Porn Addiction Cure: 4 Steps To Overcome Porn Addiction

Why do you need a porn addiction cure? Did you guys hear the news about the man that died after masturbating sixty two times in a row on Valentine’s Day?!

I guess now we know the magic number is sixty one times! Right? Right? *Cricket Noise*

But jokes aside.. guys always ask each other – “Why would you want to quit porn anyway? I mean, isn’t it just part of being a man? Isn’t it just what we guys do?

And my answer is – NO! It’s literally one of the worst habits you can have!

While it seems all innocent and good it actually depletes your motivation to meet and attract women in real life. And when you do have a woman, it makes it really hard to “get it up.” Why? because you’re so used to getting aroused by women in porn videos that you no longer get arousal from women in real life.

It also depletes your dopamine, (the happy hormone) which makes you depressed. So It makes everyday things like seeing the sunrise just seem bland and boring. It gives you unrealistic expectations when it comes to women and sex. It depletes your confidence level, and creates shame and anxiety!

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Look, man, for a lot of guys, including myself, quitting porn was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. It can almost feel impossible like the temptation is just too great and it’s easier to just give up and give in. Is there really a porn addiction cure out there?!

Well, the truth is that you’re likely just making a few small mistakes.. And with some tiny adjustments that I’m about to give you, you can finally stop relapsing and start being super proud of yourself for finally quitting porn for good.

Why is it so hard to quit porn?

# 1 The Dopamine Rush

It’s pretty simple. We get that mega-hit of dopamine every time we watch it. Dopamine, the happy hormone, is excreted everytime a “stimulus” is encountered by the body. Like the video and audio you have when opening porn. This hormone is responsible for making you feel great – when your body is used to feel so good when you watch porn, then everyday things like eating your favorite food will pale in comparison to watching it.

This can lead to a dangerous addiction where you’ll feel that watching it is a “need” instead of a “want” and you’ll replace your actual “needs” like food, water, social interactions, self-fulfilment with it instead. The same principle applies to drugs and alcohol. Even video games. Don’t let it replace healthy, positive things in life.

And no, I’m not saying video games are bad. But too much of a good thing is bad for you. If you’re spending 12 hours on a game when you should have been working, studying, or even eating and exercising, then thats a bad habit you need to remove. (Same with watching porn!)

WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT:

Just make sure your dopamine levels are high. Do other things that give you fulfillment, have small goals and accomplish your goals on a regular basis every single day and you won’t feel such
an urge to watch porn.

# 2 Willpower is Not Dependable

There was a study in Israel that looked at the decision of parole board judges as to why they would let some prisoners get parole and others they would deny. They found a pattern and it had nothing to do with their ethnic background, crimes or sentences.

It was all about timing.

The study showed that the judges were a lot more likely to grant the prisoner’s parole if the prisoner was seen early in the morning or right after lunch. That’s because after a while of making decisions, who gets parole and who doesn’t get parole, the judges would get tired, they would have “decision fatigue“, and it was just easier to deny them parole.

Now the study may have nothing to do with a porn addiction cure, but the same concept of “decision fatigue” is true for porn and other addictions.

When you get exhausted, you tend to make decisions on “auto-mode” and well, porn is an easy way to gratify yourself negatively. You can apply the same principle with drugs and alcohol. Your willpower will get depleted and you will resort to the easy way out the moment you feel tired and stressed.

WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT:

Don’t rely on willpower alone. Follow the steps and methods I show in my content to help yourself add extra barriers, like apps and setting changes on your phone and computer. Once your willpower yields, you won’t automatically go for negative things when you have other steps blocking them out.

# 3 Its Too Accessible

Literally just a click away on our phones.

Internet + mobile devices + free porn available on the net = huge temptation, right?

Back then you had to get your hands on some magazines. After that, some VHS’s, then CD’s.. then the internet and when you owned a computer. Next was laptops and finally – smartphones. It became more and more accessible with every new step of technology.

With porn getting more accessible.. the temptation to avoid it obviously becomes even more difficult to even think about getting a porn addiction cure.

WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT:

You need to make it harder to access. Take your phone away. Keep it away during times when you are most tempted. Add blockers to your connections to porn. Remove and restrict websites. Do what you can so your access becomes limited. Step 2 below can help you with it.


4 STEPS To Quitting Porn For Good

STEP 1 – Ask Yourself “WHY?”

Sometimes asking yourself questions before doing things is the key to making either good or bad decisions. Even then, when you’ve already made the bad decision (i.e. watched porn) asking yourself these questions will help you learn from it. And hopefully use your experience and answers to get your porn addiction cure. (Never watch porn again!)

Ask yourself:

“Why did you relapse?”/Why did you watch porn?
“What was the event that led up to you watching porn?”

“What mental state were you in?”
“Were you feeling really tired? Were you a little bit depressed?”
“Did you just get in a fight with someone?”

“What time of day did you look at it?”
“Was it like right before lunch where you really, really hungry or was it at the end of the day right before going to bed?”

And then you need to see if you can stop doing or change the event leading up to watching porn. Maybe you were scrolling through Instagram and you were doing some searches and you saw a lot of attractive half naked Instagram models and that made you a little excited.

And then, of course, one thing led to another. That would mean you either need to uninstall Instagram or at least stop scrolling and looking at Instagram models.

One common factor for a lot of guys is just boredom. Now, that might not be enough. So next you need to —

STEP 2 – Make it Harder to Access

One thing I do when I’m sleeping alone is I put my phone outside of my room because that’s a temptation for me. When I go to bed and I’m looking at my phone, I’m real tired.. It’s just so easy to type in something that I know I’m going to regret later.

  • So if you know that you’re looking at it on your phone, and it’s a certain time of day, then you need to put your phone away or give your phone to a friend. Or at least put it out of reach.
  • Maybe it’s on your computer at home because you work from home and you start getting stressed out from work. And it’s just kind of a way
    for you to take the edge off. If that’s the case, then go to a cafe and work because you’re probably not going to do it there!
    (If you get thrown out of the cafe or arrested.. Not my fault. You SERIOUSLY have a problem if you watch it in public!)
  • Another way to make it harder to access is to use a porn blocker. I recommend something like Blocker X for your smartphone. I use it myself and it’s just one extra barrier, even though I know I can uninstall it or just turn it off, it’s just going to take more effort because It’s going to have to be a conscious decision for me to do that.

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STEP 3 – Change Your Identity

Changing your identity is a powerful tool to give yourself the strength mentally to destroy your porn addiction. Its one a go-to porn addiction cure! One amazing example is to do this:

Instead of labeling yourself as a “porn addict” change it to “A man who gets fulfillment from real life.” I tell myself every single day. Allow only positive content into my mind and body. I’ve brainwashed myself into knowing this so that I only look at positive things and I only put things into my body that are helpful instead of harmful.

Personally, I don’t believe the whole Alcoholics Anonymous – “Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic!” Because then you have the identity of an alcoholic. Which means you’re going to be more likely to slip up and relapse. Do you think that’s a good identity? “Once a porn addict, always a porn addict?”

I personally believe if your identity is “I’m an alcoholic” or in this case, “I’m a porn addict“, that’s not a very empowering identity. Instead, change your identity to “I’m a man who can conquer anything. And I’m a man who only puts positive content into my body.

Tell yourself that you get fulfillment from real life, not this fake fantasy world. And don’t say “I’m NOT a porn addict” or “I DON’T watch porn” because then you’re still focusing on porn and your subconscious mind doesn’t hear the “not.

It just hears “I watch porn“, which is going to make you want to do it.

STEP 4 – Write Down Your Identity & Read It Every Day

Finally, for your final step in this porn addiction cure journey: Write down your new identity right now. Take a piece of paper and a pen right now and writeit down. Then brainwash yourself with this positive, amazing, powerful new identity.

Write it down every single day and read it every single day until it becomes just who you are. Once you do that, even if you relapse, it’s not a big deal because you don’t see yourself as a porn addict.

It just might be one little slip up. Then you go back to living your life – of being a man who gets his fulfillment from his family, his work, accomplishing his goals and beautiful women in real life.

And look, man, if you’re a single guy and you’d some help meeting and attracting beautiful women, check out my channel, my website and my blog – because I know it’s tough and a lot of single guys give up because they don’t want to get rejected.

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That is one of the many factors why guys end up watching a lot of porn because it satisfies that need in an easy, accessible, but negative way.

But trust me, man, maybe you haven’t experienced the real thing yet, but the real thing is ten times better.

And whether you’re single or in a relationship, make sure to download my free Confidence Cheat Sheet that will give you eighteen different ways that are proven by science to boost your confidence and help you eliminate fear. In fact, all of the eighteen habits in the Confidence Cheat Sheet will give you a dopamine boost, help you feel better about yourself and increase your willpower, thus making you able to handle temptation.

As you’re overcoming this addiction, the Confidence Cheat Sheet will help you just feel a lot more confident. So download it, man:


That’s all for now man. Hope you found my porn addiction cure helpful. Share it with guys who you think will greatly benefit from it.
Keep up all the great work and stay awesome!

See you in my next video and post.
Cheers,
Matt Artisan

3 Ways To Cure Your Fear Of Rejection From Women And Dating

Hey man! Today’s video is all about curing your fear of rejection. The best coaches in the world, like myself, get rejected the most because we approach the most. So then how can a normal guy like you, who’s possibly not yet quite the ladies man, never get rejected?

Well, in this video, I’m going to show you exactly how:

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3 Ways To Cure Your Fear Of Rejection For Good

Look, man, you can’t ever get to a point in life where no one ever says no to you or just doesn’t accept whatever it is that you’re offering them,
getting a no, whether it’s in business or sales, friends, family, whatever it is, it’s just a part of life.

Not everyone will want what you have to offer.

So then what can we do to never get rejected?

Well, number one, we can actually minimize the amount of NO’s that you get when approaching beautiful women.

And number two, even more importantly, we can change the way you think and feel about getting a “NO” so that it doesn’t feel like a rejection.

When I first started approaching women during the daytime, I had a huge fear of rejection and it showed up in my approach. They could read it on my face, I’m sure, because I was approaching them with this “Please be nice to me.” Kind of look in my eye. Kind of leaning back like “I’m
sorry I interrupted you.”

I was just so afraid they were going to feel like I was interrupting them until I realized I wasn’t interrupting them. I mean, sometimes I was, but even when I was, they absolutely loved it!

And it was like a shift in my brain that I was actually making their day. And even when they weren’t into it, because, of course, not every woman is impressed by my approach.

But what I realized is they weren’t rejecting me as a person. They were just not available!

I’ll give you 3 of my practical mindsets to help cure your fear of rejection:

FIRST MINDSET IS – ITS HER SH*T OR YOUR SH*T

So it’s either her sh**, meaning it’s her world, her reality, what’s going on in her life. It has nothing to do with you.

It’s the fact that she has a boyfriend, so she’s not into it or she’s in a hurry or she had a bad day. She might have just got fired from her job!

One time I had a student on Hollywood Boulevard approach a girl who just got off the phone. It seemed like she wasn’t doing anything. Seemed like a great opportunity. Turns out she got off the phone with the police because somebody just harassed her and molested her.

So needless to say, her reaction wasn’t great, but it had nothing, nothing to do with my client. It had to do with just the situation
that had just happened.

You have no idea what her reality is, what her world is. So why take it personal and “Say she rejected ME!” when it has nothing to do with you.. OR it does have something to do with you, meaning it’s your sh**.

But all she knows about you remember is your tonality and your body language, your appearance, the words that came out of your mouth and the way you approached her, like the angle. Maybe you approached from behind and she freaked out.

So it’s just feedback.

The problem is you don’t know what the feedback is because she’s not going to just tell you. She’s not going to say, “Oh, you were talking too fast and you look down and that felt a little creepy or you felt a little needy or you felt too nervous.”

She’s not going to tell you that, which is why it’s so important to have a mentor, somebody who knows what to look for, who can spot those blind spots so you don’t keep running in circles making the same mistakes and keep having women dismiss you and saying no, that they’re not interested.

And you keep doing it over and over again when you can easily have somebody analyze your approach, give you some feedback and you can fix it on the spot.

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SECOND MINDSET – SHE’S QUALIFIED OR DISQUALIFIED

Look, man, she either has what it takes to date you or she doesn’t.


She has a boyfriend? Doesn’t mean she rejected you, just means she doesn’t have what it takes. She’s disqualified to be a potential lover with you.

If she’s in a hurry. Same thing. She’s disqualified in that moment. You need somebody who’s not in a hurry to have a conversation with them.

If she’s not into you, she’s disqualified.

Do you really want to date a woman that’s not into you? So it really comes down to she’s either qualified, she has what
it takes to date you.

She’s a good candidate or she’s not a good candidate. And sometimes it just depends on the circumstances of that moment.

Maybe if she wasn’t so busy, she would be a good candidate. But in that situation, she’s just disqualified. And if she’s disqualified, that’s a good thing. That gives you an opportunity to find someone who is qualified.

Imagine you went on a date with a girl who’s not qualified to date you and you wasted all this time. Maybe you went on several dates. Maybe she became your girlfriend and she just doesn’t have what it takes. She doesn’t have the qualities, the attributes to date a guy like you, you want to find that out sooner rather than later.

So when a girl becomes disqualified, say “thank you”, because now you have an opportunity to find someone who is qualified.

THIRD MINDSET – LEARN TO LOVE THE “NO”

Hearing a lot of no’s, I believe, is what builds character. In fact, there’s no other way to succeed. And there’s so many examples of this in history of successful people who have failed over and over again before they succeeded.

Such as Michael Jordan not making the cut for his high school basketball team.

Jack Canfields best selling book, Chicken Soup for the Soul. It was rejected one hundred and forty four times before it was published.

That’s crazy!

Most people would have given up after a few rejections, less than ten. So don’t be the guy who is digging for gold but gives up right before he finds it.

Back in the day there was a man named Mr. Darby and he had gold fever. So he went to work in Colorado with a pick and a shovel and it was really hard work. But he had desire and he had persistence. After weeks of labor, he finally found a shining ore but he needed some machinery to bring it to the surface.

So he borrowed a bunch of money from his family and his friends to buy the machinery. When the first car of or was mined and shipped to a smelter. The returns proved that they had one of the richest mines in all of Colorado. A few more cars of that ore would clear all of his debts. Then would come the big killing in profits.

But unfortunately, the vein of gold ore disappeared.

They drilled on and on, desperately trying to find gold, all to no avail. And finally, the sad day came when they decided to quit. So they sold their machinery to a junk man for just a few hundred dollars and they took the train home.

Now, some junk men are dumb, but not this guy.

He called in a mining engineer to look at the mine and do a little calculating. The engineer told the junk man that the project had failed because Mr. Darby was not familiar with fault lines.

Calculations showed that the vein would be found just three feet from where Mr. Darby had stopped drilling. That’s exactly where it was found. The junk man took millions of dollars of ore from the mine because he knew enough to seek expert counsel before giving up.

So, by the way, find an expert to help you before you give up on your journey, man.

And also learn to love the journey, not the destination.

So many of us we feel, oh, when I finally struck gold, then I’ll be happy when I finally get that dream girl, then I’ll be happy.

You need to love the journey along the way and learn to love the NO’s because those are getting you closer to your final destination. In fact, Tom Hopkins in his best selling book, The Art of Selling, says you need to learn to love the NO.

What that means is you need to calculate on average, how many no’s does it take to get to a yes, which is a great thing to do in selling as well as approaching women. Does it take you 10 no’s to get a yes when you’re approaching women as far as 10 approaches to get a date?

If so, then every time you get to know, you say, “Hell yes, I’m getting closer to a date. Only nine more to go.” And you allow that to motivate you to move forward.You say, “Hey, she’s disqualified. So what? I’m getting closer to someone who is qualified.”



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If you watch the video above, I also have a bonus mindset towards the end.

That’s all for now, man! See you next time!

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How To Approach Women During The Daytime (Honest + Infield Footage)

Today’s content is all about how to approach women during the daytime! (Video footage included, man!) Approaching women and talking to girls isn’t only done in bars or clubs. In fact, we have had more authentic, memorable and enjoyable experiences when we approach women during the daytime.

Check out coach Jules Bia explaining his methods on how to approach women during the daytime, complete with footage of him approaching girls during the day in Playa del Carmen, Mexico:

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HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN DURING THE DAYTIME
with Coach Jules Bia

In today’s video, we show:
– how to approach women during the daytime
– how to approach girls during the day in the street, the beach, shops and malls
– how to approach a girl without being a creep
– how to approach girls during the daytime and get her number
– how to approach women in public places
– how to approach a girl NOT in a bar or club
– how to approach women in the street
– how to talk to a girl during the day
– infield footge from Jules Bia of The Attractive Man team
– examples of daygame approach,
– how to talk to girls with confidence
– how to talk to women and charm them

Here are Jules’ principles to keep in your mental checklist when you want to practice how to approach girls during the daytime:

WARM UP

Just like workouts. Just like public speaking.. Top athletes do it before game time, teachers and professors do it before major events, actors and performers do it before the big curtain rises. It makes TOTAL sense how important warming up is when mastering how to approach women during the day.

So, we love to warm up by talking to random people we meet everyday. Regardless of who they are, if they don’t look completely busy, give them a greeting – talk to them, give them a wave. Its a great warm up to set your mood and activate those happy hormones.

During nighttime approaches, we go and talk to everyone right from the start – if its in the bar or club, we talk to the bouncer, the first person we meet when we enter, the first group we meet.

Once you’ve warmed up, you won’t be so jumpy, anxious, fidgety. I almost never get tongue tied if I had an awesome warm up before I approach gorgeous women. So I want you to be more social, be a bit more dynamic, and warm up! Its going to help overall confidence, and social skills.

FEEL IT IN YOUR BODY

Ever heard the phrase “its all in your head”? Years of coaching men has helped us understand, majority of men’s problems are internal. They keep overthinking, they keep relying on mental cues, they keep thinking “what do I do now?” “what happens if I do this?” “what if she says this?” “should I do this after this and this?” “what if she says no?” “what if she says yes?”

The problem is.. All of your thoughts aren’t happening in the REAL world. You’ve beaten yourself up before you even made a move.

You’re supposed to FEEL it. You’re a human, with feelings, with sensors, with hormones that activate, with a body that responds to stimuli. Attraction is supposed to come naturally, not from a book that you pull out in your head. Being too much in your head? Overthinking? Believe me, it won’t end up well.

You see, some BAD advice would be “memorize this” and “practice this line and routine”. Imagine how that would feel like – are you some robot that only responds with a specific line or when a specific input is given?

So men, make sure to feel it in your body. Sure you might feel scared at first..you might have some jitters, but I want you to feel that and own it. Don’t lock yourself out of your feelings because you’ll never be able to tap into that natural, attractive you if you shut all of that out.

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TAKE CHANCES

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” True. Most men want to play it safe. Also true.

Risk taking is never easy. It requires you to exit your comfort zone. But what that does is it opens up new and amazing oppurtunities for you. And effort plus oppurtunity always equals success.

Sometimes, all guys need is a good push. You could be hanging on the edge of your safe bubble, almost ready to break your limits and become better – but you can’t find it in yourself to bust through. Why? It could be the fear of pain, the fear of rejection, afraid you’ll be humiliated, or afraid you’ll get hurt.

Men, life has been throwing curveballs all this time. And the “no pain, no gain” mantra was created for a reason – not just for the gym and working out – it applies in real life as well.

Approaching beautiful women that you might feel are out of your league is a complete risk on your part. But you know what? Experiencing the pain of rejection and learning from it is better than feeling the regret of not doing it. And most of the time, interactions even end well for our clients.

It was only after stepping out of their comfort zone that our men have realized that they can do better in dating and in their lives. It is by taking chances that we truly improve. It is by facing your demons and fears, where you can find the courage and confidence to be the best version of yourself.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all”


INVEST IN YOURSELF

Now, this is self-explanatory but I’ll have to emphasize this. Don’t make “how to approach women during the daytime” or flirting, dating, approaching women your main focus in life. That will create a needy mindset, and will set you off.

What you should be doing, is investing in yourself. Its YOUR life, and YOUR happiness. Don’t think that people-pleasing will always lead to your happiness. Seeking others approval, and doing things for them rather than yourself will lead you to a depressive state.

Invest in yourself, man. That’s the best piece of advice I can give you right now. Seek out a better you everyday. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Develop yourself, and natural attraction will follow.

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Ways To Turn A Girl On INSTANTLY (Honest & Ethical Attraction)

I’m going to tell you 5 surprisingly simple ways to turn a girl on instantly. If you’re interested, you can make a woman want you, and you can start doing these right away to attract more women and spark romantic, and even sensual feelings the moment you meet them.

I call it the five P’s.. And the last one is by far the most powerful. It can either totally creep her out if you do it wrong way or it can turn a girl on instantly when you do it the right way, which I’m going to show you:

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WAYS TO TURN A GIRL ON INSTANTLY

I really liked this quote by Dan Brown. He says,

“Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”

-Dan Brown

Quick lesson about ways to turn a girl on instantly: One common mistake. Most guys avoid all tension in life. And we call these “nice guys” or “pleasers.” They never want to rock the boat or look bad or cause any friction.. And women find them sweet and adorable and they befriend them, but they’re not turned on by these types of men. Or should I say boys? For that matter.

You see, a man who avoids all tension is just not attractive because he’s kind of a wuss and women are not attracted to terrified men who avoid all tension and play it safe in life. They want a guy who’s a little bit of a risk taker, which is why they sometimes like arseholes because a-holes don’t live in fear.

They do and say what they want despite the tension that it often creates. But the good news is you don’t have to be an arse-hole. You just have to be willing and comfortable stepping into tension. So how do you do that?

Think of it like this. You’re probably attracted to very feminine women.

Gorgeous, beautiful women who are also attracted to masculine men, which sometimes looks like muscular man or tall men or men who are CEOs of a big company. Successful men, because being masculine is about conquering, fighting, hunting, being a leader, being driven.

Fortunately, unlike our ancestors who were literally conquerers, hunters, and killers, warriors.. We don’t actually have to do any of those things nowadays, which is great. We live in a much safer society, which I think is awesome, but of that because we live in such a safe world now, and we don’t have to step into that tension and fight for our food or fight other men. We become soft. We don’t step into tension. We live in our comfort zone for our entire life. You know, working in a cubicle or working from our house, getting Uber eats delivered to us.

Again, it’s very convenient, but to become more masculine, and increase your attractiveness, you need to build courage. You need to step into tension, especially the tension of a beautiful woman, because if she’s gorgeous and you’re getting nervous, there’s a lot of tension there, which is why, of course, we bring in models on our live workshops and have you role play with them and have you ground yourself.

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Now we’re going to go over the five P’s. You have to understand that sexual tension is all about pressure and then releasing the pressure. Most guys think crumble under the pressure or the tension of a beautiful woman. And so they cannot be attracted to that type of guy — one who’s nervous and fumbling and fidgeting and breaking eye contact.

It makes her want to get out of that situation right away. But when you practice and you master these five things, then when you approach a beautiful woman, you can be calm, confident, and grounded in that pressure. And she’ll therefore feel like you must have a lot of beautiful women of her caliber in your life.

Make sense, right? Because if you didn’t, you would crumble under that pressure. But since you’re calm, common, confident talking to a beautiful woman like her, you must have a lot of women like her in your life, which is not only sub communicates that you are an attractive man, because you have women like her in your life, or you’re comfortable around women are like her.

At least you might not have any women like her in your life,

But the fact that you’re comfortable around her, it’s basically pre-selection. She knows that you are the type of guy that women like her would date. Not only that, but she will feel this intensity. She will feel this spark of romantic sensual and sexual tension within seconds.

Sometimes it’s instantly. So the first thing that I want you to practice the first P.. can you guess it?

First P – PROMIXITY

First up. Ways to turn a girl on instantly, 5 P’s – Proximity, how close or how far away you are from her matters. A lot. For example, if I stand this far away, it just seems like I’m afraid of her and she can feel that. Plus when I shake hands with her, I have to lean in kind of, or likF here pull her if I am standing normal, it’s just weird. (I demonstrate this in the video I embedded)

And a lot of guys make this mistake. They stand really far from her. Cause they don’t want to like step into her personal space. But her personal space is really about shoulders’ distance apart.

(Demonstration in the video embedded) Like this is no big deal. She’ll be fine. If you’re standing like this, there’s definitely more tension than when I was way back there. But not really a lot. The key is to be about two inches further. This has a lot more tension. And if you can get even closer than that, now there’s even more tension.

Obviously the closer you get, the more tension there is either the club. You can be really close when you talk, because it’s so loud in the daytime. I definitely wouldn’t get this close to a girl. She’s going to freak out. So I’m going to be about an arms distance away at first. And then when I shake hands, I usually take a step forward.

And then I notice her reaction.

Her reaction was pleasant. She enjoyed it. But if she took a step back when I did that, then I would take a step back too.

Because you definitely don’t want to think, “Oh, I need sexual attention.” So I better take a step forward. And she keeps taking a step back. She’s going to want to get out of there right away. It’s going to feel really creepy and strange for her. Don’t do that. If she takes a step back, take a step back as well. Give her lots of space.

Even though this is more than arms distance apart, at least she feels comfortable now. And that’s most important. You want her to feel comfortable and safe first, then create sexual tension later. So I might give her the space at first..

And then as we’re talking, I might take a step forward again. And now we’re arms distance apart again. And I’m going to notice her reaction again this time she didn’t take a step back.

Second P – PAUSING

Number two of the ways to turn a girl on instantly. The second includes a problem – most guys speak really, really fast and they break all the tension that’s there. They don’t even allow any tension in there because they said, *In a really fast and high-pitched tone* “Hey, I just saw you here and I thought you were really cute and hi, my name is Matt, what’s your name?” And there’s no tension at all.

She can feel how nervous you are and how you’re just not used to a woman of her caliber. And remember, women don’t date down. If she can feel like you are beneath her, like you don’t date women like her, then instantly, she won’t be attracted to you.

So the second thing you need to do, is pausing. You need to pause.. not just slow down. Because if you talk slow and monotonous, it’s really boring and it’s just going to put her to sleep.

Pausing. It hooks the person in. They want to know what’s coming next. When you pause at the right time, there’s a wrong way to pause of course. Just like in public speaking, by the way.

Pausing also shows confidence. It shows that you expect her to sit there or stand there and listen to what you have to say because you believe what you have to say has merit. It’s valuable confidence.


Third P – PITCH

Next number three in our ways to turn a girl on instantly is: Pitch. Most guys again, their tonality is very high and pleasing and they talk like this:(Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi, I just saw you here. And I thought you’re really cute, please like me. I really hope you like me. I don’t want to offend you. I know I’m disturbing you from walking down the street and I don’t want to offend you.

That’s nice guys. So their pitch goes up and I know I gave it away. Number three is pitch. And what I mean by that is your pitch needs to go down in tonality sounds more authoritative authoritative. Always think of this when thinking of ways to turn a girl on instantly:

Lower tonality. It sounds more commanding, more sure of yourself. Again, that displays confidence versus the nice guy pleasing. We want to go down in tonality. (Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi. -pause + lower tonality- I just saw you here. -pause- And I thought you were really cute.” versus “Hi!! -high tonality- I just saw you here!! A-and I thought you were really cute and.. and..!”


I’m kind of overdoing it, but this is what I see or hear rather all the time on the first day of boot camp. And as we’re working on this in the field and working with models and they’re practicing this over and over again, then they get it down Pat. And then by the end of day, one, all of a sudden the women that they’re approaching are no longer going – “Okay, thanks.” They’re now saying “Ooh, hi! Wow, thank you.”

The reaction is like night and day.

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Fourth P – PROLONGED HAND HOLDING

Number four of the 5 ways to turn a girl on instantly. This one, probably not going to guess, but most guys have no touching during the daytime, which typically is fine because it’s kind of weird to be all touchy.

It’s fine to do that at a bar or club, but in a daytime situation at the mall or at the park or wherever, it’s a little tricky. BThere are ways to increase that physical intimacy, even within two or three minutes when you meet a woman. But one of the best ways to create sensual, sexual and romantic tension is through prolonged handshakes, because that is where you’re going to touch her.

There might not be any other touching in that first two or three minutes when you meet a woman during the daytime. But that handshake can really create a moment with her. Most guys, shake hands like this. (Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi, nice to meet you!” One, two seconds pass, and then release.

Instead – What I want you to do is shake her hands like a man, not like a limp fish. Squeeze it like you would a man’s hand. (Demonstration in the video embedded) Don’t squeeze it and like make her fingers uncomfortable and bend, cause that’s gonna feel like you’re the type of man that would hurt her. Obviously she doesn’t want that unless she’s into like BDSM [which a lot of women are, surprisingly] But even then, she doesn’t want to be physically and totally abused, obviously. But if you do a weak handshake, then she assumes you’re a weak man.

And that is not attractive either. It won’t be one of the ways to turn a girl on instantly.. That that will kill all attraction immediately. Use a strong handshake.. one, two seconds, then let it linger, soften your hand after that the two or three second handshake so that she can easily pull away if she doesn’t want to linger with your hand. So one, two, now I’m softening it. (See video embedded for demonstration)

Now we’re talking and we’re just creating a moment. And there’s an intensity here, right? It’s a romantic movie moment. As long as we stand here. That’s great because really the longer it is, the more romantic and intense it will be.

Fifth P – PIERCING EYE CONTACT

Last, but definitely not the least in our 5 ways to turn a girl on instantly, piercing eye contact. Most guys kill the tension by looking down. Instead, you got to maintain that eye contact. And I don’t mean piercing eye contact like being creepy and weird. I’m talking about a gaze.

You’re looking at her like you know she wants you. As if she meets your standards, that you guys are gonna have the most romantic, intimate and sensual experience, maybe you’re even looking at her like you would rock her world in bed.. if she’s so lucky, because that is very powerful eye contact versus looking down.

And most guys have no idea that they’re even breaking eye contact until we film them and we review the footage back and they can see, Oh wow. I looked away like three times during a crucial moment of the interaction.. In the very beginning and just something so simple like that, just looking down just for a split second, it’s like a millisecond. She can feel that you’re just not comfortable and it breaks the sexual tension and most of them, just lose attraction and lose interest that quickly.

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Now, if you do this wrong, you can literally repel women and creep them out. I want you to really look at her.

Yeah, I know it sounds simple. But you’d be surprised at how many guys really mess this up – because what type of message would it send her? If you just look at the ground a few times, or you look at the wall or even, even just breaking eye contact subtly a few times. This shows her that you can’t handle the tension of that interaction and that she is out of your league.

And basically you don’t deserve a woman like her, or you’re not used to women like her in your life. Now I’m not saying that you should stare at her the entire time with a crazed look in your eye. You don’t want her to think you’re a serial killer.

But what I can tell you is that using piercing eye contact correctly is one of the most powerful ways to turn a girl on instantly, and also to connect with a woman on a deeper level.

Social psychologist, Zick Rubin, discovered that two people in conversation normally make eye contact only 30 to 60% of the time. However, couples that are in love look at each other 75% of the time or more. When you look at your partner, you’re showing that you’re totally focused on what she is saying and that you feel relaxed and open to this person. And you’re comfortable around this person.

You’re used to this person, how much we look into someone else’s eyes not only helps us establish intimacy. And of course, it’s another way to release oxytocin, which is known as the love drug, but it also reveals how much intimacy might already be present. So when in conversation with a woman that you really like maintain strong eye contact with her about 75% of the time, I can’t stress this enough.

I want you to understand just how seductive and endearing and powerful piercing eyes really is when talking to a woman, just picture yourself in an everyday situation. Like you’re at the grocery store or you’re at Starbucks and you meet a cute woman. Now imagine you’re glancing down at the floor a few times looking to the side, I think she’d see you as a competent and honest guy? Of course not.

If you can’t even look her in the eye, then why would she trust you? When you think of ways to turn a girl on instantly, ask yourself – Why would she give you her phone number or go on a date with you? Now, imagine you’re giving her piercing eye contact. How would that make her feel? She’ll probably trust you more, which means she’s more likely to talk to you and go on a date with you.. maybe even sleep with you.

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Now, if this seems like a lot to take in, I understand. And remember, you’re not alone. A lot of guys out there feel the same way until they sat down with them, with my team. And in fact, I recently had a student who was completely unaware that he was looking down to avoid eye contact and the women felt like he was looking at their breasts and he wasn’t, he wasn’t a weird creepy guy. (But he definitely had little to no experience with the ways to turn a girl on instantly..)

And he was just, he just couldn’t handle the eye contact, but his interactions were ending very quickly and he was getting really frustrated. And as soon as he fixed just that one subtle thing, it’s such a small thing, but at the same time, it’s huge. And when we pinpointed that blind spot, his interactions completely took a 180. And all of a sudden women not only were having two, three, four minute interactions with him in the supermarket or here on the beach, for example, but they would just melt in his presence.

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– Matt

Turn Ons For Women – This Phrase Made Her RIP MY CLOTHES OFF..

What are some of the best turn ons for women? I’m going to share a 5 word phrase I said, that turned a girl on so much that it made her want to rip my clothes off then and there!

I’ll also reveal the psychology behind why this worked. AND teach you how you can use this as a great way to turn a girl on. She’ll be begging for you to take her to bed with you:

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TURN ONS FOR WOMEN
This Phrase Made Her Want To Rip My Clothes Off!

What comes out of your mouth when you talk is powerful.

The different ways to turn a girl on aren’t that hard to master once you understand how it works. Your words alone can already arouse and excite her if you know how to use them right. AND if you know WHEN to say them. You too, can make her rip your clothes off by knowing exactly the things to say to a girl to turn her on.

In the video, I share ways and words that are turn ons for girls. Actions, behaviors and traits of men who women absolutely adore. Plus the words that are turn ons for women. These actually turn a woman on psychologically, emotionally, mentally, and even physically.. but is only as effective as the way you say it, the way you do it, as well as the timing.


Watch the video and carefully take note of what I have to share about the principles of attraction; the reasons why some men attract the women they want effortlessly, and naturally.

We’ve got more weekly content coming out all about how to turn a woman on with conversations, how to turn a woman on with touching, as well as motivation and exercise videos designed to help you become the confident, mature, powerful man that deserves to be with an amazing woman that won’t manipulate or leave you!

More videos about how to turn a girl on here:
How To Turn Her On Through Text | Texts That Turn A Girl On
5 Ways To Turn A Girl On Instantly | Best Turn Ons for Women
DON’T Do These 7 Turn offs, these destroy your chances of Attracting Women

A woman wants to be turned on. Don’t tell yourself you can’t do it, because with our years of experience and coaching, we KNOW that most men lose the battle even before it is fought.

Majority of guys approach and interact with women with an “I’ve already lost” mentality. Truth is, women know that. SO my last words of advice for this time is – NEVER, ever, beat yourself up by doubting yourself. The hardest battles fought, and the ones most satisfying to win, are mostly internal.

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That’s all for now, man.

Cheers,
Matt