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How To Approach Women During The Daytime (Honest + Infield Footage)

Today’s content is all about how to approach women during the daytime! (Video footage included, man!) Approaching women and talking to girls isn’t only done in bars or clubs. In fact, we have had more authentic, memorable and enjoyable experiences when we approach women during the daytime.

Check out coach Jules Bia explaining his methods on how to approach women during the daytime, complete with footage of him approaching girls during the day in Playa del Carmen, Mexico:

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HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN DURING THE DAYTIME
with Coach Jules Bia

In today’s video, we show:
– how to approach women during the daytime
– how to approach girls during the day in the street, the beach, shops and malls
– how to approach a girl without being a creep
– how to approach girls during the daytime and get her number
– how to approach women in public places
– how to approach a girl NOT in a bar or club
– how to approach women in the street
– how to talk to a girl during the day
– infield footge from Jules Bia of The Attractive Man team
– examples of daygame approach,
– how to talk to girls with confidence
– how to talk to women and charm them

Here are Jules’ principles to keep in your mental checklist when you want to practice how to approach girls during the daytime:

WARM UP

Just like workouts. Just like public speaking.. Top athletes do it before game time, teachers and professors do it before major events, actors and performers do it before the big curtain rises. It makes TOTAL sense how important warming up is when mastering how to approach women during the day.

So, we love to warm up by talking to random people we meet everyday. Regardless of who they are, if they don’t look completely busy, give them a greeting – talk to them, give them a wave. Its a great warm up to set your mood and activate those happy hormones.

During nighttime approaches, we go and talk to everyone right from the start – if its in the bar or club, we talk to the bouncer, the first person we meet when we enter, the first group we meet.

Once you’ve warmed up, you won’t be so jumpy, anxious, fidgety. I almost never get tongue tied if I had an awesome warm up before I approach gorgeous women. So I want you to be more social, be a bit more dynamic, and warm up! Its going to help overall confidence, and social skills.

FEEL IT IN YOUR BODY

Ever heard the phrase “its all in your head”? Years of coaching men has helped us understand, majority of men’s problems are internal. They keep overthinking, they keep relying on mental cues, they keep thinking “what do I do now?” “what happens if I do this?” “what if she says this?” “should I do this after this and this?” “what if she says no?” “what if she says yes?”

The problem is.. All of your thoughts aren’t happening in the REAL world. You’ve beaten yourself up before you even made a move.

You’re supposed to FEEL it. You’re a human, with feelings, with sensors, with hormones that activate, with a body that responds to stimuli. Attraction is supposed to come naturally, not from a book that you pull out in your head. Being too much in your head? Overthinking? Believe me, it won’t end up well.

You see, some BAD advice would be “memorize this” and “practice this line and routine”. Imagine how that would feel like – are you some robot that only responds with a specific line or when a specific input is given?

So men, make sure to feel it in your body. Sure you might feel scared at first..you might have some jitters, but I want you to feel that and own it. Don’t lock yourself out of your feelings because you’ll never be able to tap into that natural, attractive you if you shut all of that out.

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TAKE CHANCES

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” True. Most men want to play it safe. Also true.

Risk taking is never easy. It requires you to exit your comfort zone. But what that does is it opens up new and amazing oppurtunities for you. And effort plus oppurtunity always equals success.

Sometimes, all guys need is a good push. You could be hanging on the edge of your safe bubble, almost ready to break your limits and become better – but you can’t find it in yourself to bust through. Why? It could be the fear of pain, the fear of rejection, afraid you’ll be humiliated, or afraid you’ll get hurt.

Men, life has been throwing curveballs all this time. And the “no pain, no gain” mantra was created for a reason – not just for the gym and working out – it applies in real life as well.

Approaching beautiful women that you might feel are out of your league is a complete risk on your part. But you know what? Experiencing the pain of rejection and learning from it is better than feeling the regret of not doing it. And most of the time, interactions even end well for our clients.

It was only after stepping out of their comfort zone that our men have realized that they can do better in dating and in their lives. It is by taking chances that we truly improve. It is by facing your demons and fears, where you can find the courage and confidence to be the best version of yourself.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all”


INVEST IN YOURSELF

Now, this is self-explanatory but I’ll have to emphasize this. Don’t make “how to approach women during the daytime” or flirting, dating, approaching women your main focus in life. That will create a needy mindset, and will set you off.

What you should be doing, is investing in yourself. Its YOUR life, and YOUR happiness. Don’t think that people-pleasing will always lead to your happiness. Seeking others approval, and doing things for them rather than yourself will lead you to a depressive state.

Invest in yourself, man. That’s the best piece of advice I can give you right now. Seek out a better you everyday. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Develop yourself, and natural attraction will follow.

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6 EASY Ways to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say

In today’s video blog, I share my 6 easy ways to keep the conversation going and never run out of things to say. I’ll show you the things to talk about with a woman to keep her interested and engaged. Stuff that can even turn her on while you talk to her! Plus of course, some of the basic things to avoid that stop conversations:

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KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING and NEVER RUN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY

Guys keep asking us about the things to talk about on a date.. they always seem to run out of stuff, and why is that? “How to keep the conversation going with a girl, Matt?” “What to talk about on a first date with a woman, Matt?” “How to never run out of things to say to a girl, Matt?”

Men, the key to mastering how to never run out of things to say to a woman and finding the right conversation topics does NOT involve memorizing tons of lines or perfoming a variety of fake and cheesy routines. This video will explain that. You have to have things you are passionate about, things you experience. You have to know what you want, and have goals you are pursuing. You literally have to have a life outside of trying to impress her – don’t simp, man!


Also, like what we always say on our how to talk to women videos, what you say is only effective if you also know how to say it. This comes both internally, based on your confidence and self esteem, where your demeanor and tonality are crucial; and externally..having the right words to say to her.

So if you haven’t yet, make sure you WATCH the ENTIRE thing. Because not only are there demonstrations and word for word examples, there are also lessons on how and why these things work:

More videos about how to talk to a girl:
1.) How to Make Your Move
2.) How to Never Run Out Of Things To Say On A Date
3.) What to say to women (5 Needy Things You Need To Stop Doing)
4.) How to Escalate and Turn Her On in your Conversations

Thats it for now, man! Hope you found the video helpful. Talking to a girl you like sure can be tough, especially if its the first time you’re doing it. Remember to build your confidence everyday, and learn from experience and application, not just watching videos or reading things off the internet!

Cheers,
Matt

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How to talk to a woman – 5 Things you should NEVER say

Quit saying this to women, its a big turn off. When understanding how to talk to a woman, you don’t memorize and say everything. Instead, you keep it short, powerful, memorable. Less talk, less mistakes – and these are 5 things you should NEVER say to a woman.

HOW TO TALK TO A WOMAN
5 Things You Should Never Say to Her

Talking to girls shouldn’t be complex. When you want to master how to talk to women, you should always start with yourself, because its not about learning more things to say, its first learning what NOT to say in the first place.

Think about it, would you want to bombard her with all these useless words or lines only to increase your chances of turning her off? (If you keep yapping to her, sooner or later you’re going to say something that completely turns her off!) Or do you want to say the least amount of things with the maximum attraction effect?

All right, let the countdown begin with..

Number 5 – “Where do you want to go on our date?”

I know you’re thinking.. why not? It seems logical. I want to take her to a place that she wants to go so that she’s happy so that she enjoys the date. If I take her to her favorite place, it’s going to be a good date. She’s going to enjoy it.

And yes, logically, that makes sense.

But women don’t want to be the one who decides everything for the date. She wants you to do that. Have you ever heard that a woman likes a man with a plan? She wants a leader, a man who takes charge, who steps into his masculinity and leads the way.

Now, It doesn’t mean that you can’t allow her to make decisions or make choices. When it comes to picking the venue, you can definitely include her in that decision process, but just flat out asking her, “where do you want to go?” Or saying, “What’s your favorite place? I’ll take you.”

It just seems like you’re trying to impress her. It sounds like you have no plan. You have no clue of where to take a woman, which implies you haven’t been on a lot of dates and it’s coming from a place of pleasing. Of neediness.

Not only that, but it puts her in her masculine, which there’s nothing wrong with that, right? If she’s a CEO or something like that, she has to make a lot of decisions. And she’s in her masculine beingness when she’s at work. But when she’s on a date, she wants to be feminine. She just wants to be a long for your plan. She wants you to be a man and take charge. You be the leader. Now it’s fine to ask her, do you prefer this? Or do you prefer that maybe you love to take your dates to sushi and you want to find out if she has a fish allergy or not.

So find out relative information, but you be the one to decide where to go on the date.


Number 4 – “CAN I have your number?”


Asking her if you can have her number implies and presupposes that you don’t know if she’s attracted to you or not, which is why you’re asking the question – basically the definition of a lack of confidence: You don’t believe in yourself.

You don’t believe that this beautiful woman would be attracted to a guy like you. So you have to ask her if you can have her number. It sounds too nice. Again, it sounds like the logical thing to do, but it usually comes off as very unconfident.

Just remove the word “can”.

Instead of saying, “can I have your number” say either “let’s exchange numbers” or say “You seem cool. What’s your number?” When you say “what’s your number” or “let’s exchange numbers” it presupposes that you believe that she likes you, that you believe she’s going to give you her number.

She can still say no, just like if you asked her a question, but it just makes you seem a lot more sure of yourself. And on that note, make sure to say it with certainty.

If your tonality is going up and you see same uncertain she’s probably gonna say no. If you seem really uncertain, even if she gives you her number, when you say it like that, she’s probably not going to text you back.

As a side note, if she says no because she has a boyfriend, or she doesn’t feel comfortable or she doesn’t know you well enough to give out her number.. The main thing is to just remain calm. Don’t say, “why not?” Or start getting mad or upset. Just remain cool. Like it’s no big deal. And instead go for her social media.

Number 3 – “You are sooooo beautiful!!”

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving a woman a compliment and telling her she’s beautiful, gorgeous, stunning, cute, adorable, pretty.

But when you say it like “You are soOoOooo beautiful!” it literally looks like I’m putting her on pedestal. So the key with this phrase is that you say it with confidence, not like she’s above you.

When you give a woman a compliment, especially if that’s the way you’re going to open the conversation, which is a logical way to open a conversation, you should be direct and tell her the truth. The real reason why you’re there, women appreciate it. They appreciate your honesty. And they appreciate the courage that it takes to go do that. Plus if you beat around the Bush and use some indirect, weird pick up artist opener, she knows that you’re there because you’re attracted to her.

So it actually makes you appear less confident, so you have to say it the right way.

She can be attracted to you within seconds, even aroused. Now I know that sounds crazy. You walk up to a woman and tell her she’s beautiful. How is that going to actually make her turned on and aroused. Trust me, man. It can. And it does happen. It’s not every time of course, but oh man, when it does happen, you can feel the electricity. And it’s just pure fire.

Now in our live workshops, when we take guys in field, they pretty much always on day one, too much of that, “please like me” energy and women can feel that and they appreciate the compliment, nevertheless. But of course it’s not a super solid interaction where the girls was melting in front of them.

Until we bring in models and practice the approach over and over again and transform that neediness, “Please like me kind of energy” to “I want you, but I’m cool if I can’t have you” kind of energy. And then it’s literally like night and day, when they start approaching, after they do the model work, you can see the reaction of the women that they approach completely change instead of a nice, like, “Oh thank you for the compliment.” It becomes her amazed and steamy “Wow. Thank you.” And of course, when you see those kinds of reactions over and over again, it’s going to increase your own confidence when it comes to approaching.

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Number 2 – “Can I buy you a drink?”

Hear me out. There’s nothing wrong with buying a woman a drink at a bar, even if you just met her.. But saying that as the first thing that you say to her as your conversation starter is not a good idea because it creates the frame that you’re paying for her time or paying for her attention, which puts your value down and hers up right from the start – which is not the dynamic you want.

If you want to talk to her, just go talk to her. Don’t send her a drink from across the bar or go over and say, “Hey, can I buy you a drink?” You don’t know anything about her. Why the heck would you even want to buy her a drink? It’s kind of like saying “Here! here’s some money! Can I buy five minutes of your time?

No, no, no, never do that. Now. Maybe you’ve done it in the past and you say, “Hey, it works. She talked to me afterwards!” but trust me, man, she didn’t like you. A woman in her twenties is probably not going to say no to a free drink.

So then should you even buy a woman to drink at all? Well, yeah, definitely IF you want to, and IF you’re not using it as a bargaining chip. If you want to get a drink yourself and it’s just the customary thing to do, it’s the social norm to say, “Hey, I’m going to get a drink at the bar, You want one?

There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s even a good way to just move things further by just moving her from one place where you met her to the bar. Cause if she moves away from her friends and comes with you to the bar, then it’s just you and her. You can have a more intimate conversation and make a deeper connection with her.

Number 1 – “Can I kiss you?”

Again, just like asking for her phone number, it’s presupposing that you don’t believe she would be attracted to you, which shows you that you’re just not confident in yourself that you don’t believe women should like you.

I understand why you might do this because you’re trying to save face.

You don’t want to go for a kiss and then she’s turns her head or just says she’s not ready yet. And then it creates all that awkward tension because maybe you just don’t know if it’s the right time to go for it or not. So I get that. Sure.

I’ve gone for the kiss many times and it was the wrong situation, but who cares? It’s better to go for the kiss out of the blue and her say, no, I’m not ready yet or her turn her head or just back up. Know that you’re a man knowing that you go for what you want. In this case, it’s her. Instead of her seeing you as weak and the kind of guy who asks for permission every time he wants to do something, “Can, can I kiss you? “

AND no, no, that definitely doesn’t mean force yourself upon her in any way. Always make sure she’s comfortable. And if you want to go for the kiss, you don’t want to do it out of the blue. You want to say something just to know her and see if she’s ready.

Then instead of asking “can I kiss you” you could just tell her, what do you want to do? Say, “You know, kind of want to kiss you right now.” And just notice her reaction if it’s anything other than no, no, no. Then slowly move forward and go for it. Or you could ask her if she’s a good kisser. “I bet you’re not even a good kisser, but I’m tempted to find out.” And if she says, no, you could still say, “Well, then you need to work on it and still go for the kiss.

You could also ask her if she would like to kiss you, which is a lot more powerful. It presupposes that you think she likes you and you think she wants to kiss you, which presupposes that you believe she wants to kiss you. And if she says, yes, obviously kiss her. If she says, I don’t know, say, “well, let’s find out” and slowly go in for a kiss. And if she says no, then you could just say, well, it seemed like you wanted to, or it seemed like you had something on your mind and then just change the subject.

And by the way, if you ever lean in for a kiss and she pulls away, or you say one of those statements to kind of prime the kiss and she doesn’t seem ready yet, it’s no big deal. It doesn’t mean necessarily that she doesn’t like you. It just means she’s not ready yet. So just don’t be all emotionally affected. Don’t complain about it. Don’t get angry about it and just change the subject, move on. And then try again later that might be later in that date or that might be on the next day.


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Understand that your conversation is immensely important for attraction, because when you get her attention, and you have her in front of you – what you say to women will make or break your chances of getting the attraction right.

You can either attract her with what you have to say, or absolutely turn her off. Which is why Matt and the team has always focused on conversations as part of the crucial attraction triggers – how to talk to women the right way.

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How to Date Latin Women | How to Approach a Latina

Matt and the team share and reveal how to approach a Latina and how to date Latin women!

Do you find Latin women attractive? Would you like to date a Latina? Do you have what it takes to handle a latina? Want to know how to pick up a Latina woman?



Dating Latin women may feel intimidating, but you’ll see that it’s not that hard once you know how to wow them like the attractive man that you are! In today’s video, dating coach Matt Artisan talks about how to approach Latin women and shows infield footage of his approaches in Medellin, Colombia:

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In this infield footage video, Matt demonstrates how he approaches Latina women in the daytime, even approaching women in shopping malls and the street. Matt also approaches women outside the bar.

He’ll show you how to approach a latina and how to get her number and social media!

Dating latinas are exciting – they’ve got one of the most interesting and attractive personalities! Hot latinas are the one of the most gorgeous women on the planet!

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