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Top Tinder Tips for Men (Get MORE Matches!)

Tinder is still one of the fastest growing dating apps in the world.

But there’s a huge problem you’ve probably experienced already…

There are so many single men swiping and competing for the same beautiful women on Tinder, that it’s hard to match with the women you actually want.

So how do you stand out from all the other guys?

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I’m going to be brutally honest with you men, in today’s time and era we now have more single people than ever before, so if you are feeling like the fishing pond is a little crowded that’s because it is!

So, the competition is high and it means that you can’t just rely on the casual photo to win her over anymore. Truth is you literally have 1/10th of a second before she decided if she will swipe left or right on you. Like literally that’s a split second #ouch

So here are my tips to help you leave an impression before and after she chooses you:

# 3 Choose a Great Primary Photo

Your first photo is everything, it literally is the deciding factor of whether or not she will read your profile or even look at your other pics. And don’t scoff at this guys because we all know that you do the same. We are human and it’s normal to be drawn to someone or not purely because of how they look.

So here are the rules with profile photos:

A Photo of You

make sure it’s you of you right now, close up with natural lighting and nothing covering your eyes, because to a woman this doesn’t help build trust. And don’t forget to smile, statistics show that profile picture with a smile get more engagement

A Photo of You in a Group

Group photos helps show you have a social life and are fun plus it doesn’t make your profile seem like you’re too into yourself. Just make sure this isn’t your opening photo as then it becomes a guessing game!

A photo of You Dressed Up

Women love a man in a nice collared shirt, we think it looks sophisticated and classy. You don’t have to be in a tux, a simple white button up shirt always works a treat!

A couple Photos of You Doing a Hobby

This is a great way to help communicate who you are and what you like, which will get a girl with similar interests to you wanting to know more. Plus it shows that you are active and fun!


#2 Make Your Bio Original

Now of course aside from your pics you also need to make your bio interesting. Because after she sees your face she will then want to know a little about you.

The first rule is to not lie about your age or open up with a cheesy one-liner. Keep it short and simple but make sure it has something to laugh about in there. Humour, intelligence, and originality will set you apart from every other man out there.

Your bio should be a brief idea of who you are, what you like and what you’re looking for. No one needs to know your life history or needs to be lectured. Play it cool, but don’t take yourself too seriously.

They work because they have humor behind them and aren’t too full on or serious!

 

#1 Initiate a Date Straight Away

And lastly, if you want to really get ahead of the crowd, then initiate a conversation straight away. Don’t wait to say hello and introduce yourself, step up and send her that message.

But make sure it’s more than a one worded conversation like “hey” …. crickets**

If you’re stuck for conversation then all you need to do is follow the following flow:

Introduce with confidence  – Hey’s what’s up ….as opposed to Hi my name is Rob, it’s great to meet you! ..are going to get two different responses. Own who you are and stand up!

Compliment – Telling her she’s hot…or has a great body as opposed to saying “You have a great smile, or your eyes are quite stunning are again sending two different messages – If you are complimenting stay away from anything overly sexual, make her feel beautiful not hot!

Ask Questions – get the flow going and try to get to know her straight away , show your interest. If you are stuck for conversation then download our cheat sheet, but the general rule is to ask about her day, interests, friends and what she likes!

Keep it casual and light

If you start going hardcore  like ”I think you are really full of soul and I feel a connection and I would love to discover how we can really get to know each other intimately“ ….as opposed to “You’re fun to talk to, this has seriously made my day “ ….again two different reactions. The goal with any woman on any first encounter or date is simple: MAKE HER LAUGH AND FEEL SAFE.

Ask her out!

Be bold and ask her out.  Take control and start to lead her straight from the get-go.

You want to get in before the other chaps she’s speaking to, so be the one to actually start to organize a real date or drinks.

There’s no point just spending weeks chatting, get her number and go out on a date and get to know the girl in person.

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Other men don’t have to be your competition if you know how to set yourself apart right from the start. And all of the above is easy and achievable ways to do it.

But if you need help with knowing how to talk to a woman either in person or on a dating app then download our free conversation cheat sheet by clicking on the image on the bottom, right now!


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Signs She Is Using You

Are you sure a girl is being true to you? Here are some signs she is using you…

No one wants to date a time waster or someone who isn’t who they really are.

So how can you be sure the girl you are dating isn’t just putting on an act?
How do you know if she is putting on a façade just to please you?
And are you sure that you won’t get surprised later on when the real her comes out?!

Watch today’s Wing Girl Wisdom to find out the top signs she is using you:

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SIGNS SHE IS USING YOU

Is she being Real or is she Playing you?!

Let’s talk about FAKE women, the ones who seem to change as soon as you commit to them! If you have ever dated a girl who seems happy, flirty and amazing in the beginning and then changes later on after a few months , then you will want to stay to watch this entire video ….because I’m going to give you some awesome tips on how to identify those types of girls and make sure you don’t get caught out! So make sure you subscribe now and give us a big thumbs up!

One of the reasons I wanted to do this video was because I asked over 1200 men what they wanted me to talk about and this is the one thing that keeps coming up!

So, here are my tips to being able to identify if she is the real deal or an imposter!

TAKE YOUR TIME TO KNOW HER REAL DEFAULT BEHAVIOR

There are two types of female simple behaviors when it comes to relating to men :

1: When they want something from you
2: When they don’t want something from you

If you think you know someone after a few dates let alone 2 months you are wrong! And, just because you’ve gotten to third base still doesn’t mean you know her.

When a woman first meets you she will be smiley, feminine and flirty, but that’s because she wants something from you. Problem is, you think that’s her normal default character, so when she gets what she wants which might be marriage or babies, she then switches to her normal default behavior which could be totally the opposite, hence feeling like you have gotten two different women!

The only way to get to know someone’s true intentions and character is over time.

Don’t feel that just because you are the man you have to rush into making her feel in a secure relationship, you have every right to take your time and also get to know who you are committing too.  

If she’s pressuring you to speed things up then you have to ask yourself why and if she seems too good to be true ( because the real ones will have some flaws but still be a good woman) then she probably is!

SEE HER IN DIFFERENT SCENARIOS

The best way to get to know someone’s character and intentions is to look at who they hang with, how they respond and what they are consistent in.

If you really want to get to know a girl for who she is and not who she pretends to be, then date her in different circumstances.

Don’t just go on dinner and drink dates, see how she responds when you do things that you enjoy (like a baseball game or hang with your mates) does she put on an act even though you can tell she doesn’t like it?

Does she turn into a yes girl even though you saw her tell her friends she hates sport?

Does she complain or act like high maintenance when she doesn’t get her way? or is she flexible, gracious and know how to see the positive in each situation.

Someone who has a hidden agenda or only wants something from you will usually be more high maintenance and demanding. Which leads me to my next point…

TEST HER

This isn’t about playing games, but rather getting to know who she really is. One way to test her is to ask contradicting questions to see if she just agrees with whatever you say. Then call her out on it!

If she has a wishy-washy doormat answer every time then you can guarantee that she is just trying to please you to earn brownie points.

Ask her questions which you might already know the answer to eg: if she watched the game and if she said yes, asked her who won…to see if she is telling the truth or not.

Guys, a woman who doesn’t always agree with you doesn’t mean she’s high maintenance, it means she is being real and isn’t afraid to say it. Plus, you guys like a bit of a challenge, right?

DOES SHE HAVE HER OWN PURPOSE?

A woman who doesn’t have her own thing going on will automatically make you her focus. This means she will start to do what she thinks you want her to do and probably start to lose her own identity.

If you want a real woman, then a big sign she is one is that her life won’t stop when she meets you! She won’t put you on a pedestal and still have her own career, friendships, hobbies and goals because she loves what she is creating and isn’t trying to live for a man!

WHO ARE HER FRIENDS?

You can tell a lot about someone by who they associate with. Are her friends fake and opinionated or are they genuine and nice? People become a product of their environment, so make sure her crowd is full of decent women who have their own thing going on and not just a girl gang who are hunting down men.

LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS

If you really want to know if she is real or not then take note of what she talks about. Is she always talking about just being in a relationship? Does she often compare you and her to her friend’s relationships?  Does she say one thing and then do something the complete opposite?

Women who are focused solely on having a relationship will often talk about it more than they need too. There will also be some insecurity and be constantly trying to prove to you that they are the right girl.

Guys, it’s a tough game out there sometimes because some women can be really good at hiding the real them, so if you haven’t had any luck then do yourself a favor and attend one of our Bootcamps or intensive workshops.

In the meantime make sure you download our free conversation cheat sheet. This will help you know exactly what to say and when to say it so that you can help work out which girl is worth perusing!

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  • Our top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

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Here’s What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her…

Now that you have her number, do you know THE BEST WAY to text her and get a date?

In this video, Nicole reveals how girls actually want you to ask them out on a date.

She’ll also reveal some huge mistakes guys make when it comes to texting.

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WING GIRL WISDOM:

What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her

Hey, it’s Nicole with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to reveal how a girl ACTUALLY wants you to text her and ask her out.  I’m going to be telling you all the do’s and don’ts of texting a girl those first few times after you’ve gotten her number to make sure you don’t send her running away and so you can actually get a date fast.

I’m gonna show you some real-life examples of texts I’ve received and then break them down for you based on the good, AND the bad. Then at the very end, I’ll tell you the absolute BEST way to secure a date!

 

What Kind of Texts Do Girls HATE?!

I’m gonna show you a few texts that were big fails, so you don’t make the same mistake…

#3. The drunk text/the pointless text

This guy did both, All in one text. A guy’s FIRST text to me was at 4 in the morning. On a Sunday night. And it was nonsense. Just an emoji next to a random letter. Not only was this text completely pointless, but it also woke me up at 4 in the morning. Meaningless texts that say nothing are a waste of everyone’s time and make you seem like you’re not very interesting.

#2. The texts that will get you destroyed in her group texts

These can include anything from excessive emoji/meme usage (are you 12?!) to horrible grammar/spelling, to inappropriate messages or pictures. If your first text to girl includes bad spelling and 15 emojis, it doesn’t matter if you told her she’s the most gorgeous girl in the history of the earth, she’s going to think you’re an idiot.

That might be harsh, but it’s true. And inappropriate texts are not ok when trying to get the first date. You’re going to make her feel creeped out, and she’s not going to give you the time of day. It’s the biggest turn-off. No girl wants this. Look, it’s great you think we’re attractive! And we love to hear it! But just straight up asking for pics from someone that you literally met yesterday comes across as super creepy.

Pro tip: If you really want to see us that bad, make actual plans to do so!

#1. The noncommittal text

If you want to see the biggest collective eye-roll from any group of girls, ask them how they feel about a guy sending the “we should hang out sometime” text.

“We should hang out sometime” translates to “I’m going to make as little effort as possible.” and isn’t going to lead to a date unless that girl is REALLY desperate. Plan a freaking date! A lot of guys seem to have this idea that if you call it a “date” and actually suggest a day and time, it’s suddenly something serious. But any normal girl does NOT think that you’re imagining wedding bells because you called it a date.

If you can’t say anything more than “let’s hang out sometime” you’re going to lose her interest immediately. And let’s face it, there’s always the slight possibility that she may be just gave out her number to be nice. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she was just super drunk, or maybe she’s not in a place where she wants to date anyone. Being straightforward with your intentions will help weed those types of girls out, so you’re not wasting your time with someone who’s gonna flake anyway.

What Kind Of Texts Do Girls LOVE?!

Moving on to the things that WILL get you a date…

 #3. Unique compliments

It’s amazing how many guys actually forget to flirt via text or don’t know how to do it properly. Before asking her out, it can be a great buffer to send a few flirty texts. You can always send something a little cheesy like “it was great to meet you, I can’t wait to see your pretty face again” or “you’re so beautiful” but, while those are nice and flattering, it sounds like a cookie cutter compliment.

If there’s something specific about us that you liked or ANYthing we did or said that you thought was cute, tell us! Girls eat that shit up. (A guy pointed out how he thought I had a cute sneeze. No one is cute when they sneeze unless you’re a baby panda, but the fact that he said this was really endearing and cute.)

A unique comment or compliment about THAT girl specifically is not only a surefire way to let her know you’re interested, but it also shows that you paid attention to something other than her boobs when you met her, and that really matters!

#2. Actual plans

Okay, the flirting is going well, and you want to ask her out. Even if you left your balls at home that day and can’t bring yourself to call it a date, take control and make real plans with her. (A guy was asking me to drinks where he suggested a location and two-day options. He even picked a place close to me because he remembered I lived on the opposite side of town from him. Good stuff.)

Girls want a guy who is confident and is able to make decisions. If you’re wishy-washy or “I dunno, it’s up to you” then it seems like you’re not confident or not even that interested. Girls love a guy who can take charge and pursue them. Setting the day and location also gives you the freedom to choose a place where you’re in your own element and comfortable.


#1. What’s the number one way to stand outCALL THE GIRL!

I feel like this should come up in a big giant text when I say this!

So I’ve shown you a couple examples of guys who did everything right via text…great flirting, great decision making… but spoiler alert. I didn’t go out with any of them. Why may you ask? They lost out to the one guy who actually had the balls to CALL me to ask me out.

It wasn’t a long conversation; it was very concise “Hey, I really enjoyed meeting you this weekend and would like to see you again. Can I take you out tomorrow night?” He then told me there was a new restaurant he’d been wanting to try, so we should go there. I said yes in a heartbeat!

He displayed a level of confidence and courage that no one else did, without even having to come up with witty flirtatious texts and that was so incredibly attractive! Calling someone is nerve-wracking. Everyone knows that. But even if you hate talking on the phone, and even if SHE hates talking on the phone, or even if you barely had the chance to talk to her when you got her number, a quick call to set up a date will make you seem like you have your shit together and you will stand out every time.

Not all girls will actually answer the phone, especially if you didn’t get a chance to talk much when you met. But that’s okay! It’s totally fine to shoot her a text afterwards because it’s more about the ACT of you calling than the actual phone conversation itself. If she doesn’t answer, texting her after to say why you were calling is totally cool.

That gives her the option to return your call or just text back. If she doesn’t respond then, you’ll know that maybe she’s just not that into you.

Getting a girl’s number is just the first step. If you follow these do’s and don’ts, you’re sure to score an awesome date!


To help you out with what you need to say, I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.


And if you want us to show you how to meet women personallyclick here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call.

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