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Do I NEED to be ALPHA to Attract Women?

Do I need to be Alpha to Attract Women? We’ve been asked countless times how to be alpha..

Do YOU need to be Alpha?

Do YOU need to be Rich? Do YOU need to be Hot?

If you’ve constantly believed that the answer to “how to be more attractive to women” is MORE money, or being a jerk, or being a tall, muscular guy.. then you are WRONG, my friend.

In this video, Dating Coach Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man team will explain the common misconceptions and beliefs guys have that are holding them back from achieving their true potential.

So stop listening to all the guys saying you’ve got no chance with women because you’re not rich enough, not alpha enough, or not hot enough.

Matt is here to tell you that YOU CAN attract women. And do you REALLY have to be alpha, rich, or hot to do that? Well, watch the video to know the answer!

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Attract Women that are Out of Your League

How do you Attract Women that are totally Out of Your League?

We’ve all seen that absolute stunner walk by, making your mouth drop and your eyes practically pop out of your head. 

It may seem like a fantasy. It may seem like she’s light years out of your league. But what if I told you that a normal guy like yourself could date the best looking women in your city? Well prepare to have your mind blown because I’m Matt Artisan from TAM and this is How to Attract the Best Looking Women in Your City. 

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So here’s the deal. Women rarely, if ever, date down. They will never date a man they deem is lower status than them. So you must act and behave in a high-status manner to attract the best women around. 

Now I know that term gets thrown around a lot but it basically means ranking highly in a social hierarchy.

High status doesn’t mean that you have to have millions of dollars, wear the most expensive clothes or be a famous celebrity. It means that you embody the traits, body language, attitude and mannerisms of someone who is high status. It’s the way you act and behave around others and it means you don’t put her or see her as being above you. Which I’m going to tell you how to do in just a second but of course step number 1….



This means….



 – hottest nightclubs

– don’t go to dive bars hoping to get the best women

– competition and how it’s hard to compete; unless you are in the social circle

 – events like modeling events (befriend models, photographers, high-end restaurant or club owners, makeup artists)

-high-quality Hotel lounges, Cultural Events: Art shows, gallery openings, museum events, charity events, Theater events

-wine Bars

-wine tastings

-high end restaurants/ openings 

-high end casinos

-daytime situations – high-end shopping or health food stores



Most guys get overly reactive and caring way more when it’s a really attractive women. She is used to people treating her special. She’s used to guys being nervous, boastful and trying to impress her! Women can sense when you are being fake even if you don’t mean to be..

So what do you do?

Treat her like a normal person because she is a normal person. She is equal to you. Remember that she has fears and insecurities and imperfections just like everyone else!



She needs to perceive that you have women of her caliber in your life. Remember what I said about women don’t date down? If she see’s that you have women like her around you then she automatically knows that she is in your league. You have to make use of the following:

– Preselection and acting like you have women like her in your life

– bringing girls to the club with you.

– being comfortable around her and being okay losing her;

– acting like you have a lot of women challenge/qualifying

– disqualifying yourself and disinterest

 – You’ll be the one guy who doesn’t fawn all over her and that will intrigue her. She will want to know why? This doesn’t mean that you are mean to her.


You don’t have to be Dan Bilzerian because a lot of these girls just want a normal life with kids and travel once in a while. They have a 9 to 5 job they love and they don’t want to live in some dudes mansion competing with other girls for your attention. So stop comparing yourself to celebrities, because you can still have a total 10 knockout without being rich and famous. 

But you can’t just work 60 hours a week then come home to play video games and expect a high caliber woman to stick around watching you stuff your face with potato chips. 

You need to have an interesting life and a decent job; a lot of women want just a normal life. 


But a lot of guys have a normal life, why would she pick you over them? It’s because you are the one providing her with emotional value. Even if you have a cool lifestyle but you are boring or predictable then she’ll lose interest, and really this goes for any girl but especially the most beautiful ones who have more options.  

  • Making her laugh, having fun!
  • Be Random, exciting, unpredictable, tease her; 
    • But it’s not about all positive emotions either…
  • Maintaining the dichotomy of showing desire and being a challenge = emotional ups and downs like an emotional roller coaster that you are her strong rock that can protect her against the storm of the world and the waves of her own often unpredictable emotions. 

Now to give emotional value takes practice, getting out of your own way, often improving your personality and strengthening your own masculine identity which isn’t an easy task and will take more than just watching a few YouTube videos. 



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7 Clothing Hacks For Men

Look, your style is important because it leaves a lasting impression on everyone you meet.

And in today’s video, we’re discussing 7 clothing hacks to combat everyday style problems.

Broken zipper? Shrunken clothes? Busted Iron? We’ll tackle the most common fashion and style problems, and provide you with quick fixes that will save you time, effort, and money!

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How to fix a stuck zipper?

Sometimes a zipper gets stuck, it happens.. — usually at the worst time like right before that big presentation, or when you’re getting ready for a date, and your zipper decides “eh I’m not gonna work today.” Well a quick and easy fix that I have discovered is that if you rub the teeth of the zipper with the led of a pencil, the graphite acts as a makeshift lubricant, and your zipper will work just fine!

How to wash denim?

To wash jeans without shrinking them, set your washing machine on the gentle or delicate cycle and fill the load with cold water. Then, turn your jeans inside out to avoid damaging the other clothing. And also, if you notice people refusing to stand downwind of you, stick your jeans in the freezer to kill smelly bacteria. Then wash them inside out.

How to tell if jeans fit without trying them on?

Have you ever had to stand in line for a changing room, or you couldn’t even find the changing room? No worries. One simple way to tell if your newfound favorite pair of pants will fit is to use the length of your forearm. The length of an arm from your fist to the elbow roughly correlates to your waist size (for the bigger guys, flatten out your fingers and add a fist). Ensure the button and fly are zipped and buttoned all the way and if your arm slides in comfortably, so should your tush. Try this with an existing pair of pants if you’re still skeptical – clown pants not applicable.

How to make a basic T-shirt stylish?

I see too many guys just wearing basic t-shirts out and about especially now that it’s summertime, one way to enhance the look of your t-shirt is to roll up the sleeves twice, this will show more of your tricep and bicep and make you look more muscular. This is a quick and easy way to show off your physique and your fashion sense!

How to take care of your belt?

Belts may look tough, but they need love too. Hang your belt vertically and away from direct light. (Coiling it can crack the leather; sunlight fades it over time.) The right sized belt has a few inches of leather to the left of the buckle after fastening — enough to reach the first belt loop, but no more. Err on the side of shorter.

How to take care of T-shirt shrinkage?

If you find that your t-shirt shrank in the wash, soak it in a bath of hot water and hair conditioner for five minutes, then stretch it back. Afterwards, let it hang dry and voila, your shirt is back to its original size!

Too lazy to iron?

If you hate ironing or always forget last minute to iron in the middle of doing other things, here is a quick 5-minute fix. Throw your shirt or pants in the dryer with a damp washcloth and let it run for 5 minutes or so. The steam from the wet washcloth will relax the shirt’s fibers and release the wrinkles. When the cycle is finished, take it out of the dryer immediately. Lay the shirt out flat, smooth it out with your hands, and hang it up. This should take care of most, if not all, of those stubborn wrinkles. If you don’t have a dryer, then turn on a hot shower and hang your shirt up in the bathroom for about 5-7 minutes and the steam from the shower should relieve some of the wrinkles.

Well guys that is it for this week’s Fashion Tips, don’t forget to like and subscribe to the channel and click that little bell for notifications about our new videos. Until next time, it was good to have you! Oh, and remember – if you look good, you feel better!

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7 Mindsets That Attract Women Like Crazy!

You’ve probably seen average guys with beautiful women. But how do they do that?

It’s usually because they have the correct mindset! With the right mindset, women will be drawn to you naturally, and you won’t have to “try” so hard.

For example, with the correct mindset, you won’t worry about what to say because the right words will come out naturally.

This is an essential aspect of improving your game so watch this video on “7 Mindsets That Attract Women Like Crazy.”

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The Power To Naturally Attract A Girl Comes From Within

Keep in mind that these mindsets take time to train into your subconscious. But it is well worth the effort because these beliefs are so foundational that adopting them transforms not only your entire dating life but everything else you do as a man as well. You can make others feel great, make women want to be with you, you can even turn a girl’s “No” into a “Yes”!

Alright, I’m super excited to share this content with you guys, so without further adieu, let’s dive right in.

Mindset #7
Everything will be fine

One of the most fundamental mindsets that guys who are good with women share is that, no matter what happens socially, everything will be fine in the end. Sure, there may be situations where you slip up and say something you wish you hadn’t, or when you end up feeling embarrassed or rejected. However, an attractive man sees these for what they are: temporary inconveniences or – even better – learning lessons.

With an “everything will be fine” mindset, you’ll immediately begin to come across as more calm and at ease in any scenario, and women will immediately feel calm and at ease in your presence, ready to open themselves up to you. This means opening up their hearts, minds, and bodies to you in a way that they will for few men throughout their life.

Mindset #6
I don’t have to prove myself to anyone

Let’s get one thing straight – you don’t have to prove yourself to anybody else. A lot of dating gurus out there say you need to convince a woman of your high value, but that’s just another form of neediness, of needing to prove yourself – and therefore comes across as low status and unattractive.

The truth is, there is no need to “convince” a woman of anything in order to make her feel attraction for you. This is because attraction is not a result of effort, but a result of who you ARE. YOU are the only person you need to prove yourself to, and adopting this mindset will help you focus on your own progress as a man instead of others opinions, which in turn will attract hot women to you over time.

When you offer no apologies or explanation for yourself or your behavior, it demonstrates a level of confidence and ownership that few men have, and women pick up on it. In fact, I approach interactions with women wondering how THEY’LL prove themselves to ME! It’s a complete reversal of how most guys interact, and women take notice and are eager to show YOU why YOU should choose THEM!

For now, know that there’s NEVER a good reason to try and convince a woman of your value by telling her about how cool you are, how much money you make, or by proving yourself in any way.

Mindset #5
What value can I give here?

As a dominant, confident male, you KNOW your life is good and you’ve got your shit handled. So then the focus becomes not on what you can get OUT of an interaction, but rather what you can give TO it.

Some examples of things you can give are… Fun energy… Great conversation… A non-judgemental vibe that allows people to express themselves… Basically, anything that adds more positivity to the interaction. Women pick up on this vibe and will gravitate towards you.

Now, inevitably there will always be a guy who completely misuses this concept and gets negative results. This will be the “logical-minded” guy who thinks that I’m talking about TRADING value for something else in return. That’s not it at all. Trading is NOT the same thing as giving. Giving is unconditional, it has no strings attached. So if you THINK you’re giving and yet people aren’t gravitating towards you, it’s a pretty safe bet that somewhere, maybe in the back of your mind, you’re hoping to get something in return. In other words, what you really want isn’t to give… It’s to trade – which doesn’t attract people in the same way.

I see guys run into this problem often when buying drinks for girls or giving girls compliments. Those things aren’t an inherently bad, but if you’re just “giving” as a tactic to manipulate, control, or get something back, girls will easily see through it. They may accept a free drink or feed off the validation of a compliment, but in the exchange, you’ll lose their respect, and ultimately their attraction.

As a mission I want you to go out one night where the only intent is to give value. Not monetary value but emotional value. Making people feel good without expecting anything in return. This applies to both guys and girls. Give genuine compliments. Ask their name and use it while you talk because everyone loves the sound of their own name. Make people laugh and just have a good energy and vibe by having a lot of fun. You can even give value by leading people on experiences. For example, if you’re talking to a girl at a bar, show her a fun time. Take her to play a game like darts, or giant Jenga or verbal games like Fuck Marry Kill.

Mindset #4
Each interaction is an investment in myself

When going out and meeting women, your main focus should be on the investment you’re making in yourself – the fact that you’re improving your social skills, amusing yourself, and developing your social circle. This mindset shift takes the emphasis OFF of getting specific results in each interaction and gives you a longer-term perspective in your development as a man. You stop worrying about the little things like wondering what to say to a specific girl or whether or not she likes you, and start focusing on the big picture – things like, am I approaching more confidently and consistently? Am I enjoying myself and contributing to the vibe? Am I getting the results that I want? Do I FEEL the way I want to in each interaction?

Viewing each interaction as an investment in yourself lets you focus on what’s directly inside of your control, and forget about everything else. Do this, and watch your “market price” as a man climb year after year. Having girls pursue you for relationships will come as a natural byproduct.

Mindset #3
I say whatever the hell I want…

Okay look, when guys start coaching with us, a lot of them struggle with knowing what to say and how to keep the conversation going. They see a girl at a bar, and the conversation just dies after a couple minutes. They just don’t know what to say.

But here is the problem…

You see, when you’re talking to someone, you have thoughts and opinions that come up… plenty of them, but when most guys are talking to beautiful girls, they filter out those thoughts and opinions because they think what they are going to say is either not good enough, not interesting enough, or may offend someone.

What ends up happening is an awkward silence.

Listen you have plenty of thoughts… you just have to stop giving a f$%# about what anyone else thinks and just start saying whatever is on your mind.

Yes, at first you will say some stupid things, but that’s okay. One, it doesn’t really matter, and two… over time you’ll become more fluent in speaking your mind and owning it. Over time, You’ll begin to feel more confident and happier with yourself, and women will love you just for being you.

So many people go through life as timid sheep, afraid of how OTHER people will judge what they have to say, that when you get to the point where you’re comfortable saying what you have to say and owning it, you will be a breath of fresh air to those around you.

So do this, I want you to go out sometime this week with one focus. Focus on just saying whatever is on your mind.

Mindset #2
There is nothing that I need from anyone

You don’t NEED much. Maybe water, shelter, food. There’s not much else you actually need. And you can provide all of these things for yourself. Even if you live at home or your family takes care of you somehow – if you were put in a position where your life depended on your ability to take care of your basic needs, you would find a way to do it.

An attractive man knows that wanting something and needing something are two different things. An attractive man may WANT a woman, but never NEEDS her – and that’s a very important distinction. No matter how much you may want a girl, knowing you don’t need her will help you keep things in perspective, allowing you to communicate your true self with uncompromising confidence – a trait that is extremely attractive to women. I call it the willingness to walk away, if necessary.

Mindset #1
Let me see if she’s worth my time

Remember earlier, when I mentioned not having to prove yourself to anyone? Guys that really crush it with women take that a step further. They know their worth. And they know that most people aren’t worth their time. I don’t mean this in a judgemental way – it’s simply that life is short, your time is valuable, and you as much as anyone else deserves to fill your time with people that live up to your standards.

Coming into interactions with this mindset sets up a “screening” frame – in other words, you’re “screening” the girls you meet to see if they’re worth your time. Think about how much of a reversal this is from normal dating dynamics, where a guy spends all this money, time and energy trying to impress a girl. That’s too much work – and it doesn’t work! It’s needy and tryhard. Instead, let’s flip tradition on its head by getting HER trying to impress YOU and prove why she’s worth your time.

When you do this, not only will you get better results – but you’re doing her a favor as well! People place more value on those that they have to work to win over – and it’s every girl’s secret dream that she’s able to seduce the guy who’s just “out of her league”.


Now take a look at this video I show you exactly how to create romantic tension within seconds of meeting a girl. This is really important so that you don’t end up in the friend zone by creating a friendly platonic vibe. Instead, as soon as you meet her you’ll be able to create a more sexual, romantic, I want to rip your clothes off vibe!

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Learn How to Attract a Girl or Women and be Attractive | The Attractive Man

How do you approach a girl for the first time? What do women find attractive? The answers may surprise you.

From energy polarity to masculine traits, this article will teach you how to attract women effortlessly.

I live in a world foreign to most men – a world where gorgeous women often complain that I’m not giving them enough attention and ask me why I’m too busy for them. The truth is, they are amazing girls and I would love nothing more than to be able to see them as much as they want. But I only have so much time on my hands. Crazy, right?

I’m not complaining. I know a lot of guys dream about having problems like this, and some men go their entire lives never knowing what it’s like to have gorgeous women chasing them, vying for their affection. In fact, many guys are completely lost when it comes to attracting women, not knowing where to begin. Not too long ago, I was that guy myself – though, after everything I’ve learned about women and how much my life has changed as a result, it seems like another lifetime.

This is good news for you. If I was able to learn how to attract women, then so can you. My goal is to help you get there. And by getting there I mean knowing the basics and eventually mastering how to approach women.

This article will offer you a conceptual overview of what it takes to attract gorgeous women into your life consistently. We’re going to start on the woo-woo end of the spectrum by talking about Energy Polarity, and get more concrete as we go. It’s important that you understand the more abstract, esoteric concepts in order to build context for the more actionable tips I’ll give later on in the article.

Let’s dive in.

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Energy Polarities (Opposites Attract)

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Did you ever play with magnets as a kid? If you did, then you’re familiar with the concept of polarity attraction – even if you didn’t call it by that name. For those of you who aren’t familiar, let me explain:

Magnets have two poles – a positive pole and a negative pole. If you put two of the same type of poles together, they repel each other. But, if you put opposite poles together – one positive pole and one negative one – they will magnetically attract.

This same concept applies to attracting women. Like magnets, humans have energy polarities – masculine and feminine. Unfortunately, masculine traits such as aggression, confidence, and assertiveness are demonized and discouraged by our society and systematically weeded out. This leads to a culture of wimpy, effeminate men who, according to the laws of energy polarity, can only attract masculine, dominant women – not the alluring, feminine women that they truly desire.

Much of attracting the women you actually want in your life comes down to reclaiming and deepening this masculine polarity that is your birthright. This can be a daunting task, as it requires a lot of retraining of your own behavior.However, once you’re rooted in the solid foundations of your masculine energy, not only will you feel amazing – but gorgeous women will flock to your side to bask in the presence of your energy, with almost no effort on your part. In fact, all of the techniques in the world can’t replace the effortless ability to attract women that being rooted in your masculine polarity provides.

Masculine Polarity Traits

So what are these masculine traits that women find so attractive? And how can you go about developing them?

To understand the answers to these questions, it helps to step into the shoes of the women you’ll be seducing. While men are primarily focused on physical attractiveness when it comes to dating – at least, initially – women have an entirely different set of concerns.

Women are much more physically fragile than men, and largely depend on the physical and psychological strength of a man for protecting her and her child. Because of their fragility, they have also developed an ingrained desire to be around males with high social status, as men with higher status have access to more resources such as food, shelter, and allies, and can, therefore, better ensure her survival and that of her child.

If you’re thinking this sounds very caveman-esque, you’re absolutely right – these traits have been hardwired into the female psyche over hundreds of generations of evolution. It’s almost universal (full lesbians excluded), and you’re not going to change it. So the best thing you can do is develop the masculine polarity traits that will trigger women’s deeply ingrained evolutionary bias.

To get a better understanding of what types of behavior masculine polarity traits would include, think about the way Conor McGregor handles himself during MMA press conferences and matches. He comes across as assertive, strong-willed and even aggressive when needed. He’s not timid and doesn’t shy away from calling people on their shit. You get the feeling watching him that he’s confident in his ability to handle himself against all opponents, and wouldn’t hesitate to throw a punch if the situation calls for it.

Obviously, if you want to know how to attract a girl, the last thing you’ll want is to get into is a fistfight. However, when you’re able to project a sense of dominance and grounded confidence that comes from being willing to stand up for yourself in all scenarios, women can’t help but take notice of you.

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Other traits associated with high-status men that are rooted in their masculine polarity include:

  • The ability to provide for and protect a woman
  • Having a network of relationships with other high-status men
  • Walking through life with unflinching confidence and ease
  • Maintaining your cool in all situations
  • Leading those around you
  • Entertaining yourself (doing this shows that you’re relaxed and enjoying yourself)
  • …Hopefully you’re starting to get the idea by now

So we know that the shortcut for how to attract beautiful women is developing high-status, masculine polarity traits. And we know what that looks like in a man. But knowing that information alone is not enough! In order to develop attractive traits, you need to practice these behaviors until they become ingrained into who you are.

That means creating specific, measurable goals, much like improving in any other area or skill set. Do this with the masculine polarity traits, and you’ll be well on your way to attracting more gorgeous women into your life than you could have previously imagined!

High-status Body Language

When you’ve developed the masculine polarity traits, you’ll naturally find yourself expressing these traits through your words and body language, indicating your high status automatically. Conveniently, it also works the other way around – using high-status body language causes you to begin to feel a sense of confidence, dominance, and status within yourself.

Whats the best way to approach a girl? Here are some high-status body language keys to keep in mind:

  • Solid eye contact – High-status men don’t shy away from eye contact. When you meet a woman’s gaze, do so with grounded, calm, laser-like eye contact. You don’t want it to feel creepy or intense, but rather relaxed and comfortable
  • Deliberate movements – Avoid fidgeting, jerking, or sudden movements as those indicate the emotional distress that accompanies low status. Instead, make slow, deliberate movements that project an air of calm confidence
  • Being Non-reactive – In a social interaction, the high-status individual is the one that other are reacting to – not the other way around. Avoid physically reacting to other people. That doesn’t mean you need to ignore them – simply take the time to deliberately respond on your own terms. For instance, while I was typing this, the girl I’m sitting with tapped my shoulder. Rather than turning to cater to her immediately, I took my time to finish writing the paragraph before giving her my attention.

In any and all interactions throughout your day, you can begin to notice whether your body language is high status and dominant, or low status and submissive, and make adjustments accordingly.

Tips to Attract Women Effortlessly

1. Become the Leader of Your Social Circle

Men who are leaders are incredibly attractive to women. The fact that people are willing to follow your lead indicates your status to women, making it much easier for you to meet and attract them.

Becoming the leader of your social circle is simple – it just takes a bit more effort than the average Joe is willing to put in. Start planning events centered around your interests, and invite people to attend. This can be huge epic parties or little get-togethers; it doesn’t really matter. What’s important is that you’re taking the time to lead your social group in a way that makes people feel good about following your plans.

2. Dress Well to Convey Status

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In social interactions, appearance is more important than substance initially. This is because, as much as we like to think of ourselves as fair-minded, humans do judge based on perception. In fact, as famed psychologist Robert Cialdini points out in his book Influence, when you wear a suit, you will automatically be perceived as having higher status and more authority than if you were wearing normal casual clothing.

This is because people imagine men in suits to be more powerful, confident, successful, and so on based on their own preconceived notions. The result? You can cause people to associate these traits with you – whether not you actually possess them – simply by dressing sharply!

3. The Role of Comfort in Attracting Women

While status is the driver for attracting women, it’s not enough to make women feel at ease around you. For that, you’ll need to build comfort.

Comfort is the sense of a physical and emotional connection between you in the girl. It fosters a sense of trust and makes the girl feel safe in your presence. While most guys who are learning how to attract women don’t need to worry about comfort right away, it’s still worth noting its importance. For now, put your focus on developing high-status, attractive traits but know that comfort is an equal part of the good game as well.

4. Developing Attractive, Masculine Traits

To become as attractive as possible, we want to develop high status, masculine polarity and comfort building traits while systematically rooting out all traces of low status and comfort destroying behavior. The way to do this is through repeated trial and error – that is, going out, approaching women, and making incremental improvements.

There will be failure. There will be rejection. If you’re not failing, that means you’re not pushing yourself nearly hard enough. Each failure represents a weakness being healed through practice. The faster you can fail and improve, the sooner you’ll be surrounded by badass, amazing women, looking back and thanking your past self for putting in the effort required for greatness. You’ve just been imbued with the knowledge on how to approach a girl.

So get hyped!

For practical advice on where to meet girls so you can practice developing these traits as well as what to say to them, check out our article “How To Meet Women & The Best Places To Meet Girls”.

Now go forth, be fruitful, and multiply.