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Texting A Woman – 15 UPDATED Texting Rules To Follow

Today’s content is all about Texting a Woman. So Make sure to read this before you text her!

The rules have changed my friend, and after sending thousands of text messages and selling countless copies of my book, Turn Her On Through Text, I can tell you that if she’s not texting you back, it’s probably because of one of the following mistakes that almost every guy makes.

When you learn how to text girls the right way that I’m about to show you, it’ll set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her. When you’re texting a woman like this.. She’ll text you back faster. She’ll text you first and you’ll be the guy she chooses and all the other guys she’s texting will be left high and dry.. Ghosted!

I’m going to give you 15 crucial texting do’s and don’ts including how not to be needy and turn her off.

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TEXTING A WOMAN
15 Updated Rules To Follow

15 – STOP BEING NEEDY

Honestly, this could be a lot higher on the countdown, but in fact, all of these are so important – stop being needy. There are two ways that guys commonly come off as too needy..

Number one is texting a woman too much, texting all the time. I mean, come on, man, you’re a busy guy. You’re on your purpose. You have a mission in life. It’s not to be sending her text messages all the time and getting that little hit of dopamine every time you hear that ding on your phone. So what you need to do is just keep your phone on silent and only check your phone a few times at specific times, every single day, instead of always texting a woman back right away and sending her tons of messages, be doing your thing, just be focused on your job, your passions.

And when you check your phone a few times a day, that’s when you reply back. So what if she has to wait a few hours? Let her wonder what you’re doing now. I’m not saying that as a manipulation tactic, where you see her texts and you say, “Ooh, I got to wait two hours to text her back.” I’m saying, don’t even check your phone. So that way you’re just naturally going to text her back two hours later.

Sometimes it will be right away because she sent you a text and you happened to be checking your phone. Other times she’s going to have to wait.

The second way guys are needy is they just send really long text messages, have rambled, and even gone for 18 pages.

Look at the text before you send it and just think to yourself, is there any way I can shorten this? Do I really have to send three sentences? Can I just say that in one sentence? Cause imagine you text her and she looks at her phone and she sees all these messages in a row from you, or maybe it’s just one big message from you if just met you and she doesn’t really know much about you, then she’s just going to assume that you’re needy.

So in general, just keep your text short and to the point, double check it before you send it.


14 – CHAMELEON APPROACH

The chameleon matches his environment. Now I’m not saying you should match exactly how she texts you. When you’re texting a woman, It’s not about mirroring exactly, or using the exact words or the same exact amount of emoticons or texting her back the exact length of time that it took her to text you back just like a command.

The chameleon doesn’t change into a rock or tree. He just kind of matches his environment. So I want you to kind of match her texting style.

If she’s sending you really long texts, then feel free to write a little bit longer. If she texts you back right away, then feel free to text her back a little bit quicker. This is kind of like the exception to the previous rule. She’s using tons and tons of emoticons – then feel free to use a few more..

But don’t turn into a chick. Don’t overdo it. Just notice her texting vibe, her texting style and match it just a little bit, because we feel more comfortable and we like people that are like ourselves.

When you’re being totally different, like she sends you these long, long texts and you send her one word replies and she texts you back right away. But you wait 10 hours? There’s going to be so much of a disconnect. She’s going to feel like you guys are totally not on the same page and you’re probably not going to get a date with her.

So don’t copy.. Don’t mirror.. Just match her texting style.

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13 – DON’T BE BORING

Don’t bore her to death. I knew a really attractive girl and she had a crush on this guy that she worked with. And finally he asked for her number and she was all excited. And then the next day he sent her a text:

“Hey.” She immediately lost interest but she gave him the benefit of the doubt. And she sent a reply like, “Hey, what’s up?” And he wrote back “Not much, you?” And she told me that her attraction for him died after just two or three text messages.

Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your text short, like I said earlier, but I think you can be a little bit more original than “Hey” or “What’s up” or “What are you doing?” In fact, never send a one word text. You’re smarter than that. You’re more clever than that. I know you can come up with something better and if you’re struggling, you want to have your texts fun, flirty a little bit cheeky so that when she sees a text from you, she’s smiling and she’s enjoying it. And she’s looking forward to your next text.


And along with not boring her to death, is always use proper spelling and grammar. Unless of course you’re using the chameleon approach. Other than that, spell out your words. Don’t use a “u” to replace the word “you”, because that’s like texting like a 13 year old girl.

You’re better than that, man. If she sees all these cheesy abbreviations and you’re missing periods and you’re not capitalizing words and you’re misspelling words, what is she going to think about you?

All she knows about you are the words that you’re sending on the screen. You could be a freakin’ genius, but if you’re texting her like a little kid, she’s going to think that there’s not much up there next.

12 – GIRLS WILL FLAKE YOU AND GO COLD

Girls will flake. It’s just the way it is. And they will go cold sometimes. And I know how frustrating it is. You really like this girl. She’s so pretty. And then you don’t hear back from her. And I know what it’s like, man. It sucks.

You meet a girl. Maybe you approach the girl you got out of your comfort zone. You risked embarrassment. You had this great interaction. You felt the sparks flying and then she doesn’t reply to your first text. Or maybe she does reply.. You have a little exchange back and forth. And then all of a sudden.. Where the heck did she go? She’s gone.

And so you text her again, no reply. And then maybe even texts her a third or fourth. Hopefully not a fifth and sixth time. Cause chances are, she’s not going to reply. You got to understand, man. It’s just the way it is. Sometimes women are not going to text you back.

Oftentimes they actually do it as a test. They want to see, are you really as cool as you seem or are you going to get all butthurt and all worried and freak out when she doesn’t text you back for a day?

Because trust me, man, some guys freak out just because the girl didn’t text him back. He sends text after text, after text, “What happened?” “What did I say wrong?” “What are you doing?” He goes through all these emotions. Then he starts getting mad at her.

Don’t be that guy. She wants to make sure that you’re a cool grounded man. That just because she doesn’t text you back or she texts you the wrong thing or she says no, the first time you ask her on a date or she even flakes on the date, that you’re not going to freak out that you are a calm grounded man.

Think about it.. If you freak out just because she doesn’t text you back, it means you only have one option that you’re putting all your eggs in her basket and that you really, really, really like her. That’s why you’re so mad that she’s not reciprocating that attraction back, which is basically the definition of needy.

It means you have no options.

So you need her and you’re latching onto her and freaking out when it doesn’t work out. So what if one or two fall off the radar? You have other options. And if you don’t have other options right now, ask yourself, “Why not?” Is it because you’re struggling with meeting women and approaching women in real life?

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11 – SENDING NAUGHTY TEXTS TOO SOON

Oh, man.. we’ve all done this one; Sending sexual texts too soon. Now this could be high risk high reward in that – If she reciprocates the sexuality, then hey, it’s game on.

But it’s risky, man, because there’s no body language or tonality through texting a woman, she can easily misinterpret whatever sexual innuendo or sexually charged texts that you sent her wrong way. And it can just totally creep her out unless you do it the right way.

If you want to get her all hot and bothered, whether you just met her or you’ve been texting her for a long time – do it in a way that’s very safe so that she won’t think that you’re a freak or a creep because you’re going to use the same seductive language that women absolutely devour in romance novels.

Now in today’s day and age, it seems like nobody talks on the phone anymore, right? Everybody’s texting, which is why you need to get her on the phone because it will set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her.

Think about it. She’s texting 20 other guys. And honestly, if she’s an attractive woman, that might be the case, but the only guy she actually had a real on-the-phone conversation with is you, who do you think she’s going to want to go on a date with? Who’s she going to feel more comfortable with, who is she going to feel like she knows better?

Because she’s going to hear your tonality. She’s going to be able to sense your vibe and what kind of guy you are just from a short phone conversation. Texting, which is just words, accounts for only about 7% of communication. The rest is body language and tonality.

Once you have a short conversation with her on the phone, she’s more likely to say yes to you because she’ll feel like she just has a better sense of who you are as long as the phone conversation was pretty good. If you get on there and you’re all nervous and you don’t know what to say, and there’s all these awkward silences then yeah, you’re pretty much just shooting yourself in the foot.

Also, you need to set up the phone call the right way. You cannot just call her out of the blue nowadays. So I created an entire video that shows you exactly how to call girls in today’s day and age. You can check that out in the video below or HERE.

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Make sure to watch it, man, because if you can master calling women on the phone nowadays, you have a huge advantage.

10 – SEND HER COOL AND AMAZING PICTURES

They say a picture is a thousand words because you can only convey so much emotion or spark so much emotion in her through words, but with a picture you can do a whole lot more.

For example, when texting a woman, you can show her what you’re doing that day. You can give her a little insight into your life. Some of your passions, or if you’re into working out, you can send her a picture when you’re all pumped up at the gym that might even turn her on a little bit.

Don’t look like you’re bragging, man. Bragging is never a turn on.

One way that I like to do it is by using a cliffhanger text, which is just the text that implies there’s more to the text and it kind of leaves her hanging, right? Like you’re hanging off the end of the cliff, get it? Cliffhanger.

For example, “You know what kind of animal you remind me of?” “…” She will always respond to that. Cause she wants to know. And then I just sent her a picture of the animal and she’ll be like, “Oh, it’s so cute!”

9 – GO FOR THE DATE ON A HIGH NOTE

Next I recommend that you always go for the date on a high note. What that means is that anytime you escalate, the interaction escalates just means you’re going to the next level going for the first date is the next level in the interaction.

If you do it at a low note, for example, just out of the blue, you don’t know what kind of emotional state she’s in. She could have had a horrible day and then you text her, “Hey, let’s hang out.” And by the way, never text her “let’s hang out,” have an actual plan.

But if you go for it while she’s not in a great mood, she’s likely to say no, but if you’ve been texting back and forth and you’ve been using some of the texts out of my Texting Cheat Sheet and she’s laughing and she’s loving the back and forth texting exchange, and then you go for a date on a high note, she’s a lot more likely to say yes to the date.


8 – END THE BACK AND FORTH FIRST

What that means is if you’re texting a woman back and forth, like you’re kind of having a conversation. You know, she texts you back. You text her back every couple minutes, ping-pong back and forth.

YOU end it first. Why? Because you’re a busy guy. And I don’t mean just pretend you’re a busy guy that you got to go and you have nothing to do. Actually have a life, have to do you, man. You don’t have time to send her 50 text messages back and forth. So after a few back and forth, end it first, just tell her what you got to do.

“Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll text you later.” Or “Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll call you at eight. Will you be free?” And then set up a phone call. If she’s constantly the one that ends the texting conversation, it’s putting her in charge. It’s putting her in the lead and it seems like you have nothing better to do.

Like she’s the busy one and you’re the one chasing her. Now, if you can’t end it first, she tells you she’s got to go. No big deal. It’s not the end of the world. Don’t freak out just as a general rule. Try to end the interaction first. And the easiest way to do that is just have a busy life.

7 – GHOST HER / GIVE HER SOME SPACE

Next is kind of on the same token, but a little bit different. It can come off a little manipulative, but this not what I’m intending. Hopefully you don’t take this the wrong way..

You can ghost her.

Now let me back up. I don’t mean completely ghost her and you disappear forever. What would be the point of that? Don’t do that. What I mean is just give some space in the interaction.

If you, on average, text her every day, then stop texting her for a day or two. If you on average text her every other day then stop texting her for like three, four, five days. This is really going to make her think about you.

Assuming she likes you, she’s going to be wondering what’s going on. “Why isn’t he texting me back?” And she’s going to be thinking about you a lot.

People actually fall in love with one another not while they’re together necessarily, but when they are apart, when they’re thinking about the other person.

Don’t do this as a manipulative tactic. Just do this as a way to give your relationship, your newly found relationship, probably – some space. Just to see what happens. Does she text you after a day and just notice, maybe she’ll become the one that texts you back first. And if she doesn’t text you first, no big deal. Just restart the texting conversation.

You can chastise me all you want, but this technique flat out works for texting a woman. And I don’t want you to do it like, “Okay, I’m going to stop texting her.” I just want you to be busy. Don’t make texting a woman your number one priority. Go do something. Go camping for a couple of days, go on a weekend trip with your family. Again. What it all comes down to is being a guy with purpose. A guy who’s on his mission in life.

He’s got sh*t going on besides texting one particular girl that he just met. I’m not saying you should do this to your wife or girlfriend. No, I’m talking about a girl that you just met or maybe you’ve only been on one or two dates with her. It’s very early in the relationship. This can even sometimes speed the relationship up to the next level.

6 – BE PERSISTENT

Now this has all happened to us. We’ve all had women I assume that have ghosted us or just started going cold and didn’t text back. The key is to be persistent, man.

Keep the texting a woman fun and playful. Like I said earlier, don’t freak out. Don’t start giving her a bunch of sh*t just because she didn’t reply back. Or even if she doesn’t say yes to the date right away, don’t get all needy and give her ultimatums. In fact, I just had a client who was texting his girl that he really, really liked.

He was using word for word, text messages from Turn Her On Through Text. So the interaction was going awesome. She was texting him first. She seemed really excited to text and to eventually see him.

But when he asked her out, she said she was busy that weekend. And so instead of just being a cool guy and saying, “Okay, no big deal.” and keep texting and then try to go for a date next weekend, he got all affected and he sent something like, “Look, I don’t want to play games with you. I like you. If you don’t want to see me, then let’s just stop talking to each other!

Don’t do that, man. Just be persistent. Nothing’s a big deal. Just try again. In fact, even if she stops texting you, don’t just give up just because she didn’t reply to your last texts.

Maybe she’s busy. Maybe she forgot. Maybe she’s texting other guys. That’s pretty likely, but guess what? Those other guys will likely shoot themselves in their foot. Don’t do that to yourself. Just be persistent. Wait a couple of days and try again.

The next couple of tips are really juicy, man. So pay attention, take good notes.

5 – GET HER SOCIAL MEDIA

Nowadays, man, I highly recommend you get her on social media if you’re texting a woman. If you don’t have social media, it’s not the end of the world. I get it, man.

It’s addictive. And maybe you want to go down that rabbit hole. Cool. But if you got Facebook, Tinder or Snapchat, or if you’re watching this someday in the future, whatever is next, make sure to use it because you can stay on her radar a lot more.

One time I met this girl exchanged numbers and I hadn’t gone back to that city and hit her up for four years because I was in a relationship. And when my relationship ended, I went back to that city and a girl was really pretty. So I hit her up and guess what? When we met up for the date, she was like, “Wow, I’ve seen all your traveling. I know you went here and you did this..” It was surprising she knew everything that happened in the last four years because she was following me on Facebook.

Now imagine she wasn’t following me on Facebook. I only had her phone number and then I texted her four years later. She’d be like, “Oh, why is this guy texting me? I barely remember him.” So again, it goes back to having a cool life. If you have a cool life, post your pictures on social media and then every girl you meet, add them to your social media.

You can just text them on social media. However, when I meet a woman in person, I first get her social media. I use what’s called a “yes ladder.” I say, Hey, do you have social media at sea? She says, yes. I say, cool Instagram. She says, yes, that’s two yeses. Then I say, cool, write it down here. And she writes it in the contact app on my phone. And then after she’s done writing her Instagram handle, I say, cool, write your phone number as well.

And they usually say yes, because I’m starting with a small yes and I’m building up to a bigger yes. Hence the name “Yes ladder.” And the reason I get both is because I’d rather text her through standard SMS texting because chances are, she doesn’t have as many guys hitting her up using her phone number on standard SMS.

And if she has a public social media profile, then chances are, she has a lot of guys hitting her up if she’s a really attractive woman. So when you first meet her, get her phone number and her social media, make sure of course she’s following you. Then you have the best of both worlds.

4 & 3 – GO FOR THE DATE QUICKLY + MAKE YOUR MOVE

Next is one of the biggest mistakes I see when I’m working with a client one-on-one or in a bootcamp with regard to texting a woman. And I look at their phone, I’m looking at their texting conversations. I’m scrolling like this, I see all this back and forth.

And it’s usually pretty good because they’re using texts from Turn Her On Through Text, but they’re not asking her out. And one time I spoke at an event that had a lot of women in the audience and I asked the women, what’s the biggest challenge or gripe that you have towards men when it comes to dating.

They were all in consensus that they were frustrated that men don’t make the move. And they specifically said during the texting interaction, they’re texting back and forth and the girls are frustrated because the guy never asks them out or he just waits too long..

I know we live in a modern feminized world where women want to be just as equal as men. And you know, women should be asking out men, but quite frankly, women are still feminine and they want a man to be a man and take the lead and take charge and ask her out.

Stop waiting for her to ask you out because it’s probably not going to happen. So use those text messages and go for a date quicker rather than later. And if she says, no, remember: be persistent. It’s no big deal. Keep texting back and forth and try again. Now there is a fine line of being persistent versus being overly eager or needy. And it really just takes practice finding where that fine line meets.

If you’re unsure, veer on the side of not over texting a woman.

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2 – USE THE YES LADDER

The “Yes ladder” technique is a way to kind of program somebody’s brain. You get them saying small yeses before you go for the big yes.

Smart salespeople use this technique all the time. Instead of saying, “Would you like to buy this car?” They go for a smaller yes like, “Do you like this car?” “What do you like about the car?” “Would you like to drive the car?”

So you can use the same principle when it comes texting a woman and going for a date, instead of just saying, “Hey, would you like to go out with me sometime?” – Nothing wrong with that, but it’s kind of generic and it’s going for a big, yes. Instead say something like, “Do you like ice cream?” She’ll probably say yes.

Then as long as she’s not new in town, you can ask her if she knows of a specific, popular ice cream shop, like “Have you ever been to frosted cones on Elm street?” And she’ll say, yes, I love that place. And then it leads you right into asking her out.

Now you have to make sure you ask her out the right way. Not like, “Hey, want to hang out sometime??!” you gotta ask her out like a man, give her some options. And I show you some really effective word for word, texting examples in Turn Her On Through Text and in the Free Texting Cheat Sheet.


1 – NO UNSOLICITED PICTURES OF YOUR JUNK

Rule number onefor texting a woman: please, guys. No unsolicited pictures of your junk.

If she asks for it.. FINE. I’ve had a few girls ask. I usually send them kind of teasing pictures. I don’t show them the whole thing. I’m not going to give you examples. Don’t worry, but don’t just send her a Dick pic out of the blue.

I’m pretty sure that has never worked in the history of texting. Actually, it probably has worked, but it’s just way too high risk high reward.

Don’t do it. It’s gross. It’s kind of like going up to every girl at the bar and saying, “Hey, let’s go have sex.” It’s all just a numbers game at that point.

Instead, have some skills when it comes to texting.

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Keep up the great work, and stay awesome.

Cheers for now,

Matt

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Best Texts to Send a Girl You Like | 7 First Texts That Make Her Interested In You

What are the BEST texts to send a girl you like? Have you ever sent kind of a lame or boring first texts and immediately wished you could take it back?

Your first text is crucial because it sets the frame for your textual relationship. (Did you see what I did there? That nice little play on words? *sigh* Nevermind.) Look, man, most guys sent a very boring or average first text and the girl quickly loses interest. So here are my 7 BEST First Texts to Send a Girl You Like – so your first text will almost always make her excited and interested to reply to you:

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BEST TEXTS TO SEND A GIRL YOU LIKE
7 First Texts That Make Her Excited and Interested In You

NUMBER 7 – Something Naughty

Alright, number seven is something naughty. This is a really great one, but it’s all about the setup. You have to plant the seed or it’s not going to make any sense. And of course you always have to be careful sending an unsolicited sexual text message, but don’t worry..

You’re not going to be sending her a naked selfie of yourself. Please don’t do that as the first text, that would probably not work very well. So it goes like this:

You get her phone number, you’ll save it in your phone. And then you say something like, “Okay, you know what? I’m going to text you something naughty.” The reason I like this is because you’ll see her reaction. It’s either going to be something like, “Ooh, okay. I like that. Yes. Send me something naughty.” Or it’s going to be a, “That’s a little weird..” Either way. It’s going to give you an idea of how naughty she is now with this one, you can’t wait too long to send her the something naughty texts. You should do it in about 10 or 15 minutes. While the idea of you texting her something naughty is still on her mind. And you simply just text her the word something and the word naughty with a smiley face or a winky face emoji.

Do you get it? She thought you were going to text her, actually something naughty like a naked picture or who knows what she’s thinking. And instead you just texted the words, something naughty I’ve even had girls reply with. “I wish you would have sent something a lot more naughty than that.” Again, it’s a good way to find out how naughty she is.

NUMBER 6 – Callback Humor

Number six is using callback humor. If you meet her at a bar or club, it should be a fun, playful interaction. It shouldn’t be super serious. Therefore, there should have been some things that you laughed or joked about. All you need to do now is just text her something that relates back to that funny thing that you guys joked about.

For example, maybe you and her role play that you were going to get married in Vegas and find the fattest Elvis impersonator you could find or something like that.

Then you could either keep going with that marriage role play as your first text, or you could even send a divorce roleplay as your first text. Like:

Hey wifey, I’ve been thinking, and I don’t know if it’s working out between us. I think we should get a divorce, make sure to use an LOL or a smiley winky face or some kind of emoji. So she knows you’re just kidding. It’s all part of the roleplay.

Here’s another example. This is from my book, Turn Her On Through Text. Let’s say you met a girl from England and she happens to be a nanny. So naturally you gave her the nickname, Mary Poppins, and you teased her all night long about it. Then of course, the next day you would text her something like, “Hey, Mary Poppins, don’t forget to give your kids their spoonful of sugar today.”

So just notice how these texts are more playful and fun because most guys send really lame, boring texts, which makes the woman assume that he’s lame and boring.. And then they go on a date with him. It’s just going to suck. Versus you who sending her a few fun and playful texts here and there.. now not ALL the time, but she’s at least going to assume that going on a date with you is probably going to be fun and playful, and she’ll be more likely to say yes to you.


NUMBER 5 – Cheeky Texts

Number five, cheeky texts. These are just some more fun playful, one liner, copy paste, kind of texts, the messages that use a play on words, for example: “Hey, crazy pants too soon for casual texts or are you textually active?”

Actually, I’m not super crazy about that one. I would probably send that as a second text. If she didn’t reply to my first text, I’d wait a day or two and then send her, are you textually active?

A better one is: “Hey, it’s Matt. Guard this number with your life.” which is sounds confident and presupposes that your number is important, A.K.A. YOU are very important.

NUMBER 4 – Endless Options Text

Number four is the endless options text. This one works great when you met a woman online on Tinder, Bumble hinge, whatever app there is nowadays, and you don’t want to seem like you’re taking online dating seriously.

Because if you do, it presupposes that you have no other options in real life because mobile dating apps, for sure, to beautiful woman, it’s kind of like just a game. She’s not taking it seriously. She goes on at once in a while just to see if there’s any options out there, but she’s probably not expecting too much.

And you should have that same mindset. It really shouldn’t be your number one source for meeting women.

The text is very simple. It’s just: “Hey, it’s Matt..” or whatever your name is, then “..from the thing“, which is just kind of a playful way of saying “Hey, it’s Matt from Tinder” or “Hey, it’s Matt from Bumble” but it just shows you that you’re not taking online dating so seriously because you can’t even remember the name of the app.

NUMBER 3 – Cliffhanger Texts

Number three is the cliffhanger texts. This one is really great for getting a reply back. In fact, I normally reserve it for sending it to a girl who hasn’t text back in a couple of days or numbers that have gone cold because it works so well for getting a reply.

It’s basically just sending her an incomplete sentence. It’s where she wants to know what you’re going to say next. For example, let’s say earlier today you met a cutie down by the pier. You could text her “Hey, it’s Matt. I think you have a confession to make…” So notice the cliffhanger there. She’s going to be really interested and eager to know what her confession is.

And then you can say something like “I think you have a huge crush on a man you met earlier down by the pier.” Notice how that’s a little cocky, but it shows confidence. Plus you’re doing it in a fun flirty way.

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NUMBER 2 – Sniper Text

Number two is the sniper texts. You should be doing this every time you get a woman’s phone number. Just like the “Something naughty” texts, it’s all about the setup.

Instead of you asking for her the phone number, you have to give her your number. So just say “Here, let me see your phone. I’m going to give you my number.” And then you take her phone. You can save your number in it if you want.

But the key to send yourself a text from her number that says, “Hey, you are so hot” – signed her name. And then about 10 or 15 minutes later, text or something like, “Aw, thanks. You’re not too bad yourself.” Trust me, man. This one works so well. That always get texts back. Cause it’s just so damn funny and they’re not expecting it.

NUMBER 1 – Recall Her Reaction

Number one is just recall her reaction. I put this at number one because it’s the one I use the most because it’s not so gimmicky. Like some of the others, it’s more of normal and natural.

It’s kind of like callback humor, but you’re not necessarily recalling back anything funny that you joked about because if you met her during the day, it might not have been such a playful interaction as it would be at a bar or club.

So instead of doing what everybody else does and say “Hey, nice meeting you!” STOP using the word “Nice.” It’s so overused. Instead say “So random meeting you” or “So unexpected meeting you” or “So fun meeting you” and then just recall her reaction. Did she seem really startled when you approached her? If so, say “It was cute how nervous you were when I said hi.” or “It was funny how shy you were when I said hi.” or if she seemed really friendly and flirty right away, then say that “You always flirt with cute guys at the mall?” or simply “Are you always so friendly to guys that you meet?” It’s simple, it’s intriguing. And if you made a great impression, when you first met her, she will text you back.

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If you didn’t make a great impression and you’re not getting a lot of replies back from your first text, then it’s probably not the first text that’s the issue. It’s the initial interaction.

You’re being way too friendly and platonic.

And so she feels like she wants to reciprocate by giving you her phone number, but she doesn’t feel any romantic feelings towards you. So if you want to master that, if you want to learn how to spark sensual attraction immediately and get her feeling desire from the moment that you say hi, then make sure to check out our live workshop schedule because we have workshops all over the world. And we also have online virtual mentorship programs where we still work with you one on one and help you get this part of your life handled for good.

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How to talk to a woman – 5 Things you should NEVER say

Quit saying this to women, its a big turn off. When understanding how to talk to a woman, you don’t memorize and say everything. Instead, you keep it short, powerful, memorable. Less talk, less mistakes – and these are 5 things you should NEVER say to a woman.

HOW TO TALK TO A WOMAN
5 Things You Should Never Say to Her

Talking to girls shouldn’t be complex. When you want to master how to talk to women, you should always start with yourself, because its not about learning more things to say, its first learning what NOT to say in the first place.

Think about it, would you want to bombard her with all these useless words or lines only to increase your chances of turning her off? (If you keep yapping to her, sooner or later you’re going to say something that completely turns her off!) Or do you want to say the least amount of things with the maximum attraction effect?

All right, let the countdown begin with..

Number 5 – “Where do you want to go on our date?”

I know you’re thinking.. why not? It seems logical. I want to take her to a place that she wants to go so that she’s happy so that she enjoys the date. If I take her to her favorite place, it’s going to be a good date. She’s going to enjoy it.

And yes, logically, that makes sense.

But women don’t want to be the one who decides everything for the date. She wants you to do that. Have you ever heard that a woman likes a man with a plan? She wants a leader, a man who takes charge, who steps into his masculinity and leads the way.

Now, It doesn’t mean that you can’t allow her to make decisions or make choices. When it comes to picking the venue, you can definitely include her in that decision process, but just flat out asking her, “where do you want to go?” Or saying, “What’s your favorite place? I’ll take you.”

It just seems like you’re trying to impress her. It sounds like you have no plan. You have no clue of where to take a woman, which implies you haven’t been on a lot of dates and it’s coming from a place of pleasing. Of neediness.

Not only that, but it puts her in her masculine, which there’s nothing wrong with that, right? If she’s a CEO or something like that, she has to make a lot of decisions. And she’s in her masculine beingness when she’s at work. But when she’s on a date, she wants to be feminine. She just wants to be a long for your plan. She wants you to be a man and take charge. You be the leader. Now it’s fine to ask her, do you prefer this? Or do you prefer that maybe you love to take your dates to sushi and you want to find out if she has a fish allergy or not.

So find out relative information, but you be the one to decide where to go on the date.


Number 4 – “CAN I have your number?”


Asking her if you can have her number implies and presupposes that you don’t know if she’s attracted to you or not, which is why you’re asking the question – basically the definition of a lack of confidence: You don’t believe in yourself.

You don’t believe that this beautiful woman would be attracted to a guy like you. So you have to ask her if you can have her number. It sounds too nice. Again, it sounds like the logical thing to do, but it usually comes off as very unconfident.

Just remove the word “can”.

Instead of saying, “can I have your number” say either “let’s exchange numbers” or say “You seem cool. What’s your number?” When you say “what’s your number” or “let’s exchange numbers” it presupposes that you believe that she likes you, that you believe she’s going to give you her number.

She can still say no, just like if you asked her a question, but it just makes you seem a lot more sure of yourself. And on that note, make sure to say it with certainty.

If your tonality is going up and you see same uncertain she’s probably gonna say no. If you seem really uncertain, even if she gives you her number, when you say it like that, she’s probably not going to text you back.

As a side note, if she says no because she has a boyfriend, or she doesn’t feel comfortable or she doesn’t know you well enough to give out her number.. The main thing is to just remain calm. Don’t say, “why not?” Or start getting mad or upset. Just remain cool. Like it’s no big deal. And instead go for her social media.

Number 3 – “You are sooooo beautiful!!”

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving a woman a compliment and telling her she’s beautiful, gorgeous, stunning, cute, adorable, pretty.

But when you say it like “You are soOoOooo beautiful!” it literally looks like I’m putting her on pedestal. So the key with this phrase is that you say it with confidence, not like she’s above you.

When you give a woman a compliment, especially if that’s the way you’re going to open the conversation, which is a logical way to open a conversation, you should be direct and tell her the truth. The real reason why you’re there, women appreciate it. They appreciate your honesty. And they appreciate the courage that it takes to go do that. Plus if you beat around the Bush and use some indirect, weird pick up artist opener, she knows that you’re there because you’re attracted to her.

So it actually makes you appear less confident, so you have to say it the right way.

She can be attracted to you within seconds, even aroused. Now I know that sounds crazy. You walk up to a woman and tell her she’s beautiful. How is that going to actually make her turned on and aroused. Trust me, man. It can. And it does happen. It’s not every time of course, but oh man, when it does happen, you can feel the electricity. And it’s just pure fire.

Now in our live workshops, when we take guys in field, they pretty much always on day one, too much of that, “please like me” energy and women can feel that and they appreciate the compliment, nevertheless. But of course it’s not a super solid interaction where the girls was melting in front of them.

Until we bring in models and practice the approach over and over again and transform that neediness, “Please like me kind of energy” to “I want you, but I’m cool if I can’t have you” kind of energy. And then it’s literally like night and day, when they start approaching, after they do the model work, you can see the reaction of the women that they approach completely change instead of a nice, like, “Oh thank you for the compliment.” It becomes her amazed and steamy “Wow. Thank you.” And of course, when you see those kinds of reactions over and over again, it’s going to increase your own confidence when it comes to approaching.

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Number 2 – “Can I buy you a drink?”

Hear me out. There’s nothing wrong with buying a woman a drink at a bar, even if you just met her.. But saying that as the first thing that you say to her as your conversation starter is not a good idea because it creates the frame that you’re paying for her time or paying for her attention, which puts your value down and hers up right from the start – which is not the dynamic you want.

If you want to talk to her, just go talk to her. Don’t send her a drink from across the bar or go over and say, “Hey, can I buy you a drink?” You don’t know anything about her. Why the heck would you even want to buy her a drink? It’s kind of like saying “Here! here’s some money! Can I buy five minutes of your time?

No, no, no, never do that. Now. Maybe you’ve done it in the past and you say, “Hey, it works. She talked to me afterwards!” but trust me, man, she didn’t like you. A woman in her twenties is probably not going to say no to a free drink.

So then should you even buy a woman to drink at all? Well, yeah, definitely IF you want to, and IF you’re not using it as a bargaining chip. If you want to get a drink yourself and it’s just the customary thing to do, it’s the social norm to say, “Hey, I’m going to get a drink at the bar, You want one?

There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s even a good way to just move things further by just moving her from one place where you met her to the bar. Cause if she moves away from her friends and comes with you to the bar, then it’s just you and her. You can have a more intimate conversation and make a deeper connection with her.

Number 1 – “Can I kiss you?”

Again, just like asking for her phone number, it’s presupposing that you don’t believe she would be attracted to you, which shows you that you’re just not confident in yourself that you don’t believe women should like you.

I understand why you might do this because you’re trying to save face.

You don’t want to go for a kiss and then she’s turns her head or just says she’s not ready yet. And then it creates all that awkward tension because maybe you just don’t know if it’s the right time to go for it or not. So I get that. Sure.

I’ve gone for the kiss many times and it was the wrong situation, but who cares? It’s better to go for the kiss out of the blue and her say, no, I’m not ready yet or her turn her head or just back up. Know that you’re a man knowing that you go for what you want. In this case, it’s her. Instead of her seeing you as weak and the kind of guy who asks for permission every time he wants to do something, “Can, can I kiss you? “

AND no, no, that definitely doesn’t mean force yourself upon her in any way. Always make sure she’s comfortable. And if you want to go for the kiss, you don’t want to do it out of the blue. You want to say something just to know her and see if she’s ready.

Then instead of asking “can I kiss you” you could just tell her, what do you want to do? Say, “You know, kind of want to kiss you right now.” And just notice her reaction if it’s anything other than no, no, no. Then slowly move forward and go for it. Or you could ask her if she’s a good kisser. “I bet you’re not even a good kisser, but I’m tempted to find out.” And if she says, no, you could still say, “Well, then you need to work on it and still go for the kiss.

You could also ask her if she would like to kiss you, which is a lot more powerful. It presupposes that you think she likes you and you think she wants to kiss you, which presupposes that you believe she wants to kiss you. And if she says, yes, obviously kiss her. If she says, I don’t know, say, “well, let’s find out” and slowly go in for a kiss. And if she says no, then you could just say, well, it seemed like you wanted to, or it seemed like you had something on your mind and then just change the subject.

And by the way, if you ever lean in for a kiss and she pulls away, or you say one of those statements to kind of prime the kiss and she doesn’t seem ready yet, it’s no big deal. It doesn’t mean necessarily that she doesn’t like you. It just means she’s not ready yet. So just don’t be all emotionally affected. Don’t complain about it. Don’t get angry about it and just change the subject, move on. And then try again later that might be later in that date or that might be on the next day.


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Understand that your conversation is immensely important for attraction, because when you get her attention, and you have her in front of you – what you say to women will make or break your chances of getting the attraction right.

You can either attract her with what you have to say, or absolutely turn her off. Which is why Matt and the team has always focused on conversations as part of the crucial attraction triggers – how to talk to women the right way.

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Best Messages That Get a Reply

I get it man! It flat out sucks! Texting with a hottie and she seems super on and then bam! She doesn’t text you back. (Makes you wonder – What are the best messages that get a reply?)

You start freaking out and start over analyzing  – What the heck did you do wrong in the last text? No period?? That’s probably why? Nah. What was it?

Look man, I know how aggravating it must be when a girl you really like doesn’t text you back, so in this video I show you exactly what to text her when she doesn’t reply back to reignite that smoking hot flame of desire and get her eagerly texting you back.

I’m giving you 5 texts that you can send her when she doesn’t reply that will get her texting back.


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Best Messages That Get a Reply

Before we dive right in you need to understand why women wouldn’t text back.. Remember men, if she’s a beautiful woman she probably had a lot of other guys texting her and buying for her attention so just because she doesn’t text back doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you it just means she has a lot of options.. which is why you need to watch my other videos on how to text girls so that you’ll be in the situation where you’ll be the one getting a date with her instead of her ghosting you.

Also just remember man that people seem to be busier nowadays than ever and there’s so many distractions – so maybe she had every intention to text you back but NOT instantly. That’s even if you’ve used this, the best messages that get a reply.

One time I was in with my ex girlfriend and her best friend suddenly texts, she had every intention to text back a little later because our group was busy at the time. But she just forgot it! Took her over a week to finally text her best friend back.

A lot of times what happens is the girl actually likes the guy but he just forgets to text them back and then he gets all aggravated and pissed off and end up sending a pissed off text message.

Don’t do that. First impressions matter – they last, and they can make or break all the attraction and potential attraction you may have.

Number 5 – Any Random/Funny text

So number 5 is basically just enter any kind of out of the blue random text. I don’t mean like “Hey how’s your day going!” or “Hey what’s up!”.. I mean something cheeky funny or witty. I prefer a role play such as “Hey I’m bored lets rob a bank!”

It’s all so random she just feels compelled to write back thinking like “Is he serious?” I’m pretty sure its not serious and sometimes she’ll just go along. If one time they say “sure I’m in!” and you just keep the role play going great. Like a funny scenario about how you both go shopping for ski masks together, something you pick up the pink one for her if I could take it so far. I use it as a way to meet up with her and I told her to meet me at the bar that’s across the street from the bank of America so we can plan our heist. It was great because when she showed up we only had this kind of Bonnie and Clyde vibe going on.

Number 4 – Cliffhanger Text

Number 4 is the cliffhanger text which is kinda like a sentence that’s incomplete and she really wants to know what you’re going to say next. For example, “You know what I like about you?” then “…” 

IF she does reply back you can always say “You like the play hard to get”. If you haven’t been replying back lately for another good one is – “you know what I think about you?…” 

People love to know what others think about them. Maybe you’ve heard that everybody’s favorite subject is themselves? What people love more than actually talking about themselves is hearing about themselves.

Another good one is –  “Would you like to hear a secret?…” I’m actually using this one as my tinder openers and they almost always reply with something like “yeah sure what is it?” and I say “I kinda have a crush on this girl..” I describe her a little bit and say “shhh don’t tell her” and almost always gets a laugh and of course a reply back.

Number 3 – Post Something Cool on Social Media

First of course the girl has to actually be following you on social media or it will not work. You can play the long game.. maybe she’s not texting you back right now but maybe she has a relationship now. You met her, she’s into you but for whatever reason she just didn’t meet up with you maybe she was already kind of more involved with another guy – then that relationship turned sour and she’s single again.

That’s why this makes part of the best messages to get a reply, even when its not simply just a message.

Even when she was in a relationship she might still look at your post on social media so as long as you’re posting interesting things.. things that are more interesting than the food you’re eating! Like traveling or just hanging out with friends and she sees that you have a relatively interesting life. All she has to do is reply to one of your stories or one of your posts and boom you’re back in the game this can also make her see that you’re not just sitting around and waiting for her to text you back she, sees that you’re going out with friends are doing things you’re living your life that.

Oftentimes a girl just randomly hit me up and replied to my stories after I post something cool on my Instagram.


Number 2 – Call it Out in a Funny Way

Word of warning I only recommend doing this after you sent either a random text or cliffhanger text.. and she didn’t reply back.

Wait a few days.. and then text something funny to call out the situation. Here’s one my favorites – “Amber alert – says the hot nerd who I’m going to school in Pool is missing, text me if you see her”.

The key is to be descriptive and customize it to her and that way.

You have to do it in a silly funny way like I said earlier. The best messages that get a reply won’t work IF you seem upset about it you’re gonna shoot yourself in the foot. She’s gonna think you’re needy. She’s gonna think you have 0 other options and she’s going to lose attraction for you.

Number 1 – These 4 words:

Here’s a text that can actually work. It’s very simple. 4 words – “Are you still alive?”

The reason this works is because after she hasn’t replied to 2 or 3 or more of your texts back to back it looks kind of needy because you’re giving to her and you’re not getting anything in return. So this text kinda presupposes that a word about her and beat them up doesn’t make sense that women wouldn’t text amazing awesome guy like yourself back.. so maybe something bad happened to her and you just checking it.

I got several women who didn’t reply to my past previous text messages over the past week or two to reply to this text. Yep sometimes that reply is “Oh sorry I’m in a relationship now” but a few times it rekindled the interaction.

The point is don’t be caught up on just one girl or 2 girls that you’re texting.. do you really want a girl you’re trying so hard to attract and she keeps running the other direction? You want to give and take. You don’t wanna be the one chasing, chasing, chasing.. she’s running, running, running.. 

You want to be a man that has some options.

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