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Attract Women that are Out of Your League

How do you Attract Women that are totally Out of Your League?

We’ve all seen that absolute stunner walk by, making your mouth drop and your eyes practically pop out of your head. 

It may seem like a fantasy. It may seem like she’s light years out of your league. But what if I told you that a normal guy like yourself could date the best looking women in your city? Well prepare to have your mind blown because I’m Matt Artisan from TAM and this is How to Attract the Best Looking Women in Your City. 

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So here’s the deal. Women rarely, if ever, date down. They will never date a man they deem is lower status than them. So you must act and behave in a high-status manner to attract the best women around. 

Now I know that term gets thrown around a lot but it basically means ranking highly in a social hierarchy.

High status doesn’t mean that you have to have millions of dollars, wear the most expensive clothes or be a famous celebrity. It means that you embody the traits, body language, attitude and mannerisms of someone who is high status. It’s the way you act and behave around others and it means you don’t put her or see her as being above you. Which I’m going to tell you how to do in just a second but of course step number 1….



This means….



 – hottest nightclubs

– don’t go to dive bars hoping to get the best women

– competition and how it’s hard to compete; unless you are in the social circle

 – events like modeling events (befriend models, photographers, high-end restaurant or club owners, makeup artists)

-high-quality Hotel lounges, Cultural Events: Art shows, gallery openings, museum events, charity events, Theater events

-wine Bars

-wine tastings

-high end restaurants/ openings 

-high end casinos

-daytime situations – high-end shopping or health food stores



Most guys get overly reactive and caring way more when it’s a really attractive women. She is used to people treating her special. She’s used to guys being nervous, boastful and trying to impress her! Women can sense when you are being fake even if you don’t mean to be..

So what do you do?

Treat her like a normal person because she is a normal person. She is equal to you. Remember that she has fears and insecurities and imperfections just like everyone else!



She needs to perceive that you have women of her caliber in your life. Remember what I said about women don’t date down? If she see’s that you have women like her around you then she automatically knows that she is in your league. You have to make use of the following:

– Preselection and acting like you have women like her in your life

– bringing girls to the club with you.

– being comfortable around her and being okay losing her;

– acting like you have a lot of women challenge/qualifying

– disqualifying yourself and disinterest

 – You’ll be the one guy who doesn’t fawn all over her and that will intrigue her. She will want to know why? This doesn’t mean that you are mean to her.


You don’t have to be Dan Bilzerian because a lot of these girls just want a normal life with kids and travel once in a while. They have a 9 to 5 job they love and they don’t want to live in some dudes mansion competing with other girls for your attention. So stop comparing yourself to celebrities, because you can still have a total 10 knockout without being rich and famous. 

But you can’t just work 60 hours a week then come home to play video games and expect a high caliber woman to stick around watching you stuff your face with potato chips. 

You need to have an interesting life and a decent job; a lot of women want just a normal life. 


But a lot of guys have a normal life, why would she pick you over them? It’s because you are the one providing her with emotional value. Even if you have a cool lifestyle but you are boring or predictable then she’ll lose interest, and really this goes for any girl but especially the most beautiful ones who have more options.  

  • Making her laugh, having fun!
  • Be Random, exciting, unpredictable, tease her; 
    • But it’s not about all positive emotions either…
  • Maintaining the dichotomy of showing desire and being a challenge = emotional ups and downs like an emotional roller coaster that you are her strong rock that can protect her against the storm of the world and the waves of her own often unpredictable emotions. 

Now to give emotional value takes practice, getting out of your own way, often improving your personality and strengthening your own masculine identity which isn’t an easy task and will take more than just watching a few YouTube videos. 



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Learn How to Attract a Girl or Women and be Attractive | The Attractive Man

How do you approach a girl for the first time? What do women find attractive? The answers may surprise you.

From energy polarity to masculine traits, this article will teach you how to attract women effortlessly.

I live in a world foreign to most men – a world where gorgeous women often complain that I’m not giving them enough attention and ask me why I’m too busy for them. The truth is, they are amazing girls and I would love nothing more than to be able to see them as much as they want. But I only have so much time on my hands. Crazy, right?

I’m not complaining. I know a lot of guys dream about having problems like this, and some men go their entire lives never knowing what it’s like to have gorgeous women chasing them, vying for their affection. In fact, many guys are completely lost when it comes to attracting women, not knowing where to begin. Not too long ago, I was that guy myself – though, after everything I’ve learned about women and how much my life has changed as a result, it seems like another lifetime.

This is good news for you. If I was able to learn how to attract women, then so can you. My goal is to help you get there. And by getting there I mean knowing the basics and eventually mastering how to approach women.

This article will offer you a conceptual overview of what it takes to attract gorgeous women into your life consistently. We’re going to start on the woo-woo end of the spectrum by talking about Energy Polarity, and get more concrete as we go. It’s important that you understand the more abstract, esoteric concepts in order to build context for the more actionable tips I’ll give later on in the article.

Let’s dive in.

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Energy Polarities (Opposites Attract)

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Did you ever play with magnets as a kid? If you did, then you’re familiar with the concept of polarity attraction – even if you didn’t call it by that name. For those of you who aren’t familiar, let me explain:

Magnets have two poles – a positive pole and a negative pole. If you put two of the same type of poles together, they repel each other. But, if you put opposite poles together – one positive pole and one negative one – they will magnetically attract.

This same concept applies to attracting women. Like magnets, humans have energy polarities – masculine and feminine. Unfortunately, masculine traits such as aggression, confidence, and assertiveness are demonized and discouraged by our society and systematically weeded out. This leads to a culture of wimpy, effeminate men who, according to the laws of energy polarity, can only attract masculine, dominant women – not the alluring, feminine women that they truly desire.

Much of attracting the women you actually want in your life comes down to reclaiming and deepening this masculine polarity that is your birthright. This can be a daunting task, as it requires a lot of retraining of your own behavior.However, once you’re rooted in the solid foundations of your masculine energy, not only will you feel amazing – but gorgeous women will flock to your side to bask in the presence of your energy, with almost no effort on your part. In fact, all of the techniques in the world can’t replace the effortless ability to attract women that being rooted in your masculine polarity provides.

Masculine Polarity Traits

So what are these masculine traits that women find so attractive? And how can you go about developing them?

To understand the answers to these questions, it helps to step into the shoes of the women you’ll be seducing. While men are primarily focused on physical attractiveness when it comes to dating – at least, initially – women have an entirely different set of concerns.

Women are much more physically fragile than men, and largely depend on the physical and psychological strength of a man for protecting her and her child. Because of their fragility, they have also developed an ingrained desire to be around males with high social status, as men with higher status have access to more resources such as food, shelter, and allies, and can, therefore, better ensure her survival and that of her child.

If you’re thinking this sounds very caveman-esque, you’re absolutely right – these traits have been hardwired into the female psyche over hundreds of generations of evolution. It’s almost universal (full lesbians excluded), and you’re not going to change it. So the best thing you can do is develop the masculine polarity traits that will trigger women’s deeply ingrained evolutionary bias.

To get a better understanding of what types of behavior masculine polarity traits would include, think about the way Conor McGregor handles himself during MMA press conferences and matches. He comes across as assertive, strong-willed and even aggressive when needed. He’s not timid and doesn’t shy away from calling people on their shit. You get the feeling watching him that he’s confident in his ability to handle himself against all opponents, and wouldn’t hesitate to throw a punch if the situation calls for it.

Obviously, if you want to know how to attract a girl, the last thing you’ll want is to get into is a fistfight. However, when you’re able to project a sense of dominance and grounded confidence that comes from being willing to stand up for yourself in all scenarios, women can’t help but take notice of you.

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Other traits associated with high-status men that are rooted in their masculine polarity include:

  • The ability to provide for and protect a woman
  • Having a network of relationships with other high-status men
  • Walking through life with unflinching confidence and ease
  • Maintaining your cool in all situations
  • Leading those around you
  • Entertaining yourself (doing this shows that you’re relaxed and enjoying yourself)
  • …Hopefully you’re starting to get the idea by now

So we know that the shortcut for how to attract beautiful women is developing high-status, masculine polarity traits. And we know what that looks like in a man. But knowing that information alone is not enough! In order to develop attractive traits, you need to practice these behaviors until they become ingrained into who you are.

That means creating specific, measurable goals, much like improving in any other area or skill set. Do this with the masculine polarity traits, and you’ll be well on your way to attracting more gorgeous women into your life than you could have previously imagined!

High-status Body Language

When you’ve developed the masculine polarity traits, you’ll naturally find yourself expressing these traits through your words and body language, indicating your high status automatically. Conveniently, it also works the other way around – using high-status body language causes you to begin to feel a sense of confidence, dominance, and status within yourself.

Whats the best way to approach a girl? Here are some high-status body language keys to keep in mind:

  • Solid eye contact – High-status men don’t shy away from eye contact. When you meet a woman’s gaze, do so with grounded, calm, laser-like eye contact. You don’t want it to feel creepy or intense, but rather relaxed and comfortable
  • Deliberate movements – Avoid fidgeting, jerking, or sudden movements as those indicate the emotional distress that accompanies low status. Instead, make slow, deliberate movements that project an air of calm confidence
  • Being Non-reactive – In a social interaction, the high-status individual is the one that other are reacting to – not the other way around. Avoid physically reacting to other people. That doesn’t mean you need to ignore them – simply take the time to deliberately respond on your own terms. For instance, while I was typing this, the girl I’m sitting with tapped my shoulder. Rather than turning to cater to her immediately, I took my time to finish writing the paragraph before giving her my attention.

In any and all interactions throughout your day, you can begin to notice whether your body language is high status and dominant, or low status and submissive, and make adjustments accordingly.

Tips to Attract Women Effortlessly

1. Become the Leader of Your Social Circle

Men who are leaders are incredibly attractive to women. The fact that people are willing to follow your lead indicates your status to women, making it much easier for you to meet and attract them.

Becoming the leader of your social circle is simple – it just takes a bit more effort than the average Joe is willing to put in. Start planning events centered around your interests, and invite people to attend. This can be huge epic parties or little get-togethers; it doesn’t really matter. What’s important is that you’re taking the time to lead your social group in a way that makes people feel good about following your plans.

2. Dress Well to Convey Status

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In social interactions, appearance is more important than substance initially. This is because, as much as we like to think of ourselves as fair-minded, humans do judge based on perception. In fact, as famed psychologist Robert Cialdini points out in his book Influence, when you wear a suit, you will automatically be perceived as having higher status and more authority than if you were wearing normal casual clothing.

This is because people imagine men in suits to be more powerful, confident, successful, and so on based on their own preconceived notions. The result? You can cause people to associate these traits with you – whether not you actually possess them – simply by dressing sharply!

3. The Role of Comfort in Attracting Women

While status is the driver for attracting women, it’s not enough to make women feel at ease around you. For that, you’ll need to build comfort.

Comfort is the sense of a physical and emotional connection between you in the girl. It fosters a sense of trust and makes the girl feel safe in your presence. While most guys who are learning how to attract women don’t need to worry about comfort right away, it’s still worth noting its importance. For now, put your focus on developing high-status, attractive traits but know that comfort is an equal part of the good game as well.

4. Developing Attractive, Masculine Traits

To become as attractive as possible, we want to develop high status, masculine polarity and comfort building traits while systematically rooting out all traces of low status and comfort destroying behavior. The way to do this is through repeated trial and error – that is, going out, approaching women, and making incremental improvements.

There will be failure. There will be rejection. If you’re not failing, that means you’re not pushing yourself nearly hard enough. Each failure represents a weakness being healed through practice. The faster you can fail and improve, the sooner you’ll be surrounded by badass, amazing women, looking back and thanking your past self for putting in the effort required for greatness. You’ve just been imbued with the knowledge on how to approach a girl.

So get hyped!

For practical advice on where to meet girls so you can practice developing these traits as well as what to say to them, check out our article “How To Meet Women & The Best Places To Meet Girls”.

Now go forth, be fruitful, and multiply.

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How To Talk To Women: How to turn “No” into a “Yes”

Here’s another tip to master how to talk to women! Now, I’m dancing with this beautiful girl, and things start to get heated… So I invite her to grab a bite to eat with me and she says:

“I can’t leave my friends”

Has something like this ever happened to you?

What went wrong?

Usually, when it seems like a girl is totally into you, yet doesn’t commit to that next step, it’s because you didn’t successfully handle her objections. We’ll cover this problem today and you’ll soon discover how to talk to women when they usually say no.

Because of the double standard in our society, most girls will say no to your advances so that they don’t look or feel like a “slut.”

They may want to go with you but often, girls feel they can’t make it too easy for you because of that double standard.

If you think back to when you wanted to bring a girl home, 9 times out of 10 you heard some objection. “I can’t leave because of my friends,” “I work early,” “I don’t want to stay out late,”how far is your place,” and the list goes on.

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The mistake most guys make is they take these objections at face value when in reality, that’s when the game begins.

Very rarely will you get that perfect pull where the girl follows you straight to your place!

Let me ask you a question. If you know that 9 times out of 10, the girl will give you objections, have you prepared an answer beforehand?

If no, then that might be why you’re not getting as many phone numbers, dates and beautiful women in your bed as you really could.

How To Talk To Women: How to turn “No” into a “Yes

The best place to start is by first understanding the mindset of a girl you’re trying to pull. And by pull, I mean leading her to the next location. That could be a nearby coffee shop, bar or your place.

Here are the typical concerns girls have when going somewhere new with a guy they just met:

  • They don’t want to travel very far
  • They don’t want to feel unsafe
  • They don’t want to feel uncomfortable
  • They don’t want to be in a situation where things are awkward 1 on 1
  • They want to make sure that they are going to have fun
  • They don’t want to get stuck at your house

Whatever objection a girl gives you, usually the root lies in one of these concerns.

It’s like when a friend asks you to go somewhere, so you make up a “white lie” to avoid the awkwardness of telling the real reason you don’t want to go.

Rather than a girl saying, “hey I just met you and don’t feel comfortable being alone with you yet,” she’ll say, “oh I can’t leave my friends.


To successfully overcome her objections, you have to answer her root objection, not her surface level objection.

Over time, I figured out how to talk to women because I learned that an objection will almost always come. I make sure to come prepared. I already memorized a few answers to the most common complaints.

Importantly, I also treat objections as “not yet,” opposed to a flat-out “no.”

If you didn’t get a firm no, then assume she just means “not yet.” There have been plenty of times where a girl declines to grab a coffee, but knowing how to talk to her, building more comfort and attraction, she says yes after a couple of minutes.

For example, when she says, “I can’t leave my friends”, it’s not that she physically can’t leave her friends. It’s more likely that she’s not quite comfortable enough to leave with YOU just yet. So you need to know how to talk to women in a way that builds more comfort and/or assures them that you’re coming right back and not one of those guys that’s trying to steal them away the entire night.

This actually happened to me not too long ago, where I took her objection as “not yet”, continued to build attraction and comfort and then when I asked 5 minutes later, she came with me to a quieter part of the bar for us to get to know each other. The funny part is, we never saw her friends again for the rest of the night.

It wasn’t that she couldn’t leave her friends. The truth is, she wasn’t yet comfortable enough with me to leave her friends.

Most guys eject out of the interaction over a “not yet,” type response. You may have missed out on so many girls because of that.

If so, that’s ok. Because all that is about to change.

Because girls always feel the need to give an objection (even if she wants to join you), it’s your job to answer her objections.

One technique I like to use is pre-answering objections.

For example, remember that list of common concerns above?

What I like to do is answer those objections before she even has a chance to mention it.

Let’s take the, “don’t want to travel far” and “uncomfortable one-on-one” root objections.

When I’m bringing a girl to a coffee shop, a place to eat, or my place, I always say something like, “Let’s go grab a coffee. I know a great spot a few blocks away. We’ll grab a quick coffee, and then you can go back on your merry way.”

When I say, “let’s go grab a coffee,” immediately she’s wondering to herself, “how far away is it and how long?”

how to talk to womenThat’s why the secret of how to talk to women in a way that delivers results is to answer their objections before they even have a chance to object.

The best strategy is to answer objections before she has them. The next best option is to be prepared for common objections.

Here’s a list of common objections and how to handle them:

Her:I can’t leave my friends.”

You: “I can’t leave my friends either. A bunch of my friends are here, so I have to come back.”

This is good for the first half of the night when her concern is being gone long, not coming back to see her friends and being stuck 1 on 1 with a guy she just met.  

Her: “I can’t leave my friends.”

You:My friends are here too. We can text our friends my address, and they can meet us there.”

This is good for the second half of the night to assure her it won’t be just 1 on 1.

Her:I have to be up early”

You:What time do you have to be up?….Well, I have to be up at (1 hour earlier) so that’s no excuse (playfully). Just come for a half hour and I’ll kick you out (playfully)”

Her concern here is not being up late so you let her know, hey I’m in the same situation, let’s just hang out for a little.

Her: “What if you kidnap me” (or any variation)

You: “Damn! You have me all figured out already” (playfully)

This is a girl’s polite way to make sure she’s safe and comfortable with you.

Her: “How will I get home?”

You: “I can either send you home in an Uber or you can sleep on the couch and I’ll drive you home in the morning because I’ve been drinking”

This reassures her that she will get home safely (in case she has to leave her ride). The couch part takes off the pressure of any expectations. The drinking part pre answers the objection of why you can’t drive her now

Her: “But we just got here”

You: “We just got here too. And we’re mostly sober. Let’s go drink real quick and come back”

This is for the first half of the night.  

Her: “I already have plans to do XYZ after”

You: “Drinking wine with me (or another activity) will be a lot more fun. Come with me instead then you can go do XYZ.”

Remember one of her concerns a girl has is are we going to do something fun or something that she likes. The activity doesn’t have to be anything fancy. I date classy girls so all of them like wine 🙂

Her: Any time-related objection

You: “Don’t worry, we’ll only be a couple minutes.” Or, “we’ll be quick.” Or, “It’s just two minutes.”

For any time-related objection just let her know it won’t be for long. So if it’s coffee, just say there’s a cafe one minute away and we’ll be quick.

Alright, as we discussed, objections aren’t bad! They should be expected. I’ve been studying some Jordan Belfort recently (Wolf of Wall Street) and he emphasizes that a sale doesn’t begin until the first objection. Anyone can pitch the sale. The skill comes in your ability to overcome a person’s objections.

Also, remember that objections are really smoke screens for their real concerns. Usually, the root of a girl’s objection will be one of the real concerns I listed above.

Next time you get an objection, try to understand what her real objection is and get to answer that. If you answer her superficial objection but not the real one, she’ll just keep bringing up one objection after another.

Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)


  1. Reflect on your last 3 approaches. What objections did you hear? Write down 2 good possible responses.
  2. Do at least 5 approaches with the goal of getting an instant date.
    • As soon as you can, write down the objection, what you think the root objection might be, and 2 answers you can use next time
    • Bonus if you can figure out how to include pre-answering her objections for next time


  1. Reflect on your last 5 approaches. What objections did you hear? Write down 2 good possible responses.
  2. Do at least 10 approaches with the goal of getting an instant date. Try to push the interaction as far as you can, baby-stepping her closer and closer to your place.
    • As soon as you can, write down the objection, what you think the root objection might be, and 2 answers you can use next time
    • Bonus if you can figure out how to include pre-answering her objections for next time

Alright, guys, there’s the tip of the week!

Be sure to go out there and start implementing it RIGHT AWAY. Success loves the speed of implementation.

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