It’s weird when you think about the idea that a girl can feel very attracted to you when you don’t give a f*ck…
But won’t even take you seriously when she senses that you care too much.
On the surface, this doesn’t make sense.
“Why on earth would she like me if I care less for her?”
But when you understand how women think, you’ll realize why being detached and indifferent makes you more charismatic and magnetic as a man.
Here’s the thing:
First off, most guys misunderstand the concept of being indifferent for being insensitive.
They feel a need to put on this cocky, obnoxious jerk-like front which makes them look like a douchebag and repels women away.
So NO…
In no way does being indifferent mean that you have to be a d*ckhead with no regard for her feelings.
Instead, I want you to communicate with women from a position of being indifferent to the outcome.
In other words, you’re going to unapologetically be YOU and do YOU, whether she likes YOU or not.
Why?
This brings me to point number 2 – Authenticity.
Women crave authenticity and realness in a man…
They crave your ability to express yourself freely, in a raw and unfiltered way.
When you crack the jokes you find funny, assert your opinions, and don’t hold back on expressing your mischievous, playful side…
It’s like rocket fuel for your interaction.
Because not only does this make your true personality shine through…
But it also builds mystery and floods her with emotion…
And it creates tension, which only adds to the thrill and excitement.
Wait, there’s more!
The ability to speak your mind unapologetically, in itself, conveys masculine dominance, which women find insanely hot.
Plus, the fact that you’re so real quickly builds her trust and connection with you as a man.
As you can tell, talking to women from a place of authenticity comes with a lot of benefits. (:
But here’s the catch:
You can only be your most authentic self when you’re indifferent to the outcome of your interaction. You have to be okay with losing her.
Because when you’re obsessing over whether she’ll go home with you or not…
You enter a dense, chaotic headspace. You become reactive.
You walk on eggshells and overthink everything you could say or do…
You stop leading her with certainty like you should. You second-guess things you feel like saying.
You “try too hard” to impress her with all the boring, people-pleasing, nice-guy talk.
You stop acting on your instincts, stop expressing yourself freely…
Stop teasing her, and you hold back on disagreeing with her because you can’t “risk” it.
In other words, you start doing everything she DOESN’T find attractive.
And before you realise it…
Your interaction has already lost all its juice. It’s sexual tension… It’s lifeblood.
She has nothing left to look forward to, and her attraction spirals down to a point of no return.
So here’s the bottom line…
Your authenticity as a man is an incredibly valuable masculine trait.
So the next time you’re talking to a girl, stop trying to chase the outcome, which is something that you can’t control anyway…
And focus more on how you can bring your most raw, fun, and unfiltered version of yourself to the interaction…
Which is not only something that you actually can control…
But is also what girls are secretly hoping for.
It might take a little bit of practice at first…
But once you have this mindset down, you’ll see how women start to respect and value you dramatically more than other men chasing their approval.
Funny how this paradox works, isn’t it?
But I promise you, man, it works… like a charm.
So, test it out the next time you approach a pretty girl.
I’ll see you in the next one.
