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How to talk to a woman – 5 Things you should NEVER say

Quit saying this to women, its a big turn off. When understanding how to talk to a woman, you don’t memorize and say everything. Instead, you keep it short, powerful, memorable. Less talk, less mistakes – and these are 5 things you should NEVER say to a woman.

HOW TO TALK TO A WOMAN
5 Things You Should Never Say to Her

Talking to girls shouldn’t be complex. When you want to master how to talk to women, you should always start with yourself, because its not about learning more things to say, its first learning what NOT to say in the first place.

Think about it, would you want to bombard her with all these useless words or lines only to increase your chances of turning her off? (If you keep yapping to her, sooner or later you’re going to say something that completely turns her off!) Or do you want to say the least amount of things with the maximum attraction effect?

All right, let the countdown begin with..

Number 5 – “Where do you want to go on our date?”

I know you’re thinking.. why not? It seems logical. I want to take her to a place that she wants to go so that she’s happy so that she enjoys the date. If I take her to her favorite place, it’s going to be a good date. She’s going to enjoy it.

And yes, logically, that makes sense.

But women don’t want to be the one who decides everything for the date. She wants you to do that. Have you ever heard that a woman likes a man with a plan? She wants a leader, a man who takes charge, who steps into his masculinity and leads the way.

Now, It doesn’t mean that you can’t allow her to make decisions or make choices. When it comes to picking the venue, you can definitely include her in that decision process, but just flat out asking her, “where do you want to go?” Or saying, “What’s your favorite place? I’ll take you.”

It just seems like you’re trying to impress her. It sounds like you have no plan. You have no clue of where to take a woman, which implies you haven’t been on a lot of dates and it’s coming from a place of pleasing. Of neediness.

Not only that, but it puts her in her masculine, which there’s nothing wrong with that, right? If she’s a CEO or something like that, she has to make a lot of decisions. And she’s in her masculine beingness when she’s at work. But when she’s on a date, she wants to be feminine. She just wants to be a long for your plan. She wants you to be a man and take charge. You be the leader. Now it’s fine to ask her, do you prefer this? Or do you prefer that maybe you love to take your dates to sushi and you want to find out if she has a fish allergy or not.

So find out relative information, but you be the one to decide where to go on the date.


Number 4 – “CAN I have your number?”


Asking her if you can have her number implies and presupposes that you don’t know if she’s attracted to you or not, which is why you’re asking the question – basically the definition of a lack of confidence: You don’t believe in yourself.

You don’t believe that this beautiful woman would be attracted to a guy like you. So you have to ask her if you can have her number. It sounds too nice. Again, it sounds like the logical thing to do, but it usually comes off as very unconfident.

Just remove the word “can”.

Instead of saying, “can I have your number” say either “let’s exchange numbers” or say “You seem cool. What’s your number?” When you say “what’s your number” or “let’s exchange numbers” it presupposes that you believe that she likes you, that you believe she’s going to give you her number.

She can still say no, just like if you asked her a question, but it just makes you seem a lot more sure of yourself. And on that note, make sure to say it with certainty.

If your tonality is going up and you see same uncertain she’s probably gonna say no. If you seem really uncertain, even if she gives you her number, when you say it like that, she’s probably not going to text you back.

As a side note, if she says no because she has a boyfriend, or she doesn’t feel comfortable or she doesn’t know you well enough to give out her number.. The main thing is to just remain calm. Don’t say, “why not?” Or start getting mad or upset. Just remain cool. Like it’s no big deal. And instead go for her social media.

Number 3 – “You are sooooo beautiful!!”

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving a woman a compliment and telling her she’s beautiful, gorgeous, stunning, cute, adorable, pretty.

But when you say it like “You are soOoOooo beautiful!” it literally looks like I’m putting her on pedestal. So the key with this phrase is that you say it with confidence, not like she’s above you.

When you give a woman a compliment, especially if that’s the way you’re going to open the conversation, which is a logical way to open a conversation, you should be direct and tell her the truth. The real reason why you’re there, women appreciate it. They appreciate your honesty. And they appreciate the courage that it takes to go do that. Plus if you beat around the Bush and use some indirect, weird pick up artist opener, she knows that you’re there because you’re attracted to her.

So it actually makes you appear less confident, so you have to say it the right way.

She can be attracted to you within seconds, even aroused. Now I know that sounds crazy. You walk up to a woman and tell her she’s beautiful. How is that going to actually make her turned on and aroused. Trust me, man. It can. And it does happen. It’s not every time of course, but oh man, when it does happen, you can feel the electricity. And it’s just pure fire.

Now in our live workshops, when we take guys in field, they pretty much always on day one, too much of that, “please like me” energy and women can feel that and they appreciate the compliment, nevertheless. But of course it’s not a super solid interaction where the girls was melting in front of them.

Until we bring in models and practice the approach over and over again and transform that neediness, “Please like me kind of energy” to “I want you, but I’m cool if I can’t have you” kind of energy. And then it’s literally like night and day, when they start approaching, after they do the model work, you can see the reaction of the women that they approach completely change instead of a nice, like, “Oh thank you for the compliment.” It becomes her amazed and steamy “Wow. Thank you.” And of course, when you see those kinds of reactions over and over again, it’s going to increase your own confidence when it comes to approaching.

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Number 2 – “Can I buy you a drink?”

Hear me out. There’s nothing wrong with buying a woman a drink at a bar, even if you just met her.. But saying that as the first thing that you say to her as your conversation starter is not a good idea because it creates the frame that you’re paying for her time or paying for her attention, which puts your value down and hers up right from the start – which is not the dynamic you want.

If you want to talk to her, just go talk to her. Don’t send her a drink from across the bar or go over and say, “Hey, can I buy you a drink?” You don’t know anything about her. Why the heck would you even want to buy her a drink? It’s kind of like saying “Here! here’s some money! Can I buy five minutes of your time?

No, no, no, never do that. Now. Maybe you’ve done it in the past and you say, “Hey, it works. She talked to me afterwards!” but trust me, man, she didn’t like you. A woman in her twenties is probably not going to say no to a free drink.

So then should you even buy a woman to drink at all? Well, yeah, definitely IF you want to, and IF you’re not using it as a bargaining chip. If you want to get a drink yourself and it’s just the customary thing to do, it’s the social norm to say, “Hey, I’m going to get a drink at the bar, You want one?

There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s even a good way to just move things further by just moving her from one place where you met her to the bar. Cause if she moves away from her friends and comes with you to the bar, then it’s just you and her. You can have a more intimate conversation and make a deeper connection with her.

Number 1 – “Can I kiss you?”

Again, just like asking for her phone number, it’s presupposing that you don’t believe she would be attracted to you, which shows you that you’re just not confident in yourself that you don’t believe women should like you.

I understand why you might do this because you’re trying to save face.

You don’t want to go for a kiss and then she’s turns her head or just says she’s not ready yet. And then it creates all that awkward tension because maybe you just don’t know if it’s the right time to go for it or not. So I get that. Sure.

I’ve gone for the kiss many times and it was the wrong situation, but who cares? It’s better to go for the kiss out of the blue and her say, no, I’m not ready yet or her turn her head or just back up. Know that you’re a man knowing that you go for what you want. In this case, it’s her. Instead of her seeing you as weak and the kind of guy who asks for permission every time he wants to do something, “Can, can I kiss you? “

AND no, no, that definitely doesn’t mean force yourself upon her in any way. Always make sure she’s comfortable. And if you want to go for the kiss, you don’t want to do it out of the blue. You want to say something just to know her and see if she’s ready.

Then instead of asking “can I kiss you” you could just tell her, what do you want to do? Say, “You know, kind of want to kiss you right now.” And just notice her reaction if it’s anything other than no, no, no. Then slowly move forward and go for it. Or you could ask her if she’s a good kisser. “I bet you’re not even a good kisser, but I’m tempted to find out.” And if she says, no, you could still say, “Well, then you need to work on it and still go for the kiss.

You could also ask her if she would like to kiss you, which is a lot more powerful. It presupposes that you think she likes you and you think she wants to kiss you, which presupposes that you believe she wants to kiss you. And if she says, yes, obviously kiss her. If she says, I don’t know, say, “well, let’s find out” and slowly go in for a kiss. And if she says no, then you could just say, well, it seemed like you wanted to, or it seemed like you had something on your mind and then just change the subject.

And by the way, if you ever lean in for a kiss and she pulls away, or you say one of those statements to kind of prime the kiss and she doesn’t seem ready yet, it’s no big deal. It doesn’t mean necessarily that she doesn’t like you. It just means she’s not ready yet. So just don’t be all emotionally affected. Don’t complain about it. Don’t get angry about it and just change the subject, move on. And then try again later that might be later in that date or that might be on the next day.


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Understand that your conversation is immensely important for attraction, because when you get her attention, and you have her in front of you – what you say to women will make or break your chances of getting the attraction right.

You can either attract her with what you have to say, or absolutely turn her off. Which is why Matt and the team has always focused on conversations as part of the crucial attraction triggers – how to talk to women the right way.

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Best Messages That Get a Reply

I get it man! It flat out sucks! Texting with a hottie and she seems super on and then bam! She doesn’t text you back. (Makes you wonder – What are the best messages that get a reply?)

You start freaking out and start over analyzing  – What the heck did you do wrong in the last text? No period?? That’s probably why? Nah. What was it?

Look man, I know how aggravating it must be when a girl you really like doesn’t text you back, so in this video I show you exactly what to text her when she doesn’t reply back to reignite that smoking hot flame of desire and get her eagerly texting you back.

I’m giving you 5 texts that you can send her when she doesn’t reply that will get her texting back.


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Before we dive right in you need to understand why women wouldn’t text back.. Remember men, if she’s a beautiful woman she probably had a lot of other guys texting her and buying for her attention so just because she doesn’t text back doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you it just means she has a lot of options.. which is why you need to watch my other videos on how to text girls so that you’ll be in the situation where you’ll be the one getting a date with her instead of her ghosting you.

Also just remember man that people seem to be busier nowadays than ever and there’s so many distractions – so maybe she had every intention to text you back but NOT instantly. That’s even if you’ve used this, the best messages that get a reply.

One time I was in with my ex girlfriend and her best friend suddenly texts, she had every intention to text back a little later because our group was busy at the time. But she just forgot it! Took her over a week to finally text her best friend back.

A lot of times what happens is the girl actually likes the guy but he just forgets to text them back and then he gets all aggravated and pissed off and end up sending a pissed off text message.

Don’t do that. First impressions matter – they last, and they can make or break all the attraction and potential attraction you may have.

Number 5 – Any Random/Funny text

So number 5 is basically just enter any kind of out of the blue random text. I don’t mean like “Hey how’s your day going!” or “Hey what’s up!”.. I mean something cheeky funny or witty. I prefer a role play such as “Hey I’m bored lets rob a bank!”

It’s all so random she just feels compelled to write back thinking like “Is he serious?” I’m pretty sure its not serious and sometimes she’ll just go along. If one time they say “sure I’m in!” and you just keep the role play going great. Like a funny scenario about how you both go shopping for ski masks together, something you pick up the pink one for her if I could take it so far. I use it as a way to meet up with her and I told her to meet me at the bar that’s across the street from the bank of America so we can plan our heist. It was great because when she showed up we only had this kind of Bonnie and Clyde vibe going on.

Number 4 – Cliffhanger Text

Number 4 is the cliffhanger text which is kinda like a sentence that’s incomplete and she really wants to know what you’re going to say next. For example, “You know what I like about you?” then “…” 

IF she does reply back you can always say “You like the play hard to get”. If you haven’t been replying back lately for another good one is – “you know what I think about you?…” 

People love to know what others think about them. Maybe you’ve heard that everybody’s favorite subject is themselves? What people love more than actually talking about themselves is hearing about themselves.

Another good one is –  “Would you like to hear a secret?…” I’m actually using this one as my tinder openers and they almost always reply with something like “yeah sure what is it?” and I say “I kinda have a crush on this girl..” I describe her a little bit and say “shhh don’t tell her” and almost always gets a laugh and of course a reply back.

Number 3 – Post Something Cool on Social Media

First of course the girl has to actually be following you on social media or it will not work. You can play the long game.. maybe she’s not texting you back right now but maybe she has a relationship now. You met her, she’s into you but for whatever reason she just didn’t meet up with you maybe she was already kind of more involved with another guy – then that relationship turned sour and she’s single again.

That’s why this makes part of the best messages to get a reply, even when its not simply just a message.

Even when she was in a relationship she might still look at your post on social media so as long as you’re posting interesting things.. things that are more interesting than the food you’re eating! Like traveling or just hanging out with friends and she sees that you have a relatively interesting life. All she has to do is reply to one of your stories or one of your posts and boom you’re back in the game this can also make her see that you’re not just sitting around and waiting for her to text you back she, sees that you’re going out with friends are doing things you’re living your life that.

Oftentimes a girl just randomly hit me up and replied to my stories after I post something cool on my Instagram.


Number 2 – Call it Out in a Funny Way

Word of warning I only recommend doing this after you sent either a random text or cliffhanger text.. and she didn’t reply back.

Wait a few days.. and then text something funny to call out the situation. Here’s one my favorites – “Amber alert – says the hot nerd who I’m going to school in Pool is missing, text me if you see her”.

The key is to be descriptive and customize it to her and that way.

You have to do it in a silly funny way like I said earlier. The best messages that get a reply won’t work IF you seem upset about it you’re gonna shoot yourself in the foot. She’s gonna think you’re needy. She’s gonna think you have 0 other options and she’s going to lose attraction for you.

Number 1 – These 4 words:

Here’s a text that can actually work. It’s very simple. 4 words – “Are you still alive?”

The reason this works is because after she hasn’t replied to 2 or 3 or more of your texts back to back it looks kind of needy because you’re giving to her and you’re not getting anything in return. So this text kinda presupposes that a word about her and beat them up doesn’t make sense that women wouldn’t text amazing awesome guy like yourself back.. so maybe something bad happened to her and you just checking it.

I got several women who didn’t reply to my past previous text messages over the past week or two to reply to this text. Yep sometimes that reply is “Oh sorry I’m in a relationship now” but a few times it rekindled the interaction.

The point is don’t be caught up on just one girl or 2 girls that you’re texting.. do you really want a girl you’re trying so hard to attract and she keeps running the other direction? You want to give and take. You don’t wanna be the one chasing, chasing, chasing.. she’s running, running, running.. 

You want to be a man that has some options.

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TURN HER ON With THESE Texts | How to Text a Girl to Turn Her On

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If you’re looking for tips on how to turn a girl on, that’s what most of our videos on the channel is about.

Dating coach Matt Artisan does advice that most of your texts should be all about setting up the date. But during times when you simple want to turn a girl on through texting, then these few examples should be your best bet:

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Turn a Girl on Through Texting Her!

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Whether you just met her or you’ve been texting her for a long time..

When you can turn a woman on through text using the word for word examples that I’m about to give you, she will be fantasizing about you all night long. The next time she sees a text from you she’s gonna start getting all excited with anticipation as dopamine starts flooding her brain..

It’s that powerful, so don’t be like most guys that turn women off when they text and bore them out of their minds!

Be the guy that knows how to unlock her deepest desires and fantasies, and I’m gonna give you some of my dirtiest secrets from my best-selling book: TURN HER ON THROUGH TEXT – along with actual word-for-word text messages that will drive her wild with desire for you.

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How to Get More Matches on Tinder, Hinge and Bumble

Today’s episode is on how to get more matches on Tinder, Hinge and Bumble with Coaches Matt, Lynn and Kal. We’ll show you examples of how to optimize your online dating profile so you’ll get more matches, AND show you how to start converting all those matches into dates!

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Online dating is a competition. Especially on dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble. Let’s face it – if you’ve got an average or regular online dating profile, it doesn’t actually guarantee a match now, does it?

So how do you make the most of your online dating profile? How do you get more matches? Do you want to improve your Tinder profile?

Want to learn the best Tinder pick up lines or the best Tinder openers?
How can you get the best results in Tinder?
Is Tinder a good option for men?
Is Bumble a good dating app for men? What about Hinge?
Can you get good dates on Tinder, Hinge or Bumble?
How can I stand out from the other guys on Tinder or any dating app or dating site?

Well, that’s what you’re going to learn here today. You see, there’s a big difference between “winging it” and having a solid strategy for what you put on your dating profile. And no, a selfie with your abs doesn’t cut it.

This episode of The Attractive Man Podcast covers how to get more matches on Tinder, Hinge and Bumble by making the most out of your online dating profile.

Coaches Matt, Lynn and Kal are going to share how to:
Have a profile picture that gets you noticed right away.
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How to respond to matches or what to send a match.
Which techniques or methods to use to make yourself interesting on online dating apps.
How to turn her on and not sound boring.

They’ll cover tons of interesting stuff and we urge you to listen to their practical and useful tips and advice. Make sure to watch our other videos about online dating, texting and messaging!

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How to Call a Girl this 2020 | Calling and Messaging Advice

Do you know how to call a girl this 2020? Or maybe the big question from you is should you call girls on the phone nowadays when it seems like all anyone wants to do it text?

What about video calls and voice messages? Well You probably feel like you don’t know what to say on the phone so why not just stick to texting?

Well calling can give you a huge advantage over all the other guys texting her and believe me if she’s an attractive woman then she has a lot of guys texting her. And if you call her you can be the one who she wants to see again IF you do it the right way, and I’m going to show you exactly how to make her eager for your call and actually pick up the phone when you call and get a date with her in under 5 minutes:

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So you have a girl’s number. Or you have her social media. You’re going to try to message her on FaceBook or Instagram, or Twitter, or whatever platform.

Or maybe just plain old texting a girl. What do you do next? You might be thinking and asking yourself tons of questions after that. When do I send the first text? What’s a good first text to send? How often should I text her? WHAT should I text a girl? How soon should I ask her out?


Or what if these kinds of questions popped out instead.. Should I call her? Should I call or text her? Should you call or text women during these times? Will a call help? Will she answer my call?

Don’t worry, The Attractive Man team is here to help out. He’ll show you the answer to whether or not you should text her or call her. He’ll also show you how to call a girl, how to text a girl, in order to NOT creep her out and spark attraction.

You see, the key is to remain calm, be masculine, assertive, and NOT needy or questionable. We’ll show you how to remain grounded in your texts and how to show you are alpha in your replies.

We’ll also show you how to master your manly voice, the alpha tone, during calls and how to establish your masculinity and confidence through calling. How to talk to a girl, in a way that will turn her on. How to keep a conversation going, how to never run out of things to say. And most importantly, how to set up a date. Sometimes men rely too much on messaging and texting when what they should do is establish a way to meet up and talk to each other face to face.

Now that may be different during the pandemic and during times of quarantine. Matt makes sure to address that as well. This is also important – So what if she doesn’t respond? What if she won’t answer the call? Keep cool and analyze the situation.

It’s not the end of the world man! Don’t send another text, don’t make that call. Not UNTIL you see this.

Sending the wrong texts can remove your chances at ever seeing her again. I don’t want you missing out on what should already be yours.

Calling her at the wrong time or the wrong way does the same thing. Having a great start to a texting conversation is crucial to building trust.

Knowing how to text her the right way, especially in how to send the first text, will make or break your date night. The same is true and is even more effective when you call a girl. Know more on how to text a girl to get a date in our other videos! Make sure to stay tuned for more tips on how to text a girl, how to get her number, and how to get a date on The Attractive Man channel!

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