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Texting A Woman – 15 UPDATED Texting Rules To Follow

Today’s content is all about Texting a Woman. So Make sure to read this before you text her!

The rules have changed my friend, and after sending thousands of text messages and selling countless copies of my book, Turn Her On Through Text, I can tell you that if she’s not texting you back, it’s probably because of one of the following mistakes that almost every guy makes.

When you learn how to text girls the right way that I’m about to show you, it’ll set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her. When you’re texting a woman like this.. She’ll text you back faster. She’ll text you first and you’ll be the guy she chooses and all the other guys she’s texting will be left high and dry.. Ghosted!

I’m going to give you 15 crucial texting do’s and don’ts including how not to be needy and turn her off.

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TEXTING A WOMAN
15 Updated Rules To Follow

15 – STOP BEING NEEDY

Honestly, this could be a lot higher on the countdown, but in fact, all of these are so important – stop being needy. There are two ways that guys commonly come off as too needy..

Number one is texting a woman too much, texting all the time. I mean, come on, man, you’re a busy guy. You’re on your purpose. You have a mission in life. It’s not to be sending her text messages all the time and getting that little hit of dopamine every time you hear that ding on your phone. So what you need to do is just keep your phone on silent and only check your phone a few times at specific times, every single day, instead of always texting a woman back right away and sending her tons of messages, be doing your thing, just be focused on your job, your passions.

And when you check your phone a few times a day, that’s when you reply back. So what if she has to wait a few hours? Let her wonder what you’re doing now. I’m not saying that as a manipulation tactic, where you see her texts and you say, “Ooh, I got to wait two hours to text her back.” I’m saying, don’t even check your phone. So that way you’re just naturally going to text her back two hours later.

Sometimes it will be right away because she sent you a text and you happened to be checking your phone. Other times she’s going to have to wait.

The second way guys are needy is they just send really long text messages, have rambled, and even gone for 18 pages.

Look at the text before you send it and just think to yourself, is there any way I can shorten this? Do I really have to send three sentences? Can I just say that in one sentence? Cause imagine you text her and she looks at her phone and she sees all these messages in a row from you, or maybe it’s just one big message from you if just met you and she doesn’t really know much about you, then she’s just going to assume that you’re needy.

So in general, just keep your text short and to the point, double check it before you send it.


14 – CHAMELEON APPROACH

The chameleon matches his environment. Now I’m not saying you should match exactly how she texts you. When you’re texting a woman, It’s not about mirroring exactly, or using the exact words or the same exact amount of emoticons or texting her back the exact length of time that it took her to text you back just like a command.

The chameleon doesn’t change into a rock or tree. He just kind of matches his environment. So I want you to kind of match her texting style.

If she’s sending you really long texts, then feel free to write a little bit longer. If she texts you back right away, then feel free to text her back a little bit quicker. This is kind of like the exception to the previous rule. She’s using tons and tons of emoticons – then feel free to use a few more..

But don’t turn into a chick. Don’t overdo it. Just notice her texting vibe, her texting style and match it just a little bit, because we feel more comfortable and we like people that are like ourselves.

When you’re being totally different, like she sends you these long, long texts and you send her one word replies and she texts you back right away. But you wait 10 hours? There’s going to be so much of a disconnect. She’s going to feel like you guys are totally not on the same page and you’re probably not going to get a date with her.

So don’t copy.. Don’t mirror.. Just match her texting style.

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13 – DON’T BE BORING

Don’t bore her to death. I knew a really attractive girl and she had a crush on this guy that she worked with. And finally he asked for her number and she was all excited. And then the next day he sent her a text:

“Hey.” She immediately lost interest but she gave him the benefit of the doubt. And she sent a reply like, “Hey, what’s up?” And he wrote back “Not much, you?” And she told me that her attraction for him died after just two or three text messages.

Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your text short, like I said earlier, but I think you can be a little bit more original than “Hey” or “What’s up” or “What are you doing?” In fact, never send a one word text. You’re smarter than that. You’re more clever than that. I know you can come up with something better and if you’re struggling, you want to have your texts fun, flirty a little bit cheeky so that when she sees a text from you, she’s smiling and she’s enjoying it. And she’s looking forward to your next text.


And along with not boring her to death, is always use proper spelling and grammar. Unless of course you’re using the chameleon approach. Other than that, spell out your words. Don’t use a “u” to replace the word “you”, because that’s like texting like a 13 year old girl.

You’re better than that, man. If she sees all these cheesy abbreviations and you’re missing periods and you’re not capitalizing words and you’re misspelling words, what is she going to think about you?

All she knows about you are the words that you’re sending on the screen. You could be a freakin’ genius, but if you’re texting her like a little kid, she’s going to think that there’s not much up there next.

12 – GIRLS WILL FLAKE YOU AND GO COLD

Girls will flake. It’s just the way it is. And they will go cold sometimes. And I know how frustrating it is. You really like this girl. She’s so pretty. And then you don’t hear back from her. And I know what it’s like, man. It sucks.

You meet a girl. Maybe you approach the girl you got out of your comfort zone. You risked embarrassment. You had this great interaction. You felt the sparks flying and then she doesn’t reply to your first text. Or maybe she does reply.. You have a little exchange back and forth. And then all of a sudden.. Where the heck did she go? She’s gone.

And so you text her again, no reply. And then maybe even texts her a third or fourth. Hopefully not a fifth and sixth time. Cause chances are, she’s not going to reply. You got to understand, man. It’s just the way it is. Sometimes women are not going to text you back.

Oftentimes they actually do it as a test. They want to see, are you really as cool as you seem or are you going to get all butthurt and all worried and freak out when she doesn’t text you back for a day?

Because trust me, man, some guys freak out just because the girl didn’t text him back. He sends text after text, after text, “What happened?” “What did I say wrong?” “What are you doing?” He goes through all these emotions. Then he starts getting mad at her.

Don’t be that guy. She wants to make sure that you’re a cool grounded man. That just because she doesn’t text you back or she texts you the wrong thing or she says no, the first time you ask her on a date or she even flakes on the date, that you’re not going to freak out that you are a calm grounded man.

Think about it.. If you freak out just because she doesn’t text you back, it means you only have one option that you’re putting all your eggs in her basket and that you really, really, really like her. That’s why you’re so mad that she’s not reciprocating that attraction back, which is basically the definition of needy.

It means you have no options.

So you need her and you’re latching onto her and freaking out when it doesn’t work out. So what if one or two fall off the radar? You have other options. And if you don’t have other options right now, ask yourself, “Why not?” Is it because you’re struggling with meeting women and approaching women in real life?

If that’s the case, man, we can help you out. We have all sorts of boot camps all around the world where we take guys in the field and show them exactly how to walk up and approach beautiful women in a way that is confident, smooth, and a way that women absolutely adore.

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11 – SENDING NAUGHTY TEXTS TOO SOON

Oh, man.. we’ve all done this one; Sending sexual texts too soon. Now this could be high risk high reward in that – If she reciprocates the sexuality, then hey, it’s game on.

But it’s risky, man, because there’s no body language or tonality through texting a woman, she can easily misinterpret whatever sexual innuendo or sexually charged texts that you sent her wrong way. And it can just totally creep her out unless you do it the right way.

If you want to get her all hot and bothered, whether you just met her or you’ve been texting her for a long time – do it in a way that’s very safe so that she won’t think that you’re a freak or a creep because you’re going to use the same seductive language that women absolutely devour in romance novels.

Now in today’s day and age, it seems like nobody talks on the phone anymore, right? Everybody’s texting, which is why you need to get her on the phone because it will set you apart from all the other guys that are texting her.

Think about it. She’s texting 20 other guys. And honestly, if she’s an attractive woman, that might be the case, but the only guy she actually had a real on-the-phone conversation with is you, who do you think she’s going to want to go on a date with? Who’s she going to feel more comfortable with, who is she going to feel like she knows better?

Because she’s going to hear your tonality. She’s going to be able to sense your vibe and what kind of guy you are just from a short phone conversation. Texting, which is just words, accounts for only about 7% of communication. The rest is body language and tonality.

Once you have a short conversation with her on the phone, she’s more likely to say yes to you because she’ll feel like she just has a better sense of who you are as long as the phone conversation was pretty good. If you get on there and you’re all nervous and you don’t know what to say, and there’s all these awkward silences then yeah, you’re pretty much just shooting yourself in the foot.

Also, you need to set up the phone call the right way. You cannot just call her out of the blue nowadays. So I created an entire video that shows you exactly how to call girls in today’s day and age. You can check that out in the video below or HERE.

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Make sure to watch it, man, because if you can master calling women on the phone nowadays, you have a huge advantage.

10 – SEND HER COOL AND AMAZING PICTURES

They say a picture is a thousand words because you can only convey so much emotion or spark so much emotion in her through words, but with a picture you can do a whole lot more.

For example, when texting a woman, you can show her what you’re doing that day. You can give her a little insight into your life. Some of your passions, or if you’re into working out, you can send her a picture when you’re all pumped up at the gym that might even turn her on a little bit.

Don’t look like you’re bragging, man. Bragging is never a turn on.

One way that I like to do it is by using a cliffhanger text, which is just the text that implies there’s more to the text and it kind of leaves her hanging, right? Like you’re hanging off the end of the cliff, get it? Cliffhanger.

For example, “You know what kind of animal you remind me of?” “…” She will always respond to that. Cause she wants to know. And then I just sent her a picture of the animal and she’ll be like, “Oh, it’s so cute!”

9 – GO FOR THE DATE ON A HIGH NOTE

Next I recommend that you always go for the date on a high note. What that means is that anytime you escalate, the interaction escalates just means you’re going to the next level going for the first date is the next level in the interaction.

If you do it at a low note, for example, just out of the blue, you don’t know what kind of emotional state she’s in. She could have had a horrible day and then you text her, “Hey, let’s hang out.” And by the way, never text her “let’s hang out,” have an actual plan.

But if you go for it while she’s not in a great mood, she’s likely to say no, but if you’ve been texting back and forth and you’ve been using some of the texts out of my Texting Cheat Sheet and she’s laughing and she’s loving the back and forth texting exchange, and then you go for a date on a high note, she’s a lot more likely to say yes to the date.


8 – END THE BACK AND FORTH FIRST

What that means is if you’re texting a woman back and forth, like you’re kind of having a conversation. You know, she texts you back. You text her back every couple minutes, ping-pong back and forth.

YOU end it first. Why? Because you’re a busy guy. And I don’t mean just pretend you’re a busy guy that you got to go and you have nothing to do. Actually have a life, have to do you, man. You don’t have time to send her 50 text messages back and forth. So after a few back and forth, end it first, just tell her what you got to do.

“Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll text you later.” Or “Hey, I just got to the gym. I’ll call you at eight. Will you be free?” And then set up a phone call. If she’s constantly the one that ends the texting conversation, it’s putting her in charge. It’s putting her in the lead and it seems like you have nothing better to do.

Like she’s the busy one and you’re the one chasing her. Now, if you can’t end it first, she tells you she’s got to go. No big deal. It’s not the end of the world. Don’t freak out just as a general rule. Try to end the interaction first. And the easiest way to do that is just have a busy life.

7 – GHOST HER / GIVE HER SOME SPACE

Next is kind of on the same token, but a little bit different. It can come off a little manipulative, but this not what I’m intending. Hopefully you don’t take this the wrong way..

You can ghost her.

Now let me back up. I don’t mean completely ghost her and you disappear forever. What would be the point of that? Don’t do that. What I mean is just give some space in the interaction.

If you, on average, text her every day, then stop texting her for a day or two. If you on average text her every other day then stop texting her for like three, four, five days. This is really going to make her think about you.

Assuming she likes you, she’s going to be wondering what’s going on. “Why isn’t he texting me back?” And she’s going to be thinking about you a lot.

People actually fall in love with one another not while they’re together necessarily, but when they are apart, when they’re thinking about the other person.

Don’t do this as a manipulative tactic. Just do this as a way to give your relationship, your newly found relationship, probably – some space. Just to see what happens. Does she text you after a day and just notice, maybe she’ll become the one that texts you back first. And if she doesn’t text you first, no big deal. Just restart the texting conversation.

You can chastise me all you want, but this technique flat out works for texting a woman. And I don’t want you to do it like, “Okay, I’m going to stop texting her.” I just want you to be busy. Don’t make texting a woman your number one priority. Go do something. Go camping for a couple of days, go on a weekend trip with your family. Again. What it all comes down to is being a guy with purpose. A guy who’s on his mission in life.

He’s got sh*t going on besides texting one particular girl that he just met. I’m not saying you should do this to your wife or girlfriend. No, I’m talking about a girl that you just met or maybe you’ve only been on one or two dates with her. It’s very early in the relationship. This can even sometimes speed the relationship up to the next level.

6 – BE PERSISTENT

Now this has all happened to us. We’ve all had women I assume that have ghosted us or just started going cold and didn’t text back. The key is to be persistent, man.

Keep the texting a woman fun and playful. Like I said earlier, don’t freak out. Don’t start giving her a bunch of sh*t just because she didn’t reply back. Or even if she doesn’t say yes to the date right away, don’t get all needy and give her ultimatums. In fact, I just had a client who was texting his girl that he really, really liked.

He was using word for word, text messages from Turn Her On Through Text. So the interaction was going awesome. She was texting him first. She seemed really excited to text and to eventually see him.

But when he asked her out, she said she was busy that weekend. And so instead of just being a cool guy and saying, “Okay, no big deal.” and keep texting and then try to go for a date next weekend, he got all affected and he sent something like, “Look, I don’t want to play games with you. I like you. If you don’t want to see me, then let’s just stop talking to each other!

Don’t do that, man. Just be persistent. Nothing’s a big deal. Just try again. In fact, even if she stops texting you, don’t just give up just because she didn’t reply to your last texts.

Maybe she’s busy. Maybe she forgot. Maybe she’s texting other guys. That’s pretty likely, but guess what? Those other guys will likely shoot themselves in their foot. Don’t do that to yourself. Just be persistent. Wait a couple of days and try again.

The next couple of tips are really juicy, man. So pay attention, take good notes.

5 – GET HER SOCIAL MEDIA

Nowadays, man, I highly recommend you get her on social media if you’re texting a woman. If you don’t have social media, it’s not the end of the world. I get it, man.

It’s addictive. And maybe you want to go down that rabbit hole. Cool. But if you got Facebook, Tinder or Snapchat, or if you’re watching this someday in the future, whatever is next, make sure to use it because you can stay on her radar a lot more.

One time I met this girl exchanged numbers and I hadn’t gone back to that city and hit her up for four years because I was in a relationship. And when my relationship ended, I went back to that city and a girl was really pretty. So I hit her up and guess what? When we met up for the date, she was like, “Wow, I’ve seen all your traveling. I know you went here and you did this..” It was surprising she knew everything that happened in the last four years because she was following me on Facebook.

Now imagine she wasn’t following me on Facebook. I only had her phone number and then I texted her four years later. She’d be like, “Oh, why is this guy texting me? I barely remember him.” So again, it goes back to having a cool life. If you have a cool life, post your pictures on social media and then every girl you meet, add them to your social media.

You can just text them on social media. However, when I meet a woman in person, I first get her social media. I use what’s called a “yes ladder.” I say, Hey, do you have social media at sea? She says, yes. I say, cool Instagram. She says, yes, that’s two yeses. Then I say, cool, write it down here. And she writes it in the contact app on my phone. And then after she’s done writing her Instagram handle, I say, cool, write your phone number as well.

And they usually say yes, because I’m starting with a small yes and I’m building up to a bigger yes. Hence the name “Yes ladder.” And the reason I get both is because I’d rather text her through standard SMS texting because chances are, she doesn’t have as many guys hitting her up using her phone number on standard SMS.

And if she has a public social media profile, then chances are, she has a lot of guys hitting her up if she’s a really attractive woman. So when you first meet her, get her phone number and her social media, make sure of course she’s following you. Then you have the best of both worlds.

4 & 3 – GO FOR THE DATE QUICKLY + MAKE YOUR MOVE

Next is one of the biggest mistakes I see when I’m working with a client one-on-one or in a bootcamp with regard to texting a woman. And I look at their phone, I’m looking at their texting conversations. I’m scrolling like this, I see all this back and forth.

And it’s usually pretty good because they’re using texts from Turn Her On Through Text, but they’re not asking her out. And one time I spoke at an event that had a lot of women in the audience and I asked the women, what’s the biggest challenge or gripe that you have towards men when it comes to dating.

They were all in consensus that they were frustrated that men don’t make the move. And they specifically said during the texting interaction, they’re texting back and forth and the girls are frustrated because the guy never asks them out or he just waits too long..

I know we live in a modern feminized world where women want to be just as equal as men. And you know, women should be asking out men, but quite frankly, women are still feminine and they want a man to be a man and take the lead and take charge and ask her out.

Stop waiting for her to ask you out because it’s probably not going to happen. So use those text messages and go for a date quicker rather than later. And if she says, no, remember: be persistent. It’s no big deal. Keep texting back and forth and try again. Now there is a fine line of being persistent versus being overly eager or needy. And it really just takes practice finding where that fine line meets.

If you’re unsure, veer on the side of not over texting a woman.

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2 – USE THE YES LADDER

The “Yes ladder” technique is a way to kind of program somebody’s brain. You get them saying small yeses before you go for the big yes.

Smart salespeople use this technique all the time. Instead of saying, “Would you like to buy this car?” They go for a smaller yes like, “Do you like this car?” “What do you like about the car?” “Would you like to drive the car?”

So you can use the same principle when it comes texting a woman and going for a date, instead of just saying, “Hey, would you like to go out with me sometime?” – Nothing wrong with that, but it’s kind of generic and it’s going for a big, yes. Instead say something like, “Do you like ice cream?” She’ll probably say yes.

Then as long as she’s not new in town, you can ask her if she knows of a specific, popular ice cream shop, like “Have you ever been to frosted cones on Elm street?” And she’ll say, yes, I love that place. And then it leads you right into asking her out.

Now you have to make sure you ask her out the right way. Not like, “Hey, want to hang out sometime??!” you gotta ask her out like a man, give her some options. And I show you some really effective word for word, texting examples in Turn Her On Through Text and in the Free Texting Cheat Sheet.


1 – NO UNSOLICITED PICTURES OF YOUR JUNK

Rule number onefor texting a woman: please, guys. No unsolicited pictures of your junk.

If she asks for it.. FINE. I’ve had a few girls ask. I usually send them kind of teasing pictures. I don’t show them the whole thing. I’m not going to give you examples. Don’t worry, but don’t just send her a Dick pic out of the blue.

I’m pretty sure that has never worked in the history of texting. Actually, it probably has worked, but it’s just way too high risk high reward.

Don’t do it. It’s gross. It’s kind of like going up to every girl at the bar and saying, “Hey, let’s go have sex.” It’s all just a numbers game at that point.

Instead, have some skills when it comes to texting.

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That’s all for now, man! Make sure to check our content if you’re looking for more ways to master texting a woman you like.

Keep up the great work, and stay awesome.

Cheers for now,

Matt

best messages that get a reply

Best Messages That Get a Reply

I get it man! It flat out sucks! Texting with a hottie and she seems super on and then bam! She doesn’t text you back. (Makes you wonder – What are the best messages that get a reply?)

You start freaking out and start over analyzing  – What the heck did you do wrong in the last text? No period?? That’s probably why? Nah. What was it?

Look man, I know how aggravating it must be when a girl you really like doesn’t text you back, so in this video I show you exactly what to text her when she doesn’t reply back to reignite that smoking hot flame of desire and get her eagerly texting you back.

I’m giving you 5 texts that you can send her when she doesn’t reply that will get her texting back.


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Best Messages That Get a Reply

Before we dive right in you need to understand why women wouldn’t text back.. Remember men, if she’s a beautiful woman she probably had a lot of other guys texting her and buying for her attention so just because she doesn’t text back doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you it just means she has a lot of options.. which is why you need to watch my other videos on how to text girls so that you’ll be in the situation where you’ll be the one getting a date with her instead of her ghosting you.

Also just remember man that people seem to be busier nowadays than ever and there’s so many distractions – so maybe she had every intention to text you back but NOT instantly. That’s even if you’ve used this, the best messages that get a reply.

One time I was in with my ex girlfriend and her best friend suddenly texts, she had every intention to text back a little later because our group was busy at the time. But she just forgot it! Took her over a week to finally text her best friend back.

A lot of times what happens is the girl actually likes the guy but he just forgets to text them back and then he gets all aggravated and pissed off and end up sending a pissed off text message.

Don’t do that. First impressions matter – they last, and they can make or break all the attraction and potential attraction you may have.

Number 5 – Any Random/Funny text

So number 5 is basically just enter any kind of out of the blue random text. I don’t mean like “Hey how’s your day going!” or “Hey what’s up!”.. I mean something cheeky funny or witty. I prefer a role play such as “Hey I’m bored lets rob a bank!”

It’s all so random she just feels compelled to write back thinking like “Is he serious?” I’m pretty sure its not serious and sometimes she’ll just go along. If one time they say “sure I’m in!” and you just keep the role play going great. Like a funny scenario about how you both go shopping for ski masks together, something you pick up the pink one for her if I could take it so far. I use it as a way to meet up with her and I told her to meet me at the bar that’s across the street from the bank of America so we can plan our heist. It was great because when she showed up we only had this kind of Bonnie and Clyde vibe going on.

Number 4 – Cliffhanger Text

Number 4 is the cliffhanger text which is kinda like a sentence that’s incomplete and she really wants to know what you’re going to say next. For example, “You know what I like about you?” then “…” 

IF she does reply back you can always say “You like the play hard to get”. If you haven’t been replying back lately for another good one is – “you know what I think about you?…” 

People love to know what others think about them. Maybe you’ve heard that everybody’s favorite subject is themselves? What people love more than actually talking about themselves is hearing about themselves.

Another good one is –  “Would you like to hear a secret?…” I’m actually using this one as my tinder openers and they almost always reply with something like “yeah sure what is it?” and I say “I kinda have a crush on this girl..” I describe her a little bit and say “shhh don’t tell her” and almost always gets a laugh and of course a reply back.

Number 3 – Post Something Cool on Social Media

First of course the girl has to actually be following you on social media or it will not work. You can play the long game.. maybe she’s not texting you back right now but maybe she has a relationship now. You met her, she’s into you but for whatever reason she just didn’t meet up with you maybe she was already kind of more involved with another guy – then that relationship turned sour and she’s single again.

That’s why this makes part of the best messages to get a reply, even when its not simply just a message.

Even when she was in a relationship she might still look at your post on social media so as long as you’re posting interesting things.. things that are more interesting than the food you’re eating! Like traveling or just hanging out with friends and she sees that you have a relatively interesting life. All she has to do is reply to one of your stories or one of your posts and boom you’re back in the game this can also make her see that you’re not just sitting around and waiting for her to text you back she, sees that you’re going out with friends are doing things you’re living your life that.

Oftentimes a girl just randomly hit me up and replied to my stories after I post something cool on my Instagram.


Number 2 – Call it Out in a Funny Way

Word of warning I only recommend doing this after you sent either a random text or cliffhanger text.. and she didn’t reply back.

Wait a few days.. and then text something funny to call out the situation. Here’s one my favorites – “Amber alert – says the hot nerd who I’m going to school in Pool is missing, text me if you see her”.

The key is to be descriptive and customize it to her and that way.

You have to do it in a silly funny way like I said earlier. The best messages that get a reply won’t work IF you seem upset about it you’re gonna shoot yourself in the foot. She’s gonna think you’re needy. She’s gonna think you have 0 other options and she’s going to lose attraction for you.

Number 1 – These 4 words:

Here’s a text that can actually work. It’s very simple. 4 words – “Are you still alive?”

The reason this works is because after she hasn’t replied to 2 or 3 or more of your texts back to back it looks kind of needy because you’re giving to her and you’re not getting anything in return. So this text kinda presupposes that a word about her and beat them up doesn’t make sense that women wouldn’t text amazing awesome guy like yourself back.. so maybe something bad happened to her and you just checking it.

I got several women who didn’t reply to my past previous text messages over the past week or two to reply to this text. Yep sometimes that reply is “Oh sorry I’m in a relationship now” but a few times it rekindled the interaction.

The point is don’t be caught up on just one girl or 2 girls that you’re texting.. do you really want a girl you’re trying so hard to attract and she keeps running the other direction? You want to give and take. You don’t wanna be the one chasing, chasing, chasing.. she’s running, running, running.. 

You want to be a man that has some options.

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How to Call a Girl this 2020 | Calling and Messaging Advice

Do you know how to call a girl this 2020? Or maybe the big question from you is should you call girls on the phone nowadays when it seems like all anyone wants to do it text?

What about video calls and voice messages? Well You probably feel like you don’t know what to say on the phone so why not just stick to texting?

Well calling can give you a huge advantage over all the other guys texting her and believe me if she’s an attractive woman then she has a lot of guys texting her. And if you call her you can be the one who she wants to see again IF you do it the right way, and I’m going to show you exactly how to make her eager for your call and actually pick up the phone when you call and get a date with her in under 5 minutes:

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HOW TO CALL A GIRL
Messaging and Call Advice

So you have a girl’s number. Or you have her social media. You’re going to try to message her on FaceBook or Instagram, or Twitter, or whatever platform.

Or maybe just plain old texting a girl. What do you do next? You might be thinking and asking yourself tons of questions after that. When do I send the first text? What’s a good first text to send? How often should I text her? WHAT should I text a girl? How soon should I ask her out?


Or what if these kinds of questions popped out instead.. Should I call her? Should I call or text her? Should you call or text women during these times? Will a call help? Will she answer my call?

Don’t worry, The Attractive Man team is here to help out. He’ll show you the answer to whether or not you should text her or call her. He’ll also show you how to call a girl, how to text a girl, in order to NOT creep her out and spark attraction.

You see, the key is to remain calm, be masculine, assertive, and NOT needy or questionable. We’ll show you how to remain grounded in your texts and how to show you are alpha in your replies.

We’ll also show you how to master your manly voice, the alpha tone, during calls and how to establish your masculinity and confidence through calling. How to talk to a girl, in a way that will turn her on. How to keep a conversation going, how to never run out of things to say. And most importantly, how to set up a date. Sometimes men rely too much on messaging and texting when what they should do is establish a way to meet up and talk to each other face to face.

Now that may be different during the pandemic and during times of quarantine. Matt makes sure to address that as well. This is also important – So what if she doesn’t respond? What if she won’t answer the call? Keep cool and analyze the situation.

It’s not the end of the world man! Don’t send another text, don’t make that call. Not UNTIL you see this.

Sending the wrong texts can remove your chances at ever seeing her again. I don’t want you missing out on what should already be yours.

Calling her at the wrong time or the wrong way does the same thing. Having a great start to a texting conversation is crucial to building trust.

Knowing how to text her the right way, especially in how to send the first text, will make or break your date night. The same is true and is even more effective when you call a girl. Know more on how to text a girl to get a date in our other videos! Make sure to stay tuned for more tips on how to text a girl, how to get her number, and how to get a date on The Attractive Man channel!

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What to Text a Girl You Like (How to Text a Girl)

You’ve got her phone number; now what do you do? Well, in this video I’ll break down exactly what to text a girl you like to get a date fast. Because I typically send only three to five text messages to get a date. I’ll show you how to text a girl and I’ll give you those exact messages in just a second.

The key is that you have to stand out from all of the other guys that are messaging her. Because if she’s an attractive woman, then she’s getting bombarded by guys messaging her every single day. I’m going to show you exactly how to stand out.

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WHAT TO TEXT A GIRL YOU LIKE
(How to Text a Girl)

 

Okay, now let me help you out with your texting. I’m going to give you five texting tips and examples. And number five is the exact sequence that I use to get the date.

First, let’s clear one thing right now. Texting is a lot easier when you have a solid interaction in person. If you didn’t create any connection or attraction and you just had a nice, plutonic interaction, there’s not much you can do through texting to fix that.

Assuming you had an excellent face-to-face interaction, or maybe you got her phone number of Tinder, or Bumble, tip number one has to do with timing. Timing is crucial.

 

#1

Don’t text too soon or too late!

Typical Guy Tips:
Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious, but I think three days is kind of money.
You know what? Maybe I’ll wait three weeks.

Wrong.

Don’t wait too long! If you meet a girl at a bar text her the next day, in the afternoon, because if you wait longer than that, the memories start to fade.

Women are being bombarded by messages from guys on Tinder and social media, so if you wait too long, she may already be into another guy.

I only text her the same night if I think there’s a chance that she might come over that night. I will text her what I’m doing. For example, “Went to go grab a pizza to kill the hangover,” or “Milkshakes at 2:00 AM rock!”

And if she replies, and says, “Mmm, I wish I could have a milkshake,” then, of course, I’m going to invite her. This works, because sometimes she just needed to drop off her friends then she’s willing to meet up alone.

If you meet a girl during the day, don’t wait more than 3 or 4 hours to send your first text, unless you had a really long or intimate interaction, which I’ll show you how to do, then you might still be on her mind the next day. But during the day I usually text her around 3 or 4 hours after I met her.

Now, what about replying to her texts?

How soon should you text back? The key here is to be random. Don’t always text back right away and don’t always wait too long.

Don’t just stop whatever you’re doing to check your phone and text her back. Keep your phone on silent. That way … Sometimes you’re going to text back right away. Sometimes you’re going to wait two or three hours. Sometimes you’re going to be waiting even longer, maybe all day, because you’re busy.

That keeps things a lot more random and prevents you from overthinking things and playing games. Just be a busy guy. Live a cool life. And text her randomly, because she is not the most essential thing in your life.

 

#2

Don’t over text.

The goal of texting is to get the date, not text all the time. When I’m coaching guys and look at their text, I see 20 or 30, text messages back and forth and they never asked her out. Don’t do that. Go for the date.

I go for the date usually within five texts, because why do more work than needed? Plus, if you’re texting her all the time, it shows her that you’re not a busy guy and don’t have much going on in your life. Women like guys that have other things going on in their life other than them.

Also, keep your texts short and sweet. Before you send the text, look through it again and see if there are any unnecessary words that you can eliminate. Don’t send a text that’s three or four sentences when you could have said the same thing with just one sentence.

 

#3

Be Playful!

Next, I want you to start being slightly more playful in your texts. Here’s why. If she sees you as a fun, playful guy, then she will assume that going on a date with you will also be fun and not dull.

But if you’re sending her a bunch of boring texts, like, “Hey, what’s up? What are you doing?” She’s going to assume that going on a date with you is going to be boring and that you are going just to ask her a bunch of annoying questions on the date.

Make things a little bit more interesting than the average guy. For example, instead of saying, “What’s up?”, or “What are you doing?” you could say, “What kind of trouble are you getting into this weekend?

Just adding the word trouble makes it a little bit more interesting. Instead of sending a ping text like, “Hey!” you could say something like, “Hey, you just popped into my head. What kind of weird voodoo magic are you using?” A text like that can actually make her smile, causing her to associate you with positive emotions. Whereas, “Hey!” doesn’t do anything. And there are a lot more examples of these in the free texting cheat sheet.

 


#4

Text Like A MAN!

Number four is Text like a man. What I mean by that is cut out unnecessary questions. Okay, sometimes you do want to ask her questions.

I like exciting questions, by the way, like, “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?” Or, “If you could have any superpower, what would you have and why?

That can create some fun back and forth. But you want to avoid questions that make it seem like you’re not sure if she’s into you yet, or you’re not sure if she wants to hang out with you and use command statements instead. Instead of texting, “Want to meet up sometime?” say, “Hey! Let’s meet up Saturday night. I know this great place.

This shows that you assume that she’s attracted to you and wants to see you. And be more specific about when you want to hang out. Women like a man with a plan. So instead of “Let’s hang out sometime.” Send, “Hey, let’s hang out tomorrow night. I have an amusing idea…“. Or, tell her the exact location, “Cancel all plans tomorrow night. I know a great band that’s playing at Crazy Charlie’s. Let’s go. It’s gonna be fun.” It’s specific, and it’s a command instead of a question.

Now, I want to give you the exact sequence that I use, from start to finish, to go for a date. First, I start off with a callback, something that relates or calls back to the initial interaction.

If it was at night, then usually something funny, that we joked about, or that I teased her about. For example, if we did a fun marriage role play, I might text her the next day “Hey wifey I cheated on you with the housekeeper don’t be mad.”

If we met during the day, then I might recall something that happened during the initial interaction such as her reaction to my approach.

For example, “So crazy meeting you today. It was cute how you dropped your phone when I said hi.” Or, if she didn’t drop her phone, but she just seemed nervous, I might say, “It was cute how nervous you got when I said hi.”

Notice also, how I don’t say “nice meeting you” because the word “nice” is too overused. Be more original than that and say, “so random meeting you,” or, “so unexpected meeting you.”

And then, after she replies, send a fun yet challenging text like, “Make it or break it question. Would you rather be poor and travel the world or be rich but could never leave your city?” I use this one because I love to travel. I encourage you to pick something that qualifies her or screens her based on a quality that you that you want in a woman.

But don’t make it too complicated. Don’t start asking her about her passions and goals in life. That’s too long and personal through text. Keep it fun and save those questions that for the date.

 

#5

Qualify Her.

By the way, you should be qualifying and challenging women in your initial interactions as well. Let them win you over. A woman wants to win you over. She wants to chase you a little bit. Okay? She doesn’t want a guy who’s just too easy and falls head over heels over her right away.

And I like the “make it or break it” part because that’s what actually makes it sound like a challenge. Or, for example, you if you like adventurous women, you can text, “Tell me this, are you adventurous?

It’s short and sweet and causes her to invest a little. And then after she replies to that, there might be a little bit of back and forth, depending on her answer. Then find out what her schedule is, when is she free. Just ask, “When are you free this week?”

Or if you want to be more playful, you could add in, “Besides missing and doodling hearts on a piece of paper, what are you doing this weekend?

Remember to keep it fun and playful. Don’t be too serious. And then, just go for the date. For example, if she said she’s free on Sunday, you can text,

Okay, listen. I have a super fun idea. Keep Sunday night open.” I like that because it gets her wondering what the fun idea is. It sounds like a surprise.

And, some women will just go for that. Other women might ask, “What is the fun idea?” In which I just say, “Cool bar that you probably haven’t been to. First, meet at Handle Bar. Be there at 8:00 PM.”

That works really well. Try it out, man. Remember, women like a man with a plan who go for what they want.

 

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