8 Ways To Attract Women in 2021

Our female expert coach Lynn is here once again to give you her 8 Ways to Attract Women in 2021! Its easier, simpler, and faster than you think!

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2021 is here! And what does that mean? It means a new you, a new year, new everything, thank goodness. 2020 is gone and done and we can be rid of that.

But I want to ask you guys a serious question. Were you one of those that was waiting for a vaccine, for COVID to to be over with? Were you waiting for something, for anything until you started living your life?

Are you still waiting for things to get better for you to start living your life? I want to talk about being single in 2021. And I also want to talk about resolutions and making changes. And I want you guys to be very careful not to have the mentality of waiting until tomorrow.

That’s kind of like saying “I’m going to wait till Monday to start my diet.

I mean, guys, let’s face it, Monday comes around and by the end of that day, we’re back to that chocolate cake.

Why? Because resolutions don’t work whenever we say to ourselves, “Hey, let’s wait until X in order to start Y.” That’s a disaster waiting to happen. Whenever you wait to do something, chances of working go way down. So stop waiting.

Now.. the first thing I want to ask you is, is your life ready to bring in that special someone right now? Are you equipped? And I’m talking about mentally, emotionally, financially, physically.

If not, then guess what? Silver lining of covid now is your opportunity to get everything in check, to be ready for that love, for the many loves of your life to come walking in. Because one thing that I always tell my students – water seeks its own level.


If you pour a tub of water into a container, it will flatten out. When understanding that concept, think – what does it have to do with what I’m telling you about getting your life together to attract women into your life this 2021?

Well, wherever you are in life, think of it as let’s give the generic scale of 1 to 10, wherever you are on that scale is what you’re going to be attracting. So if you want to be attracting nines and tens, you have to be a nine and 10. And I’m not talking about you having to be a physical 9 or 10, meaning looks wise. But your life has to be somewhere in the 9’s and 10s.

Let’s be real. You see men with lots of money that are not 9’s and 10’s physically that attract 9’s and 10’s women. Why is that?

Because they’re nines and tens in a different area in their life. They’re 9’s and 10’s financially and they’re attracting 9’s and 10’s physically. If we’re being honest, power and money is pretty attractive, and sexy. That’s nothing to to be superficial about.

It really comes down to our evolution. Women are attracted to men that can provide, that can show power, provide shelter. How does that trickle down to 2021? Well, that equals men that can afford a nice lifestyle. Men are attracted to younger women with beauty and youth.. because look back at evolution. If she looks young, she’s got great skin, healthy hair, she’s more likely to be fertile and give us healthy offspring.

Whenever you see someone judging a man or a woman because they’re with someone, they’re attracted to their looks, age or money? Think back about this evolutionary concept. It’s actually normal.

Now is the time to think about all areas of your life financially, physically, emotionally, mentally. Maybe it’s education, fitness, career choice. Those are just a few examples. Ask yourself – Where do you need to be in order to attract the same level of your preferred partner? And if you’re not there, what do you need to do?


Just because we are in a pandemic, quarantining, (depending on where you are in the country and in the world) it doesn’t mean that has to halt and stop everything around you.

A lot of us can’t go out to bars and can’t be social. But that doesn’t mean that your social life has to stop. If you’ve perhaps kind of lost or let fizzle out different elements of your social life, now is the perfect time to reignite it.

Reach out to people that make you feel good or that made you feel good. Maybe it’s even been five, ten years. Send them a message, pick up the phone, put the pawns in place in order to have a healthy social life once we are able to go out and be social.

And you can also have a social life now, even if it’s not face to face. My friends and I, we do a happy hour bi-weekly on Zoom.

Do that with the guys, have a little happy hour on first Thursdays of the month or whenever it’s convenient to you. Play online
chess or other games with each other. Whatever you need to do to reignite those social connections that you used to have, even if it’s been a few years. So that once covid is finally dwindling down, and we can go out. Your social life is up and running!


Let’s take a realistic look at how prepared are you in your life to introduce somebody new? So maybe you’re divorced, maybe you have custody of kids, maybe you don’t have a very healthy work-life balance right now.

What do you need to readjust or rearrange in order to have a healthier time management and healthier work-life balance in your life? So you’ll really have time to bring in somebody new?

Maybe you need to have a conversation with your baby mama?

Maybe you need to reassess your time at work? But you need to make sure that you can afford it time wise – when you let somebody new into your life.


Just because we’re stuck inside doesn’t mean we need to be boring. It doesn’t mean that we are just stuck in front of our computers and TVs.

Become well rounded, become interesting. If you’re going to go out on dates, and if you’re going to start conversing, if you’re going to start having connections and relationships, then you have to have something to talk about other than COVID, politics, and work.

In order to become a well rounded person, you need to increase your cultural intelligence. So start reading up on things that you perhaps didn’t know much about before or things that you were slightly interested in but never had the opportunity to get more acquainted with.

Get reading more books. Get familiar with that Kindle, start listening to more podcasts, start watching some some older movies. Some that are controversial or some that have been given a lot of awards or been great conversation starters.

You will want to become a well-rounded, culturally intelligent, interesting person that actually has an opinion. And that’s another thing that we’re going to have to discuss in another topic – have an opinion and don’t be afraid of it. If you disagree with something that she says, don’t disagree just for the sake of disagreeing, but disagree because you genuinely believe something else. Do so in an amicable, constructive, friendly, way where you’re just exchanging ideas.

Get an opinion and don’t be afraid of it and start getting more information. It has to extend beyond politics, because nobody wants to talk about politics for 24 hours a day. Please.



If you look good, you feel good. And you’ll also want to be a person that respects their body.

You can’t expect a girl to completely be all dolled up, have an amazing body, take care of herself, eat healthy, while you’re being a couch potato that’s slowly gaining the pounds. Yes, I know. We’ve all probably gained a few (or a lot) during COVID, but now the light is in the tunnel.

And now again, is there a silver lining to get everything in place where we want it to be.

This is our time to set up our lives for where we want to be when we do introduce and when we do meet somebody new. So start looking good and start eating well.

If this is something that’s completely new to you, do it slowly instead of completely changing your your food in one day, which, you know, has a very high likely chance of failing. Start changing one meal at a time. So if breakfasts used to be pancakes and bacon, just replace the breakfast into something a little bit hardier, and something a little bit more wholesome. Do so slowly, and after you’re comfortable with breakfast, then maybe in a couple of weeks now you’ve changed what you eat for breakfast as well as lunch, and so on and so forth.

The small little changes is what’s most sustaining. But you have to start now, and you have to start slow.

So start looking good. Start taking an extra walk. If you’re if you’re walking to the grocery store – instead of parking really close by the door, take the last parking spot all the way to the back of the parking lot. Those extra steps make a difference.

If you haven’t invested in some kind of workout machine. I personally am a new user of the peloton, the spinning bike, and I am in love. I really recommend it.

But you got to do what’s good for you and something that you know is you’re going to do in the long run, not something that you’re all going to start for a few months and drop it. Something that you love, something that you enjoy.


Its time we talk about your physical environment and not just your physical body, which is also equally as important. Have a look at your surroundings. Have a look at your settings. A good, hard, look at where you live.

If the love of your life came knocking on your door right now, would you feel comfortable? Would you feel proud showing her where you live? If you’re a clutter bug,
I want you to get that in check again. Now is the silver lining, because now is your opportunity to prepare for the kind of life that you want.

Get your house clutter free, get it clean, and beyond that, and we talk about this when I talk about online dating with my clients, make your house a little bit sexy, get some grand artwork, some big artwork pieces, get some modern furniture, get some beautiful lighting, uplighting, make sure you’re showcasing it.

Simply put – get your home in shape. What your place looks like says so much about you. And who doesn’t want to come home or wake up to an amazing, well put place?


When I say start connecting, I mean that in a multitude of ways.

One is start connecting with women now and that is if you can’t go and approach on the street or out there in the real world, then start connecting online.

And I’m aslo talking about you going out an about and start practicing, connecting, conversating, start getting better at having rapport skills. Get on those dating apps,
start talking to your female friends, start getting better at having natural conversations and banter goes a long way.

So if that’s something that you’re missing out on, make sure that you’re practicing that. As the old saying goes – practice makes perfect. And you can always practice that through texting.

You can also practice that by joining an improv group. A lot of the improv groups are now offering online improv groups. Also Toastmasters, join an online Toastmasters group, start connecting, because this will help you start getting really dialed in to feeling her emotions and going back and forth.


Whether it’s Toastmasters or improv or maybe even joining an online cooking class or an online book club, online wine appreciation, jazz appreciation, whatever it is, take courses where it’s perhaps on Zoom where you’re interacting and meeting other people.

Get hobbies, get an interesting life, because I’ll tell you the secret right now: what really attracts women is a remarkable man that’s on his mission, that has his own life, that’s got his stuff going on. All of the things I just told you are going to make you great for you.

They’re not going to make a great for her. They’re going to make you great for you. And if you’re great for you, she’s going to be attracted to that.

Always put yourself as number one. You were born here alone. The truth of it, you’re going to die alone.

No one’s going to take care of you and no one’s going to treat your body and your mental, your emotional, your physical space like you do. Put yourself first. Make yourself the best version that you can.

We’re talking about confidence. We’re talking about love life. We’re talking about financial. We’re talking about every element to give you the best life that you can.

But you’ve got to take action now. Now, if you don’t know how to do any of these or even one of this, don’t wait till tomorrow.

Let’s see where you are on your path.


We can’t do this alone. There is power in the collective. This is why we have experts. This is why we have guidance. This is why we have counselors. We can’t know what we don’t know. And we can’t get ourselves if we don’t know the path.

Take opportunity of this last little patch of COVID, and get yourself prepared to meet that special someone in your life. Stop settling because how much longerdo you want to stay stuck wishing for what you want, but instead you’re just settling for what you have? Don’t let another minute go by.

3 Easy & Powerful Steps To Attract Women

I can tell you that there are just three simple actions that you can do right now to attract women and get them to chase you today instead of it being the other way around.

But first, here’s the hard truth. Most guys will never be chased by women. You may have experienced this yourself, the constant fight for her attention, thinking of something funny to say, only to end up empty handed..

It sucks, right? I mean, what’s the point in putting in all this effort if she’s just going to blow you off? And why do girls always seem so indifferent?

Listen, men, women can sense from a mile away when you’re being needy and when they sense this, their sex drive dries up faster than my iPhone battery.

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This is because when you’re trying so hard to attract women.. then you chase her subconsciously, you’re telling her that you’re not worth chasing. You’re telling her that you’re just like every other guy, that you’re nothing special, that she is better than you.

The result, of course, instead of making her want you, you end up pushing her away. Probably not the outcome you want, right? If like most guys, you want an outcome that involves a lot more nudity and a lot less soul crushing rejection, then I’m going to show you exactly what to do.

In fact, I can tell you what to do. And just one simple sentence in you’re sharp sharpies ready? You need to take her down off that pedestal and tell her subconscious mind that you’re the type of guy that she needs to chase.

But here’s the most important thing that nobody in the dating advice industry will tell you.

(Get Girls To Chase YOU)

There are only three ways to do this. Not a million, not a bazillion, just three. Three steps to attract women enough to get her to chase you.

I cannot make this more clear. Most experts will tell you you need an Instagram that’s fully loaded, full of pictures of you flexing next to your Ferrari while holding a puppy. Trust me, man, you don’t need to ignore her and hit on her friend.

You don’t even need to show her that you’re constantly surrounded by women and you don’t need to master the seven mysterious psychological tricks that manipulate women.

Here’s a hint: they don’t work.

Trust me, man. I spent years trying pretty much every pickup trick in the book and yeah some of them can work, but more often than not, they will backfire.

For example, back in the day I read that you should show more interest in the friend. So I did that in the friend ended up really liking me and then the girl that I liked ended up going home with somebody else and I was stuck there trying to get the less attractive girl away from me.

You don’t need to do things like that! And when you hear other experts tell you to do things like that, run the other direction.

Here’s what I want you to do instead:

STEP #1 – “Do not treat her like a princess”

Even though that’s what mainstream media tells you to do.

Before I started working on this part of my life, I had a huge crush on this girl that I thought was way out of my league. But somehow we ended up hooking up a couple of times and I became really attached.

I just became infatuated with her and I ended up sending her flowers and poetry on Valentine’s Day, even though we had only been dating for just a few weeks. And when she didn’t return my calls or text messages, I would stalk her friend at work and try to find out information like “Where’s Nikki? Why isn’t she replying back to me?”

And she ended up completely blocking me on all social media because I was way too needy, because there’s an old saying,

“If you treat her like a celebrity, then she’s going to treat you like a fan.”

In layman’s terms, this just means don’t fawn after her, chase her, treat her like royalty, or act like a little puppy dog. No matter how much you want your belly scratched.

You might even say that she wants to be treated like a princess, but in reality, she just wants to be treated like a person. That’s part of how to attract women..

This means be honest with her. You disagree with her? Just tell her! If you want to take a chance and flirt with her, then do it. You feel a bit of sexual tension, then embrace it. If you feel like playfully teasing her? Then just do it.

If you feel like getting up from the date and spinning around and moonwalking away, then do it!

But seriously, man, when you’re 100% honest with her, you inherently prevent yourself from ever chasing her. It’s really a pretty simple fix. You also create an environment of honesty that just creates a more fun, flirtatious and natural vibe between you and her.

Lots of guys look for ways to create bursts of sexual tension or create a low key, flirtatious vibe. But really all that comes from honesty.

You don’t need a new technique. You just need to stop dicking around and be honest. You feel it. So you do it. And it all starts with treating her like a regular person. Which brings me to step number two..

STEP # 2 – “Pull the trigger.”

When I first started learning the stuff, I remember I went to a club in downtown L.A. and I approached these two girls and I started really hitting it off with one of the girls who I thought was pretty much a total ten in looks.

And so I really liked her. And I remember she told me she was already dating three other guys, which made me want her more like she was kind of a challenge, and so I remember kind of playing it safe, I could tell she really wanted me to make a move on her.

She even told me she wasn’t wearing any underwear. Yet, I still didn’t make the move. I thought “I’ll be kind of a challenge and then she’ll chase me.” But it ended up having the opposite effect. She ended up completely losing interest.

And I was really disappointed and mad at myself because it was such a perfect opportunity. She was showing me so much interest, yet I completely blew it.

And that’s because women rarely make the first move.

I’m sorry, man, but unless you’re Ryan Gosling, you’re not going to just walk out of your house, attract women and have them chasing you. You’re going to have to make a move first.

I don’t care if she’s at work, at the bar, walking down the street, or she’s the cute cashier at Whole Foods. You have to make the first move. If you don’t, you’re dead in the water and she’ll never chase you, let alone kiss you.. Go back to your place and play a little naked twister.

A lot of idiot dating coaches will tell you to hide your desire and use secret steps that make her make the first move.

Spoiler alert: she probably won’t.

And if she does, she probably comes with a price tag. One of the best ways that you can make a move is by showing your desire as long as you do it the right way. Not in a way that’s creepy. Make it clear that you like her and that you’re not afraid to show it.

Simply put, if you’re afraid to show your interest in her, then you’re just like every other guy that orbits around her waiting for some magical opportunity to show up.

So WHY would she chase you? Which brings me to step number three..


STEP #3 – “Be the one percent man.”

The truth is men, that girls don’t need to chase a guy to get laid or get a boyfriend or get married. Because like 99% of guys will chase them.

So then ask yourself, why would you she chase you?

The only reason that you would chase you.. Is because you’re that type of guy that she never meets.

In simple economic lingo, you’re a “scarce resource,” so your value shoots way up and her strategy therefore, has to change. Its basic supply and demand. So then what kind of guy does she never meet?

I know what you’re thinking. And no, it’s not just rich guys. There are plenty of guys with money out there. And trust me, man, a lot of my clients are very wealthy before they come to me. They’re struggling in their dating lives because they’re still chasing women.

And actually answer this question by just listening to any woman going on a Cosmo fueled rant about her dating life. They rarely meet guys who have their own lives, a clearly defined purpose, who are independent.

Believe it or not, they rarely meet guys who have their life fundamentals together: A Career he likes, friends he likes, a life that he likes to live.

These kind of guys are just naturally a challenge to women because they can be. Because they’re a catch. These are the kind of guys and really who truly enjoy their lives and they know they’re totally fine, regardless whether they get her or not. That’s the kind of guy that she wants to chase. One who can attract women effortlessly.

And here’s a little reality check, just in case you’ve been nodding along.

If you play games, you aren’t this guy.

If you try to manipulate her, you aren’t this guy.

If you’re too afraid to approach her, you are NOT this guy.

Look, man, if you want her to chase you, you have to build a life that is completely independent of her.

For every guy, this is a little bit different because everybody wants different things. But if you can make the changes in your life necessary to achieve this, it will drive women crazy. And you’ll just naturally be a challeng to women because you’ll be on your life’s purpose.

And as you work on yourself and become the most attractive, confident version of yourself and learn how to talk to women and approach women with confidence, you’ll have so many options. And guys with options don’t chase women. They’re the ones who get chased.

So you can take one thing away from this.. Let it be:

If you can sort out your life, she will chase you simply because you are YOU.

Something that we in the business call “Easy mode.”

So keep up the great work, be the 1% man, attract women AND success.. and stay awesome!


How To Approach Women During The Daytime (Honest + Infield Footage)

Today’s content is all about how to approach women during the daytime! (Video footage included, man!) Approaching women and talking to girls isn’t only done in bars or clubs. In fact, we have had more authentic, memorable and enjoyable experiences when we approach women during the daytime.

Check out coach Jules Bia explaining his methods on how to approach women during the daytime, complete with footage of him approaching girls during the day in Playa del Carmen, Mexico:

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with Coach Jules Bia

In today’s video, we show:
– how to approach women during the daytime
– how to approach girls during the day in the street, the beach, shops and malls
– how to approach a girl without being a creep
– how to approach girls during the daytime and get her number
– how to approach women in public places
– how to approach a girl NOT in a bar or club
– how to approach women in the street
– how to talk to a girl during the day
– infield footge from Jules Bia of The Attractive Man team
– examples of daygame approach,
– how to talk to girls with confidence
– how to talk to women and charm them

Here are Jules’ principles to keep in your mental checklist when you want to practice how to approach girls during the daytime:


Just like workouts. Just like public speaking.. Top athletes do it before game time, teachers and professors do it before major events, actors and performers do it before the big curtain rises. It makes TOTAL sense how important warming up is when mastering how to approach women during the day.

So, we love to warm up by talking to random people we meet everyday. Regardless of who they are, if they don’t look completely busy, give them a greeting – talk to them, give them a wave. Its a great warm up to set your mood and activate those happy hormones.

During nighttime approaches, we go and talk to everyone right from the start – if its in the bar or club, we talk to the bouncer, the first person we meet when we enter, the first group we meet.

Once you’ve warmed up, you won’t be so jumpy, anxious, fidgety. I almost never get tongue tied if I had an awesome warm up before I approach gorgeous women. So I want you to be more social, be a bit more dynamic, and warm up! Its going to help overall confidence, and social skills.


Ever heard the phrase “its all in your head”? Years of coaching men has helped us understand, majority of men’s problems are internal. They keep overthinking, they keep relying on mental cues, they keep thinking “what do I do now?” “what happens if I do this?” “what if she says this?” “should I do this after this and this?” “what if she says no?” “what if she says yes?”

The problem is.. All of your thoughts aren’t happening in the REAL world. You’ve beaten yourself up before you even made a move.

You’re supposed to FEEL it. You’re a human, with feelings, with sensors, with hormones that activate, with a body that responds to stimuli. Attraction is supposed to come naturally, not from a book that you pull out in your head. Being too much in your head? Overthinking? Believe me, it won’t end up well.

You see, some BAD advice would be “memorize this” and “practice this line and routine”. Imagine how that would feel like – are you some robot that only responds with a specific line or when a specific input is given?

So men, make sure to feel it in your body. Sure you might feel scared at first..you might have some jitters, but I want you to feel that and own it. Don’t lock yourself out of your feelings because you’ll never be able to tap into that natural, attractive you if you shut all of that out.



“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” True. Most men want to play it safe. Also true.

Risk taking is never easy. It requires you to exit your comfort zone. But what that does is it opens up new and amazing oppurtunities for you. And effort plus oppurtunity always equals success.

Sometimes, all guys need is a good push. You could be hanging on the edge of your safe bubble, almost ready to break your limits and become better – but you can’t find it in yourself to bust through. Why? It could be the fear of pain, the fear of rejection, afraid you’ll be humiliated, or afraid you’ll get hurt.

Men, life has been throwing curveballs all this time. And the “no pain, no gain” mantra was created for a reason – not just for the gym and working out – it applies in real life as well.

Approaching beautiful women that you might feel are out of your league is a complete risk on your part. But you know what? Experiencing the pain of rejection and learning from it is better than feeling the regret of not doing it. And most of the time, interactions even end well for our clients.

It was only after stepping out of their comfort zone that our men have realized that they can do better in dating and in their lives. It is by taking chances that we truly improve. It is by facing your demons and fears, where you can find the courage and confidence to be the best version of yourself.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all”


Now, this is self-explanatory but I’ll have to emphasize this. Don’t make “how to approach women during the daytime” or flirting, dating, approaching women your main focus in life. That will create a needy mindset, and will set you off.

What you should be doing, is investing in yourself. Its YOUR life, and YOUR happiness. Don’t think that people-pleasing will always lead to your happiness. Seeking others approval, and doing things for them rather than yourself will lead you to a depressive state.

Invest in yourself, man. That’s the best piece of advice I can give you right now. Seek out a better you everyday. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Develop yourself, and natural attraction will follow.

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Dating Coaches React To 90 Day Fiance – Ed and Rose

We’ve got a special episode today.. our Dating Coaches React to 90 Day Fiance – Ed and Rose!

Lynn shows Kal 90 Day Fiance, Big Ed and Rose meeting in person for the first time. Watch his reaction and the team’s tips on why they agree/disagree with what Bid Ed and Rose are doing:

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90 Day Fiance – Ed and Rose

In The Attractive Man team, our coaches react to a variety of videos, and today we want to cover the ever so popular 90 Day Fiance. What better way to start our ‘coaches reacts to 90 day fiance videos’ than with Big Ed and Rose!

Well, big Ed is what he likes to call himself, but the internet has actually named him no neck Ed.. why is that, you ask? Check the video out an you’ll know right away.

This particular couple from TLC’s 90 day fiance, before the 90 days, is an American citizen – Edward Allen Brown, and his Filipina girlfriend Rosemarie Vega. 90 day fiance’s Ed and Rose shot up in popularity simply because of how viral their interactions were on the 90 day fiance tv show.

An American finally meeting with his Girlfriend from the Philippines? Add an age gap.. How would you think that would play out?

While Ed and Rosemarie could have been a happy power couple, when you look at what happened before the 90 days, Ed and Rose cleary had some huge problems to face. Whether it was Ed’s or Rose’s fault, that is up to you to decide – but our coaches and dating experts Lynn and Kal, will have to watch them and explain to you their thoughts on why this couple tandem won’t work!

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That’s all for now, man! See you on our next post.
Hope you had some valuable insights.