You know that painful moment when you are texting a girl you really like and she does not reply? You sit there wondering if she got abducted by aliens, if she is playing hard to get, or if she simply left you on read. It is frustrating. I felt the same way for years until I started applying these five texting rules. They worked so well that I wrote a book called Turn Her On Through Text.
Rule 1: Vary Your Response Time
If you are in the middle of a conversation and not busy, go ahead and reply quickly. But if you have work, the gym, or world domination on your schedule, take your time. Do not drop everything to text her back.
It is perfectly fine to leave a message on read for a few hours. Sometimes I do not reply at all, especially if the message is something random like “Hi.” I simply put the phone down and respond a few days later. It drives women crazy, but in a good way.
Rule 2: Do Not Prioritize Her
If your entire day revolves around waiting for her text, she is going to feel that energy. It shows up as neediness.
Keep your phone on silent. Check it only a few times a day. Make your work, hobbies, goals, and passions the main focus. This way, when she asks what you are up to, you do not reply with “Nothing.” Instead, you can say something like, “Planning my trip to Iceland. Crushed my workout. Rooftop lounge later.”
You are not playing games. You are just living a great life.
Rule 3: Do Not Tolerate Low Effort Behavior
Most attractive women have guys messaging them nonstop. Sometimes they give mixed signals without meaning harm. For example, you ask, “Want to grab a drink this weekend?” and she replies, “I do not know. I will let you know.”
Translation: She is not excited but likes the attention.
Do not chase. Reply with something like, “Cool, let me know. I am pretty busy.” Put the ball in her court. If she does not respond, do not message her for at least a week.
Rule 4: Use the Clever Compliment
Over complimenting through text comes across as desperate. In person, compliments hit harder because of your tonality, eye contact, and energy. Texting lacks all of that.
Instead, make compliments specific. Avoid generic ones like “You are hot.” Reference something she told you before. Example: “Tried that Turkish cafe you mentioned. Verdict, you definitely know your coffee.”
One of these texts per week is enough.
Rule 5: Know Your Move and Take Action
Many guys over text and never move things forward. You did not get her number to be texting buddies. You did it to see her again.
Ask her out as soon as possible. Strike while the interest is high. If she is not down, no problem. There are plenty of other women who will be.
Act fast, avoid wasting time, and stop texting for days without a plan.
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