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How To Silence The Inner B*tch Voice Inside Your Mind [3 Ways to STOP Being a Needy Person]

Do you get a voice in your head? Do you ever get a voice in your head? Has this ever happened? Man.. You ever get it to talk to you really loud and obnoxiously and call you all sorts of incredibly mean things and tell you all the things that you can’t do?

It’s not going to go away until you learn how to either not listen to it, not buy into it, or how to silence it more and more and more so that it gets weaker.

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How To Silence The Inner B*tch Voice Inside Your Mind
[3 Ways to STOP Being a Needy Person]

Your boy Jules Bia, mind science, dating coach with The Attractive Man team here. I’m going to be give you three life-changing tips today that are going to absolutely transform that little inner b*tch that is stopping you from going and doing and having him being the things you want in your life.

I know what it’s like to have an insane mind. Okay. Back in the day, like I said, it’s still, it’s still true today. Okay. I just got more control over it. My mind said so many negative things to me all the time that it was in a state of radio silence in a state of numbness. And it wasn’t until I really started diving deep into that, pulling up all those streams of thinking, pulling up all those really heavy feelings and surrendering them and disidentifying from all these stories and these thoughts that I was telling myself that I really started to make changes in my life.

I used to go out to the club for years wanting to talk to women when I was in high school and in college, I was fine, but I started getting in my twenties and kind of going my own way. Cause you don’t have, everybody goes to their own way after school? You know, you have some friends and stuff, but all the, all the groups break up, I would go out with the intention to talk to women and I would never talk to women. I was so numb in the club. I had no idea why I had no idea. I was like, what’s wrong with me? But at the end of the night, I’m at home with my D**k in my hand, literally.

All right, I’m sorry about THAT thought. But it sucked. It really did. Um, I didn’t know what it was and it wasn’t until I really started looking, you know, I would go into these environments like a club and I would look close my eyes and look, and just start to try to become more and more aware of the thoughts.

More and more aware of how much the inner bitch was crippling me. And here’s the secret guys. The inner bitch IS NOT REAL. It’s just a series of thoughts and feelings. Feelings are what trigger the thinking. I’m going to give you the first tip and it is so, so, so powerful. And this is going to create more self awareness. So here it is right here. First of all, I need you to subscribe. Okay? I need you to click that big red subscribe button. Cause if you don’t, if you don’t see my future videos, I’m going to miss you. Matt’s going to miss you, everybody on The Attractive Man team’s gonna miss you. So click that subscribe button, hit the like button and hit all notifications so that we never miss each other, right?

Turn “I can’t” into “I can”

Tip is really, really simple. Guys, turn your I can’t into an I can.

Anything you don’t have right now is most likely an I can’t, it might not be, it might be an I can. That’s in the process of becoming an I have, but it’s most likely an I can. It was like when I was going into the club, for example, and not talking to a single freaking woman. Even though that’s what I desperately wanted inside.

That was a very heavy I can’t. So first of all, start saying I can, because I can’t is not just one emotion, by the way. It’s apathy, grief, fear, less anger. That’s all I can’t — apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, pride are all variations of I can’t and they are lighter versions of I CANT, right? Courage is when you start saying I can’t.

Somebody that wanted to come into my new inner transformation program, unshakable, which has been going incredible by the way..

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And he’s like, “Jules.. I really want to be in your program. I don’t have the money. Ah, man, like what do I do?” I was like, first of all, I want you to do it starts saying I can. And here’s the reason guys, as soon as you say I can’t, and it’s an automatic conditioned reflex. As soon as you say, I can’t.. the opportunity to get when you actually want, it could be really literally right in your vicinity would be that obvious.

But as soon as you say, I can’t, you, you put blinders on no matter how obvious the way to get that thing is it’s literally right within your reach. But the I can’t blinds you. So start saying I can, when I coach them and start saying, I can, I said, I just want you to keep saying all day, I can get this money. I can get this money.. Say it, say it, say it, say it, say it! He started seeing opportunities everywhere to get the money, to get into our program.

It’s powerful stuff. Just literally saying I can, no matter what I want you to say, I can, even if it feels like a lie, say I can all the time. And, but in your mind, because you open your reticular activating system, which is the part of your mind that focuses on things. It’s like the RAS is like, when you, when you learn a new word, right, that you’ve never heard before. And then you hear that same word, like three times that week, that’s using your RAS research it.. Your reticular activating system. It’s very powerful to utilize and you can utilize the power and magnetizes the things you want to you just by starting to say I can’t.

So keep saying I can. Don’t listen to that inner bi*ch.

Give your Inner B*tch a Nickname

Number two is kind of funny. Pretty damn awesome. And I learned this one from one of my favorite books written by David Hawkins, letting go, and it is give your inner critic, your inner bitch, a nickname. Don’t give us something like b*tch or, or like something really negative. Give it a cute nickname and use it all the time. Oh, that’s nice. Uh, David suggests fluffy and I just use fluffy. Cause I think that’s hilarious. I call my ego, my inner critic, fluffy.

Oh really? Fluffy. That’s thank you so much. And I talked to him like this is a little child. You’re so cute. Thanks for trying to help out. And you start taking that voice a lot less seriously. And you’ll also start noticing that when you do this constantly, you just allow it to say whatever it wants to say and express it.

So you’ll start actually noticing it dissolve. I had been in a very, very intense, emotional spin. I was about three and a half years ago. I’m going into a down spin. And I started saying, I remembered in the midst of this, that voice that was really beating me down, beating me up, was named fluffy.

I was like, Oh, fluffy, Oh, I forgot your name. I’m so sorry. Fluffy. Did I hurt your feelings? Did I hurt your feelings? Fluffy? I’m so sorry. This intense, emotional down spin that would usually have me at that point in my life. Probably depressive and messed up for, for a day or two. Right? You know what I’m talking about? You know, those downs spins that we go through. It dissolved. It was, it was unbelievable. I mean, this is just an easy way to take your inner critic, your inner b*tch, less and less and less serious.

And the less seriously you take it, you build that habit of not taking it so seriously. It’s going to have less and less power over you. And as you welcome it and you allow it, it just loses energy. It’s like a little child having a temper tantrum in a toy store. You just let it go and you let it go and you let it go. And you let it go. And eventually it runs out of energy and it disappears.

Hey bro, do you like these tips? Did you subscribe yet? Cause you’re going to make me really disappointed if you didn’t subscribe, you know what? The inner b*tch is starting to talk — I’m just kidding. Make sure you subscribe, man. Don’t miss this stuff. Ding, the bell like this video. Cause obviously you like my style. That’s been established. All right. My tips are fire.

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Disidentifying

Give you tip number three. Cause you’ve come the distance, my friend. The third tip is so gloriously powerful. Are you ready? It’s disidentifying from the inner b*tch.

Disidentifying. What does that mean? It means that these thoughts in here? This right here, it’s not actually you, it’s not. You’re going to be like what? Of course it’s me, all these thoughts. All my life have been me. No, it’s not.

You want to bet that it’s not. You close your eyes right now with me. Look at your thoughts right now. Are you those thoughts or are you the awareness of those thoughts? I want you to look right now here in the present moment. Are you the thoughts in your mind or are you the awareness of those thoughts?

How can you be the thoughts if you’re also aware of them? If you’re an analytical guy, bro, just look, don’t try to figure it out. Don’t try to think more thoughts. If I pinch you, do you have to think to feel pain? No. So close your eyes. Are you the thoughts or even the feelings in your stomach and your chest right now, look at those or are you the awareness of them? And what happens when you notice that you’re the awareness of them?

Because you are the awareness of them. Trust me, no matter how much you think you are, the thoughts I’m going to give you the science behind it. It’s not really science, but I’m going to logically explain why you are your awareness and not your thoughts and why. The more you realize that every single day, the more you tap in and you keep checking and it’s in the checking.

It’s in the actual looking. If you’re the thoughts in the awareness, you intellectually know the answer now. The more you do that, the less you identify with this mind and the more power you will have over actually transforming your thinking, transforming your life because you won’t identify with this stuff anymore.

Now the logic behind this is very simple. So your thoughts are the object and you are the subject. There’s a subject object relationship between your awareness, which is what you really are and the thoughts. And the more you realize this, the more you experience this, the more you really step into this by just doing the simple habit.

Am I these thoughts or feelings? Am I this inner b*tch? Or am I that? Which is aware of the inner bitch? Am I the inner bitch or the awareness of the inner bitch? Right?

Then whatever is happening out there.. You start not taking so seriously.

It could be a terrible problem. And you’re spinning and you’re spinning. You’re like, wait, am I this problem that I, this are the mighty thoughts? Or am I the awareness of them? Boom! Starts releasing. It starts softening up and then you can get your mind right. Solve the problem. So you could get your grind tight.

So it’s really, really simple. It might be complex if you’re a really analytical guy, it’s really not that complicated. You close your eyes or you can keep them open and just notice right now, are you the thoughts? Are you even this body, are you this body or are you the awareness of the body?

Because we also believe we’re a body. I can go down a deep philosophical rabbit hole. And if you would like me to do deep philosophical rabbit hole talks, make sure you comment that below because I would love to make those videos what to make sure that our audience likes them kind of stuff.

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How to Let Go Of Your Ex | Move On from a Past Relationship

Finally understand how to let go of your ex for good. End your neediness, and move on to a happier, more meaningful life!

Coach Jules Bia from The Attractive Man helps you learn how to let go of your ex using his meditation exercises. Releasing emotional baggage coming from an ex is amazing. It finally stops getting in your way of living your life, so you can focus more getting into happier, more meaningful relationships!

This video is not just “how to let go of your ex tips.” Its better than that. Jules will show you why even after years of not seeing a person, he/she can still affect you and your way of living. Even the people you attract! AND he demonstrates how to let go of your ex through some lit meditation exercise! This has always helped him and our students recover from a breakup, and now we’ll share them with you:

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HOW TO LET GO OF AN EX
Finally Move of from a Past Relationship

Men have always wanted help with how to move on. Even subconsciously, men who still are hung up on their ex show sings of neediness, even restricted behavior that makes them unnatractive.

If you can’t move on from a break up, even when you THINK you did, then that actually affects your current and future realtionships. Not just with women or a girl you like, even with your friends and family. Jules shows you how to recover from a breakup and finally move on for good.

Once you let go of your ex for good, then you will find the necssary motivation to devote your precious energy on better things. Eventually ending up with natural attraction flowing out from you – because once again – you are the confident, powerful, masculine, alpha version of you. The version that attracts quality women!

If you’re looking for ways on how to move on from an ex, some tips about getting over breakup, advice on how to get over ex. Then this video and meditation exercise is a must watch.

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What Women Find Attractive in a Man – 4 Must Have Traits

Today’s topic will show you what women find attractive in a man. These are 4 MUST HAVE Traits if you truly want to be a man that women admire, plus people will even start to respect you more.

If you want to learn to become the man who overall has control over his life, can attract women that are most compatible to him, and know how to talk to girls to turn them on, then have read on or watch the video below:

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WHAT WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN A MAN
4 Must Have Traits

Look, there are two types of attraction, conscious and unconscious attraction. Conscious attraction is all about things like the money, good looks and external status. And it’s what most guys focus on. Subconscious attraction is what really matters. And it’s what drives her inner emotions wild. It makes her want certain guys over others.

Unconscious attraction is a thousand times more powerful, and there are four primary traits or archetypes that will trigger her attraction towards you on a deep unconscious level.

Now, these are my four traits that all attractive men possess that get beautiful women to choose you. These are what women find attractive in a man.

I dissected this after studying men, that was just average in the looks and money department, but were dating super gorgeous women. I noticed there were certain things that all high value men do that naturally draws women to them. It’s like autopilot attraction. It’s like they have this secret sauce and it comes down to four different archetypes. And the most attractive men have all four.

THE HERO

Women are instinctually programmed to choose men that make them feel safe. So for centuries, women were dependent on men to protect them from hostile tribes, situations, wild animals, especially during the nine months of pregnancy when they were the most vulnerable and they needed protection the most.

Even though we now live in a very safe society, that instinctual need to feel safe and protected by a man is still prominent in women today. This is why women are generally attracted to men who are bigger and stronger than them, but it’s more than just physical strength.

A huge muscular man can still be a weak and fearful man. And she won’t be attracted to him. She might be attracted to him physically, but she’ll lose interest very quickly.

For example, I did a bootcamp in Cancun a little while back, and one of the students was this tall, muscular, really good looking bodybuilder looking guy from Sweden and the first night.. Before he really learned anything on the bootcamp, he didn’t get any success. He didn’t talk to anybody the entire night because he stood there fearful. And I could see women looking at him, but they’re waiting for him to make a move. Someone would even come up to him and ask him a question. And he just didn’t know what to do. He was just standing there in fear. And then the same night, we had a short little Indian guy who had pretty much no fear.

And he took just the few tools that we gave him. Cause it was only first night of the workshop and it was a seven day workshop and he crushed it. He had so many interactions. He ended up making out with the girl on the very first night because he was somewhat fearless. He looked like a lion, but on the inside he acted like a mouse. And the Indian guy was the exact opposite. So the point is she wants a man that is non reactive. And that is solid as a rock.

She wants to know that if there’s an emergency or a threat, he can take care of the situation and protect her because inner strength is more important than physical strength, which is why sometimes a woman will test a man and cause some friction in the interaction by questioning his character or by simply saying no to something or doing something that he doesn’t want.

The key here is to stay calm and grounded and not let it emotionally affect you in any way. She wants a man that isn’t afraid of her. I mean, how can she be attracted to you if you’re afraid of her, this is why women usually don’t approach men because they aren’t attracted to guys who are afraid to walk up to them and approach them. They just wait to see who will have the balls to say hi. “I’m not interested in a person who’s shy to come and say hi!”

Otherwise you can make her feel safe. Safety, security, is crucial when you’re thinking about knowing what women find attractive in a man.

For example, while walking down the sidewalk with her walk closest to the traffic is if you’re protecting her from the traffic or when you’re crossing the street, put your hand on her lower back or hold her hand and guide her across the street. When she’s having an emotional breakdown, hold her tight in your arms.

These little acts allow her to feel safe and will help make her actually fall for you. But I don’t want you to think of this as like techniques that you have to do to make her think you’re a good protector instead, work on developing mental toughness.

So you can actually become a more competent and solid grounded man. And that will always make her feel safe in your presence because it is just something that she will feel when she’s around you? Not an act that you can put on. It’s not something that you can necessarily fake. Now, before we keep going, please subscribe to this channel and give me a thumbs up. Because if you do then you’re the man.

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THE CASANOVA

When most guys first meet a girl that they’re attracted to, they quickly become very friendly and they try to get the girl to like them.

They try to hide their feelings. And so the initial interaction is often very friendly and yeah, it feels very platonic for her. Then later, when they try to go for the date or make a move on her, it doesn’t work because she just saw the guy as… You know, friendly. She just thought it was a friendly, nice conversation, not a sexually charged conversation.

Men that are naturally good with women often express their sexual desire very quickly, whether it’s verbally or non-verbally. And they’re just not afraid to show interest in her. Most guys are afraid to show their desire. And so they end up in the friend zone where they think they need some indirect excuse to talk to her. You don’t need an excuse to talk to women.

The excuse is that you are a man and she’s an attractive woman. So you want to meet her. That’s it. Furthermore, women yearn to be desired by a confident man. They absolutely love it. When a man wants them, our desire is a gift to a woman.

They get energized by it. If you show it in a respectful way, of course, that is both competent and charming. Like we show you on our live workshops.

It’s not what you say, but more importantly, the way you would look at her and how you communicate to her. When you see a woman that you’re attracted to, you naturally get feelings of sexual desire.

And most of us try to get rid of those feelings..

Instead, allow yourself to just feel those feelings throughout your body and just express them in a way that says, I appreciate your femininity and beauty. For example, when I approach a girl that I’m really attracted to, I look at her as if I’m thinking.. My god, you’re stunning.. But if you’re not interested, that’s cool too. I didn’t always do that. I didn’t always understand what women find attractive in a man..

When I first started approaching women, I looked like a deer in headlights. I’m sure I was like, I felt like I was bothering them. So to approach him like, Hey, hi, I just saw you here and wanted to say hi.

And of course that wasn’t very attractive, but once I finally just owned it, that I’m a man, I’m attracted to this woman here and that’s totally fine and allowed myself to just feel those feelings. That’s when I was able to start walking. So women and their eyes would light up. Little did I know then that these were one of the answers to what women find attractive in a man.

And this is really, really powerful. And when you do it right, you can see the girl melt right in front of you. And this confidence carries all the way into the relationship because women want a man that will desire them and show them a passionate, romantic, and sexual adventure from the moment they meet, which carries on into the relationship.

THE GANDHI

Most men have no purpose in their lives. Every morning, they go to a job that they don’t like, or that someone else picked for them. For example, I used to be that way because I went to school, college, UC Irvine, because I didn’t really know what I wanted to do, except I wanted to be a rock star at the time.

So it was a way for me to get to California, but I just picked what my parents wanted me to do, which is study computer science. And I did that for a while and I even wanted to change majors after like the first class, the first quarter. But I didn’t because I knew I would upset my family. So I stuck with it and I graduated, but I never got a computer job, thankfully, because I know that would have made me very unhappy.

So guys go to a job and they’re living a life that they didn’t even pick for themselves. And then they come home and they just watch TV or they go on the internet or social media just to escape their reality. And then they just repeat it again and again, over and over again, if you were to do that, what memories and what accomplishments would you have at the end of your life? How about a lot of living in someone else’s story? Not much to show for it.

The Gandhi is the guy who is working towards a higher purpose. David Deida wrote in Way of the Superior Man, that everything in your life, from your diet to your career must be aligned with your purpose. If you were to act with coherence and integrity in the world, if you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.

I know you guys hear me talk about purpose a lot in my YouTube channel, but that’s because it’s so damn important. Maybe you have a passion for music and your purpose is to be the best guitars in the damn world and share your talents with as many people as possible. Or perhaps you want to feed homeless in third world countries, or maybe you want to create a thriving business that helps people.

You see, men are genetically wired with an inner drive to achieve and create BUT most guys.. We don’t unleash it. We get stuck into what society tells us that we should do such as working a dead end job. And this, in my opinion, causes a lot of depression and self doubt. This drive and passion from a man on a mission is what women crave. And it’s what they’re naturally drawn towards. So find something that calls you and go for it.

And by the way, a lot of men make the mistake of making their woman, their mission. They make her the center of their universe because they think that’s what she wants..

But this is the quickest way to repel a woman.

Your woman does not want to be your number one priority, even though he probably will tell you that she does, but instead she wants to help you achieve your purpose. David Deida also said in Way of the Superior Man, every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship.

If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, we can, some self dis serves the universe and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer his full undivided presence.

For example, when I was in high school, I was really like scared of everybody. I was super timid. I didn’t have a lot of friends. I was afraid to not only talk to girls, but just people in general. I saw everybody as above me and I saw myself at the bottom of the social totem pole.

So to speak.. Until I started a band, which raised my confidence because I started seeing myself as more and more worthy. The problem was that it was like external status. I only thought I was cool because I played in the band. And then when the band broke up, I felt like all my status went away.

And a lot, if not, pretty much, all of my confidence went away as well. Fortunately, I didn’t let that stop me, and it was one of the key steps I had to learning and understanding what women find attractive in a man.

And that leads us to probably my favorite and one of the most attractive “trait” a man can have:

THE KING

Women want a man not just to lead, but to be a fcking King of his domain. Think about it. How do Kings act? Like they’re entitled for greatness, right? Like they deserve the best.

And they have nothing to prove to anyone. They’re Kings. They don’t try to impress people. People try to impress the King and Kings do not act with hesitation or doubt. They move confidently in the direction of their beliefs and values.

Now that doesn’t mean you’re cocky or egotistical or boastful in any way. It just means that you speak with power and conviction that resonates throughout the entire land.

It was being in the band that really gave me my first wins and gave me some confidence. I saw myself as a leader, someone that could succeed because I was getting some success, which brings us back to what I just talked about, which is having your purpose and edging towards it, moving towards it every single day.

That is something that gives you confidence and helps you become more and more of a leader and a King. So I want you to pretend that you have crown on your head and you just fcking own your domain, have dignity and be the leader of your kingdom, both in your social life and in your career.

Be the kind of guy that people seek out, both for fun and for business or whatever, be the social connector. And the easiest way to become the leader of a group is to start your own group. It’s really as simple as just inviting a few people out and then being the person that leads the way deciding when and where you go throughout the night or at a party or a social social gathering, be the hub where people are hanging out and joking telling stories, be the facilitator of fun, or pick a topic that you enjoy and start an organization or a meetup group around that topic, go to meetup.com and just start an account.

And on a date, you’re the one in control. Now that doesn’t mean you’re controlling and making her go to places she doesn’t want to go. Don’t do that. It just means that you have a plan for the night, instead of just saying, “Hey, what do you want to do?” “I’ll take you wherever you want to go.” And putting all the pressure on her.

Women love a man that’s a leader and that can lead her through a fun adventure.


So there you have it, man. These are the four ingredients that will naturally draw to you. Not even the richest guy with hot chiseled, abs can trump a high value multi-dimensional man who possesses all four of these traits.

He is a very rare man, indeed. And she knows that. Now you probably noticed that all four attributes, the King, the Gandhi, the Lover, and the Hero are all rooted in being confident. So to help you become a naturally confident man, instead of someone who uses tricks or tactics to just appear confident, I created a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives you 18 different ways to boost your confidence and eliminate fear. So make sure to click that and download it, man, cause it’s absolutely free.

And if you want us to work with you live in field to help you become the kind of man that attracts women effortlessly, and that embodies all four of these attributes, then make sure to check out our bootcamp schedule and get a free breakthrough session.

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Dating Advice for Nerdy Guys | How NERDS Can Attract Beautiful Women

DO THIS if you’re a NERD and you want to attract Women. Today’s topic is Dating Advice for Nerdy Guys!

Have you been ever called a Nerd? Or a dweeb, a Dork or a Geek? Or maybe you see yourself that way? You’ve wondered “do women really like nerdy guys?” “do girls like nerds?” or “can nerds get a girlfriend?”

In Josiah’s video recently he interviewed actresses in A V N one of them said she liked hot nerds. Most of our students are computer scientists or computer engineers, most of them view themselves as nerds.

That got us thinking, what are the qualities of a nerd that women don’t like? They definitely don’t like the stereotype. Whatever is it that they don’t like, what can YOU do to change that without changing who you are?

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Dating Advice for Nerdy Guys
How NERDS Can Attract Beautiful Women

Head dating coach Matt Artisan dives deep into what makes a Nerd and what qualities are good AND bad for them when attracting women. Nerds are usually highly intelligent and intellectual. They have that going for them and that can actually give them the advantage over other men.

Matt should know. He’s nerdy too. But that didn’t stop him. Matt reviews qualities you can change if you’re a nerd and qualities you need to keep. This doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be someone else. You don’t have to change who you are. Because all you have to focus on is how to be the most improved version of your own self.

Matt gives some nerdy style tips like discussing the “geek chic” as well as showing you how you can still be yourself (a nerdy guy) and still attract women. You’ve seen it and you’ve wondered how nerds get hot women. Why do nerds get the girl.

So, why are nerds unpopular? Do girls like nerds? Do women like nerdy guys? Matt answers those questions and he explains the hows and why as well as the do’s and don’ts. In our video nerd guide to get a girlfriend, you’ll discover that being a nerd, a geek, or a dork, will not make you “hopeless” when it comes to getting a girlfriend.

And we know, when you look for videos or proof its always going to be nerds vs bad boys and usually, the bad boys get the girl. But why is that? Do you need to turn into a bad boy or pretend to be one to get the girl?

No. Watch our video and you’ll see the top reasons why women hate nerds, why nerds get rejected, and how the newest generation of hot nerds are actually dominating the dating scene more than the stereotypical bad boys now!


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DATING ADVICE FOR NERDY GUYS

Today I want to dive deep into the root cause of why most nerds, don’t date beautiful women, and how you probably a nerdy guy can meet, attract and date women that you probably deem as way out of your league while still keeping all of your nerdy charm.

Let’s dive in.

What’s interesting is the definition of “nerd.” According to Webster’s dictionary – is an unstylish unattractive and socially inept person, especially one slavishly devoted to intellectual or academic pursuits being smart and intellectual is not going to hurt your chances with women. In fact, I can give you a one up on other guys and it can make you more successful, which is something women usually like, but being unstylish socially inept and unattractive.. Not going to win you the lady.

So let’s change those three qualities about you. Then trust me, man, you can do even better than attractive guys who don’t see themselves as nerds. Now you probably didn’t know this about me, but I definitely considered myself a nerd back in the day.. Because I’m an Eagle scout. And I used to get teased about that all the time in high school, from my less nerdy friends, I was a junior Marshall back in high school.

I was head of flag duty in grade school, and I have a bachelor’s degree in information and computer science, all pretty nerdy accomplishments most would say. So now let’s talk about those three unattractive qualities that most nerds have and how you can transform them so that you can be a hot nerd.

THE NERD LOOK (GEEK CHIC)

Look, the stereotypical nerd look is just not attractive. Think of revenge of the nerds. It’s typically just have no fashion sense and they just don’t seem to care about their look or their fashion or even their hygiene sometimes. And women can see that as, “Okay.. He doesn’t take care of himself.” How could he take care of me? So you don’t have to lose any of your intelligence or your nerdy hobbies, such as playing video games or going to Star Wars or Star Trek conventions, just start dressing better.

In fact, there’s a stylish stereotype called geek chic, which is basically hot nerd, which is good news for you because it doesn’t mean you need to throw away your wardrobe. You just need a little bit of an upgrade. So check out some of these examples of geek chics.

Also the good news is you don’t need to be buff. Nerds are also usually seen as scrawny and back in my, I guess nerdier days, I was only 135 pounds. I’m about 165 pounds now. And as you can see, I’m not buff. I’m not a jock by any means. I’m still very thin. I’m just not scrawny. So don’t worry.

It doesn’t mean you have to spend six hours every day at the gym, but if you just spend one hour, three or four days a week lifting heavy muscle, it will do wonders for your physique. And think about it. Do you want a woman to be turned off when she sees you naked, either being scrawny or being overweight, or do you want her to be turned on? I remember the first time I ever saw a woman look at me without my clothes on and go like, wow, like touch my body.

That was one of the best feelings in the world.

But here’s the truth. Even if you don’t work on your style and you don’t get in shape, if you just own your nerdiness and do the next two things that I’m about to tell you, even if you look physically unattractive, you can still be mentally attractive and still get the girl.

ANALYSIS PARALYSIS

So next is “analysis paralysis” because most nerds are smart guys and smart guys tend to be very analytical and they overanalyze everything.

Analysis is great. When you’re working on a computer program or you need to dive deep into a problem, but when you’re actually connecting with another human being, if you’re in your head analyzing what you should say or analyzing what they just said and computing it and trying to think of the best line, she’s going to tell, she’s just going to notice something’s off.

Like you’re not truly listening to her because you’re in your head! Analyzing and trying to say the right thing. And it actually turns her off because she feels like you’re not actually there with her. You’re not actually there listening to her. And it’s just little micro expressions that her subconscious brain will notice.

Like your reactions are just a second or even a millisecond off. It’s not something that she consciously notices. It’s something that’s beneath the surface, which is why we show analytical guys, probably like yourself, how to get out of their head and get more into their body so that they can feel the interaction with her instead of analyzing it.

And one thing you can do right away that will help you with this is start a meditation routine, meditate every single day for at least 10 minutes. And I recommend doing it twice a day, once in the morning. And once before bed, 10 minutes each, and not only will you feel more present and grounded right after you meditate, but it’ll also help you be a more present, more grounded guy, instead of all, up in your head in the long term. Trust me, man, if you start doing this every day, it will make huge difference.

And most people even notice the difference in just a few days.

YOU ARE PORTRAYED AS “WEAK”

Finally, number one, the most unattractive quality that a lot of nerdy guys have is that you are weak. And I don’t mean just the stereotypical scrawny weakling nerd. That’s portrayed by the media.

What I mean really is that you’re weak on the inside.

You’re weak minded and weak emotionally and a woman and does not want, she cannot be attracted to a man that she could walk all over, which is why women often test men. They say, or do things that kind of throw the guy off because they’re testing.

Is he a strong man that can handle anything? She or the world throws at him? Or is he a weak man? That’s going to crumble and get all emotionally effected by anything she says or does, because think about it.

A woman’s nature is she wants a man that can protect her. And how can you protect her if you’re afraid of her, if you can’t even handle her. So attention tests as I like to call it is anything that a woman says or does like, Oh, I have a boyfriend or no, I’m not going to give you my phone number or just flakes out on the date.

Something that she does so she can quickly see, are you a strong man? Or are you a weak man? Are you going to get rattled and get all butt hurt over the smallest thing? Or is it just no big deal?

Think of like the action heroes in a movie, they’re pretty much always an attractive guy and they can handle the tension. It’s, you know, usually people fighting them or shooting at them, but they take control of the situation. They don’t freak out and “Ah! Run for the Hills.” They take action and they fight back. The good thing is you don’t have to fight a war or be an action hero to be that kind of man.

You just need to be calm and grounded when things don’t go your way in the interaction with her, because it’s not all going to be perfect. She’s not going to say yes to everything. She’s going to be a little bit of a challenge at times, if she’s a high quality woman that has a lot of men chasing her, she needs a way to sift through all of them to figure out who is a real man or not.

So how do you practice this? How do you become a man that can handle that tension? When a beautiful woman gives you attention test to try to throw you off your game? Well, one way of course is just practice.


That’s why we bring in models at our live bootcamps, as well as our online mentoring programs. We bring in models and female dating coaches on our team to role play with you so they can help you through all those scenarios and situations when it comes to real life interactions and they give you feedback and help you remain calm and confident, no matter what.

And next is just doing things that are uncomfortable, getting out of your comfort zone.. Nerdy guy, guys, stereotypically stay in their comfort zone where it’s safe. You know, they stay home and they read a lot. Yeah. They play video games. Whereas jocks, back in high school or college, at least are you usually playing sports and lifting weights.

They’re doing things that involve tensions, whether it’s the tension of that weight or it’s the tension of competition in a sport, they’re doing things that are tough and painful, which is why the media portrays jocks as more attractive than nerds because jocks are constantly getting out of their comfort zone, constantly challenging themselves, physically and mentally, whereas nerds are staying where it’s safe. So one thing you could do of course is start playing sports and start lifting.

Like I mentioned before, or start taking a boxing or martial arts class. This will toughen you up. But even something you can do right now is start taking it really cold showers or ice baths. Now I know that sounds kind of silly, but it really has the same effect yourself stepping into tension. Something that feels real, really uncomfortable for a short period of time.

And if you can just condition yourself to do uncomfortable things and put yourself in uncomfortable situations that are safe, of course, make sure you always remain safe, that it will build confidence over time.

And you will develop mental toughness, just like approaching beautiful women. Most nerds don’t approach, beautiful women because it’s out of their comfort zone and they’d much rather stay where it feels safe. Whereas confident guys are much more likely to see a beautiful woman and actually go talk to her. And we have a new inner game program that we actually just developed that will help you develop mental toughness and overcome any of those emotions and feelings and thoughts that are holding you back from anything in life, including going to a approach, a beautiful woman, or going to take action.

This is specifically designed for nerds, for engineers and for analytical guys to help them get them out of their head and into your body. So that instead of over analyzing everything, you can just take action and achieve the life that you’ve always wanted instead of being stuck, where it’s comfortable inside your comfort zone.

HOW TO “OWN” YOUR NERDINESS THE RIGHT WAY

And finally, I want to give you a bonus. You need to own your nerdiness because being an engineer or being super into comics or Dungeons and Dragons or video games or not inherently attractive, but what is attractive is when you just own that’s who you are.

You own that about yourself instead of being ashamed about it, especially when you’re talking to beautiful women, which most nerds are. They don’t want to tell her those things about him, even though those are some of his favorite things to do, they hide it.

And if she doesn’t ask like, you know, what do you do for work? He says, Oh, I’m an engineer. He looks ashamed about it. Instead say, I’m an engineer, right? I love it because I get to handle tough problems and challenge myself every single day. It’s so much fun when you talk about yourself and the things that you do with passion and enthusiasm, even if it’s not the most super cool thing in the world, it will paint you in an attractive light.

It will show that you own who you are that you love, who you are, and that you are confident about who you are, even your quirks and even your passion for Dungeons and dragons or World of Warcraft or whatever.

So when we show guys in our mentorship programs, how to dress better, how to get out of their head and into their body and how to develop mental toughness and overall inner confidence, they get to keep all their nerdy habits and intelligence and nerdy passions while still becoming the best, most attractive version of themselves.

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So if you want to get mentored by me or my team and put those three principles into practice, then make sure to jump on a call with us. And we’ll tell you all about our different programs and see if you’re a good fit or not. And we’ll give you tons of value on the call as well, figure out where you are right now and where you want to be and how to get there in the fastest time possible.

Leave a comment down below as well, because I’d love to know what you think about this video and blog, or just leave a comment about anything! I really appreciate it.

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10 Habits That Make You UGLY

STOP THESE top 10 habits that make you look ugly – Men are ALWAYS guilty of doing #8!

Did you know almost every guy is guilty of doing these 10 habits that make you ugly? If you’re doing this, do your best to quit it right away! OUT with the BAD, IN with the HEALTHY Habits.

International dating coach, Matt Artisan, shows his top 10 habits that make you unattractive. He’ll also show you some life hacks to help you look and feel better. These habits are common, and you probably aren’t aware that you’re doing this and its hurting your attraction.

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We’ve had a vast majority of our students doing these 10 things. We’ve seen them change, we’ve done the research, and we’ve seen the results.

Its not a guaranteed “I transformed into a completely different man!” right away. Its not an overnight thing. However, after seeing our students change their habits (once they’ve stopped these 10 things) they felt a change just within days of implementation.

You see, being “yourself” isn’t a bad thing. But if its the insecure, unconfident, lazy, and irresponsible version of yourself, then that’s another story.

Become the “best version of yourself” with healthy habits as a good start. Start letting go of habits that make you unattractive, and are just flat out harmful for your inner self as well as your physical appearance. Introduce posititve, healthy, and motivational habits that make you more productive, confident, and attractive – both inside and outside.

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