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How to Meet Girls in the Day [Cancun INFIELD VLOG]

Let’s face it… men RARELY APPROACH girls during the day! It’s usually about bars, clubs, or dating apps.

That’s EXACTLY why you should start meeting girls in the daytime – because there’s so little competition!

I’ll show you why and how we approach women during the day while on our boot camp in Cancun, Mexico. You’ll also get to see some footage of our students in action:

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Where to meet girls – The 12 BEST places to meet women

Tired of frequenting bars and clubs and competing with other guys for women? Want to know where to meet girls where there’s little to no competition whatsoever?! This video is for you.

I’ll show you where to meet women with the best possible chance to pick them up!

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Where To Meet Girls

Look, man, most guys are doing this dating thing all wrong. Someone once told me, if you wanted to sell a book, the hardest place to sell it is a bookstore. Why? Because you are competing with all the other books. I don’t know if that’s true, but it’s definitely true when it comes to dating. If you go to bars, clubs or searching online then you are competing with every other guy there.

Instead, make meeting women a whole lot easier by going to where there’s little to no competition.

What’s your type of woman?

Listen, Most guys do the shotgun approach to dating and as a result, they are going for women that they aren’t even compatible with. Hear me out, if you ask any successful business how they find customers they do it a very specific way so they can target the demographic that is most likely to be compatible and want to buy their product. You need to view dating the exact same way. And if you do this you’ll start meeting and dating the women that you actually want. Then you’ll be ready to approach a girl and spark that attraction.

So what is your target demographic? Do you need to have a clear picture as to what TYPE of women you want to date? For example, you probably shouldn’t go looking for women in bars and clubs if you’re not even into party girls.

So first ask yourself these questions:

  • What age range should she be?
  • Do you want a party animal or a girl that keeps it classy? Or maybe a bit of both
  • Do you want an active girl that plays sports?
  • What level of education should she have?
  • Are you a health nut? Perhaps she should be too.
  • Do you want her to be ambitious and driven?

Understanding the qualities of your ideal girl will help you find where she hangs out. That being said, some of the following locations will appeal to you while others will not.


But before I give you the list of my favorite places, you need to know this: One of the biggest logistical factors to help you meet more women is to Optimize Your Lifestyle.

Purposefully live in neighborhoods filled with the women you’d like to meet. This way, you’ll see them more often in your everyday life. This will drastically improve the number of women you’ll meet. 



The 12 Best Places To Meet Women

Yoga classes and festivals

Especially good if you love athletic and flexible girls and who doesn’t like that. Usually, these girls are really into health, nature, energy work like tantra, chakra clearing, and different forms of self-development.

Bars, clubs, and lounges

Make sure that you go to venues that you enjoy instead of going to ones that you don’t like just because there are more cute girls. Because you will do better if you are enjoying yourself.

The Dog Park

Have a dog? Then go here. Approaching her will be much easier because you immediately have something in common.

One of my favorite openers for a girl with a dog that I got from my good friend Vince Kelvin is “Hey what a cute owner you have!”

Health Food Store

Do you buy groceries? Well, she probably does too, especially if she is health conscious. Try Whole Foods. In my experience, a health food store has a lot more pretty girls than Walmart or Piggly Wiggly. 

Coffee Shops

Do you like to read or work on your laptop? Well, head over to a popular coffee shop. For some reason, hot women love Starbucks. It’s kind of a trend.

Hang out for a couple hours, sit where all the people pass by, and wait until you see a lady you’d like to meet.

If she’s busy reading or working, make sure to acknowledge what she’s doing, “Hey, I see you’re reading. but I wanted to come over real quick and say ‘hi.”

The Gym

Beautiful women usually work out so find the gym where all the girls attend. Keep in mind at the gym they are not there to chit chat so keep it short and sweet.

Use our simple “Compliment, Qualify, Close” process to make her deeply attracted to you in under 3 minutes.

Cooking Class

Yup, most cooking classes are FILLED with ONLY women. The best case scenario is when women outnumber men because they’ll fight over you.

Music Festivals or Concerts

If you love music, then this is your spot. Large music festivals have TONS of women and they are all looking to have fun. To win the girl over, focus on having fun.

Shopping Malls

If you like a girl that dresses nice, then you can be sure she frequents malls. The best times are usually Saturday mornings.

The Park

I know of a girl that said, “I’d really love a guy to approach me while I am running.” This was a surprise to me.  But yes, if she likes to run, she’d also like to meet a guy that likes to run. So you runners know what to do…

However, at popular parks, you’ll find women doing all sorts of activities.

The Beach

Sunny beaches are loaded with beautiful women in bikinis getting their tan on. The thing is that most guys are way too intimidated to approach a girl in a bikini – so by approaching her, you’ll stand out.

College Campus

Even if you aren’t in college, even if you are in your 30’s or 40’s this is my favorite place to meet women. Because it is a fun environment full of young educated women who are eager to socialize. So just visit your local university and go for a walk or visit a cafe on campus and strike up conversations.

Now you might be afraid that she’ll ask you why you are there. First of all, they almost never ask. If she does, just tell her you are taking a walk, or you like the coffee shop or that you have a friend that goes there, if it’s true. Or be honest and say that you don’t like meeting women at bars and clubs because they are too drunk and sloppy. You’d be surprised at how many women love that answer.

BONUS: Meetup groups

Join meetup groups or organizations that you enjoy such as hiking or wine meetup groups. You’ll find other women with the same hobbies so you’ll immediately have a connection and something to talk about. You can also take seminars or classes that interest you. I’ve found that a lot of women love to attend personal development workshops like PSI or Millionaire Mind Intensive and the women usually outnumber the men.


Somewhere else….?

But what if you are really into something not really all that girl friendly such as video games or shooting guns or MMA fighting?

Now even if you aren’t in your favorite environment, for example, you just see a beautiful woman walking down the street, make sure you approach her because even though you have no idea what her interests are or if she’s compatible you can easily find out. Take advantage of all opportunities!


Now, How do you start the conversation in each of these situations?

I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.


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Learn How to Meet Girls or Women | The Attractive Man

Want to meet more beautiful girls? If you’re looking to discover how to meet women, then the “CQC System” will teach you how to meet women wherever you go! Discover the best places to meet new girls, too. So you can gain access to the most beautiful women in your city today.

Where and how to meet girls… How to meet single women… you’ve come to the right place. And I’m glad you’re here because learning these skills opens so many doors for you. When you know where to find the girls you desire and what to say to them to make them yours, you reclaim the power to build the dating life of your dreams.


No longer will your dating and social life be left to the mercy of chance, and you’ll never need to be stuck at home on a Friday night feeling like you’re the only one missing out on the fun. Instead, you’ll be the center of it all – watching your relationships flourish as your life fills with more fun and adventure than ever before.

In this article, we’ll start by covering a simple way to approach and meet girls, known as the CQC System. After that, you’ll learn the best places to meet the girls you’re looking for, as well as, how to tailor your approach in those settings.


How to Meet Women Using the C.Q.C. System

The CQC system is a way to quickly gain attraction and investment from any beautiful girl you approach. CQC stands for compliment, qualify, close, and I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated or had one night stands with as a result of using these 3 simple steps in my game.

Here’s how it works:

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Compliment When first approaching a girl, give her a compliment on something about her style, appearance, or vibe. This lets her know immediately what your intentions are, which makes getting the number easier.

For example, you might say, “Hey, this is super random… But I wanted to come let you know… You’re absolutely adorable!”

Instead of complimenting her directly, you could also imply the compliment, like so:

Listen, I saw you here and I had to come over and meet you. Hi, I’m [Your Name]”.

Qualify – Now that you’ve given her a bit of your interest, it’s time to take a step back and make her prove to you that she’s worthy of your continued attention.

You can do this by qualifying her. This will get her to start chasing you, which increases your value in her eyes and serves to build attraction.

Some example qualifiers include, “tell me something interesting about yourself,” or “what’s something you’re passionate about?”

Once she answers, you can reward her by letting her know you appreciate her answer, or by relating to the topic with your own experiences.

Then, you can rinse and repeat the qualification process in order to continue finding out more about her. A strong mental frame to come from with qualifying is, “You seem like you could be cool, but I’m not too sure about you yet.” When she detects this vibe from you, she’ll naturally want to start proving herself to you.

Close – Once she’s investing in the interaction and qualifying herself to you, you can take the interaction to the next level by closing her on an instant date. This is when you go together from the place you met to a second location, such as a coffee or ice cream shop. A simple way to transition into an instant date is to say something like, “My favorite ice cream shop is right around the corner, I was about to grab a cone. Come with.”

If she’s unable to go on an instant date for whatever reason, you can simply set up a date instead and get her phone number.

The CQC system is enough to get you started meeting girls, get you dates, and even get you laid. That being said, it’s just the tip of the iceberg as far as attraction techniques go. For more high-level information on attracting women, check out our article “How to Talk to Girls & Spark Attraction”

 


Where to Meet Women

I’ve armed you with the CQC system, which will allow you to consistently approach and attract women. But just as important is your venue selection. Let’s go over the four best places to meet women, as well as how you should tailor your game in each setting for best results.

 

Places to meet women During The Daytime

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The daytime provides you with a low-pressure, low-competition environment in which you and the girls you approach can communicate clearly and effectively. The best way to meet women can be during the daytime! It’s ideal for practicing your pickup skills, especially your verbal game.

When meeting girls during the day, it’s important to give plenty of physical space at first, since women walking around in the daytime aren’t expecting to be approached. If you catch her off guard and scare her, you could easily derail the interaction.

Opening direct during day game works well because it cuts to the chase in a way that lets her know what you’re there for, and it makes closing faster and easier later on.

Since the daytime, for the most part, is a non-threatening, non-sexual environment, day game offers the unique opportunity to easily take girls you meet on instant dates. Definitely, make it a goal to turn each good day game interaction into an instant date. Who knows? You might end up pulling her home.

Ideal day game locations include:

The Beach – Sunny beaches are loaded with beautiful women in bikinis getting their tan. The thing is that most guys are way too intimidated to approach a girl in a bikini – so by approaching her, you’ll stand out. Here’s a video of meeting girls at the beach.

The Park – I know of a girl that said, “I’d really love a guy to approach me while I am running.” This was a surprise to me.  But yes, if she likes to run, she’d also like to meet a guy that likes to run. So you runners know what to do…
However, at popular parks, you’ll find women doing all sorts of things. They’re all fair game.

Shopping Malls – If you like a girl that dresses nice, then you can be sure she frequents malls. The best times are Saturday mornings.

The Gym – Beautiful women usually work out so find the gym where all the girls attend. Keep in mind at the gym they are not there to chit chat so keep it short and sweet.

Crowded Coffee Shops – For some reason, beautiful women love Starbucks. It’s kind of a trend.
Do you like to read or work on your laptop?

Well, head over to a popular coffee shop, hang out for a couple hours, sit where all the people pass by, and wait until you see a lady you’d like to meet. If she’s busy reading or working, make sure to acknowledge what she’s doing, “Hey, I see you’re reading, but I wanted to come over real quick and say ‘hi.”

Health Food Store – Do you buy groceries? Well, she probably does too, especially if she is health conscious. Try Whole Foods.

The Dog Park – Have a dog? Then go here. Approaching her will be much easier because you immediately have something in common.

Cooking Class – Yup, most cooking classes are FILLED with ONLY women. The best case scenario is when women outnumber men because they’ll fight over you.

 

Places To Meet Women At Night

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My second recommendation for improving your pickup skills while meeting some badass chicks is to do night game. Here’s how to meet girls at night!

If day game is gaming on easy mode, the night game is medium to hard. But, the rewards can be well worth it; some of the most beautiful girls habitually go to nighttime venues to drink and have fun, and a lot of them are looking to get laid. Even better, the more high-pressure, loud, and the intense nature of night game environments will push you out of your comfort zone, developing your pickup skills and hardening you as a man.

During night game, you’ll want to ramp up your energy. Speaking louder and being more animated with your gestures is a prerequisite for simply being understood in most night game environments, let alone holding the girl’s attention.

Another important aspect of a night game is being able to efficiently handle logistics. This means identifying any obstacles to bringing the girl home – such as her being with her friends or being the designated driver – and set up a plan in advance for how you’ll handle those obstacles. You’ll also need to account for getting her out of the venue and to a second location such as an after-hours spot or your place, so you can keep the party going.

Ideal night game locations include:

Fashion Shows – This might seem obvious, however, you shouldn’t primarily hit on the runway models. You should focus your attention on the girls in the audience.
There are lots of beautiful women that appreciate fashion and go to observe. Strike up a conversation after the show ends.

Music Festivals or Concerts – If you love music, then this is your spot. Large music festivals have TONS of women and they are all looking to have fun. To win the girl over, focus on having fun.

Happy Hour/Trivia Night – This one is for you guys that enjoy adult beverages. Happy hours in every city are crawling with young women. At happy hour, she’ll typically be in a group of girls so you can do the standard direct approach.

How To Meet Women Using Social Media & Dating Apps

Social media and dating apps can be an effective way to meet girls, and having a solid profile shaves off a lot of effort in terms of both comfort and attraction building. Messaging girls on social media can be a lot lower pressure than meeting girls in person.

This is a pro and a con, because, while it lowers the barrier to meeting beautiful girls, it also fails to develop the confidence that going out and facing rejection and success in person can bring. Because of this, I recommend using social media & dating apps as a supplementary way to meet girls and spend most of your time doing day game and night game until you’re experiencing consistent results. It shouldn’t be your main focus when trying to master how to meet beautiful women. Rather, use it as an effective tool.

Another consideration when it comes to online dating is that, since girls can’t pick up your vibe over the internet, they’re more likely to judge you based on your looks alone. This is good news for classically good looking guys but puts everyone else at a disadvantage. If you’re not a traditionally good looking guy, you’d better have some awesome pictures – or just skip online dating and go meet girls in person.

The best way to set yourself up for success meeting girls on social media and dating apps is to put effort into taking awesome pictures. Pictures showing you having fun in high-status social settings or doing cool activities go along way to building attraction. Pictures of family, pets, or of you volunteering will help her see you as a down to Earth, well-rounded guy.

How To Meet Women Using Your Social Circle

As you go out more and continue meeting people, you’ll naturally begin making more friends. Some of these friends will just be cool guys and girls, while others will have awesome social networks that you can leverage to your advantage. Try setting up a weekly event – such as a sushi and sake night or a weekly table at a club – and inviting all the cool people you’ve been meeting. Have each person bring a friend and watch how fast your social circle grows.

Why is your Social Circle a factor in how to meet new girls? Social circle game is awesome because it’s low pressure, can give you access to super beautiful girls and cool events over time, and it puts you in control of the situation. Another benefit of social circle game is that it often takes little or no “game” in order to pull and close.

Some guys get stuffy once in a social circle because now they feel the stakes are higher if something awkward happens. But the reason we build social circles in the first place is to get the results with girls that we’re after! Just let loose, have fun, and lead the girls you’re with through a fun and exciting experience that winds up back at your front door.

Now that you have the CQC System at your disposal, it’s time to put it into action! Check out some day game and night game venues in your area and start testing out the techniques. Remember: the sooner you put the material into action, the sooner you’ll start seeing results.

For a more technically comprehensive guide on the attraction process, check out our article “How to Talk to Girls & Spark Attraction”


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How To Talk To Girls & Spark Attraction

Want to learn how to talk to girls in a way that consistently sparks attraction? Discover the secrets to meeting gorgeous women and making them yours!

If you want to learn how to talk to girls in a way that consistently sparks attraction, then you’re in the right place. I’m going to share with you some simple yet effective techniques that will allow you to easily and consistently attract women into your bedroom and your life.

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But first, tell me if this sounds familiar:

You’re hanging out with your friends when out of nowhere appears a drop dead gorgeous girl that makes your heart skip a beat and your stomach flip. “Could this be the one?” You start to imagine what her ass looks like underneath that sundress when suddenly, all the things that you had to say get sucked out of your brain and you’re left completely blank. Before you have the chance to make your move she disappears, never to be seen again…

If you’re nodding your head in agreement and reliving the frustration of missing out on yet another beautiful girl, you’re not alone. After all, most of us aren’t taught how to talk to girls growing up. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way: Learning how to talk to women and consistently spark attraction is a learnable skill, just like any other.

In this article, I’m going to share with you the hardest-hitting, most effective techniques on how to talk to girls in a way that causes an instant magnetic attraction.


Powerful Concepts to Short-Cut Your Results

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You already have enough info about how to talk to women to go out and start setting day 2’s with attractive women right now. Here are some extra tips to help you take your time to the next level.

#1. Opposites Attract

Want to know the key to making her attracted to you?

Show her your masculine side.

For there to be attraction, you need the polarity between the feminine and masculine energy. You see, women are deeply attracted to masculine men. Just as you probably are attracted to very feminine women.

Just like magnets, when you put two positive sides together… they repel. But when you bring two opposite sides together… they attract. So show her your masculine side because she won’t want to sleep with you if you show too much femininity.

That means:

  •     Speak loudly and with a powerful low voice
  •     Stand up tall and be proud
  •     Speak your mind… don’t be afraid to say no to her
  •     Lead the interaction and bring her into your world.
  •     Have powerful eye contact

I’m not saying to be aggressive towards her, but definitely don’t be a wimp.

#2. Emotion vs. Logic

One common mistake guys make when learning how to talk to women is to communicate logically when they should be communicating emotionally. While logic has its time and place, it’s certainly not the language of seduction. Women respond to emotions. When you’re breaking rapport (i.e., teasing them), you’re spiking emotions of fun and excitement. And when you’re building connection, you’re triggering the emotions of safety, security, and intimacy.

On the contrary, speaking logically has no benefit when it comes to turning on women and making them want to be with you. So communicate emotionally instead when talking to women you’re interested in, and save logic for other areas of your life.

#3. Self-Amusement

Self-amusement is exactly what it sounds like: Using the interaction as an opportunity to amuse yourself. This is key to keeping the conversation fresh and interesting when first learning what to talk about with a woman. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll never run out of things to say! You’ll feel good talking about something that matters to you, and it will attract women like nobody’s business. When you’re interested in or amused by what it is you’re saying or doing, the girl will naturally be interested as well.

Here are a few ways to self-amuse:

  •     Talking about things you’re passionate about
  •     Debating topics you find interesting
  •     Making jokes that you think are funny – whether or not she gets it!
  •     Having her do things that amuse you

#4. Qualification

Qualifying a girl is when you test her to make sure she fits certain criteria that are important to you. This demonstrates that you are a man with standards, and it puts her in the position of trying to prove herself to you. Perhaps most importantly, it ensures that the women you’re allowing into your life are the exact types of people you want to surround yourself with.

In order to properly qualify a woman, you first need to take the time to decide what’s important to you in a woman.

  • What personality traits do you value?
  • How do you want her to treat herself and those around her?
  • How do you want her to be sexually?

The more specific you can be with your qualifications, the clearer the image of your ideal woman will be in your head. This will make it easier for you to spot her when you see her, and it will make your qualifications more congruent.

Once you know what you want, you can qualify the girl by simply asking her if she’s the type of person you’re looking for.

Hopefully, you’re beginning to see how powerful it is to be the type of man who knows how to talk to women in a way that demonstrates he has standards. Once you’re able to qualify a woman congruently, she’ll be eating out of the palm of your hand.


 

How to Talk to Girls: From First Sight to First Date

HOW TO START A CONVERSATION WITH A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN

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When first learning how to talk to girls, most guys get caught up on the first hurdle: Initiating conversation. But starting a conversation with a beautiful woman can be as simple as walking up and introducing yourself. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

1.) Approach within 3 seconds – when you see a woman you want to talk to, start talking to her within 3 seconds of seeing her, no matter what. This short-circuits your brains’ ability to come up with excuses, and helps you build a habit of talking to beautiful girls – which is not a bad habit to have! It also conveys confidence, which has long been known to be a major attraction trigger for women.

2.) Open strong – Coming in with a strong opening line can start the interaction off on the right foot. Playful and flirty opening lines can be great. However, there’s no problem with keeping it simple if you’re feeling tongue-tied. Here are some examples of great opening lines:

  • “Have you noticed that you and I are like the hottest/coolest people in this entire place? It’s true, so I figured we have to meet.” Say this one half-jokingly.
  • Hey real quick, this is totally random, but I just saw you over here, and I thought you were absolutely stunning. I had to come over and say ‘hi’.
  • Are you shy? Because I’ve been here for 10 minutes and you haven’t talked to me yet, or flirted with me, or bought me a drink… you must be shy.” Try saying this one in a teasing manner
  • Hi, I don’t believe we’ve met yet. I’m [Your Name].” Say this confidently, with strong eye contact and a warm smile.

Feel free to modify the openers based on the situation, your mood, and your own individual style. And don’t be afraid to try new things! You’re not going to break anything.

3.) Don’t get hung up on the opener! – Believe it or not, the actual words that come out of your mouth when you first meet a woman aren’t all that important, especially when compared to the overall vibe that you’re giving off. Later on, when you have more experience, it’s worth coming back and practicing different kinds of openers. But when you’re first learning to attract women, it’s totally fine to say the first thing that comes to your mind when you first approach her. This will get you in the habit of going for it instead of second-guessing yourself – and developing that killer instinct will get you more women than any pickup line ever could.

HOW TO SPIKE ATTRACTION IN THE FIRST FEW MINUTES

Attraction begins before you ever open your mouth or walk up to the girl. She starts deciding whether or not she likes you from the moment she first notices you based on your energy, your body language, and the way you carry yourself. These are all examples of nonverbal attraction triggers – things you do that trigger attraction other than the words you say.

Nonverbal attraction triggers include dominant body language and eye contact, a confident vibe, proper vocal tonality and more. Having dominant nonverbals triggers extreme attraction in women because it congruently indicates that you’re capable of protecting them. This feeling of safety is arousing to women, as they have a biological need for an alpha male who is capable of watching over and protecting them during pregnancy and motherhood. When you see how deeply ingrained this need is in a woman’s biology, it should come as no surprise that a woman can make a decision on your attractiveness based on your nonverbals alone!

As a beginner, the highest-leverage change you can make in your nonverbal attraction time is to work on presenting open, confident body language at all times. Simply standing up straight, keeping eye contact, and smiling is enough to begin to attract women. Also, be sure to keep your hands visible – it will make her feel more at ease in your presence. This type of body language also projects confidence and dominance. Once you nail proper body language, you can build attraction with a woman without even opening your mouth.

You can verbally build attraction through verbal breaks in rapport.

In order to understand breaking rapport, you first need to understand seeking rapport – the strategy that unattractive, low-status men use to try to get women to like them which includes chasing, self-censorship, and supplication. Seeking rapport is a huge turnoff to women because it exposes the man as being insecure, needy, and living in a state of scarcity with women. This is the type of guy that will get “friend-zoned” or ignored completely.

A high-status man, on the other hand, will actively break rapport. This single-handedly differentiates him from the rest of the herd and demonstrates that he’s a confident man who doesn’t need any particular woman because he’s living in a state of abundance. The type of man that can confidently and congruently break rapport is the type of man that women dream about and pursue.

There are many ways that you can verbally break rapport. Let’s focus on one type of rapport break for now: Teasing.

A tease is a playful jab where you imply something funny or “off” about the girl in a joking way. It spikes the energy of the conversation, and when done right, it should feel fun for both you and her. Teasing a girl is absolute gold for getting her attracted to you because it communicates that you’re a confident guy who doesn’t need anything from her.

Here are some examples of teasing:

  •     Giving her a funny nickname. For instance, if I meet a girl at the gym, I might start calling her Hercules.
  •     Making jokes about her being the type of girl that chases guys. For instance, if she’s checking out a guy in public (or even just looking at someone), I might say “You’re so thirsty! Stop looking so hard; he’s going to notice!” This could even work if the guy she’s looking at is an old man or very unattractive. In fact, it’s even funnier!
  •     Making jokes about her being overly sensual. For instance, if she touches me I might say “Woah there, slow down! I’m saving myself for marriage.”

Just keep in mind that all teases should be done in an obviously playful manner. You know you’re teasing properly when the girl laughs, teases you back, or just lights up in general.

However, if she gets offended or hurt by your tease, then you may want to dial back the intensity of your jabs and make it more clear through your body language and facial expressions that you’re just joking around.

Another way to spike attraction verbally is by being a challenge. Most guys don’t challenge beautiful women to be anything other than just beautiful. This shows a lack of experience, which indicates scarcity and is unattractive. A more seasoned man will tend to have higher standards for the women he dates. When you challenge a girl to provide more than just a pretty face and a nice body, you set yourself apart from the rest of the herd. We’ll dive deeper into this topic later in the article, in the section on qualification.

HOW TO QUICKLY BUILD A CONNECTION WITH A WOMAN

Once she’s laughing and playing into the good vibes, you know you’re on the right track. Now it’s time to build a deeper connection with the girl. Building a connection will make you feel closer to one another, and it gives her more incentive to see you again. Plus, when you learn how to talk to girls in a way that builds comfort – the way that I’m about to show you – it makes setting up a date with her a cinch!

There are many ways to build a connection. For now, let’s focus the basics of relating to the girl.

Relating to the girl is when you and her share things about yourselves that the other can empathize with. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you agree with one another, or that you’ve had had the same experience – in fact, it’s perfectly fine to disagree with the things she says from time to time. Relating is about being vulnerable to one another in a way that builds trust and connection.

When asking questions to relate to the girl, you’ll start with more superficial questions which gradually become deeper and more personal as you get to know one another. You could begin with something like finding out whether or not she likes sushi and end up discovering her secret dream to one day tour as a musician.

Sharing vulnerable things about one another is one of the fastest ways to strengthen the bonds of trust and intimacy within a relationship. This means that the deeper you go, the more invested the girl will be in you and the closer you’ll feel to one another.

To begin leading towards a more vulnerable discussion, you’ll begin with level 1 vulnerability questions – standard get-to-know-you chit-chat – and eventually work your way down to level 3 – deeper, more personal questions.

I’ve also included a list of logistical questions, which will help make setting up dates easier.

Logistical questions:

  •     What kind of food are you into?
  •     What do you do to stay fit?
  •     What’s something you do for fun that would surprise me?
  •     What’s your idea of a good time?

Level 1 questions:

  •     What are you most passionate about?
  •     What’s more important to you – money or love? Why?
  •     What are you most proud of about yourself?
  •     What’s your story?

Level 2 questions:

  •     What’s your biggest regret?
  •     If you could do anything in life with no chance of failure, what would it be?
  •     What’s your favorite memory?
  •     What memory is the most difficult for you?
  •     What was your life like growing up?

Level 3 questions:

  •     If we were ever to become very close, what’s something you would want me to know about you?
  •     What’s the last thing that brought you to tears? Why?
  •     What topics aren’t funny to joke about to you? Why not?
  •     What’s your biggest fear?
  •     If right now was your last moment on Earth, what would you regret not saying or doing? Why? Why don’t you? What would happen if you did that thing right now?

Asking questions that you care to hear the answer to and really listening is one of the fastest ways to build a deep connection. Its one of the essentials when learning how to talk to girls. Plus, it’s often very enjoyable finding out about the person in front of you and realizing how much they have to offer as a person.

CREATING A ROMANTIC VIBE & KISSING HER

Things are going well for you two. Why not go for a kiss?

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In order to warm her up for the kiss, you’ll want to begin by creating a romantic vibe. Allow yourself to begin feeling the romantic energy in the air between you and her. Feel yourself enjoying that chemistry, and let the desire that you have for her fill your body and mind. This feeling of a sensual vibe is also known as “sensual tension,” and dominant men are pros at holding this tension without flinching. Once you get used to staying grounded in that sensual energy, it feels great. There’s nothing in the world like it.

Once romantic tension starts building, the girl may add to the tension if she’s feeling confident, or giggle to diffuse the tension if she’s feeling submissive or shy. These are both good signs that she’s interested enough in you to kiss you right now. However, if she looks uncomfortable, flinches, or otherwise closes off her body to you, then she may not be ready to kiss you just yet.

Here are some ways to increase romantic tension:

  1.    Square up with her, so your bodies are facing one another directly
  2.    Close the distance between the two of you until you feel the heat radiating off of her body or are physically touching her
  3.    Drop your voice down low. You can also start speaking more softly, enticing her to lean in
  4.    Gradually begin slowing… Down… Your rate… Of speech
  5.    Making strong, solid eye contact. Allow your eyes to linger on parts of her that especially catch your attention, such as her lips or neck

For the sake of racking up more experience, I recommend attempting to build romantic tension and go for the kiss in all interactions lasting more than a couple of minutes.

HOW TO SET A “DAY 2”

So… You already learned how to attract women through teasing, how to build a commonality, and how to vibe and kiss during the interaction. The next step is to set up a day 2. I know I called it a date earlier, but now I want you to erase that word from your vocabulary! You don’t go on dates anymore. Instead, you go on day 2’s.

What’s a day 2? So glad you asked!

A day 2 is like a better version of a date. We call it day 2 instead of a date because traditionally, a date is coming from the frame of the man trying to impress the woman, which is actually detrimental when it comes to attracting women. A date is formal and stiff, whereas a day 2 is fun and light. A date consists of you trying to impress her, whereas a day 2 consists of you both having fun together. You get the idea.

The simplest way to set up your day 2 when first learning how to talk to women is to leverage one of the commonalities you’ve established with her. Let’s go with the sushi example: You found out that you both love sushi. And you happen to know of a new sushi bar opening up in a couple of days. Now, setting up the day 2 is as simple as inviting her to check it out with you. If you’ve done the other steps properly so far, the chances of her being excited to go with you are very high!

This is also the perfect chance to get her phone number. After she agrees to go on the day 2 with you, you can say something like “perfect, give me your number so I can text you if anything changes.

Oh – and in case you were unsure, you don’t need to call it a date or a day 2 to her. Just call it hanging out.

Congrats! You just learned how to approach a random woman and make her a part of your life in one conversation. Remember, the more you practice these techniques, the more effortless it will become not just to, but attract women, too. Eventually, you’ll become proficient enough to know how to talk to women in any given scenario to quickly gain attraction and set up a date.

Where are the best places to meet girls?

There are two categories of places to meet girls. If you want to know how to talk to girls, you need to acquaint yourself with these places. These can be broken up into “day time” and “night time” venues.

Let’s talk a bit about the pros and cons of each, as well as how to modify your approach depending on the environment to attract women with the greatest consistency.

How to Talk to Girls at Nighttime Venues

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Meeting girls at nightlife venues are my top recommendation for those trying to improve their seduction skills. Nightlife venues are high-density, which lets you get a lot of approaches and practice in a short amount of time.

Some good night time venues include:

  •     Clubs
  •     Bars
  •     Lounges
  •     Concerts and other events

Night time is often boisterous and fast-paced. Because of this, it helps to take a more physical and high energy approach. This includes being more animated with your body language and facial expressions, projecting your voice, and speaking in short, simple sentences so as to be understood. You can also be much more physical during the nighttime, including leading and breaking rapport physically.

For the night time, I often go indirect, especially if it’s in a venue that I frequent. This means that my opens are social in nature and I don’t convey a special interest in any particular girl off the bat. Indirect openers would include “Hey, how do you know everyone here?” and “Hey, I don’t think I’ve introduced myself yet, I’m [Your Name]. Who are you?” These openers convey that you have friends in the area, which lends you status and social proof.

Once I’ve opened the set, I’ll often dive straight into qualification and leading. During night time, I want to immediately begin screening for girls who are down to get pulled that night, and I tailor my qualifications and leads accordingly.

Here are some examples of qualification and leading for night time:

  •     “Are you adventurous? Oh, really… What’s the craziest thing you’ve done all week?”
  •     Say “come with me.” Then take her hand and lead her around the venue, stopping to enjoy cool places like photo booths, the bar, etc.
  •     “Are you a good dancer?” Then lead her to the dance floor and start dancing with her.

Aside from qualifying and leading, you could also tell a story about a crazy, funny time you had. For night time stories, the more raunchy, crazy, or hilarious the better – as long as they paint you in a flattering light. Think of the moments in your life that could be made into TMZ headlines, and tell stories about that. The mindset to have when telling a story is that you’re sharing with the girl for your own amusement and enjoyment, and NOT trying to impress her or make her like you. After all, if she’s spending any amount of time with you in a night time venue, there’s a high chance that she already does like you.

And remember, if you ever go completely blank, that’s totally fine – night time venues are more physical than verbal, so feel free to simply yell “adventure!”, grab her hand, and lead her to do something physical such as dancing, photo booths, or out the front door of the venue to take her home.

You can also screen for logistics, which allows you to find out about her logistical situation for the evening while moving the conversation forward.

Here are some examples of logistical questions for night time:

  •     “Who are you here with tonight?”
  •     “Where do you live / how did you get here tonight?”
  •     “What are you doing tomorrow?”

Asking these questions will get you valuable information about her logistics and let you know if there are any obstacles that you’ll need to overcome in order to pull her. Plus, once you have the answer to a logistical question, you can riff on that topic with her, further adding to the conversation.

Social proof – including preselection – is your secret weapon when it comes to the night time. Build social proof by being friendly and welcoming to everyone in the area. Bounce from group to group instead of sticking to one individual, especially earlier on in the night. This allows people to see that you’re a friendly, social guy with an apparently large amount of social clout, which will have the baddies fighting over you by the end of the night.

Having an after party or another excuse to pull at the end of the night can make your pulling logistics a breeze. When the club closes down, people will want to keep the party going. Knowing where the after-party is or hosting it yourself gives you the best chances of pulling a beautiful girl from a nighttime venue.

How to Talk to Girls in the Day Time

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The drawback of day time is that there is usually a smaller volume of people, which means fewer opportunities for you to practice and succeed. However, it can still be worth your time to get experience learning how to talk to girls in different environments. Plus, it’s the main way that you’ll meet women on a day-to-day basis as you’re going about your life.

Some good day time venues include:

  •     Art galleries & museums
  •     Parks
  •     Malls
  •     Coffee shops

During day time, people are often busy running to and from work, running errands, or simply going about their day. Because of this, you’ll use time constraints frequently in a day time. For instance, you might open by saying, “I need to meet up with my friend in just a second, but I wanted to come say…?”. This takes the time pressure off the girl, making her more receptive to your approach.

Unlike bars and clubs, daytime settings are not typically designed to meet strangers. Because of this, you will sometimes catch girls off guard when you approach them during the daytime. You can soften this effect by acknowledging the situation and saying something like “this is really random” or “I saw you from down the street and I had to come say hi”.

Use the COMPLIMENT, QUALIFY, CLOSE system. (CQC)

Compliment First, you compliment the girl on something about her style, appearance, or vibe. This lets her know immediately what your intentions are, which makes getting the number easier.

For example, you might say, “Hey, this is super random… I have to meet my friends in a second, but I wanted to come let you know… You’re absolutely adorable!

You’ll notice that, in addition to a compliment, the above opener also includes a time constraint and an acknowledgment of the situation.

Instead of complimenting her directly, you could also imply the compliment, like so:

Listen, I saw you here, and I had to come over and meet you. Hi, I’m [Your Name]”.

Qualify – Now that you’ve given her a bit of your interest, it’s time to take a step back and make her prove to you that she’s worthy of your continued attention.

You can do this by qualifying her as we discussed earlier.

This will get her to start chasing you, which is a surefire way to turn on a woman.

For example, you could say “tell me something interesting about yourself” or “what’s something you’re passionate about?

Once she answers, you can reward her by letting her know you appreciate her answer, or by relating to the topic with your own experiences.

Then, you can rinse and repeat the qualification process in order to continue finding out if she’s “cool enough” to hang out with you.

Close – Day time approaches offer you the unique opportunity to go on instant dates. This is when you go together from the place you met to a second location such a coffee or ice cream shop. A simple way to transition into an instant date is to say something like, “My favorite ice cream shop is right around the corner, I was about to grab a cone. Come with.

If she’s unable to go on an instant date for whatever reason, you can simply set up a day 2 instead and get her phone number.

How to talk to Girls You Work With

A lot of times I get asked how to talk to girls at work. But in my opinion, the chances of something going wrong with a girl you see at work are too high, and the risk isn’t worth it. Instead of trying to date your co-workers, I would recommend friend zoning them. You could still grab drinks with them and hang out, but hit on their friends instead of them if anything. Being seen with beautiful co-workers that you’ve friend-zoned will attract women from outside of the friend group without jeopardizing your work environment.

Now you’re armed with everything you need to know to go out, approach a beautiful woman on the street, build attraction, set up a date with her, and even build a sensual vibe and kiss her! You definitely now have got all you need to know how to talk to girls. The next step is actually to go out and implement these new strategies. If you want the types of results you’re dreaming about; you’ll need to make a firm commitment to yourself to go out and practice these principles, one at a time until the results are yours.

What unanswered questions do you still have about how to talk to girls? How’d you like the article? Comment below and let me know what you think!

Also, if you’re one of the guys who’s going to take action on this information, leave a comment that includes your city, what venue you’re going to meet girls at this week, and an original tease that you’re going to test out!


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How To Meet Girls During The Day

We have all been there… You see a BEAUTIFUL girl nearby that completely catches you off guard. You didn’t know what to say to her or how to approach her so you probably just walked away. You don’t know how to meet girls during the day.

It sucks.  I know because I’ve been there.

Well, let me show you, step-by-step, how it is done. Approaching women during the day is my favorite time to meet girls because it is SO MUCH EASIER to get dates with THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRLS.


While approaching women during the day, use this simple 3-step system.

I call it the “2-Minute Chase Me Method” because when done right, she will become so attracted she will start chasing you.

How To Pick Up Girls During The Day

1. Compliment
2. Qualify
3. Close

Now let’s break it down…

1. Compliment

I know what you are thinking… “I thought I was never supposed to compliment a girl!!!”  Most guys don’t know what they are talking about.  Most guys will tell you to never buy girls drinks either.

Here is the deal.  If you can demonstrate yourself as the a Strong And Confident Man, then you can do whatever you want as most rules won’t apply to you.  When you boldly go up to her and give her a compliment, you demonstrate your confidence.

The purpose of the interaction is to give value, which will build attraction.  You see, high value men don’t need to prove their value so they give value away.

Let’s Talk About the Opening: 

The best way to open is to go up and give her a GENUINE Compliment.  Tell her something that caught your eye.  Why would you want to talk to her… Does she have cool shoes, an awesome tattoo, nice skin, etc.  If you think she’s cute… tell her she’s cute.

Example: “This is random but you are absolutely (pause) stunning. I had to come say hi. My name is….

She’ll immediately see that you are an honest guy who has a lot of confidence and goes for what ever he wants in life. You’re not beating around the bush like most lame guys.

Be honest, authentic, and confident.  Look her in the eye as you say it.  Speak slowly and articulate.

When you do this she will see you as an honest guy with balls.  She probably has never had anyone do this to her.

2. Qualify

Confident and Attractive men don’t date every girl because they think she is beautiful.  They qualify them.  So the next step is to have her qualify herself to you.  Ask her something that you would like to know about her.  Be genuine in your screening process.

Example: “So who are you? Tell me something about yourself?”

Have the attitude that she needs to win you over.

If your opening is done right, she will want to qualify herself to you. Once you get her talking, chit-chat with her for a couple minutes.  Play around with her and tease her.

3.  Close

After you have decided that YOU do like this girl, then go for her number.  Do this after you have talked with her and qualified her. Getting a number is easy.  The purpose of getting the number is only because you expect to see her again.  Therefore say something like this…

“Listen, you are pretty cool. We should hang out sometime. Here put your number in my phone.(Hand her your phone)”


Do not ask her for her number.  You are the alpha man and therefore you should expect that she wants to hang out with you.

So now that you have her number, set up a date.  More on that later.