Do you get a voice in your head? Do you ever get a voice in your head? Has this ever happened? Man.. You ever get it to talk to you really loud and obnoxiously and call you all sorts of incredibly mean things and tell you all the things that you can’t do?
It’s not going to go away until you learn how to either not listen to it, not buy into it, or how to silence it more and more and more so that it gets weaker.
How To Silence The Inner B*tch Voice Inside Your Mind
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Your boy Jules Bia, mind science, dating coach with The Attractive Man team here. I’m going to be give you three life-changing tips today that are going to absolutely transform that little inner b*tch that is stopping you from going and doing and having him being the things you want in your life.
I know what it’s like to have an insane mind. Okay. Back in the day, like I said, it’s still, it’s still true today. Okay. I just got more control over it. My mind said so many negative things to me all the time that it was in a state of radio silence in a state of numbness. And it wasn’t until I really started diving deep into that, pulling up all those streams of thinking, pulling up all those really heavy feelings and surrendering them and disidentifying from all these stories and these thoughts that I was telling myself that I really started to make changes in my life.
I used to go out to the club for years wanting to talk to women when I was in high school and in college, I was fine, but I started getting in my twenties and kind of going my own way. Cause you don’t have, everybody goes to their own way after school? You know, you have some friends and stuff, but all the, all the groups break up, I would go out with the intention to talk to women and I would never talk to women. I was so numb in the club. I had no idea why I had no idea. I was like, what’s wrong with me? But at the end of the night, I’m at home with my D**k in my hand, literally.
All right, I’m sorry about THAT thought. But it sucked. It really did. Um, I didn’t know what it was and it wasn’t until I really started looking, you know, I would go into these environments like a club and I would look close my eyes and look, and just start to try to become more and more aware of the thoughts.
More and more aware of how much the inner bitch was crippling me. And here’s the secret guys. The inner bitch IS NOT REAL. It’s just a series of thoughts and feelings. Feelings are what trigger the thinking. I’m going to give you the first tip and it is so, so, so powerful. And this is going to create more self awareness. So here it is right here. First of all, I need you to subscribe. Okay? I need you to click that big red subscribe button. Cause if you don’t, if you don’t see my future videos, I’m going to miss you. Matt’s going to miss you, everybody on The Attractive Man team’s gonna miss you. So click that subscribe button, hit the like button and hit all notifications so that we never miss each other, right?
Turn “I can’t” into “I can”
Tip is really, really simple. Guys, turn your I can’t into an I can.
Anything you don’t have right now is most likely an I can’t, it might not be, it might be an I can. That’s in the process of becoming an I have, but it’s most likely an I can. It was like when I was going into the club, for example, and not talking to a single freaking woman. Even though that’s what I desperately wanted inside.
That was a very heavy I can’t. So first of all, start saying I can, because I can’t is not just one emotion, by the way. It’s apathy, grief, fear, less anger. That’s all I can’t — apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, pride are all variations of I can’t and they are lighter versions of I CANT, right? Courage is when you start saying I can’t.
Somebody that wanted to come into my new inner transformation program, unshakable, which has been going incredible by the way..
And he’s like, “Jules.. I really want to be in your program. I don’t have the money. Ah, man, like what do I do?” I was like, first of all, I want you to do it starts saying I can. And here’s the reason guys, as soon as you say I can’t, and it’s an automatic conditioned reflex. As soon as you say, I can’t.. the opportunity to get when you actually want, it could be really literally right in your vicinity would be that obvious.
But as soon as you say, I can’t, you, you put blinders on no matter how obvious the way to get that thing is it’s literally right within your reach. But the I can’t blinds you. So start saying I can, when I coach them and start saying, I can, I said, I just want you to keep saying all day, I can get this money. I can get this money.. Say it, say it, say it, say it, say it! He started seeing opportunities everywhere to get the money, to get into our program.
It’s powerful stuff. Just literally saying I can, no matter what I want you to say, I can, even if it feels like a lie, say I can all the time. And, but in your mind, because you open your reticular activating system, which is the part of your mind that focuses on things. It’s like the RAS is like, when you, when you learn a new word, right, that you’ve never heard before. And then you hear that same word, like three times that week, that’s using your RAS research it.. Your reticular activating system. It’s very powerful to utilize and you can utilize the power and magnetizes the things you want to you just by starting to say I can’t.
So keep saying I can. Don’t listen to that inner bi*ch.
Give your Inner B*tch a Nickname
Number two is kind of funny. Pretty damn awesome. And I learned this one from one of my favorite books written by David Hawkins, letting go, and it is give your inner critic, your inner bitch, a nickname. Don’t give us something like b*tch or, or like something really negative. Give it a cute nickname and use it all the time. Oh, that’s nice. Uh, David suggests fluffy and I just use fluffy. Cause I think that’s hilarious. I call my ego, my inner critic, fluffy.
Oh really? Fluffy. That’s thank you so much. And I talked to him like this is a little child. You’re so cute. Thanks for trying to help out. And you start taking that voice a lot less seriously. And you’ll also start noticing that when you do this constantly, you just allow it to say whatever it wants to say and express it.
So you’ll start actually noticing it dissolve. I had been in a very, very intense, emotional spin. I was about three and a half years ago. I’m going into a down spin. And I started saying, I remembered in the midst of this, that voice that was really beating me down, beating me up, was named fluffy.
I was like, Oh, fluffy, Oh, I forgot your name. I’m so sorry. Fluffy. Did I hurt your feelings? Did I hurt your feelings? Fluffy? I’m so sorry. This intense, emotional down spin that would usually have me at that point in my life. Probably depressive and messed up for, for a day or two. Right? You know what I’m talking about? You know, those downs spins that we go through. It dissolved. It was, it was unbelievable. I mean, this is just an easy way to take your inner critic, your inner b*tch, less and less and less serious.
And the less seriously you take it, you build that habit of not taking it so seriously. It’s going to have less and less power over you. And as you welcome it and you allow it, it just loses energy. It’s like a little child having a temper tantrum in a toy store. You just let it go and you let it go and you let it go. And you let it go. And eventually it runs out of energy and it disappears.
Hey bro, do you like these tips? Did you subscribe yet? Cause you’re going to make me really disappointed if you didn’t subscribe, you know what? The inner b*tch is starting to talk — I’m just kidding. Make sure you subscribe, man. Don’t miss this stuff. Ding, the bell like this video. Cause obviously you like my style. That’s been established. All right. My tips are fire.
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Give you tip number three. Cause you’ve come the distance, my friend. The third tip is so gloriously powerful. Are you ready? It’s disidentifying from the inner b*tch.
Disidentifying. What does that mean? It means that these thoughts in here? This right here, it’s not actually you, it’s not. You’re going to be like what? Of course it’s me, all these thoughts. All my life have been me. No, it’s not.
You want to bet that it’s not. You close your eyes right now with me. Look at your thoughts right now. Are you those thoughts or are you the awareness of those thoughts? I want you to look right now here in the present moment. Are you the thoughts in your mind or are you the awareness of those thoughts?
How can you be the thoughts if you’re also aware of them? If you’re an analytical guy, bro, just look, don’t try to figure it out. Don’t try to think more thoughts. If I pinch you, do you have to think to feel pain? No. So close your eyes. Are you the thoughts or even the feelings in your stomach and your chest right now, look at those or are you the awareness of them? And what happens when you notice that you’re the awareness of them?
Because you are the awareness of them. Trust me, no matter how much you think you are, the thoughts I’m going to give you the science behind it. It’s not really science, but I’m going to logically explain why you are your awareness and not your thoughts and why. The more you realize that every single day, the more you tap in and you keep checking and it’s in the checking.
It’s in the actual looking. If you’re the thoughts in the awareness, you intellectually know the answer now. The more you do that, the less you identify with this mind and the more power you will have over actually transforming your thinking, transforming your life because you won’t identify with this stuff anymore.
Now the logic behind this is very simple. So your thoughts are the object and you are the subject. There’s a subject object relationship between your awareness, which is what you really are and the thoughts. And the more you realize this, the more you experience this, the more you really step into this by just doing the simple habit.
Am I these thoughts or feelings? Am I this inner b*tch? Or am I that? Which is aware of the inner bitch? Am I the inner bitch or the awareness of the inner bitch? Right?
Then whatever is happening out there.. You start not taking so seriously.
It could be a terrible problem. And you’re spinning and you’re spinning. You’re like, wait, am I this problem that I, this are the mighty thoughts? Or am I the awareness of them? Boom! Starts releasing. It starts softening up and then you can get your mind right. Solve the problem. So you could get your grind tight.
So it’s really, really simple. It might be complex if you’re a really analytical guy, it’s really not that complicated. You close your eyes or you can keep them open and just notice right now, are you the thoughts? Are you even this body, are you this body or are you the awareness of the body?
Because we also believe we’re a body. I can go down a deep philosophical rabbit hole. And if you would like me to do deep philosophical rabbit hole talks, make sure you comment that below because I would love to make those videos what to make sure that our audience likes them kind of stuff.
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