Let me tell you something that might surprise you.There’s a secret that makes younger women chase older men.
I’m in my forties and one of my biggest fears when i was younger was:
What happens when I get older and younger women stop being attracted to me?
I thought attraction had an expiration date.
But what I discovered completely flipped that belief on its head.
Not only can older men attract younger women…they can get younger women to chase them.
And today I’m going to show you exactly how, because I’ve been using this for years and I’ve taught it to over a thousand men.
And it works.
In fact, one of my students, Joe, just got engaged.
He’s 50. She’s 27.
And no, it wasn’t money. It wasn’t manipulation.
And it definitely wasn’t trying to act younger.
What it was… Was understanding 3 principles that flip attraction dynamics in your favor as you get older.
Let’s start with the first one.
Principle #1: Cat String Principle
This literally will make women chase you and obsessed with you, especially really attractive younger women.
If you’ve ever played with a cat, you already understand attraction.
You don’t shove the string in the cat’s face. You let it move then you pull it away.
And suddenly the cat is obsessed.
Most men do the opposite with women.
They give:
- All their attention,
- Over compliment her,
- Send long texts and immediate replies.
That kills mystery.
What you want is what I call “controlled attention.”
Give her some attention. Then take it away.
Not cold.
Not rude.
Just… unavailable or slight disinterest.
Don’t do this as a manipulation tactic. Instead, actually be busy. Have a life. And don’t be head over heels in love with her immediately just because she’s young and hot.
So for example, you might give some interest and then take it away. Like saying:
“You’re cute, too bad you are too young for me”
“You actually seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. I bet there’s a catch though.”
Or you approach her at a bar and then you walk away. You are going to come back, of course. But it’s like dancing.
Sometimes you pull her in, and sometimes you push her away or turn your back.
Now, I know it sounds like you are playing games, well, you are. Games are fun. Girls love games.
She wants you to push her away a bit, in a fun way, because that allows her the opportunity to chase a bit. It makes the whole interaction a fun back and forth.
Principle #2: The Silence Test
Trust me when I say that most women, even if they really like a man, will pull back at some point to test you, because they want to make sure you don’t get easily affected.
Women don’t want a man who relies on her validation for his own happiness. That’s a huge turn off.
So women often will show a lack of interest at some point. And most guys, when they hear that, think, “well that just means she’s not interested” or “she’s just a bitch.”
Those guys don’t understand women at all. See, women test you by pulling away to make sure you are really as calm, grounded, and full of self worth as you seem.
It’s a safety mechanism to ensure you are the real deal.
And women often do this by going cold over text. And most guys will send a bunch of “What’s wrong?” messages when she pulls back.
That tells her he’s easily affected and he’s relying on her validation.
Or sometimes the guy listens to dating advice that says, “if she doesn’t text back then just say ‘next’ and move on.”
That’s not good advice, because like I said, almost every girl will do this at some point.
Instead, do this: You are the man. So, you are always leading, but you don’t chase her when she goes quiet.
You let her come back when she’s ready, because you don’t depend on her attention for your happiness.
And she will usually come back because now she’s the one wondering about you.
If she doesn’t text back, you don’t freak out. You wait at least 3 days, maybe even a week, before reaching out again.
And you don’t even address the fact that she didn’t respond, because you barely noticed.
You shouldn’t always be texting her back immediately anyways. Sometimes maybe you do, but not always.
Not because you are playing games, but because you aren’t the type of man that constantly checks your messages. You got shit to do and empires to build.
(Quick aside: this is why I always tell guys to fix their texting. I’ve got a texting cheat sheet that breaks this down step by step, because this is where most attraction dies.)
You can use this QR code below to download it now for free.
Principle #3: The Qualification Principle
This is where you really start getting younger women to chase you.
Most older men try to qualify themselves to women by explaining why they are such a great catch or bragging about their wealth or accomplishments.
Especially us older guys because we typically have more wealth and accomplishments than younger guys.
You must do the opposite.
You qualify her. You challenge her. You’re not rude. You’re not arrogant. You’re just selective.
A simple example I use all the time:
I ask “how old are you?” She says “21” “Oh man you are still a kid you can barely drink adult beverages. Ok I’ll give you a chance, tell me something you’ve done that would be mature for your age.”
Say it playfully. Calm. Unbothered.
And watch what happens.
She starts explaining herself. Proving maturity. Trying to impress you.
That’s the moment the power dynamic shifts.
Because now she’s chasing your approval, not the other way around.
Here are a few other examples…
- “I’m not sure about you yet, tell me something cool about you”
- “What do you have going for yourself more than your looks?”
- “I really like adventurous girls, tell me something dangerous you’ve done lately”
Reframe
Here’s the truth most older guys don’t realize:
Age isn’t the disadvantage. Needy behavior is.
When you:
- Control attention instead of chasing,
- Are unbothered if she pulls away,
- And qualify women instead of seeking approval
You don’t just attract younger women. You become a man they pursue.
But what do you do when she asks you how old you are? Well go watch this next video so you can handle that question like a boss.
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