They want a guy who’s a little bit of a risk taker, which is why they sometimes like arseholes because a-holes don’t live in fear.

They do and say what they want despite the tension that it often creates. But the good news is you don’t have to be an arse-hole. You just have to be willing and comfortable stepping into tension. So how do you do that?

Think of it like this. You’re probably attracted to very feminine women.

Gorgeous, beautiful women who are also attracted to masculine men, which sometimes looks like muscular man or tall men or men who are CEOs of a big company. Successful men, because being masculine is about conquering, fighting, hunting, being a leader, being driven.

Fortunately, unlike our ancestors who were literally conquerers, hunters, and killers, warriors.. We don’t actually have to do any of those things nowadays, which is great. We live in a much safer society, which I think is awesome, but of that because we live in such a safe world now, and we don’t have to step into that tension and fight for our food or fight other men. We become soft. We don’t step into tension. We live in our comfort zone for our entire life. You know, working in a cubicle or working from our house, getting Uber eats delivered to us.

Again, it’s very convenient, but to become more masculine, and increase your attractiveness, you need to build courage. You need to step into tension, especially the tension of a beautiful woman, because if she’s gorgeous and you’re getting nervous, there’s a lot of tension there, which is why, of course, we bring in models on our live workshops and have you role play with them and have you ground yourself.

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Now we’re going to go over the five P’s. You have to understand that sexual tension is all about pressure and then releasing the pressure. Most guys think crumble under the pressure or the tension of a beautiful woman. And so they cannot be attracted to that type of guy — one who’s nervous and fumbling and fidgeting and breaking eye contact.

It makes her want to get out of that situation right away. But when you practice and you master these five things, then when you approach a beautiful woman, you can be calm, confident, and grounded in that pressure. And she’ll therefore feel like you must have a lot of beautiful women of her caliber in your life.

Make sense, right? Because if you didn’t, you would crumble under that pressure. But since you’re calm, common, confident talking to a beautiful woman like her, you must have a lot of women like her in your life, which is not only sub communicates that you are an attractive man, because you have women like her in your life, or you’re comfortable around women are like her.

At least you might not have any women like her in your life,

But the fact that you’re comfortable around her, it’s basically pre-selection. She knows that you are the type of guy that women like her would date. Not only that, but she will feel this intensity. She will feel this spark of romantic sensual and sexual tension within seconds.

Sometimes it’s instantly. So the first thing that I want you to practice the first P.. can you guess it?

First P – PROMIXITY

First up. Ways to turn a girl on instantly, 5 P’s – Proximity, how close or how far away you are from her matters. A lot. For example, if I stand this far away, it just seems like I’m afraid of her and she can feel that. Plus when I shake hands with her, I have to lean in kind of, or likF here pull her if I am standing normal, it’s just weird. (I demonstrate this in the video I embedded)

And a lot of guys make this mistake. They stand really far from her. Cause they don’t want to like step into her personal space. But her personal space is really about shoulders’ distance apart.

(Demonstration in the video embedded) Like this is no big deal. She’ll be fine. If you’re standing like this, there’s definitely more tension than when I was way back there. But not really a lot. The key is to be about two inches further. This has a lot more tension. And if you can get even closer than that, now there’s even more tension.

Obviously the closer you get, the more tension there is either the club. You can be really close when you talk, because it’s so loud in the daytime. I definitely wouldn’t get this close to a girl. She’s going to freak out. So I’m going to be about an arms distance away at first. And then when I shake hands, I usually take a step forward.

And then I notice her reaction.

Her reaction was pleasant. She enjoyed it. But if she took a step back when I did that, then I would take a step back too.

Because you definitely don’t want to think, “Oh, I need sexual attention.” So I better take a step forward. And she keeps taking a step back. She’s going to want to get out of there right away. It’s going to feel really creepy and strange for her. Don’t do that. If she takes a step back, take a step back as well. Give her lots of space.

Even though this is more than arms distance apart, at least she feels comfortable now. And that’s most important. You want her to feel comfortable and safe first, then create sexual tension later. So I might give her the space at first..

And then as we’re talking, I might take a step forward again. And now we’re arms distance apart again. And I’m going to notice her reaction again this time she didn’t take a step back.

Second P – PAUSING

Number two of the ways to turn a girl on instantly. The second includes a problem – most guys speak really, really fast and they break all the tension that’s there. They don’t even allow any tension in there because they said, *In a really fast and high-pitched tone* “Hey, I just saw you here and I thought you were really cute and hi, my name is Matt, what’s your name?” And there’s no tension at all.

She can feel how nervous you are and how you’re just not used to a woman of her caliber. And remember, women don’t date down. If she can feel like you are beneath her, like you don’t date women like her, then instantly, she won’t be attracted to you.

So the second thing you need to do, is pausing. You need to pause.. not just slow down. Because if you talk slow and monotonous, it’s really boring and it’s just going to put her to sleep.

Pausing. It hooks the person in. They want to know what’s coming next. When you pause at the right time, there’s a wrong way to pause of course. Just like in public speaking, by the way.

Pausing also shows confidence. It shows that you expect her to sit there or stand there and listen to what you have to say because you believe what you have to say has merit. It’s valuable confidence.


Third P – PITCH

Next number three in our ways to turn a girl on instantly is: Pitch. Most guys again, their tonality is very high and pleasing and they talk like this:(Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi, I just saw you here. And I thought you’re really cute, please like me. I really hope you like me. I don’t want to offend you. I know I’m disturbing you from walking down the street and I don’t want to offend you.“

That’s nice guys. So their pitch goes up and I know I gave it away. Number three is pitch. And what I mean by that is your pitch needs to go down in tonality sounds more authoritative authoritative. Always think of this when thinking of ways to turn a girl on instantly:

Lower tonality. It sounds more commanding, more sure of yourself. Again, that displays confidence versus the nice guy pleasing. We want to go down in tonality. (Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi. -pause + lower tonality- I just saw you here. -pause- And I thought you were really cute.” versus “Hi!! -high tonality- I just saw you here!! A-and I thought you were really cute and.. and..!”


I’m kind of overdoing it, but this is what I see or hear rather all the time on the first day of boot camp. And as we’re working on this in the field and working with models and they’re practicing this over and over again, then they get it down Pat. And then by the end of day, one, all of a sudden the women that they’re approaching are no longer going – “Okay, thanks.” They’re now saying “Ooh, hi! Wow, thank you.”

The reaction is like night and day.

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Fourth P – PROLONGED HAND HOLDING

Number four of the 5 ways to turn a girl on instantly. This one, probably not going to guess, but most guys have no touching during the daytime, which typically is fine because it’s kind of weird to be all touchy.

It’s fine to do that at a bar or club, but in a daytime situation at the mall or at the park or wherever, it’s a little tricky. BThere are ways to increase that physical intimacy, even within two or three minutes when you meet a woman. But one of the best ways to create sensual, sexual and romantic tension is through prolonged handshakes, because that is where you’re going to touch her.

There might not be any other touching in that first two or three minutes when you meet a woman during the daytime. But that handshake can really create a moment with her. Most guys, shake hands like this. (Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi, nice to meet you!” One, two seconds pass, and then release.

Instead – What I want you to do is shake her hands like a man, not like a limp fish. Squeeze it like you would a man’s hand. (Demonstration in the video embedded) Don’t squeeze it and like make her fingers uncomfortable and bend, cause that’s gonna feel like you’re the type of man that would hurt her. Obviously she doesn’t want that unless she’s into like BDSM [which a lot of women are, surprisingly] But even then, she doesn’t want to be physically and totally abused, obviously. But if you do a weak handshake, then she assumes you’re a weak man.

And that is not attractive either. It won’t be one of the ways to turn a girl on instantly.. That that will kill all attraction immediately. Use a strong handshake.. one, two seconds, then let it linger, soften your hand after that the two or three second handshake so that she can easily pull away if she doesn’t want to linger with your hand. So one, two, now I’m softening it. (See video embedded for demonstration)

Now we’re talking and we’re just creating a moment. And there’s an intensity here, right? It’s a romantic movie moment. As long as we stand here. That’s great because really the longer it is, the more romantic and intense it will be.

Fifth P – PIERCING EYE CONTACT

Last, but definitely not the least in our 5 ways to turn a girl on instantly, piercing eye contact. Most guys kill the tension by looking down. Instead, you got to maintain that eye contact. And I don’t mean piercing eye contact like being creepy and weird. I’m talking about a gaze.

You’re looking at her like you know she wants you. As if she meets your standards, that you guys are gonna have the most romantic, intimate and sensual experience, maybe you’re even looking at her like you would rock her world in bed.. if she’s so lucky, because that is very powerful eye contact versus looking down.

And most guys have no idea that they’re even breaking eye contact until we film them and we review the footage back and they can see, Oh wow. I looked away like three times during a crucial moment of the interaction.. In the very beginning and just something so simple like that, just looking down just for a split second, it’s like a millisecond. She can feel that you’re just not comfortable and it breaks the sexual tension and most of them, just lose attraction and lose interest that quickly.

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Now, if you do this wrong, you can literally repel women and creep them out. I want you to really look at her.

Yeah, I know it sounds simple. But you’d be surprised at how many guys really mess this up – because what type of message would it send her? If you just look at the ground a few times, or you look at the wall or even, even just breaking eye contact subtly a few times. This shows her that you can’t handle the tension of that interaction and that she is out of your league.

And basically you don’t deserve a woman like her, or you’re not used to women like her in your life. Now I’m not saying that you should stare at her the entire time with a crazed look in your eye. You don’t want her to think you’re a serial killer.

But what I can tell you is that using piercing eye contact correctly is one of the most powerful ways to turn a girl on instantly, and also to connect with a woman on a deeper level.

Social psychologist, Zick Rubin, discovered that two people in conversation normally make eye contact only 30 to 60% of the time. However, couples that are in love look at each other 75% of the time or more. When you look at your partner, you’re showing that you’re totally focused on what she is saying and that you feel relaxed and open to this person. And you’re comfortable around this person.

You’re used to this person, how much we look into someone else’s eyes not only helps us establish intimacy. And of course, it’s another way to release oxytocin, which is known as the love drug, but it also reveals how much intimacy might already be present. So when in conversation with a woman that you really like maintain strong eye contact with her about 75% of the time, I can’t stress this enough.

I want you to understand just how seductive and endearing and powerful piercing eyes really is when talking to a woman, just picture yourself in an everyday situation. Like you’re at the grocery store or you’re at Starbucks and you meet a cute woman. Now imagine you’re glancing down at the floor a few times looking to the side, I think she’d see you as a competent and honest guy? Of course not.

If you can’t even look her in the eye, then why would she trust you? When you think of ways to turn a girl on instantly, ask yourself – Why would she give you her phone number or go on a date with you? Now, imagine you’re giving her piercing eye contact. How would that make her feel? She’ll probably trust you more, which means she’s more likely to talk to you and go on a date with you.. maybe even sleep with you.

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Now, if this seems like a lot to take in, I understand. And remember, you’re not alone. A lot of guys out there feel the same way until they sat down with them, with my team. And in fact, I recently had a student who was completely unaware that he was looking down to avoid eye contact and the women felt like he was looking at their breasts and he wasn’t, he wasn’t a weird creepy guy. (But he definitely had little to no experience with the ways to turn a girl on instantly..)

And he was just, he just couldn’t handle the eye contact, but his interactions were ending very quickly and he was getting really frustrated. And as soon as he fixed just that one subtle thing, it’s such a small thing, but at the same time, it’s huge. And when we pinpointed that blind spot, his interactions completely took a 180. And all of a sudden women not only were having two, three, four minute interactions with him in the supermarket or here on the beach, for example, but they would just melt in his presence.

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– Matt

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Turn Ons For Women – This Phrase Made Her RIP MY CLOTHES OFF..

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What are some of the best turn ons for women? I’m going to share a 5 word phrase I said, that turned a girl on so much that it made her want to rip my clothes off then and there!

I’ll also reveal the psychology behind why this worked. AND teach you how you can use this as a great way to turn a girl on. She’ll be begging for you to take her to bed with you:

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TURN ONS FOR WOMEN
This Phrase Made Her Want To Rip My Clothes Off!

What comes out of your mouth when you talk is powerful.

The different ways to turn a girl on aren’t that hard to master once you understand how it works. Your words alone can already arouse and excite her if you know how to use them right. AND if you know WHEN to say them. You too, can make her rip your clothes off by knowing exactly the things to say to a girl to turn her on.

In the video, I share ways and words that are turn ons for girls. Actions, behaviors and traits of men who women absolutely adore. Plus the words that are turn ons for women. These actually turn a woman on psychologically, emotionally, mentally, and even physically.. but is only as effective as the way you say it, the way you do it, as well as the timing.


Watch the video and carefully take note of what I have to share about the principles of attraction; the reasons why some men attract the women they want effortlessly, and naturally.

We’ve got more weekly content coming out all about how to turn a woman on with conversations, how to turn a woman on with touching, as well as motivation and exercise videos designed to help you become the confident, mature, powerful man that deserves to be with an amazing woman that won’t manipulate or leave you!

More videos about how to turn a girl on here:
How To Turn Her On Through Text | Texts That Turn A Girl On
5 Ways To Turn A Girl On Instantly | Best Turn Ons for Women
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A woman wants to be turned on. Don’t tell yourself you can’t do it, because with our years of experience and coaching, we KNOW that most men lose the battle even before it is fought.

Majority of guys approach and interact with women with an “I’ve already lost” mentality. Truth is, women know that. SO my last words of advice for this time is – NEVER, ever, beat yourself up by doubting yourself. The hardest battles fought, and the ones most satisfying to win, are mostly internal.

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That’s all for now, man.

Cheers,
Matt