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Confidence Motivation: From CREEP To STUD In Only 3 Hours

When you’re looking for some confidence motivation I always turn back to watching this transformation. You’re going to absolutely love this video, man..

In just 3 short hours we completely changed one of our lucky fans.. From doing approaches that absolutely creeped women out..into confident, memorable and successful interactions AND an INSTANT DATE.

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We kid you not, with 3 hours of coach Jules and coach David’s training and confidence motivation,
a complete newbie who never approached a girl in his life got an instant date….success he never experienced before in his life!

And I’m sure you’re curious as to exactly how this powerful transformation happened..

In this video, coach Jules and David taught a fan how to approach a girl, how to talk to a girl, and how to get a date.. So many guys get flustered when trying to learn how to approach women while walking, and they don’t even know how to approach a girl on the street.

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Why Do Girls Like Bad Boys? | The Dark Side Of Attraction

Why do girls like bad boys so much? Do nice guys always finish last? What you’re about to hear is controversial.. because you’ve probably never heard this before. So let’s get right to the interview, shall we?

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WHY DO GIRLS LIKE BAD BOYS?
The Dark Side Of Attraction

Matt: I like how you said “be yourself,” because a lot of people have heard that advice.. And don’t understand it because they say, “Oh, I’m always being myself. I’m being so nice and sweet to women.

And really, are they being themselves, do you think?

Robert: They are not. And you know that that applied to me as well. And yeah, that’s that’s the advice. You know, we used to hear from our mother or something like that “just to be yourself,” you know, and guys will tell me, you know, “I’ve heard that all my life and that sucks. That’s not accurate. I myself and women still don’t want to give me a number. I still don’t want to go out with me.

And and what’s happened is how can a woman be attracted to a chameleon? How could she be attracted to something that has no life energy
about it? No edge to it? No. No darkness to it. Right? No fierceness to it.

Nice Guy vs. Bad Boy – The Truth Behind What Women Want In Men

Robert: The feminine is attracted to all of those things. And nice guys, just unfortunately. Nice, niceness.. nice is not a turn on to the majority of women, even though women say, “Oh, I want to be with the nice guy” even though they like the idea of being with a guy who treats them well..

And again, I’m not talking about guys being jerks, but unfortunately, oftentimes that is what women get attracted to.

They get attracted to the man that’s unavailable – that they can’t trust, that sleeps around on them, that steals their money, that doesn’t follow through. Why? Because there’s some energy to it.

There’s an edge to it. There’s a vibration to it. And women need that kind of emotional tension for attraction and attachment and sexual arousal. Niceness creates no emotional tension.

Matt: Flat line.. Like it’s so predictable, the asshole, even though, you know, we don’t want to actually become an asshole, but he’s like, nice at some times. But then he’s an asshole and he’s unpredictable and, you know, he’s sweet to her.. But then he doesn’t call her back for a week. He disappears.


Robert: But that what drives them crazy. A woman would rather be driven crazy than be driven bored. Right? And that’s a problem with nice guys, We’re born.. Trying to please other people is always kind of a one-down type of thing.

“Oh, I’ll do nice things for you. I’ll listen to you talk. I’ll do whatever you want, blah, blah, blah. Because I have you up here and I want you to want me.”

But it makes the woman the decider. It gives her all the power. It makes her the Alpha, you the Beta. And and so trying to, you know, be that nice guy to be what we think women want us to be, paradoxically just doesn’t work.

Now, part of the problem is we don’t know what else to do because we’ve been hiding all those other things about ourselves that might actually be a little bit attractive to women.

And what is amazing to most guys, like it was to me, is that women are drawn to the darkness in us.

They’re drawn to to the part of us that can be an asshole. They’re drawn to us. The part that that, you know, wants to f*** them to god, they’re drawn to us that would protect them from threat that, you know, would draw a sword and cut someone’s head off!

You know, they’re drawn to something fierce and bold and strong.

My wife is younger than me. Mexican woman, grew up in poverty, had to learn to fight. She grew up in her white bred neighborhood suburb of Seattle. And she even says, “I know I got bigger balls than you, but I don’t want to ever feel like my balls are bigger than my man’s.

It is all in Spanish. And she’s telling the truth.

She is a strong, strong woman, but she wants to know that I’ve got some fierceness about me and she
likes the dark side of me. She likes me to tell her dark, nasty stories. And then this is all stuff I didn’t think, well, women more like that kind of stuff. And it’s been throughout my life as women that have begged for that kind of energy, that kind of darkness.

And finally, it kind of sunk in after a while. Well, why am I hiding that from them? Why am I afraid of them thinking I’m a bad man? They’re drawn to that, that they crave it.

Matt: Hey, man, I hope you enjoyed this topic. Make sure to subscribe to this channel on YouTube so that you can watch the other episodes from the Robert Glover interview and make sure to hit that Bell notification icon.

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3 Ways To Cure Your Fear Of Rejection From Women And Dating

Hey man! Today’s video is all about curing your fear of rejection. The best coaches in the world, like myself, get rejected the most because we approach the most. So then how can a normal guy like you, who’s possibly not yet quite the ladies man, never get rejected?

Well, in this video, I’m going to show you exactly how:

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3 Ways To Cure Your Fear Of Rejection For Good

Look, man, you can’t ever get to a point in life where no one ever says no to you or just doesn’t accept whatever it is that you’re offering them,
getting a no, whether it’s in business or sales, friends, family, whatever it is, it’s just a part of life.

Not everyone will want what you have to offer.

So then what can we do to never get rejected?

Well, number one, we can actually minimize the amount of NO’s that you get when approaching beautiful women.

And number two, even more importantly, we can change the way you think and feel about getting a “NO” so that it doesn’t feel like a rejection.

When I first started approaching women during the daytime, I had a huge fear of rejection and it showed up in my approach. They could read it on my face, I’m sure, because I was approaching them with this “Please be nice to me.” Kind of look in my eye. Kind of leaning back like “I’m
sorry I interrupted you.”

I was just so afraid they were going to feel like I was interrupting them until I realized I wasn’t interrupting them. I mean, sometimes I was, but even when I was, they absolutely loved it!

And it was like a shift in my brain that I was actually making their day. And even when they weren’t into it, because, of course, not every woman is impressed by my approach.

But what I realized is they weren’t rejecting me as a person. They were just not available!

I’ll give you 3 of my practical mindsets to help cure your fear of rejection:

FIRST MINDSET IS – ITS HER SH*T OR YOUR SH*T

So it’s either her sh**, meaning it’s her world, her reality, what’s going on in her life. It has nothing to do with you.

It’s the fact that she has a boyfriend, so she’s not into it or she’s in a hurry or she had a bad day. She might have just got fired from her job!

One time I had a student on Hollywood Boulevard approach a girl who just got off the phone. It seemed like she wasn’t doing anything. Seemed like a great opportunity. Turns out she got off the phone with the police because somebody just harassed her and molested her.

So needless to say, her reaction wasn’t great, but it had nothing, nothing to do with my client. It had to do with just the situation
that had just happened.

You have no idea what her reality is, what her world is. So why take it personal and “Say she rejected ME!” when it has nothing to do with you.. OR it does have something to do with you, meaning it’s your sh**.

But all she knows about you remember is your tonality and your body language, your appearance, the words that came out of your mouth and the way you approached her, like the angle. Maybe you approached from behind and she freaked out.

So it’s just feedback.

The problem is you don’t know what the feedback is because she’s not going to just tell you. She’s not going to say, “Oh, you were talking too fast and you look down and that felt a little creepy or you felt a little needy or you felt too nervous.”

She’s not going to tell you that, which is why it’s so important to have a mentor, somebody who knows what to look for, who can spot those blind spots so you don’t keep running in circles making the same mistakes and keep having women dismiss you and saying no, that they’re not interested.

And you keep doing it over and over again when you can easily have somebody analyze your approach, give you some feedback and you can fix it on the spot.

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SECOND MINDSET – SHE’S QUALIFIED OR DISQUALIFIED

Look, man, she either has what it takes to date you or she doesn’t.


She has a boyfriend? Doesn’t mean she rejected you, just means she doesn’t have what it takes. She’s disqualified to be a potential lover with you.

If she’s in a hurry. Same thing. She’s disqualified in that moment. You need somebody who’s not in a hurry to have a conversation with them.

If she’s not into you, she’s disqualified.

Do you really want to date a woman that’s not into you? So it really comes down to she’s either qualified, she has what
it takes to date you.

She’s a good candidate or she’s not a good candidate. And sometimes it just depends on the circumstances of that moment.

Maybe if she wasn’t so busy, she would be a good candidate. But in that situation, she’s just disqualified. And if she’s disqualified, that’s a good thing. That gives you an opportunity to find someone who is qualified.

Imagine you went on a date with a girl who’s not qualified to date you and you wasted all this time. Maybe you went on several dates. Maybe she became your girlfriend and she just doesn’t have what it takes. She doesn’t have the qualities, the attributes to date a guy like you, you want to find that out sooner rather than later.

So when a girl becomes disqualified, say “thank you”, because now you have an opportunity to find someone who is qualified.

THIRD MINDSET – LEARN TO LOVE THE “NO”

Hearing a lot of no’s, I believe, is what builds character. In fact, there’s no other way to succeed. And there’s so many examples of this in history of successful people who have failed over and over again before they succeeded.

Such as Michael Jordan not making the cut for his high school basketball team.

Jack Canfields best selling book, Chicken Soup for the Soul. It was rejected one hundred and forty four times before it was published.

That’s crazy!

Most people would have given up after a few rejections, less than ten. So don’t be the guy who is digging for gold but gives up right before he finds it.

Back in the day there was a man named Mr. Darby and he had gold fever. So he went to work in Colorado with a pick and a shovel and it was really hard work. But he had desire and he had persistence. After weeks of labor, he finally found a shining ore but he needed some machinery to bring it to the surface.

So he borrowed a bunch of money from his family and his friends to buy the machinery. When the first car of or was mined and shipped to a smelter. The returns proved that they had one of the richest mines in all of Colorado. A few more cars of that ore would clear all of his debts. Then would come the big killing in profits.

But unfortunately, the vein of gold ore disappeared.

They drilled on and on, desperately trying to find gold, all to no avail. And finally, the sad day came when they decided to quit. So they sold their machinery to a junk man for just a few hundred dollars and they took the train home.

Now, some junk men are dumb, but not this guy.

He called in a mining engineer to look at the mine and do a little calculating. The engineer told the junk man that the project had failed because Mr. Darby was not familiar with fault lines.

Calculations showed that the vein would be found just three feet from where Mr. Darby had stopped drilling. That’s exactly where it was found. The junk man took millions of dollars of ore from the mine because he knew enough to seek expert counsel before giving up.

So, by the way, find an expert to help you before you give up on your journey, man.

And also learn to love the journey, not the destination.

So many of us we feel, oh, when I finally struck gold, then I’ll be happy when I finally get that dream girl, then I’ll be happy.

You need to love the journey along the way and learn to love the NO’s because those are getting you closer to your final destination. In fact, Tom Hopkins in his best selling book, The Art of Selling, says you need to learn to love the NO.

What that means is you need to calculate on average, how many no’s does it take to get to a yes, which is a great thing to do in selling as well as approaching women. Does it take you 10 no’s to get a yes when you’re approaching women as far as 10 approaches to get a date?

If so, then every time you get to know, you say, “Hell yes, I’m getting closer to a date. Only nine more to go.” And you allow that to motivate you to move forward.You say, “Hey, she’s disqualified. So what? I’m getting closer to someone who is qualified.”



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That’s all for now, man! See you next time!

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Matt

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Texting A Woman – 15 UPDATED Texting Rules To Follow

Today’s content is all about Texting a Woman. So Make sure to read this before you text her!

The rules have changed my friend, and after sending thousands of text messages and selling countless copies of my book, Turn Her On Through Text, I can tell you that if she’s not texting you back, it’s probably because of one of the following mistakes that almost every guy makes.

When you learn how to text girls the right way that I’m about to show you, it’ll set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her. When you’re texting a woman like this.. She’ll text you back faster. She’ll text you first and you’ll be the guy she chooses and all the other guys she’s texting will be left high and dry.. Ghosted!

I’m going to give you 15 crucial texting do’s and don’ts including how not to be needy and turn her off.

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TEXTING A WOMAN
15 Updated Rules To Follow

15 – STOP BEING NEEDY

Honestly, this could be a lot higher on the countdown, but in fact, all of these are so important – stop being needy. There are two ways that guys commonly come off as too needy..

Number one is texting a woman too much, texting all the time. I mean, come on, man, you’re a busy guy. You’re on your purpose. You have a mission in life. It’s not to be sending her text messages all the time and getting that little hit of dopamine every time you hear that ding on your phone. So what you need to do is just keep your phone on silent and only check your phone a few times at specific times, every single day, instead of always texting a woman back right away and sending her tons of messages, be doing your thing, just be focused on your job, your passions.

And when you check your phone a few times a day, that’s when you reply back. So what if she has to wait a few hours? Let her wonder what you’re doing now. I’m not saying that as a manipulation tactic, where you see her texts and you say, “Ooh, I got to wait two hours to text her back.” I’m saying, don’t even check your phone. So that way you’re just naturally going to text her back two hours later.

Sometimes it will be right away because she sent you a text and you happened to be checking your phone. Other times she’s going to have to wait.

The second way guys are needy is they just send really long text messages, have rambled, and even gone for 18 pages.

Look at the text before you send it and just think to yourself, is there any way I can shorten this? Do I really have to send three sentences? Can I just say that in one sentence? Cause imagine you text her and she looks at her phone and she sees all these messages in a row from you, or maybe it’s just one big message from you if just met you and she doesn’t really know much about you, then she’s just going to assume that you’re needy.

So in general, just keep your text short and to the point, double check it before you send it.


14 – CHAMELEON APPROACH

The chameleon matches his environment. Now I’m not saying you should match exactly how she texts you. When you’re texting a woman, It’s not about mirroring exactly, or using the exact words or the same exact amount of emoticons or texting her back the exact length of time that it took her to text you back just like a command.

The chameleon doesn’t change into a rock or tree. He just kind of matches his environment. So I want you to kind of match her texting style.

If she’s sending you really long texts, then feel free to write a little bit longer. If she texts you back right away, then feel free to text her back a little bit quicker. This is kind of like the exception to the previous rule. She’s using tons and tons of emoticons – then feel free to use a few more..

But don’t turn into a chick. Don’t overdo it. Just notice her texting vibe, her texting style and match it just a little bit, because we feel more comfortable and we like people that are like ourselves.

When you’re being totally different, like she sends you these long, long texts and you send her one word replies and she texts you back right away. But you wait 10 hours? There’s going to be so much of a disconnect. She’s going to feel like you guys are totally not on the same page and you’re probably not going to get a date with her.

So don’t copy.. Don’t mirror.. Just match her texting style.

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13 – DON’T BE BORING

Don’t bore her to death. I knew a really attractive girl and she had a crush on this guy that she worked with. And finally he asked for her number and she was all excited. And then the next day he sent her a text:

“Hey.” She immediately lost interest but she gave him the benefit of the doubt. And she sent a reply like, “Hey, what’s up?” And he wrote back “Not much, you?” And she told me that her attraction for him died after just two or three text messages.

Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your text short, like I said earlier, but I think you can be a little bit more original than “Hey” or “What’s up” or “What are you doing?” In fact, never send a one word text. You’re smarter than that. You’re more clever than that. I know you can come up with something better and if you’re struggling, you want to have your texts fun, flirty a little bit cheeky so that when she sees a text from you, she’s smiling and she’s enjoying it. And she’s looking forward to your next text.


And along with not boring her to death, is always use proper spelling and grammar. Unless of course you’re using the chameleon approach. Other than that, spell out your words. Don’t use a “u” to replace the word “you”, because that’s like texting like a 13 year old girl.

You’re better than that, man. If she sees all these cheesy abbreviations and you’re missing periods and you’re not capitalizing words and you’re misspelling words, what is she going to think about you?

All she knows about you are the words that you’re sending on the screen. You could be a freakin’ genius, but if you’re texting her like a little kid, she’s going to think that there’s not much up there next.

12 – GIRLS WILL FLAKE YOU AND GO COLD

Girls will flake. It’s just the way it is. And they will go cold sometimes. And I know how frustrating it is. You really like this girl. She’s so pretty. And then you don’t hear back from her. And I know what it’s like, man. It sucks.

You meet a girl. Maybe you approach the girl you got out of your comfort zone. You risked embarrassment. You had this great interaction. You felt the sparks flying and then she doesn’t reply to your first text. Or maybe she does reply.. You have a little exchange back and forth. And then all of a sudden.. Where the heck did she go? She’s gone.

And so you text her again, no reply. And then maybe even texts her a third or fourth. Hopefully not a fifth and sixth time. Cause chances are, she’s not going to reply. You got to understand, man. It’s just the way it is. Sometimes women are not going to text you back.

Oftentimes they actually do it as a test. They want to see, are you really as cool as you seem or are you going to get all butthurt and all worried and freak out when she doesn’t text you back for a day?

Because trust me, man, some guys freak out just because the girl didn’t text him back. He sends text after text, after text, “What happened?” “What did I say wrong?” “What are you doing?” He goes through all these emotions. Then he starts getting mad at her.

Don’t be that guy. She wants to make sure that you’re a cool grounded man. That just because she doesn’t text you back or she texts you the wrong thing or she says no, the first time you ask her on a date or she even flakes on the date, that you’re not going to freak out that you are a calm grounded man.

Think about it.. If you freak out just because she doesn’t text you back, it means you only have one option that you’re putting all your eggs in her basket and that you really, really, really like her. That’s why you’re so mad that she’s not reciprocating that attraction back, which is basically the definition of needy.

It means you have no options.

So you need her and you’re latching onto her and freaking out when it doesn’t work out. So what if one or two fall off the radar? You have other options. And if you don’t have other options right now, ask yourself, “Why not?” Is it because you’re struggling with meeting women and approaching women in real life?

If that’s the case, man, we can help you out. We have all sorts of boot camps all around the world where we take guys in the field and show them exactly how to walk up and approach beautiful women in a way that is confident, smooth, and a way that women absolutely adore.

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It’s awesome to see the women light up and just melt in front of a charming, attractive man, such as yourself.

11 – SENDING NAUGHTY TEXTS TOO SOON

Oh, man.. we’ve all done this one; Sending sexual texts too soon. Now this could be high risk high reward in that – If she reciprocates the sexuality, then hey, it’s game on.

But it’s risky, man, because there’s no body language or tonality through texting a woman, she can easily misinterpret whatever sexual innuendo or sexually charged texts that you sent her wrong way. And it can just totally creep her out unless you do it the right way.

If you want to get her all hot and bothered, whether you just met her or you’ve been texting her for a long time – do it in a way that’s very safe so that she won’t think that you’re a freak or a creep because you’re going to use the same seductive language that women absolutely devour in romance novels.

Now in today’s day and age, it seems like nobody talks on the phone anymore, right? Everybody’s texting, which is why you need to get her on the phone because it will set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her.

Think about it. She’s texting 20 other guys. And honestly, if she’s an attractive woman, that might be the case, but the only guy she actually had a real on-the-phone conversation with is you, who do you think she’s going to want to go on a date with? Who’s she going to feel more comfortable with, who is she going to feel like she knows better?

Because she’s going to hear your tonality. She’s going to be able to sense your vibe and what kind of guy you are just from a short phone conversation. Texting, which is just words, accounts for only about 7% of communication. The rest is body language and tonality.

Once you have a short conversation with her on the phone, she’s more likely to say yes to you because she’ll feel like she just has a better sense of who you are as long as the phone conversation was pretty good. If you get on there and you’re all nervous and you don’t know what to say, and there’s all these awkward silences then yeah, you’re pretty much just shooting yourself in the foot.

Also, you need to set up the phone call the right way. You cannot just call her out of the blue nowadays. So I created an entire video that shows you exactly how to call girls in today’s day and age. You can check that out in the video below or HERE.

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Make sure to watch it, man, because if you can master calling women on the phone nowadays, you have a huge advantage.

10 – SEND HER COOL AND AMAZING PICTURES

They say a picture is a thousand words because you can only convey so much emotion or spark so much emotion in her through words, but with a picture you can do a whole lot more.

For example, when texting a woman, you can show her what you’re doing that day. You can give her a little insight into your life. Some of your passions, or if you’re into working out, you can send her a picture when you’re all pumped up at the gym that might even turn her on a little bit.

Don’t look like you’re bragging, man. Bragging is never a turn on.

One way that I like to do it is by using a cliffhanger text, which is just the text that implies there’s more to the text and it kind of leaves her hanging, right? Like you’re hanging off the end of the cliff, get it? Cliffhanger.

For example, “You know what kind of animal you remind me of?” “…” She will always respond to that. Cause she wants to know. And then I just sent her a picture of the animal and she’ll be like, “Oh, it’s so cute!”

9 – GO FOR THE DATE ON A HIGH NOTE

Next I recommend that you always go for the date on a high note. What that means is that anytime you escalate, the interaction escalates just means you’re going to the next level going for the first date is the next level in the interaction.

If you do it at a low note, for example, just out of the blue, you don’t know what kind of emotional state she’s in. She could have had a horrible day and then you text her, “Hey, let’s hang out.” And by the way, never text her “let’s hang out,” have an actual plan.

But if you go for it while she’s not in a great mood, she’s likely to say no, but if you’ve been texting back and forth and you’ve been using some of the texts out of my Texting Cheat Sheet and she’s laughing and she’s loving the back and forth texting exchange, and then you go for a date on a high note, she’s a lot more likely to say yes to the date.


8 – END THE BACK AND FORTH FIRST

What that means is if you’re texting a woman back and forth, like you’re kind of having a conversation. You know, she texts you back. You text her back every couple minutes, ping-pong back and forth.

YOU end it first. Why? Because you’re a busy guy. And I don’t mean just pretend you’re a busy guy that you got to go and you have nothing to do. Actually have a life, have to do you, man. You don’t have time to send her 50 text messages back and forth. So after a few back and forth, end it first, just tell her what you got to do.

“Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll text you later.” Or “Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll call you at eight. Will you be free?” And then set up a phone call. If she’s constantly the one that ends the texting conversation, it’s putting her in charge. It’s putting her in the lead and it seems like you have nothing better to do.

Like she’s the busy one and you’re the one chasing her. Now, if you can’t end it first, she tells you she’s got to go. No big deal. It’s not the end of the world. Don’t freak out just as a general rule. Try to end the interaction first. And the easiest way to do that is just have a busy life.

7 – GHOST HER / GIVE HER SOME SPACE

Next is kind of on the same token, but a little bit different. It can come off a little manipulative, but this not what I’m intending. Hopefully you don’t take this the wrong way..

You can ghost her.

Now let me back up. I don’t mean completely ghost her and you disappear forever. What would be the point of that? Don’t do that. What I mean is just give some space in the interaction.

If you, on average, text her every day, then stop texting her for a day or two. If you on average text her every other day then stop texting her for like three, four, five days. This is really going to make her think about you.

Assuming she likes you, she’s going to be wondering what’s going on. “Why isn’t he texting me back?” And she’s going to be thinking about you a lot.

People actually fall in love with one another not while they’re together necessarily, but when they are apart, when they’re thinking about the other person.

Don’t do this as a manipulative tactic. Just do this as a way to give your relationship, your newly found relationship, probably – some space. Just to see what happens. Does she text you after a day and just notice, maybe she’ll become the one that texts you back first. And if she doesn’t text you first, no big deal. Just restart the texting conversation.

You can chastise me all you want, but this technique flat out works for texting a woman. And I don’t want you to do it like, “Okay, I’m going to stop texting her.” I just want you to be busy. Don’t make texting a woman your number one priority. Go do something. Go camping for a couple of days, go on a weekend trip with your family. Again. What it all comes down to is being a guy with purpose. A guy who’s on his mission in life.

He’s got sh*t going on besides texting one particular girl that he just met. I’m not saying you should do this to your wife or girlfriend. No, I’m talking about a girl that you just met or maybe you’ve only been on one or two dates with her. It’s very early in the relationship. This can even sometimes speed the relationship up to the next level.

6 – BE PERSISTENT

Now this has all happened to us. We’ve all had women I assume that have ghosted us or just started going cold and didn’t text back. The key is to be persistent, man.

Keep the texting a woman fun and playful. Like I said earlier, don’t freak out. Don’t start giving her a bunch of sh*t just because she didn’t reply back. Or even if she doesn’t say yes to the date right away, don’t get all needy and give her ultimatums. In fact, I just had a client who was texting his girl that he really, really liked.

He was using word for word, text messages from Turn Her On Through Text. So the interaction was going awesome. She was texting him first. She seemed really excited to text and to eventually see him.

But when he asked her out, she said she was busy that weekend. And so instead of just being a cool guy and saying, “Okay, no big deal.” and keep texting and then try to go for a date next weekend, he got all affected and he sent something like, “Look, I don’t want to play games with you. I like you. If you don’t want to see me, then let’s just stop talking to each other!

Don’t do that, man. Just be persistent. Nothing’s a big deal. Just try again. In fact, even if she stops texting you, don’t just give up just because she didn’t reply to your last texts.

Maybe she’s busy. Maybe she forgot. Maybe she’s texting other guys. That’s pretty likely, but guess what? Those other guys will likely shoot themselves in their foot. Don’t do that to yourself. Just be persistent. Wait a couple of days and try again.

The next couple of tips are really juicy, man. So pay attention, take good notes.

5 – GET HER SOCIAL MEDIA

Nowadays, man, I highly recommend you get her on social media if you’re texting a woman. If you don’t have social media, it’s not the end of the world. I get it, man.

It’s addictive. And maybe you want to go down that rabbit hole. Cool. But if you got Facebook, Tinder or Snapchat, or if you’re watching this someday in the future, whatever is next, make sure to use it because you can stay on her radar a lot more.

One time I met this girl exchanged numbers and I hadn’t gone back to that city and hit her up for four years because I was in a relationship. And when my relationship ended, I went back to that city and a girl was really pretty. So I hit her up and guess what? When we met up for the date, she was like, “Wow, I’ve seen all your traveling. I know you went here and you did this..” It was surprising she knew everything that happened in the last four years because she was following me on Facebook.

Now imagine she wasn’t following me on Facebook. I only had her phone number and then I texted her four years later. She’d be like, “Oh, why is this guy texting me? I barely remember him.” So again, it goes back to having a cool life. If you have a cool life, post your pictures on social media and then every girl you meet, add them to your social media.

You can just text them on social media. However, when I meet a woman in person, I first get her social media. I use what’s called a “yes ladder.” I say, Hey, do you have social media at sea? She says, yes. I say, cool Instagram. She says, yes, that’s two yeses. Then I say, cool, write it down here. And she writes it in the contact app on my phone. And then after she’s done writing her Instagram handle, I say, cool, write your phone number as well.

And they usually say yes, because I’m starting with a small yes and I’m building up to a bigger yes. Hence the name “Yes ladder.” And the reason I get both is because I’d rather text her through standard SMS texting because chances are, she doesn’t have as many guys hitting her up using her phone number on standard SMS.

And if she has a public social media profile, then chances are, she has a lot of guys hitting her up if she’s a really attractive woman. So when you first meet her, get her phone number and her social media, make sure of course she’s following you. Then you have the best of both worlds.

4 & 3 – GO FOR THE DATE QUICKLY + MAKE YOUR MOVE

Next is one of the biggest mistakes I see when I’m working with a client one-on-one or in a bootcamp with regard to texting a woman. And I look at their phone, I’m looking at their texting conversations. I’m scrolling like this, I see all this back and forth.

And it’s usually pretty good because they’re using texts from Turn Her On Through Text, but they’re not asking her out. And one time I spoke at an event that had a lot of women in the audience and I asked the women, what’s the biggest challenge or gripe that you have towards men when it comes to dating.

They were all in consensus that they were frustrated that men don’t make the move. And they specifically said during the texting interaction, they’re texting back and forth and the girls are frustrated because the guy never asks them out or he just waits too long..

I know we live in a modern feminized world where women want to be just as equal as men. And you know, women should be asking out men, but quite frankly, women are still feminine and they want a man to be a man and take the lead and take charge and ask her out.

Stop waiting for her to ask you out because it’s probably not going to happen. So use those text messages and go for a date quicker rather than later. And if she says, no, remember: be persistent. It’s no big deal. Keep texting back and forth and try again. Now there is a fine line of being persistent versus being overly eager or needy. And it really just takes practice finding where that fine line meets.

If you’re unsure, veer on the side of not over texting a woman.

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2 – USE THE YES LADDER

The “Yes ladder” technique is a way to kind of program somebody’s brain. You get them saying small yeses before you go for the big yes.

Smart salespeople use this technique all the time. Instead of saying, “Would you like to buy this car?” They go for a smaller yes like, “Do you like this car?” “What do you like about the car?” “Would you like to drive the car?”

So you can use the same principle when it comes texting a woman and going for a date, instead of just saying, “Hey, would you like to go out with me sometime?” – Nothing wrong with that, but it’s kind of generic and it’s going for a big, yes. Instead say something like, “Do you like ice cream?” She’ll probably say yes.

Then as long as she’s not new in town, you can ask her if she knows of a specific, popular ice cream shop, like “Have you ever been to frosted cones on Elm street?” And she’ll say, yes, I love that place. And then it leads you right into asking her out.

Now you have to make sure you ask her out the right way. Not like, “Hey, want to hang out sometime??!” you gotta ask her out like a man, give her some options. And I show you some really effective word for word, texting examples in Turn Her On Through Text and in the Free Texting Cheat Sheet.


1 – NO UNSOLICITED PICTURES OF YOUR JUNK

Rule number onefor texting a woman: please, guys. No unsolicited pictures of your junk.

If she asks for it.. FINE. I’ve had a few girls ask. I usually send them kind of teasing pictures. I don’t show them the whole thing. I’m not going to give you examples. Don’t worry, but don’t just send her a Dick pic out of the blue.

I’m pretty sure that has never worked in the history of texting. Actually, it probably has worked, but it’s just way too high risk high reward.

Don’t do it. It’s gross. It’s kind of like going up to every girl at the bar and saying, “Hey, let’s go have sex.” It’s all just a numbers game at that point.

Instead, have some skills when it comes to texting.

If you’re interested in working with me or one of our team members live infield to help you actually approach women in real life or to handle your inner game, the thoughts and beliefs and the mindsets that are holding you back then I’ll put a link down below with more information, make sure to check that out!

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That’s all for now, man! Make sure to check our content if you’re looking for more ways to master texting a woman you like.

Keep up the great work, and stay awesome.

Cheers for now,

Matt

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How To Approach Women During The Daytime (Honest + Infield Footage)

Today’s content is all about how to approach women during the daytime! (Video footage included, man!) Approaching women and talking to girls isn’t only done in bars or clubs. In fact, we have had more authentic, memorable and enjoyable experiences when we approach women during the daytime.

Check out coach Jules Bia explaining his methods on how to approach women during the daytime, complete with footage of him approaching girls during the day in Playa del Carmen, Mexico:

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HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN DURING THE DAYTIME
with Coach Jules Bia

In today’s video, we show:
– how to approach women during the daytime
– how to approach girls during the day in the street, the beach, shops and malls
– how to approach a girl without being a creep
– how to approach girls during the daytime and get her number
– how to approach women in public places
– how to approach a girl NOT in a bar or club
– how to approach women in the street
– how to talk to a girl during the day
– infield footge from Jules Bia of The Attractive Man team
– examples of daygame approach,
– how to talk to girls with confidence
– how to talk to women and charm them

Here are Jules’ principles to keep in your mental checklist when you want to practice how to approach girls during the daytime:

WARM UP

Just like workouts. Just like public speaking.. Top athletes do it before game time, teachers and professors do it before major events, actors and performers do it before the big curtain rises. It makes TOTAL sense how important warming up is when mastering how to approach women during the day.

So, we love to warm up by talking to random people we meet everyday. Regardless of who they are, if they don’t look completely busy, give them a greeting – talk to them, give them a wave. Its a great warm up to set your mood and activate those happy hormones.

During nighttime approaches, we go and talk to everyone right from the start – if its in the bar or club, we talk to the bouncer, the first person we meet when we enter, the first group we meet.

Once you’ve warmed up, you won’t be so jumpy, anxious, fidgety. I almost never get tongue tied if I had an awesome warm up before I approach gorgeous women. So I want you to be more social, be a bit more dynamic, and warm up! Its going to help overall confidence, and social skills.

FEEL IT IN YOUR BODY

Ever heard the phrase “its all in your head”? Years of coaching men has helped us understand, majority of men’s problems are internal. They keep overthinking, they keep relying on mental cues, they keep thinking “what do I do now?” “what happens if I do this?” “what if she says this?” “should I do this after this and this?” “what if she says no?” “what if she says yes?”

The problem is.. All of your thoughts aren’t happening in the REAL world. You’ve beaten yourself up before you even made a move.

You’re supposed to FEEL it. You’re a human, with feelings, with sensors, with hormones that activate, with a body that responds to stimuli. Attraction is supposed to come naturally, not from a book that you pull out in your head. Being too much in your head? Overthinking? Believe me, it won’t end up well.

You see, some BAD advice would be “memorize this” and “practice this line and routine”. Imagine how that would feel like – are you some robot that only responds with a specific line or when a specific input is given?

So men, make sure to feel it in your body. Sure you might feel scared at first..you might have some jitters, but I want you to feel that and own it. Don’t lock yourself out of your feelings because you’ll never be able to tap into that natural, attractive you if you shut all of that out.

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TAKE CHANCES

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” True. Most men want to play it safe. Also true.

Risk taking is never easy. It requires you to exit your comfort zone. But what that does is it opens up new and amazing oppurtunities for you. And effort plus oppurtunity always equals success.

Sometimes, all guys need is a good push. You could be hanging on the edge of your safe bubble, almost ready to break your limits and become better – but you can’t find it in yourself to bust through. Why? It could be the fear of pain, the fear of rejection, afraid you’ll be humiliated, or afraid you’ll get hurt.

Men, life has been throwing curveballs all this time. And the “no pain, no gain” mantra was created for a reason – not just for the gym and working out – it applies in real life as well.

Approaching beautiful women that you might feel are out of your league is a complete risk on your part. But you know what? Experiencing the pain of rejection and learning from it is better than feeling the regret of not doing it. And most of the time, interactions even end well for our clients.

It was only after stepping out of their comfort zone that our men have realized that they can do better in dating and in their lives. It is by taking chances that we truly improve. It is by facing your demons and fears, where you can find the courage and confidence to be the best version of yourself.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all”


INVEST IN YOURSELF

Now, this is self-explanatory but I’ll have to emphasize this. Don’t make “how to approach women during the daytime” or flirting, dating, approaching women your main focus in life. That will create a needy mindset, and will set you off.

What you should be doing, is investing in yourself. Its YOUR life, and YOUR happiness. Don’t think that people-pleasing will always lead to your happiness. Seeking others approval, and doing things for them rather than yourself will lead you to a depressive state.

Invest in yourself, man. That’s the best piece of advice I can give you right now. Seek out a better you everyday. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Develop yourself, and natural attraction will follow.

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