Today, I’m going to break down an approach where a girl is walking down the street. I want you to notice how quickly we connected and how it wasn’t necessarily a perfect approach. I may have fumbled a little bit, we joked about a few things, and I want you to see how you can make a woman feel attracted and connected to you in just a few minutes.
“Excuse me real quick. This is kind of unexpected, but I was at the stoplight over there, and I noticed you. I felt like I had to risk embarrassment and say something. So here’s something. I’m Matt.”
“Nice to meet you.”
“Nice to meet you. What are you up to?”
Why You Do Not Need to Be Perfect
Notice how it wasn’t perfect. I wasn’t super smooth like James Bond. I stumbled over my words a little bit, and that’s okay. A lot of guys don’t approach because they think they need the perfect lines memorized. There’s no such thing as perfect. In fact, women often appreciate when you fumble a bit. It creates a real moment, something authentic.
Stop Scripting and Start Feeling the Interaction
I no longer approach women with anything fully preplanned. I know the direction I want to take the conversation, but I never script the exact words. I feel it in my body. I feel her energy and respond accordingly. Sometimes it’s more seductive, sometimes more playful. It depends on her vibe. That’s how you connect within seconds.
Handle Logistics Early
After introducing yourself, figure out logistics. Does she live here? Is she visiting? Is she busy? If she’s busy, keep it short. If not, maybe go for an instant date.
Get to Know Who She Really Is
Then get to know who she is. Not just what she does, but who she is as a person. I often use assumptions. I’ll say, “You seem like…” and fill in the blank. People love to know how they’re perceived. It creates intrigue and draws her in.At one point, I brought up cam show studios in Bucharest. Not the safest topic, but it was on my mind. This is what we call first thought, best thought. Say what’s naturally there. You can make almost any topic interesting if you own it.
Reading Body Language Correctly
Pay attention to body language. I briefly held my wrist, which is slightly closed off. It’s better to stand open, hands relaxed, feet planted apart. Take up space. Her legs were crossed, which shows comfort. If her feet were pointing away, that would indicate she wanted to leave. These subtle cues matter.
– How to Escalate Naturally
Eventually, we exchanged contact information. She guessed my age as 33, and I’m actually 43. I rewarded that by giving her a friendly hug. It was contextual and natural, not forced. That’s how you escalate smoothly.
– Respecting Comfort Levels
I considered going for a cheek kiss goodbye but asked first. When she said no, I respected it. Always gauge comfort levels.
– Why You Should Go for the Instant Date
Looking back, I should have gone for an instant date. She wasn’t busy, and the attraction was high. When possible, always go for the instant date. It’s the best-case scenario.
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