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What to Text a Girl You Like (How to Text a Girl)

You’ve got her phone number; now what do you do? Well, in this video I’ll break down exactly what to text a girl you like to get a date fast. Because I typically send only three to five text messages to get a date. I’ll show you how to text a girl and I’ll give you those exact messages in just a second.

The key is that you have to stand out from all of the other guys that are messaging her. Because if she’s an attractive woman, then she’s getting bombarded by guys messaging her every single day. I’m going to show you exactly how to stand out.

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WHAT TO TEXT A GIRL YOU LIKE
(How to Text a Girl)

 

Okay, now let me help you out with your texting. I’m going to give you five texting tips and examples. And number five is the exact sequence that I use to get the date.

First, let’s clear one thing right now. Texting is a lot easier when you have a solid interaction in person. If you didn’t create any connection or attraction and you just had a nice, plutonic interaction, there’s not much you can do through texting to fix that.

Assuming you had an excellent face-to-face interaction, or maybe you got her phone number of Tinder, or Bumble, tip number one has to do with timing. Timing is crucial.

 

#1

Don’t text too soon or too late!

Typical Guy Tips:
Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious, but I think three days is kind of money.
You know what? Maybe I’ll wait three weeks.

Wrong.

Don’t wait too long! If you meet a girl at a bar text her the next day, in the afternoon, because if you wait longer than that, the memories start to fade.

Women are being bombarded by messages from guys on Tinder and social media, so if you wait too long, she may already be into another guy.

I only text her the same night if I think there’s a chance that she might come over that night. I will text her what I’m doing. For example, “Went to go grab a pizza to kill the hangover,” or “Milkshakes at 2:00 AM rock!”

And if she replies, and says, “Mmm, I wish I could have a milkshake,” then, of course, I’m going to invite her. This works, because sometimes she just needed to drop off her friends then she’s willing to meet up alone.

If you meet a girl during the day, don’t wait more than 3 or 4 hours to send your first text, unless you had a really long or intimate interaction, which I’ll show you how to do, then you might still be on her mind the next day. But during the day I usually text her around 3 or 4 hours after I met her.

Now, what about replying to her texts?

How soon should you text back? The key here is to be random. Don’t always text back right away and don’t always wait too long.

Don’t just stop whatever you’re doing to check your phone and text her back. Keep your phone on silent. That way … Sometimes you’re going to text back right away. Sometimes you’re going to wait two or three hours. Sometimes you’re going to be waiting even longer, maybe all day, because you’re busy.

That keeps things a lot more random and prevents you from overthinking things and playing games. Just be a busy guy. Live a cool life. And text her randomly, because she is not the most essential thing in your life.

 

#2

Don’t over text.

The goal of texting is to get the date, not text all the time. When I’m coaching guys and look at their text, I see 20 or 30, text messages back and forth and they never asked her out. Don’t do that. Go for the date.

I go for the date usually within five texts, because why do more work than needed? Plus, if you’re texting her all the time, it shows her that you’re not a busy guy and don’t have much going on in your life. Women like guys that have other things going on in their life other than them.

Also, keep your texts short and sweet. Before you send the text, look through it again and see if there are any unnecessary words that you can eliminate. Don’t send a text that’s three or four sentences when you could have said the same thing with just one sentence.

 

#3

Be Playful!

Next, I want you to start being slightly more playful in your texts. Here’s why. If she sees you as a fun, playful guy, then she will assume that going on a date with you will also be fun and not dull.

But if you’re sending her a bunch of boring texts, like, “Hey, what’s up? What are you doing?” She’s going to assume that going on a date with you is going to be boring and that you are going just to ask her a bunch of annoying questions on the date.

Make things a little bit more interesting than the average guy. For example, instead of saying, “What’s up?”, or “What are you doing?” you could say, “What kind of trouble are you getting into this weekend?

Just adding the word trouble makes it a little bit more interesting. Instead of sending a ping text like, “Hey!” you could say something like, “Hey, you just popped into my head. What kind of weird voodoo magic are you using?” A text like that can actually make her smile, causing her to associate you with positive emotions. Whereas, “Hey!” doesn’t do anything. And there are a lot more examples of these in the free texting cheat sheet.

 


#4

Text Like A MAN!

Number four is Text like a man. What I mean by that is cut out unnecessary questions. Okay, sometimes you do want to ask her questions.

I like exciting questions, by the way, like, “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?” Or, “If you could have any superpower, what would you have and why?

That can create some fun back and forth. But you want to avoid questions that make it seem like you’re not sure if she’s into you yet, or you’re not sure if she wants to hang out with you and use command statements instead. Instead of texting, “Want to meet up sometime?” say, “Hey! Let’s meet up Saturday night. I know this great place.

This shows that you assume that she’s attracted to you and wants to see you. And be more specific about when you want to hang out. Women like a man with a plan. So instead of “Let’s hang out sometime.” Send, “Hey, let’s hang out tomorrow night. I have an amusing idea…“. Or, tell her the exact location, “Cancel all plans tomorrow night. I know a great band that’s playing at Crazy Charlie’s. Let’s go. It’s gonna be fun.” It’s specific, and it’s a command instead of a question.

Now, I want to give you the exact sequence that I use, from start to finish, to go for a date. First, I start off with a callback, something that relates or calls back to the initial interaction.

If it was at night, then usually something funny, that we joked about, or that I teased her about. For example, if we did a fun marriage role play, I might text her the next day “Hey wifey I cheated on you with the housekeeper don’t be mad.”

If we met during the day, then I might recall something that happened during the initial interaction such as her reaction to my approach.

For example, “So crazy meeting you today. It was cute how you dropped your phone when I said hi.” Or, if she didn’t drop her phone, but she just seemed nervous, I might say, “It was cute how nervous you got when I said hi.”

Notice also, how I don’t say “nice meeting you” because the word “nice” is too overused. Be more original than that and say, “so random meeting you,” or, “so unexpected meeting you.”

And then, after she replies, send a fun yet challenging text like, “Make it or break it question. Would you rather be poor and travel the world or be rich but could never leave your city?” I use this one because I love to travel. I encourage you to pick something that qualifies her or screens her based on a quality that you that you want in a woman.

But don’t make it too complicated. Don’t start asking her about her passions and goals in life. That’s too long and personal through text. Keep it fun and save those questions that for the date.

 

#5

Qualify Her.

By the way, you should be qualifying and challenging women in your initial interactions as well. Let them win you over. A woman wants to win you over. She wants to chase you a little bit. Okay? She doesn’t want a guy who’s just too easy and falls head over heels over her right away.

And I like the “make it or break it” part because that’s what actually makes it sound like a challenge. Or, for example, you if you like adventurous women, you can text, “Tell me this, are you adventurous?

It’s short and sweet and causes her to invest a little. And then after she replies to that, there might be a little bit of back and forth, depending on her answer. Then find out what her schedule is, when is she free. Just ask, “When are you free this week?”

Or if you want to be more playful, you could add in, “Besides missing and doodling hearts on a piece of paper, what are you doing this weekend?

Remember to keep it fun and playful. Don’t be too serious. And then, just go for the date. For example, if she said she’s free on Sunday, you can text,

Okay, listen. I have a super fun idea. Keep Sunday night open.” I like that because it gets her wondering what the fun idea is. It sounds like a surprise.

And, some women will just go for that. Other women might ask, “What is the fun idea?” In which I just say, “Cool bar that you probably haven’t been to. First, meet at Handle Bar. Be there at 8:00 PM.”

That works really well. Try it out, man. Remember, women like a man with a plan who go for what they want.

 

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In there, I’ll show you what to text when she’s not responding. And I’ll show you what to text to turn her on.

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Here’s What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her…

Now that you have her number, do you know THE BEST WAY to text her and get a date?

In this video, Nicole reveals how girls actually want you to ask them out on a date.

She’ll also reveal some huge mistakes guys make when it comes to texting.

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WING GIRL WISDOM:

What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her

Hey, it’s Nicole with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to reveal how a girl ACTUALLY wants you to text her and ask her out.  I’m going to be telling you all the do’s and don’ts of texting a girl those first few times after you’ve gotten her number to make sure you don’t send her running away and so you can actually get a date fast.

I’m gonna show you some real-life examples of texts I’ve received and then break them down for you based on the good, AND the bad. Then at the very end, I’ll tell you the absolute BEST way to secure a date!

 

What Kind of Texts Do Girls HATE?!

I’m gonna show you a few texts that were big fails, so you don’t make the same mistake…

#3. The drunk text/the pointless text

This guy did both, All in one text. A guy’s FIRST text to me was at 4 in the morning. On a Sunday night. And it was nonsense. Just an emoji next to a random letter. Not only was this text completely pointless, but it also woke me up at 4 in the morning. Meaningless texts that say nothing are a waste of everyone’s time and make you seem like you’re not very interesting.

#2. The texts that will get you destroyed in her group texts

These can include anything from excessive emoji/meme usage (are you 12?!) to horrible grammar/spelling, to inappropriate messages or pictures. If your first text to girl includes bad spelling and 15 emojis, it doesn’t matter if you told her she’s the most gorgeous girl in the history of the earth, she’s going to think you’re an idiot.

That might be harsh, but it’s true. And inappropriate texts are not ok when trying to get the first date. You’re going to make her feel creeped out, and she’s not going to give you the time of day. It’s the biggest turn-off. No girl wants this. Look, it’s great you think we’re attractive! And we love to hear it! But just straight up asking for pics from someone that you literally met yesterday comes across as super creepy.

Pro tip: If you really want to see us that bad, make actual plans to do so!

#1. The noncommittal text

If you want to see the biggest collective eye-roll from any group of girls, ask them how they feel about a guy sending the “we should hang out sometime” text.

“We should hang out sometime” translates to “I’m going to make as little effort as possible.” and isn’t going to lead to a date unless that girl is REALLY desperate. Plan a freaking date! A lot of guys seem to have this idea that if you call it a “date” and actually suggest a day and time, it’s suddenly something serious. But any normal girl does NOT think that you’re imagining wedding bells because you called it a date.

If you can’t say anything more than “let’s hang out sometime” you’re going to lose her interest immediately. And let’s face it, there’s always the slight possibility that she may be just gave out her number to be nice. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she was just super drunk, or maybe she’s not in a place where she wants to date anyone. Being straightforward with your intentions will help weed those types of girls out, so you’re not wasting your time with someone who’s gonna flake anyway.

What Kind Of Texts Do Girls LOVE?!

Moving on to the things that WILL get you a date…

 #3. Unique compliments

It’s amazing how many guys actually forget to flirt via text or don’t know how to do it properly. Before asking her out, it can be a great buffer to send a few flirty texts. You can always send something a little cheesy like “it was great to meet you, I can’t wait to see your pretty face again” or “you’re so beautiful” but, while those are nice and flattering, it sounds like a cookie cutter compliment.

If there’s something specific about us that you liked or ANYthing we did or said that you thought was cute, tell us! Girls eat that shit up. (A guy pointed out how he thought I had a cute sneeze. No one is cute when they sneeze unless you’re a baby panda, but the fact that he said this was really endearing and cute.)

A unique comment or compliment about THAT girl specifically is not only a surefire way to let her know you’re interested, but it also shows that you paid attention to something other than her boobs when you met her, and that really matters!

#2. Actual plans

Okay, the flirting is going well, and you want to ask her out. Even if you left your balls at home that day and can’t bring yourself to call it a date, take control and make real plans with her. (A guy was asking me to drinks where he suggested a location and two-day options. He even picked a place close to me because he remembered I lived on the opposite side of town from him. Good stuff.)

Girls want a guy who is confident and is able to make decisions. If you’re wishy-washy or “I dunno, it’s up to you” then it seems like you’re not confident or not even that interested. Girls love a guy who can take charge and pursue them. Setting the day and location also gives you the freedom to choose a place where you’re in your own element and comfortable.


#1. What’s the number one way to stand outCALL THE GIRL!

I feel like this should come up in a big giant text when I say this!

So I’ve shown you a couple examples of guys who did everything right via text…great flirting, great decision making… but spoiler alert. I didn’t go out with any of them. Why may you ask? They lost out to the one guy who actually had the balls to CALL me to ask me out.

It wasn’t a long conversation; it was very concise “Hey, I really enjoyed meeting you this weekend and would like to see you again. Can I take you out tomorrow night?” He then told me there was a new restaurant he’d been wanting to try, so we should go there. I said yes in a heartbeat!

He displayed a level of confidence and courage that no one else did, without even having to come up with witty flirtatious texts and that was so incredibly attractive! Calling someone is nerve-wracking. Everyone knows that. But even if you hate talking on the phone, and even if SHE hates talking on the phone, or even if you barely had the chance to talk to her when you got her number, a quick call to set up a date will make you seem like you have your shit together and you will stand out every time.

Not all girls will actually answer the phone, especially if you didn’t get a chance to talk much when you met. But that’s okay! It’s totally fine to shoot her a text afterwards because it’s more about the ACT of you calling than the actual phone conversation itself. If she doesn’t answer, texting her after to say why you were calling is totally cool.

That gives her the option to return your call or just text back. If she doesn’t respond then, you’ll know that maybe she’s just not that into you.

Getting a girl’s number is just the first step. If you follow these do’s and don’ts, you’re sure to score an awesome date!


To help you out with what you need to say, I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

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And if you want us to show you how to meet women personallyclick here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call.

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How To Text a Girl

How To Text A Girl You Like – Texting Infographic

After sending thousands of text messages, we can tell you exactly how to text a girl you like.

You have her phone number, now what do you do?


What do you text so she wants to see you again?

And, how do you text her so you don’t sound like all the OTHER guys texting her?

FACT: If she is an attractive woman, she has other guys texting her.

If you send the same boring text messages that other guys are sending, she will dismiss you, stop responding, and completely lose interest.

So many guys mess up the texting interaction. It is a small, but CRUCIAL step in dating.  

To help you out, we created this fun and useful infographic that will guide you to get the date. But first, let me go over the ground rules for texting girls…

Ground Rules For What To Text A Girl…

  1. Keep Your Texts short and to the point.
  2. Text like a man, don’t be a wimp.
  3. If she’s not responding to your text messages, it’s probably because she wasn’t a strong connection in person.
  4. Don’t be boring. Keep your texts fun and playful.
  5. Don’t text her too often. Remember, you are a busy guy with things to do.
  6. You are the prize. Don’t put her on a pedestal.
  7. Girls will flake. Don’t let it affect you.
  8. Don’t send sexual text messages too early, unless you are advanced.
  9. Go for the date/hangout quickly. (As long as there was a connection)
  10. Remember, no pictures of your junk.

For more advice on seducing women through text, check out our program, Turn Her On Through Text.

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Are you struggling to get the date after you get her number?


Many guys have trouble knowing what to do after they get her number. Should you wait 3 days to text her? Should you text her right away? What if she doesn’t answer? We get these questions all the time and that is why we created a video giving you the answers to the most frequently asked texting questions.

In this video, we show you how to text a girl so you can get a date and more.

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