how to last longer in bed

How To Last Longer In Bed (Proven Tips For Better Love Making)

Learn how to last longer in bed and have better love making sessions. Coach Matt Artisan talks with Jules Bia and special Guest Ruwan to discuss some great tips for men to last long in bed and be better partners to their girlfriends/wives!

Master how to last longer in bed by following the team and Ruwan’s tips for a deeper, powerful, exciting and definitely more enjoyable love making. Men usually THINK they already know how to be better in bed, but you won’t be here searching for some sex tips if every guy already knows, right?

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Lets face it. Sex education really doesn’t tell you how to be good in bed or how to make love with a woman better. The lessons on how to make love with a woman aren’t taught in most schools, because sex advice and sex tips are usually taboo.

Guys end up searching how to have better sex in the internet… AND let me say this, watching p0rn isn’t going to help you – because thats a show. It’s fantasy, and it won’t show you what ACTUALLY happens in REAL LIFE.


HOW TO LAST LONGER IN BED
Proven & Tested Tips for Better Love Making

Matt and team talk with Ruwan and discuss how to last longer, have better sex and have better foreplay. We also cover the most frequently asked questions when it comes to sex. Ruwan shares his advice on his arousal control techniques, so you’ll understand how to arouse women, master arousal control, and hopefully use that so you and your partner will have more satisfying love making sessions in bed:

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That’s all for now, man. We’ve got amazing content coming out on the channel. We’ve got our podcast episodes, too. Keep posted, keep up the good work, and remember – stay awesome!

Cheers,
Matt

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How To Look More Attractive (5 HUGE Mistakes That Make You UGLY)

This time, we’re giving tips on how to look more attractive for men – I’m sharing the top 5 mistakes that make men unattractive to women.

Why did I choose this topic? Oh man.. So many of my students think they’re attractive when they show up on our bootcamps or they have specific things about them that women just find flat out ugly. And if even just one of these applies to you, it can make a huge impact on your dating life and the way women respond to you. So make sure you check it out:

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HOW TO LOOK MORE ATTRACTIVE
5 Mistakes That Make You UGLY

Truth is, and most dating coaches don’t talk about this – is that women make a snap judgment about you, right? When they see you, I’m talking about within like a millisecond, whether you approach her in person or she sees your online profile. So do you want her to be instantly intrigued and turned on or turned off? That’s a tough question. So stop turning her off and shooting yourself in the foot with these five mistakes:

Number 5 – WILD BROWS

Go look in the mirror right now and check out your eyebrows. Do you have a bunch of hair right here? Is it all wild? All over the place? And like your eyebrow has no end to it? If hat’s the case. Then you need to get some tweezers, and tweeze. Because uni-brows are not attractive. And this especially goes for my Indian brothers out there..

And I say, brothers, I’m not Indian, but I’ve been many times for bootcamps. And you guys treat me so kindly, I feel like a brother to you and I can be straight up and say, if you’re Indian, then these are going to be your best friend.

Now you don’t want to go crazy and have these big arches. I’ve actually gotten my eyebrows done a few times professionally. And they went way overboard. And I kind of had like transvestite eyes with this huge arch. And now I’ve been growing them out because it does look more masculine. Have big thick, full brows. So you don’t necessarily need to be tweezing all around here and creating this big arc. You just need to make sure you don’t have a lot of hair everywhere.

Just take some little scissors and just trim the top. And it’ll show women that you care about your appearance and you’ll just look more attractive. Now. It doesn’t hurt to get them professionally done either. I like to get my eyebrows threaded maybe every other month, which is make sure to tell them you want to look masculine or they might go overboard and give you some McDonald, arches!


Number 4 – FRIAR TUCK

That means you have too much hair on the sides and the back, especially if your hair is thinning, it’s not a good look because it’s going to accentuate the thinning on the top and it’s going to make your head look wider. And yes, I made this mistake myself.

My hair has been thinning since I was about 18 years old. So I have definitely made this mistake in the past where I just had too much hair on the side.

And it kind of makes you look like a clown. Clowns are not sexy. Definitely not the look you want to go for if you’re thinking – “I know how to look more attractive now!”

So if you’re thinning on the top of the best thing that you can do is use a three millimeter attachment to your electric razor and keep your sideS short. Now, if you’re unsure of what kind of hairstyle you should get for your shape of hair, don’t just pick a style that you saw online or in a magazine, pick a style that matches your head shape. And if you’re not sure, go to an expensive barber at least once and get his opinion, and then once he hooks you up with an awesome haircut, all you got to do is maintain it. You can go to a cheaper barber or just do it yourself.

I usually just do it myself. All you need is an electric razor. And by the way, if your hair is thinning on the top, I recommend this product: Toppik.

Just a few sprays of these hair building fibers will camouflage your scalp and make your hair look a lot thicker. You can use it on the front. You can use it on the back.. I made a whole video on what to do. If your hair is thinning, that video gives you my opinion because I’ve tried pretty much everything from hair transplants, to micro-pigmentation, to pills and sprays.. you name it. I’ve probably tried it.

Number 3 – NECK BEARD

Most guys get this wrong, including myself. Look, you’re not supposed to have a bunch of hair all over your neck. That looks sloppy – unless you’re actually growing out a full beard, then nobody’s going to see it.

But the other mistake that I made for a long, long time is, is shaving all the way to your jaw line. I figured, Hey, I want a nice, sexy jawline. And from the front, probably doesn’t look so bad. However, from the side, if you shave your neck all the way up to your jaw line, it’s going to look ugly. And I had no idea until I started reading YouTube comments. It said things like, “Hey man, you gotta let your beard grow out a little bit more.” And I thought, nah, that’s probably not true, but I’ll Google it anyway..

And I checked out some beard experts and they said, “Yup, you were supposed to let your beard grow all the way down under your chin and under your jaw line where your neck actually starts, which is right here.”

So if you’re like me, really, all you need to do is shave just this little bit under here and let the rest go out to either a full fledged, beard or experiment with different length of stubble. And it really depends on your preference. Typically, the more thick your beard is, the more masculine you’ll look.

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Number 2 – “OLD DAD” STYLE

Look, I love nice, loose and comfortable shirts when at home. But I would never wear a very loose shirt on a date because especially if its extra large. Style is the closest thing to a magic pill for making you more attractive to the opposite sex. And what I mean by that is if you have bad or even average style, and we change up your look, you can go from a five or six to an eight or nine, just like that.

And I always see guys on our bootcamps wearing shirts and pants that are about one or two, sometimes even three sizes too big. And not only does it make them look a lot older, but it also makes them look flat out sloppy. And no woman is going to go “Wow, look at that guy! He knows how to look more attractive than the usual men out there!”

Instead, you’re going to kind of look like a pedophile. In fact, at our last boot camp in Las Vegas, we had a guy wearing a full suit. Now, normally that’s not a bad thing if it’s a well tailored, bad-ass like Tom Ford looking suit. It doesn’t necessarily have to be $5,000. I have suits that are less than a hundred dollars. That looked pretty bad-ass, but it was like two sizes too big. And it just kind of hung off him.

When he approached women, it would just creep them out. I remember another time that I met this guy wearing a suit that was like three or four times too big on him. And he just kind of looked like a clown. He was a business coach. Who the heck would take him seriously? I mean, how could you want to get business advice from a guy who doesn’t even know how to wear a business suit?

Even if you’re not wearing a suit, but you’re wearing t-shirts button up shirts, pants that are too big on you. It’s gonna make you look like a fool.

Look. Even when my dad met his current wife, she almost didn’t go on a second date with him because she said his clothes didn’t fit him properly. Because like I said, women make judgments about how you look. Yeah, you might feel more comfortable in a baggy suit or pants, but imagine you meet the woman of your dreams and she decides, “Nah, I don’t want to go on a date with him..” because you look sloppy and it’s such an easy fix!


Number 1 – THE HUNCHBACK

And number one, and I say this because it’s the most common nowadays is you’re rocking the hunchback. Look, it might not be that bad, but chances are statistically speaking – You normally stand a bit slouched. It’s a subtle thing, but just that inch or two difference makes a huge difference. Because slouching just flat out looks unconfident.

If you want to look more confident, more masculine, like you are the fricking boss – you need to stand, you need to walk and you need to even sit like you’re the boss, which means your back needs to be straight. Its crucial when mastering how to look more attractive to women.

In fact, if you’re sitting stand up right now, go find the nearest wall, put your butt, your shoulder blades and your head touching the wall and then take a step forward. That is how your back should always be positioned. That means don’t look down all the time, too. Like when you’re using your smartphone.

Instead, you got to have your phone up at eye level, which I know looks a little strange. It looks like I’m taking videos of everybody, but who cares if everybody thinks you’re creeping on them? Its better to have perfect posture. Now in another video, actually give you an exercise that will help improve your posture. And I go through a bunch of other habits, things that you do on a daily basis that are making you look ugly:

Once you follow these tips and avoid these 5 things, then chances are you’re going to make a much better first impression, and you’ve definitely learned a thing or two about how to look more attractive. BUT.. you might be doing other things that I didn’t mention in this video that are making you look ugly.

You might need some honest feedback from someone like me or someone on my team, where we can take a look at some of your pictures or even video chat with you in real time and assess your look and your style and give you some feedback and fix the things that you’re doing that are pushing women away so that when you walk up and approach a beautiful woman or a woman sees you on Tinder, she’s going to want to swipe, right?

So if you want to join our mentorship program, then click the link down below where we’ll hop on a call. We’ll assess your situation where you are now, what your goals are, and if it’s a good fit and we can get started right away and give you the feedback that you need. Trust me, man. The feedback from an expert can make a huge difference, not only in your dating life, but just how people in general perceive you and help you feel just a lot more confident in yourself. We’ll help you with how to look more attractive to a woman you’re most compatible with.

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So get it, man, because who doesn’t want to be more confident and it’s absolutely free.


That’s all for now, man. We’ll have some new content coming out weekly!

So keep up the great work, and stay awesome.

Cheers,
Matt

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Texting A Woman – 15 UPDATED Texting Rules To Follow

Today’s content is all about Texting a Woman. So Make sure to read this before you text her!

The rules have changed my friend, and after sending thousands of text messages and selling countless copies of my book, Turn Her On Through Text, I can tell you that if she’s not texting you back, it’s probably because of one of the following mistakes that almost every guy makes.

When you learn how to text girls the right way that I’m about to show you, it’ll set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her. When you’re texting a woman like this.. She’ll text you back faster. She’ll text you first and you’ll be the guy she chooses and all the other guys she’s texting will be left high and dry.. Ghosted!

I’m going to give you 15 crucial texting do’s and don’ts including how not to be needy and turn her off.

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TEXTING A WOMAN
15 Updated Rules To Follow

15 – STOP BEING NEEDY

Honestly, this could be a lot higher on the countdown, but in fact, all of these are so important – stop being needy. There are two ways that guys commonly come off as too needy..

Number one is texting a woman too much, texting all the time. I mean, come on, man, you’re a busy guy. You’re on your purpose. You have a mission in life. It’s not to be sending her text messages all the time and getting that little hit of dopamine every time you hear that ding on your phone. So what you need to do is just keep your phone on silent and only check your phone a few times at specific times, every single day, instead of always texting a woman back right away and sending her tons of messages, be doing your thing, just be focused on your job, your passions.

And when you check your phone a few times a day, that’s when you reply back. So what if she has to wait a few hours? Let her wonder what you’re doing now. I’m not saying that as a manipulation tactic, where you see her texts and you say, “Ooh, I got to wait two hours to text her back.” I’m saying, don’t even check your phone. So that way you’re just naturally going to text her back two hours later.

Sometimes it will be right away because she sent you a text and you happened to be checking your phone. Other times she’s going to have to wait.

The second way guys are needy is they just send really long text messages, have rambled, and even gone for 18 pages.

Look at the text before you send it and just think to yourself, is there any way I can shorten this? Do I really have to send three sentences? Can I just say that in one sentence? Cause imagine you text her and she looks at her phone and she sees all these messages in a row from you, or maybe it’s just one big message from you if just met you and she doesn’t really know much about you, then she’s just going to assume that you’re needy.

So in general, just keep your text short and to the point, double check it before you send it.


14 – CHAMELEON APPROACH

The chameleon matches his environment. Now I’m not saying you should match exactly how she texts you. When you’re texting a woman, It’s not about mirroring exactly, or using the exact words or the same exact amount of emoticons or texting her back the exact length of time that it took her to text you back just like a command.

The chameleon doesn’t change into a rock or tree. He just kind of matches his environment. So I want you to kind of match her texting style.

If she’s sending you really long texts, then feel free to write a little bit longer. If she texts you back right away, then feel free to text her back a little bit quicker. This is kind of like the exception to the previous rule. She’s using tons and tons of emoticons – then feel free to use a few more..

But don’t turn into a chick. Don’t overdo it. Just notice her texting vibe, her texting style and match it just a little bit, because we feel more comfortable and we like people that are like ourselves.

When you’re being totally different, like she sends you these long, long texts and you send her one word replies and she texts you back right away. But you wait 10 hours? There’s going to be so much of a disconnect. She’s going to feel like you guys are totally not on the same page and you’re probably not going to get a date with her.

So don’t copy.. Don’t mirror.. Just match her texting style.

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13 – DON’T BE BORING

Don’t bore her to death. I knew a really attractive girl and she had a crush on this guy that she worked with. And finally he asked for her number and she was all excited. And then the next day he sent her a text:

“Hey.” She immediately lost interest but she gave him the benefit of the doubt. And she sent a reply like, “Hey, what’s up?” And he wrote back “Not much, you?” And she told me that her attraction for him died after just two or three text messages.

Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your text short, like I said earlier, but I think you can be a little bit more original than “Hey” or “What’s up” or “What are you doing?” In fact, never send a one word text. You’re smarter than that. You’re more clever than that. I know you can come up with something better and if you’re struggling, you want to have your texts fun, flirty a little bit cheeky so that when she sees a text from you, she’s smiling and she’s enjoying it. And she’s looking forward to your next text.


And along with not boring her to death, is always use proper spelling and grammar. Unless of course you’re using the chameleon approach. Other than that, spell out your words. Don’t use a “u” to replace the word “you”, because that’s like texting like a 13 year old girl.

You’re better than that, man. If she sees all these cheesy abbreviations and you’re missing periods and you’re not capitalizing words and you’re misspelling words, what is she going to think about you?

All she knows about you are the words that you’re sending on the screen. You could be a freakin’ genius, but if you’re texting her like a little kid, she’s going to think that there’s not much up there next.

12 – GIRLS WILL FLAKE YOU AND GO COLD

Girls will flake. It’s just the way it is. And they will go cold sometimes. And I know how frustrating it is. You really like this girl. She’s so pretty. And then you don’t hear back from her. And I know what it’s like, man. It sucks.

You meet a girl. Maybe you approach the girl you got out of your comfort zone. You risked embarrassment. You had this great interaction. You felt the sparks flying and then she doesn’t reply to your first text. Or maybe she does reply.. You have a little exchange back and forth. And then all of a sudden.. Where the heck did she go? She’s gone.

And so you text her again, no reply. And then maybe even texts her a third or fourth. Hopefully not a fifth and sixth time. Cause chances are, she’s not going to reply. You got to understand, man. It’s just the way it is. Sometimes women are not going to text you back.

Oftentimes they actually do it as a test. They want to see, are you really as cool as you seem or are you going to get all butthurt and all worried and freak out when she doesn’t text you back for a day?

Because trust me, man, some guys freak out just because the girl didn’t text him back. He sends text after text, after text, “What happened?” “What did I say wrong?” “What are you doing?” He goes through all these emotions. Then he starts getting mad at her.

Don’t be that guy. She wants to make sure that you’re a cool grounded man. That just because she doesn’t text you back or she texts you the wrong thing or she says no, the first time you ask her on a date or she even flakes on the date, that you’re not going to freak out that you are a calm grounded man.

Think about it.. If you freak out just because she doesn’t text you back, it means you only have one option that you’re putting all your eggs in her basket and that you really, really, really like her. That’s why you’re so mad that she’s not reciprocating that attraction back, which is basically the definition of needy.

It means you have no options.

So you need her and you’re latching onto her and freaking out when it doesn’t work out. So what if one or two fall off the radar? You have other options. And if you don’t have other options right now, ask yourself, “Why not?” Is it because you’re struggling with meeting women and approaching women in real life?

If that’s the case, man, we can help you out. We have all sorts of boot camps all around the world where we take guys in the field and show them exactly how to walk up and approach beautiful women in a way that is confident, smooth, and a way that women absolutely adore.

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It’s awesome to see the women light up and just melt in front of a charming, attractive man, such as yourself.

11 – SENDING NAUGHTY TEXTS TOO SOON

Oh, man.. we’ve all done this one; Sending sexual texts too soon. Now this could be high risk high reward in that – If she reciprocates the sexuality, then hey, it’s game on.

But it’s risky, man, because there’s no body language or tonality through texting a woman, she can easily misinterpret whatever sexual innuendo or sexually charged texts that you sent her wrong way. And it can just totally creep her out unless you do it the right way.

If you want to get her all hot and bothered, whether you just met her or you’ve been texting her for a long time – do it in a way that’s very safe so that she won’t think that you’re a freak or a creep because you’re going to use the same seductive language that women absolutely devour in romance novels.

Now in today’s day and age, it seems like nobody talks on the phone anymore, right? Everybody’s texting, which is why you need to get her on the phone because it will set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her.

Think about it. She’s texting 20 other guys. And honestly, if she’s an attractive woman, that might be the case, but the only guy she actually had a real on-the-phone conversation with is you, who do you think she’s going to want to go on a date with? Who’s she going to feel more comfortable with, who is she going to feel like she knows better?

Because she’s going to hear your tonality. She’s going to be able to sense your vibe and what kind of guy you are just from a short phone conversation. Texting, which is just words, accounts for only about 7% of communication. The rest is body language and tonality.

Once you have a short conversation with her on the phone, she’s more likely to say yes to you because she’ll feel like she just has a better sense of who you are as long as the phone conversation was pretty good. If you get on there and you’re all nervous and you don’t know what to say, and there’s all these awkward silences then yeah, you’re pretty much just shooting yourself in the foot.

Also, you need to set up the phone call the right way. You cannot just call her out of the blue nowadays. So I created an entire video that shows you exactly how to call girls in today’s day and age. You can check that out in the video below or HERE.

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Make sure to watch it, man, because if you can master calling women on the phone nowadays, you have a huge advantage.

10 – SEND HER COOL AND AMAZING PICTURES

They say a picture is a thousand words because you can only convey so much emotion or spark so much emotion in her through words, but with a picture you can do a whole lot more.

For example, when texting a woman, you can show her what you’re doing that day. You can give her a little insight into your life. Some of your passions, or if you’re into working out, you can send her a picture when you’re all pumped up at the gym that might even turn her on a little bit.

Don’t look like you’re bragging, man. Bragging is never a turn on.

One way that I like to do it is by using a cliffhanger text, which is just the text that implies there’s more to the text and it kind of leaves her hanging, right? Like you’re hanging off the end of the cliff, get it? Cliffhanger.

For example, “You know what kind of animal you remind me of?” “…” She will always respond to that. Cause she wants to know. And then I just sent her a picture of the animal and she’ll be like, “Oh, it’s so cute!”

9 – GO FOR THE DATE ON A HIGH NOTE

Next I recommend that you always go for the date on a high note. What that means is that anytime you escalate, the interaction escalates just means you’re going to the next level going for the first date is the next level in the interaction.

If you do it at a low note, for example, just out of the blue, you don’t know what kind of emotional state she’s in. She could have had a horrible day and then you text her, “Hey, let’s hang out.” And by the way, never text her “let’s hang out,” have an actual plan.

But if you go for it while she’s not in a great mood, she’s likely to say no, but if you’ve been texting back and forth and you’ve been using some of the texts out of my Texting Cheat Sheet and she’s laughing and she’s loving the back and forth texting exchange, and then you go for a date on a high note, she’s a lot more likely to say yes to the date.


8 – END THE BACK AND FORTH FIRST

What that means is if you’re texting a woman back and forth, like you’re kind of having a conversation. You know, she texts you back. You text her back every couple minutes, ping-pong back and forth.

YOU end it first. Why? Because you’re a busy guy. And I don’t mean just pretend you’re a busy guy that you got to go and you have nothing to do. Actually have a life, have to do you, man. You don’t have time to send her 50 text messages back and forth. So after a few back and forth, end it first, just tell her what you got to do.

“Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll text you later.” Or “Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll call you at eight. Will you be free?” And then set up a phone call. If she’s constantly the one that ends the texting conversation, it’s putting her in charge. It’s putting her in the lead and it seems like you have nothing better to do.

Like she’s the busy one and you’re the one chasing her. Now, if you can’t end it first, she tells you she’s got to go. No big deal. It’s not the end of the world. Don’t freak out just as a general rule. Try to end the interaction first. And the easiest way to do that is just have a busy life.

7 – GHOST HER / GIVE HER SOME SPACE

Next is kind of on the same token, but a little bit different. It can come off a little manipulative, but this not what I’m intending. Hopefully you don’t take this the wrong way..

You can ghost her.

Now let me back up. I don’t mean completely ghost her and you disappear forever. What would be the point of that? Don’t do that. What I mean is just give some space in the interaction.

If you, on average, text her every day, then stop texting her for a day or two. If you on average text her every other day then stop texting her for like three, four, five days. This is really going to make her think about you.

Assuming she likes you, she’s going to be wondering what’s going on. “Why isn’t he texting me back?” And she’s going to be thinking about you a lot.

People actually fall in love with one another not while they’re together necessarily, but when they are apart, when they’re thinking about the other person.

Don’t do this as a manipulative tactic. Just do this as a way to give your relationship, your newly found relationship, probably – some space. Just to see what happens. Does she text you after a day and just notice, maybe she’ll become the one that texts you back first. And if she doesn’t text you first, no big deal. Just restart the texting conversation.

You can chastise me all you want, but this technique flat out works for texting a woman. And I don’t want you to do it like, “Okay, I’m going to stop texting her.” I just want you to be busy. Don’t make texting a woman your number one priority. Go do something. Go camping for a couple of days, go on a weekend trip with your family. Again. What it all comes down to is being a guy with purpose. A guy who’s on his mission in life.

He’s got sh*t going on besides texting one particular girl that he just met. I’m not saying you should do this to your wife or girlfriend. No, I’m talking about a girl that you just met or maybe you’ve only been on one or two dates with her. It’s very early in the relationship. This can even sometimes speed the relationship up to the next level.

6 – BE PERSISTENT

Now this has all happened to us. We’ve all had women I assume that have ghosted us or just started going cold and didn’t text back. The key is to be persistent, man.

Keep the texting a woman fun and playful. Like I said earlier, don’t freak out. Don’t start giving her a bunch of sh*t just because she didn’t reply back. Or even if she doesn’t say yes to the date right away, don’t get all needy and give her ultimatums. In fact, I just had a client who was texting his girl that he really, really liked.

He was using word for word, text messages from Turn Her On Through Text. So the interaction was going awesome. She was texting him first. She seemed really excited to text and to eventually see him.

But when he asked her out, she said she was busy that weekend. And so instead of just being a cool guy and saying, “Okay, no big deal.” and keep texting and then try to go for a date next weekend, he got all affected and he sent something like, “Look, I don’t want to play games with you. I like you. If you don’t want to see me, then let’s just stop talking to each other!

Don’t do that, man. Just be persistent. Nothing’s a big deal. Just try again. In fact, even if she stops texting you, don’t just give up just because she didn’t reply to your last texts.

Maybe she’s busy. Maybe she forgot. Maybe she’s texting other guys. That’s pretty likely, but guess what? Those other guys will likely shoot themselves in their foot. Don’t do that to yourself. Just be persistent. Wait a couple of days and try again.

The next couple of tips are really juicy, man. So pay attention, take good notes.

5 – GET HER SOCIAL MEDIA

Nowadays, man, I highly recommend you get her on social media if you’re texting a woman. If you don’t have social media, it’s not the end of the world. I get it, man.

It’s addictive. And maybe you want to go down that rabbit hole. Cool. But if you got Facebook, Tinder or Snapchat, or if you’re watching this someday in the future, whatever is next, make sure to use it because you can stay on her radar a lot more.

One time I met this girl exchanged numbers and I hadn’t gone back to that city and hit her up for four years because I was in a relationship. And when my relationship ended, I went back to that city and a girl was really pretty. So I hit her up and guess what? When we met up for the date, she was like, “Wow, I’ve seen all your traveling. I know you went here and you did this..” It was surprising she knew everything that happened in the last four years because she was following me on Facebook.

Now imagine she wasn’t following me on Facebook. I only had her phone number and then I texted her four years later. She’d be like, “Oh, why is this guy texting me? I barely remember him.” So again, it goes back to having a cool life. If you have a cool life, post your pictures on social media and then every girl you meet, add them to your social media.

You can just text them on social media. However, when I meet a woman in person, I first get her social media. I use what’s called a “yes ladder.” I say, Hey, do you have social media at sea? She says, yes. I say, cool Instagram. She says, yes, that’s two yeses. Then I say, cool, write it down here. And she writes it in the contact app on my phone. And then after she’s done writing her Instagram handle, I say, cool, write your phone number as well.

And they usually say yes, because I’m starting with a small yes and I’m building up to a bigger yes. Hence the name “Yes ladder.” And the reason I get both is because I’d rather text her through standard SMS texting because chances are, she doesn’t have as many guys hitting her up using her phone number on standard SMS.

And if she has a public social media profile, then chances are, she has a lot of guys hitting her up if she’s a really attractive woman. So when you first meet her, get her phone number and her social media, make sure of course she’s following you. Then you have the best of both worlds.

4 & 3 – GO FOR THE DATE QUICKLY + MAKE YOUR MOVE

Next is one of the biggest mistakes I see when I’m working with a client one-on-one or in a bootcamp with regard to texting a woman. And I look at their phone, I’m looking at their texting conversations. I’m scrolling like this, I see all this back and forth.

And it’s usually pretty good because they’re using texts from Turn Her On Through Text, but they’re not asking her out. And one time I spoke at an event that had a lot of women in the audience and I asked the women, what’s the biggest challenge or gripe that you have towards men when it comes to dating.

They were all in consensus that they were frustrated that men don’t make the move. And they specifically said during the texting interaction, they’re texting back and forth and the girls are frustrated because the guy never asks them out or he just waits too long..

I know we live in a modern feminized world where women want to be just as equal as men. And you know, women should be asking out men, but quite frankly, women are still feminine and they want a man to be a man and take the lead and take charge and ask her out.

Stop waiting for her to ask you out because it’s probably not going to happen. So use those text messages and go for a date quicker rather than later. And if she says, no, remember: be persistent. It’s no big deal. Keep texting back and forth and try again. Now there is a fine line of being persistent versus being overly eager or needy. And it really just takes practice finding where that fine line meets.

If you’re unsure, veer on the side of not over texting a woman.

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2 – USE THE YES LADDER

The “Yes ladder” technique is a way to kind of program somebody’s brain. You get them saying small yeses before you go for the big yes.

Smart salespeople use this technique all the time. Instead of saying, “Would you like to buy this car?” They go for a smaller yes like, “Do you like this car?” “What do you like about the car?” “Would you like to drive the car?”

So you can use the same principle when it comes texting a woman and going for a date, instead of just saying, “Hey, would you like to go out with me sometime?” – Nothing wrong with that, but it’s kind of generic and it’s going for a big, yes. Instead say something like, “Do you like ice cream?” She’ll probably say yes.

Then as long as she’s not new in town, you can ask her if she knows of a specific, popular ice cream shop, like “Have you ever been to frosted cones on Elm street?” And she’ll say, yes, I love that place. And then it leads you right into asking her out.

Now you have to make sure you ask her out the right way. Not like, “Hey, want to hang out sometime??!” you gotta ask her out like a man, give her some options. And I show you some really effective word for word, texting examples in Turn Her On Through Text and in the Free Texting Cheat Sheet.


1 – NO UNSOLICITED PICTURES OF YOUR JUNK

Rule number onefor texting a woman: please, guys. No unsolicited pictures of your junk.

If she asks for it.. FINE. I’ve had a few girls ask. I usually send them kind of teasing pictures. I don’t show them the whole thing. I’m not going to give you examples. Don’t worry, but don’t just send her a Dick pic out of the blue.

I’m pretty sure that has never worked in the history of texting. Actually, it probably has worked, but it’s just way too high risk high reward.

Don’t do it. It’s gross. It’s kind of like going up to every girl at the bar and saying, “Hey, let’s go have sex.” It’s all just a numbers game at that point.

Instead, have some skills when it comes to texting.

If you’re interested in working with me or one of our team members live infield to help you actually approach women in real life or to handle your inner game, the thoughts and beliefs and the mindsets that are holding you back then I’ll put a link down below with more information, make sure to check that out!

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That’s all for now, man! Make sure to check our content if you’re looking for more ways to master texting a woman you like.

Keep up the great work, and stay awesome.

Cheers for now,

Matt

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How To Approach Women During The Daytime (Honest + Infield Footage)

Today’s content is all about how to approach women during the daytime! (Video footage included, man!) Approaching women and talking to girls isn’t only done in bars or clubs. In fact, we have had more authentic, memorable and enjoyable experiences when we approach women during the daytime.

Check out coach Jules Bia explaining his methods on how to approach women during the daytime, complete with footage of him approaching girls during the day in Playa del Carmen, Mexico:

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HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN DURING THE DAYTIME
with Coach Jules Bia

In today’s video, we show:
– how to approach women during the daytime
– how to approach girls during the day in the street, the beach, shops and malls
– how to approach a girl without being a creep
– how to approach girls during the daytime and get her number
– how to approach women in public places
– how to approach a girl NOT in a bar or club
– how to approach women in the street
– how to talk to a girl during the day
– infield footge from Jules Bia of The Attractive Man team
– examples of daygame approach,
– how to talk to girls with confidence
– how to talk to women and charm them

Here are Jules’ principles to keep in your mental checklist when you want to practice how to approach girls during the daytime:

WARM UP

Just like workouts. Just like public speaking.. Top athletes do it before game time, teachers and professors do it before major events, actors and performers do it before the big curtain rises. It makes TOTAL sense how important warming up is when mastering how to approach women during the day.

So, we love to warm up by talking to random people we meet everyday. Regardless of who they are, if they don’t look completely busy, give them a greeting – talk to them, give them a wave. Its a great warm up to set your mood and activate those happy hormones.

During nighttime approaches, we go and talk to everyone right from the start – if its in the bar or club, we talk to the bouncer, the first person we meet when we enter, the first group we meet.

Once you’ve warmed up, you won’t be so jumpy, anxious, fidgety. I almost never get tongue tied if I had an awesome warm up before I approach gorgeous women. So I want you to be more social, be a bit more dynamic, and warm up! Its going to help overall confidence, and social skills.

FEEL IT IN YOUR BODY

Ever heard the phrase “its all in your head”? Years of coaching men has helped us understand, majority of men’s problems are internal. They keep overthinking, they keep relying on mental cues, they keep thinking “what do I do now?” “what happens if I do this?” “what if she says this?” “should I do this after this and this?” “what if she says no?” “what if she says yes?”

The problem is.. All of your thoughts aren’t happening in the REAL world. You’ve beaten yourself up before you even made a move.

You’re supposed to FEEL it. You’re a human, with feelings, with sensors, with hormones that activate, with a body that responds to stimuli. Attraction is supposed to come naturally, not from a book that you pull out in your head. Being too much in your head? Overthinking? Believe me, it won’t end up well.

You see, some BAD advice would be “memorize this” and “practice this line and routine”. Imagine how that would feel like – are you some robot that only responds with a specific line or when a specific input is given?

So men, make sure to feel it in your body. Sure you might feel scared at first..you might have some jitters, but I want you to feel that and own it. Don’t lock yourself out of your feelings because you’ll never be able to tap into that natural, attractive you if you shut all of that out.

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TAKE CHANCES

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” True. Most men want to play it safe. Also true.

Risk taking is never easy. It requires you to exit your comfort zone. But what that does is it opens up new and amazing oppurtunities for you. And effort plus oppurtunity always equals success.

Sometimes, all guys need is a good push. You could be hanging on the edge of your safe bubble, almost ready to break your limits and become better – but you can’t find it in yourself to bust through. Why? It could be the fear of pain, the fear of rejection, afraid you’ll be humiliated, or afraid you’ll get hurt.

Men, life has been throwing curveballs all this time. And the “no pain, no gain” mantra was created for a reason – not just for the gym and working out – it applies in real life as well.

Approaching beautiful women that you might feel are out of your league is a complete risk on your part. But you know what? Experiencing the pain of rejection and learning from it is better than feeling the regret of not doing it. And most of the time, interactions even end well for our clients.

It was only after stepping out of their comfort zone that our men have realized that they can do better in dating and in their lives. It is by taking chances that we truly improve. It is by facing your demons and fears, where you can find the courage and confidence to be the best version of yourself.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all”


INVEST IN YOURSELF

Now, this is self-explanatory but I’ll have to emphasize this. Don’t make “how to approach women during the daytime” or flirting, dating, approaching women your main focus in life. That will create a needy mindset, and will set you off.

What you should be doing, is investing in yourself. Its YOUR life, and YOUR happiness. Don’t think that people-pleasing will always lead to your happiness. Seeking others approval, and doing things for them rather than yourself will lead you to a depressive state.

Invest in yourself, man. That’s the best piece of advice I can give you right now. Seek out a better you everyday. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Develop yourself, and natural attraction will follow.

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