how to tell a girl you like her

How To Tell a Girl You Like Her WITHOUT Getting FRIEND ZONED

We all know how hard it is to master how to tell a girl you like her WITHOUT Getting Friend Zoned. They say that the biggest fear in the world is public speaking, I reckon the SECOND biggest is revealing how you feel about someone.

It’s like jumping out of a plane, hoping that the parachute will open and that you won’t crash and burn in case she rejects you! 

So how can you guarantee that telling her you like her won’t have her running for the hills? Whilst I can’t give you a 100% guarantee she will feel the same , what I do want to do in this video is show you strategically how you can start to reveal your feelings for her without scaring her away!


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HOW TO TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER
Without Getting Friend Zoned!

I’m Renee Slansky for the Attractive man and it’s my job as your coach to make you the most  confident and desirable man that you can be. 

 If you are currently dating a girl that you really like or maybe have been trying to get it across to that friend of yours that you keep hanging out with , that you really like her ….then you will want to watch this video.  

Women can get cold feet just like you guys , and sometimes we get scared about our feelings or the possibility of a relationship because of our past experiences . So here are my tips to help you communicate your feelings to her in a way to minimize rejection and increase your chances of having those feelings reciprocated . 

Start to test the waters a little by sending hints

The very first thing you need to do is gather as much information as you can about how she could possibly feel before you go all in. It’s like seeing how cold or deep the water is before diving into the pool!

Some basic ways to drop hints would be complimenting her in more specific detail eg : 

“I think your eyes look beautiful today” , as opposed to “you look hot!” or “ I think your really great at that , you can tell your creativity is a strength , it makes you glow.”

Remember the little things she has mentioned and then do something about it! Ifs she mentioned that she never has time to eat a proper meal because of a stressful deadline , then send an Uber Eats meal to her house as a surprise

Start asking her about her future plans and include her in yours subtly with phrases like “we “ and “us”

 After dropping hints , you want to  watch for her response. Does she pull away? Does she laugh compliments off or does she blush and return them? Does she change the subject when you start to talk more about the future ?

This will help give you an indication if she is on the same page or may need a little more time.  

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Show her first before you tell her

Actions will always speak louder than words and whilst women love to hear what you have to say , ultimately it’s what you do that will either win her over or not.  If you just up and tell her one day that you like or love her , but you don’t actually show it , chances are she will be doubtful , confused or just flat out reject you . 

Now the easiest way you can do this without having to spend lots of money , buy 10 puppies or build a disney castle , is to simply learn what her love language is. Guys is you haven’t read Dr Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages , then stop , collaborate and listen. You need to , it will literally change everything you need to know about love and women. 

Basically there are 5 ways in which we give and receive love , which are :

Acts of Service ( doing stuff for her )
Quality time ( spending time with her and being present and not on your phone )
Physical Touch ( affection , kissing and sex ) 
Gifts ( buying her things she appreciates ) 
Words Of Affirmation  ( telling her positive things , compliments etc) 

Now if you can work out which way she feels loved and then focus on fulfilling that love language , I guarantee that she is going to really start to becoming attached to you!


Choose the right medium for you – Text or Face to Face

The next step is deciding how you are going to do it ! Are you both someone who has big deep and meaningful conversations through text? Are emojis your thing? Or is it something that she would appreciate you saying face to face?

There is no right or wrong answer , although whilst telling here face to face is the scariest , it is usually the best way to do it . That way you can really see how she reacts and if it’s possible it means you can seal the deal with a kiss! 

Choose the right timing

Next you want to choose the right timing , this is a somewhat intimate thing to do and really is the turning point of whether it makes or breaks your new relationship. So don’t do it when you are both drunk , stressed , fighting or in a noisy place !

Be a little strategic about the timing but also be open to the right opportunity when it comes along , whether that be when you are laughing and walking in the park , after you have just been intimate or maybe when she is being a cutey and you just have to tell her there and then. 

When things aren’t too orchestrated it means you won’t be as stressed out , but at the same time at least be aware of when there might be a better time to tell her! If she is super stressed out or maybe in a bad mood then it’s probably not the right time to tell her. 

Say it loud and clear

Ok guys here is where you have to jump out of the plane . There is no turning back now! Truth is if you have done all the above steps first you should at least know if she is starting to feel the same and when the right time is to say it. 

Now that you are ready , do it boldly! This doesn’t mean yelling it at her , it means just owning your words and your feelings . Keep it simple , clear amd authentic and stay away from cheese and long speeches. 

Simple phrases like “ I think I’m falling for you “ or “ I really like you , in every way”  are complete heart melters and come across really romantic and genuine. For me when my man told me , we were literally having a conversation in a pub with his family and friends and I simply stated “ I’m in love with you, to which he responded “ I’m in love with you too .” It was simple , to the point and bold , but it was the absolute truth! 

Expect the best , but prepare for the worst

Probably not what you wanted to hear , but as I said I can’t make this entirely risk free . Truth is love will always involve some unknown and lack of control and that my friends is why we like it! It’s important to remain optimistic because whatever you focus on is what comes into fruition . 

And if you have started to test a few things before hand then you should have a pretty good indication if she is feeling the same way or not before you tell her.  But a little dose of reality helps to keep things realistic and not set ourselves up for unmet expectations . 

If she doesn’t feel the same way then at least you have your answer and you can decide whether or not it is worth to keep pursuing her. Rejection happens to all of us and if you haven’t already I suggest you watch our other video on tips to handle rejection which I will link in the bio. 

Now if you are someone who really struggles under pressure and feels like all your confidence goes out the window , then I suggest you download our confidence cheat sheet.

It contains 18 proven ways to increase your confidence and become fearless , which is usually what we need when we are about to out our heart on the line!

These methods are based on science and psychology and will help ease your nerves under stressful situations like telling the girl you like her!.

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HERE’S THE RECAP:

1: Start dropping some hints and watch for her response 

2:  Show her first before you tell her 

3: Choose the right way to say it , in person is usually best!

4: Choose the ideal timing 

5 Say it loud and clear 

6: Hope for the best but expect she may not feel the same way.  

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Until next time guys , good luck and see you soon!

5 biggest myths about women

5 BIGGEST Myths About Women

What are the 5 biggest myths about women, you ask?

If you think you have us all figured out, then you are wrong! But the good news is, what I am about to tell you will go against everything that you thought you knew about women!


I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man and in this video I’m going to BUST 5 myths about women that you thought were true! And trust me guys, you are going to be happy about the answers…

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5 BIGGEST MYTHS ABOUT WOMEN…. BUSTED!

Alright, I’m going to let you in on a secret! I have been stalking the majority of all you men in the comments for our channel, because I want to get inside your head and know what you think about women. So click now to subscribe and be sure to watch to the end!

So, if you ever feel like really saying what you feel or want one of your questions answered then don’t hold back and tell us in our comments section!


I noticed that there were 5 major things that you guys seem to get confused and frustrated with when it comes to us ladies. So, it’s time to set the record straight and do my own version of myth busters!  Oh, and number 1 is a big myth that has to stop so make sure you watch this whole video!

5) We only want men with money

I will admit there are a lot of women out there who do prey on men for money, because they are either lazy, fearful of being broke or just down right gold diggers.  As a coach, but more than anything as a woman, this comment frustrated the hell out of me and I hear it more often than I should.

Here’s the thing. The right woman appreciates a man who can provide financially, because it helps provide her with security of the future , but it doesn’t mean she wants to count your pennies , because she will also be a woman who wants to  contribute as well!

We are women and biologically and scientifically speaking we yearn to nest and be protected by men. This doesn’t mean we want to bleed you dry or only marry you for your wallet. And if you are only experiencing women like that then the issue is that you can’t identify the right women from the wrong women and need to attend one of our bootcamps.

A man should, to some degree, want to look after his partner and children, not by having to work his ass off while she does nothing, but because it’s an act of love to help protect and provide for the family. And, the right woman will recognise that you are man of high value and will also be wanting to contribute in whatever way she can.


4) We only want to date tall, good looking men

Alright, I will confess I am attracted to a tall man, but I have dated shorter men because any woman who has the right intentions will get to a point to where they realise a real man isn’t made up only by his height.

Let’s first clarify tall. Most women see short as any man under 6ft, which is ridiculous I agree, especially when the global average height of men is 5ft 9 inches.

But let’s put things into perspective. You guys all have a certain type of woman and physical traits that you are attracted to, whether its big boobs, small bum and a tiny waist. We all have ‘types’ or ideal things we want. But in a world full of billions of singles we know that there has to be more than just these things.

Most women want a man who treats her right, the height is just an added bonus. The truth is if a man think his appearance or height is the only way to win a woman then he disadvantages himself.

Women are more attracted to the following things than height:

Confidence, manners , ability to lead , romance, and being valued and made to feel special.  

3) We don’t like men approaching us

Ok hold the phone! We love it when men approach us with confidence and charm, we hate it when they make us feel unsafe or are sleazy and aggressive. See the difference there?

If you haven’t watched my other video on 10 tips for approaching women effectively, then put that on your to do list.  

Women may come across guarded when you approach her but it doesn’t mean she won’t be interested, she just doesn’t know you yet, so her reaction is normal!  But if you want to set the right impression then it’s all IN THE WAY you approach her. We see men talking to us and singling us out as old school romance, it makes us feel special and sets our hearts a flutter.

And here’s the thing, asking a woman out or talking to her is going to give you more of an indication if there is potential for anything as opposed to just selecting someone through a dating app.

Don’t be scared, be a gentleman and you will probably be shocked by their reaction.

2) We are high maintenance and want you to do all the effort

I will say one thing, we do live in a time where self-entitlement is killing relationships and driving men and women apart.  Women don’t want you to do all the effort, but they do expect you to invest and make them a priority. And you know what, this is completely normal because it communicates that you value and like her.

Dating isn’t a competition of who does more or less, it’s a courtship and both people should be making the amount of effort that reflects how they feel. If she’s coming across high maintenance, ask yourself first, is this woman actually a diva or am I actually being lazy and not doing enough?

Everyone wants to point the finger at someone else and the truth is women are just as scared as you guys of being taking advantage of. We don’t want to date users either.

1) We don’t care about sex

I don’t know where this myth came from but I have a feeling it’s from the 1950’s or from an over worked and underappreciate tired mother who just wants to sleep sometimes.  OK time for a little fact for you men.

Yes men do have a higher sex drive and think about sex 60% more than women on a daily basis , but a study that was published in TIME magazine revealed that their colleagues found that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women. Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period.

Women want to have sex, but they also want the emotional connection. So the key then isn’t just to focus on getting physical with her but also tapping into her emotional state as well.

Guys you can sit there and vent your frustration through the comments or you can start to really understand us a bit more and then use it to your advantage. We aren’t that complicated , we are just misunderstood and a great woman is an asset!

But if you struggle with even knowing how to strike up a conversation or basically feel a little lost when it comes to women then be sure to download our Confidence cheat sheet Which has 18 proven ways to increase your confidence fast. These are methods based on science and psychology.

This will help you ease your nerves under stressful situations, like approaching beautiful women.


So what are other things you struggle with when it comes to women? Tell me in the comments section of this video and I will try to answer as many as possible and even do another video on one of the questions!

See you in the next video!

– Renee

what to do if she doesn't show up

What To Do If She Doesn’t Show Up (She Ghosts You)

Today’s video on ghosting is all about what to do if she doesn’t show up!


Have you ever dated a great girl , felt a strong connection , maybe even had great sex and finally thought this girl is someone different …only to have her disappear on you without a trace?

If the answer is yes, then you my friend have been ghosted! It’s a huge rejection. So in this video, I’m going to tell you WHY women ghost you and what you need to do after she does!

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Until next time, bye for now!

Kisses

what to text a girl who stopped responding

What To Text A Girl Who Stopped Responding (2019)

Know what to text a girl who stopped responding?!

Imagine this…


Ever text back and forth with a girl you really like, and then BAM! –

… out of the blue, she stops texting you back?

No problem…
Just send this 4-word text to revive ANY dead text conversation:


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Berkeley psychologists found that receiving a text message makes people feel more connected and causes an upswing in mood.  But this might surprise you, the open rate of SMS messages is 99%, yet the average response rate of the text is 45%.

Before I give you my favorite text, I have 3 crucial tips you need to start implementing immediately.

Make sure you check that out and my 4 word text here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM1ZvfCaFOo

That’s all for now! Stay tuned for our next video coming soon!

-Matt