Dating Coach Matt Artisan explains the 10 things men should do before the date:
10 Things Men Should Always Do Before the Date
If you clicked on this article then you probably either have asked a girl out on a date for sometime this week or you’re at least planning to ask her out, and you surely don’t want the date to end up as a big messy disaster or for her to think of you as a creep afterward; so you’re wondering; “What can I do to improve my chances on this date?”
You’re in luck man because I’ll be sharing with you all the important things that you must do days, hours, and even minutes before your date begins. These 10 tips I’ll be sharing with you will help you make sure that your date goes off without a hitch and that you both end up having a great time. So without further ado, let’s dive right into it.
#10 MAKE SURE SHE’S GOING TO SHOW UP
There’s no point in doing the next 9 tips if she’s not even going to show up. So reconfirm the date. But don’t text “Are we still on for tonight” NO!
That shows a lack of confidence that you think she would even consider flaking on you. Just send a text that shows her that you expect her to remember and expect her to show up. Like, “Hey, I’m going to be 10 minutes late” or reconfirm her location if you are picking her up or ordering a ride for her.
Do this an hour or two before the date. That tells her that you’re preparing and she should be too. With that, you’ve reduced the chances that she’ll flake on you.
#9 PREP YOUR LADY
Now, the very first thing you need to do is prepare her for the date. If she really likes you then she might turn up in a sexy, statement outfit, with 5-inch heels and a full face of makeup..
..and if what you’ve planned for the date was a simple walk in the park and a stop for ice cream? Then she might not be comfortable during the date and it will end up affecting how much of a good time you both have for the date. So when you’ve got the idea for your date, tell her what it is so she can be properly prepared.
If you want it to be a surprise, you can even tell her what to wear. saying something like, “I’ll come to pick you up on Friday at 3. Wear comfortable shoes” will give her enough information to be properly dressed for the date without giving away your plans entirely. I sometimes take girls to bars or fancy events and I tell them to wear a dress or skirt and heels because it’s what I like. (and it subtly makes her feel more sexy and sexual)
#8 SHOW SOME STYLE
If she’s getting all dolled up for the date, then you have to make sure you’re pulling up looking great as well. If you need a haircut, get a haircut. Trim your beard. Trim your nether regions (plan for success).
Plan your outfit and get it ready before the date. Focus on looking even more attractive on the day of the date than when she usually sees you or when she first met you. But be careful not to go over the top with it.
If she usually sees you in relaxed casual wear, then you can just take it up a notch and wear a stylish collared shirt—that is, if your plan for the date allows for that, of course. And always wear accessories because accessories make you look sexy.
A new watch, bracelet, ring, necklace, or a banging pair of sunglasses can go a long way to making you look fashionable and give you a ton of sex appeal.
#7 PIMP YOUR RIDE
The next thing you need to do is prepare your means of transport.
If you’re picking her up in your car, then get it cleaned up. You don’t want her to sit in your car with bits of half-eaten fries sticking out in weird places, random clothes thrown about, or the smell of stale Mcdonald’s.
That’s going to immediately turn her off, and she won’t be responsive to you for the rest of the date. If you are meeting her there then of course this rule doesn’t apply.
#6 PIMP YOUR PAD
Next on our list is to clean up your house. This might seem a bit presumptuous of you since there is no guarantee that she’s going to come to your place afterward, but since this is something that you might want to do, expecting that you will bring her back with you is a good mindset to have to go into the date.
So pick up the things that are littering your space; take out the trash so your house doesn’t smell – and spray some air freshener even if you think it doesn’t smell, you might just be used to the stench; set the mood with some music playing in the background; have a bottle of wine ready. Basically, get your home affairs in order so there will be nothing hindering you from properly escalating during that part of the date.
In the spirit of getting your affairs in order, you might want to get some protection at this point. There’s no guarantee that you will have sex with her, but it doesn’t hurt to be prepared.
Because if it happens that she does want to have sex with you, not having protection will be the worst sort of self cock-blocking you can go through.
Just get a pair of condoms and stuff them in your wallet, and you’re good to go.
These are the things that you could do a day or two before the date. Let’s now move on to an hour before your date. What do you need to do?
#4 CONFIRM THE VENUE
First off, confirm that you’ve picked the right venue and the right second, third and fourth venues for your plans that evening. Usually, men think confirming your venue just means calling the restaurant to confirm your reservations, but a dinner date is a boring choice for a first date.
Instead of your date being just a fancy dinner and a walk back home; try, for example, a visit to an art exhibit, a stop at a taco truck, a walk in the park, then some time in an bar arcade, and then a stop for ice cream to end the night. It doesn’t have to be these exactly, but you get the point.
Pick multiple venues because it makes the experience of the date that much more meaningful, and I’ll tell you why.
First, it gives the feeling that you’ve spent more time with her than you actually have. Because now you have multiple memories in several different places that stick with her, 3 hours can feel like 6. And now that you have all these experiences that the both of you share in such a short time, it makes the connection between the two of you even deeper.
If you have all these planned, then you’ll need to check to make sure there are no queues at the art gallery or too much of a crowd in the arcade or traffic in any of your routes.
#3 BE PUNCTUAL
The next important thing to do is get there on time. Now, this bit is very important, especially if it’s the first date because you want her to have a good impression of you going into the evening. Don’t rationalize your tardiness with the excuse that “women always take forever to get ready.” If you had planned to pick her up at 3, then make sure you get there by 3.
You can even get there a few minutes early. This will give you an opportunity to talk to her a bit and get her to warm up to you before your date officially begins. If you are meeting her at the venue, because a lot of women don’t want a random guy to know where they live in, a fact I almost never pick girls up, then get to the venue early and start talking to people.
This can really be helpful especially if you are the type of person that feels like dates are a chore that drains the life out of you because they should be fun and enjoyable.
And once you can get your mind in a place where it is confident and relaxed, you can be sure that the rest of the date will go well. An easy way to do this, especially in cases where you’re to meet her somewhere; is to get to the venue before her and start warming up.
If you’re meeting her at a bar, get there first and start socializing with the people there. After you’ve started a light conversation, made some small talk, and had a laugh to two; by the time she gets there, you won’t be the bundle of wound-up nerves that you probably were when you walked into that bar, your confidence will have perked up and the rest of it will be easy.
#2 BE A GENTLEMAN
Be a gentleman. Believe it or not most women still love a guy that takes care of them in little ways like opening doors for them. If you do pick her up in your car, don’t just open the door for her and rush on over to your side to get in.
No, take a minute to open the door for her, wait for her to get in the car and get comfortable, and then close the door gently afterward.
And then you can rush over to your side and get into the car yourself. She’ll be impressed with that, and respect you more after you’ve done that. But it doesn’t end with the car. Every other door you both have to go through, make sure to be the one who opens it for her. Trust me, it goes a long way.
#1 COMPLIMENT HOW SHE LOOKS
If you haven’t done this bit yet, then seated in the car about to drive to your date is a great place to do it: compliment her looks. “I’m sorry if I’ll be staring the rest of the night, but that dress looks great on you,” she’ll smile bashfully, mutter a quiet thank you, and maybe even compliment you back. And voila! You’ve driven her attraction to you even higher with that quick compliment.
I should probably add that, you need to watch to make sure that you’re not unconsciously forcing anything on her or rushing her to do anything with you..
MY FINAL ADVICE: Focus on having fun and being curious about who she is and if she fits your world, and then you’ll have a great time and you’re more likely build a great and long lasting connection.