When you’re looking for some confidence motivation I always turn back to watching this transformation. You’re going to absolutely love this video, man..
In just 3 short hours we completely changed one of our lucky fans.. From doing approaches that absolutely creeped women out..into confident, memorable and successful interactions AND an INSTANT DATE.
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We kid you not, with 3 hours of coach Jules and coach David’s training and confidence motivation, a complete newbie who never approached a girl in his life got an instant date….success he never experienced before in his life!
And I’m sure you’re curious as to exactly how this powerful transformation happened..
In this video, coach Jules and David taught a fan how to approach a girl, how to talk to a girl, and how to get a date.. So many guys get flustered when trying to learn how to approach women while walking, and they don’t even know how to approach a girl on the street.
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Today’s topic will show you what women find attractive in a man. These are 4 MUST HAVE Traits if you truly want to be a man that women admire, plus people will even start to respect you more.
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WHAT WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN A MAN 4 Must Have Traits
Look, there are two types of attraction, conscious and unconscious attraction. Conscious attraction is all about things like the money, good looks and external status. And it’s what most guys focus on. Subconscious attraction is what really matters. And it’s what drives her inner emotions wild. It makes her want certain guys over others.
Unconscious attraction is a thousand times more powerful, and there are four primary traits or archetypes that will trigger her attraction towards you on a deep unconscious level.
Now, these are my four traits that all attractive men possess that get beautiful women to choose you. These are what women find attractive in a man.
I dissected this after studying men, that was just average in the looks and money department, but were dating super gorgeous women. I noticed there were certain things that all high value men do that naturally draws women to them. It’s like autopilot attraction. It’s like they have this secret sauce and it comes down to four different archetypes. And the most attractive men have all four.
THE HERO
Women are instinctually programmed to choose men that make them feel safe. So for centuries, women were dependent on men to protect them from hostile tribes, situations, wild animals, especially during the nine months of pregnancy when they were the most vulnerable and they needed protection the most.
Even though we now live in a very safe society, that instinctual need to feel safe and protected by a man is still prominent in women today. This is why women are generally attracted to men who are bigger and stronger than them, but it’s more than just physical strength.
A huge muscular man can still be a weak and fearful man. And she won’t be attracted to him. She might be attracted to him physically, but she’ll lose interest very quickly.
For example, I did a bootcamp in Cancun a little while back, and one of the students was this tall, muscular, really good looking bodybuilder looking guy from Sweden and the first night.. Before he really learned anything on the bootcamp, he didn’t get any success. He didn’t talk to anybody the entire night because he stood there fearful. And I could see women looking at him, but they’re waiting for him to make a move. Someone would even come up to him and ask him a question. And he just didn’t know what to do. He was just standing there in fear. And then the same night, we had a short little Indian guy who had pretty much no fear.
And he took just the few tools that we gave him. Cause it was only first night of the workshop and it was a seven day workshop and he crushed it. He had so many interactions. He ended up making out with the girl on the very first night because he was somewhat fearless. He looked like a lion, but on the inside he acted like a mouse. And the Indian guy was the exact opposite. So the point is she wants a man that is non reactive. And that is solid as a rock.
She wants to know that if there’s an emergency or a threat, he can take care of the situation and protect her because inner strength is more important than physical strength, which is why sometimes a woman will test a man and cause some friction in the interaction by questioning his character or by simply saying no to something or doing something that he doesn’t want.
The key here is to stay calm and grounded and not let it emotionally affect you in any way. She wants a man that isn’t afraid of her. I mean, how can she be attracted to you if you’re afraid of her, this is why women usually don’t approach men because they aren’t attracted to guys who are afraid to walk up to them and approach them. They just wait to see who will have the balls to say hi. “I’m not interested in a person who’s shy to come and say hi!”
Otherwise you can make her feel safe. Safety, security, is crucial when you’re thinking about knowing what women find attractive in a man.
For example, while walking down the sidewalk with her walk closest to the traffic is if you’re protecting her from the traffic or when you’re crossing the street, put your hand on her lower back or hold her hand and guide her across the street. When she’s having an emotional breakdown, hold her tight in your arms.
These little acts allow her to feel safe and will help make her actually fall for you. But I don’t want you to think of this as like techniques that you have to do to make her think you’re a good protector instead, work on developing mental toughness.
So you can actually become a more competent and solid grounded man. And that will always make her feel safe in your presence because it is just something that she will feel when she’s around you? Not an act that you can put on. It’s not something that you can necessarily fake. Now, before we keep going, please subscribe to this channel and give me a thumbs up. Because if you do then you’re the man.
When most guys first meet a girl that they’re attracted to, they quickly become very friendly and they try to get the girl to like them.
They try to hide their feelings. And so the initial interaction is often very friendly and yeah, it feels very platonic for her. Then later, when they try to go for the date or make a move on her, it doesn’t work because she just saw the guy as… You know, friendly. She just thought it was a friendly, nice conversation, not a sexually charged conversation.
Men that are naturally good with women often express their sexual desire very quickly, whether it’s verbally or non-verbally. And they’re just not afraid to show interest in her. Most guys are afraid to show their desire. And so they end up in the friend zone where they think they need some indirect excuse to talk to her. You don’t need an excuse to talk to women.
The excuse is that you are a man and she’s an attractive woman. So you want to meet her. That’s it. Furthermore, women yearn to be desired by a confident man. They absolutely love it. When a man wants them, our desire is a gift to a woman.
They get energized by it. If you show it in a respectful way, of course, that is both competent and charming. Like we show you on our live workshops.
It’s not what you say, but more importantly, the way you would look at her and how you communicate to her. When you see a woman that you’re attracted to, you naturally get feelings of sexual desire.
And most of us try to get rid of those feelings..
Instead, allow yourself to just feel those feelings throughout your body and just express them in a way that says, I appreciate your femininity and beauty. For example, when I approach a girl that I’m really attracted to, I look at her as if I’m thinking.. My god, you’re stunning.. But if you’re not interested, that’s cool too. I didn’t always do that. I didn’t always understand what women find attractive in a man..
When I first started approaching women, I looked like a deer in headlights. I’m sure I was like, I felt like I was bothering them. So to approach him like, Hey, hi, I just saw you here and wanted to say hi.
And of course that wasn’t very attractive, but once I finally just owned it, that I’m a man, I’m attracted to this woman here and that’s totally fine and allowed myself to just feel those feelings. That’s when I was able to start walking. So women and their eyes would light up. Little did I know then that these were one of the answers to what women find attractive in a man.
And this is really, really powerful. And when you do it right, you can see the girl melt right in front of you. And this confidence carries all the way into the relationship because women want a man that will desire them and show them a passionate, romantic, and sexual adventure from the moment they meet, which carries on into the relationship.
THE GANDHI
Most men have no purpose in their lives. Every morning, they go to a job that they don’t like, or that someone else picked for them. For example, I used to be that way because I went to school, college, UC Irvine, because I didn’t really know what I wanted to do, except I wanted to be a rock star at the time.
So it was a way for me to get to California, but I just picked what my parents wanted me to do, which is study computer science. And I did that for a while and I even wanted to change majors after like the first class, the first quarter. But I didn’t because I knew I would upset my family. So I stuck with it and I graduated, but I never got a computer job, thankfully, because I know that would have made me very unhappy.
So guys go to a job and they’re living a life that they didn’t even pick for themselves. And then they come home and they just watch TV or they go on the internet or social media just to escape their reality. And then they just repeat it again and again, over and over again, if you were to do that, what memories and what accomplishments would you have at the end of your life? How about a lot of living in someone else’s story? Not much to show for it.
The Gandhi is the guy who is working towards a higher purpose. David Deida wrote in Way of the Superior Man, that everything in your life, from your diet to your career must be aligned with your purpose. If you were to act with coherence and integrity in the world, if you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.
I know you guys hear me talk about purpose a lot in my YouTube channel, but that’s because it’s so damn important. Maybe you have a passion for music and your purpose is to be the best guitars in the damn world and share your talents with as many people as possible. Or perhaps you want to feed homeless in third world countries, or maybe you want to create a thriving business that helps people.
You see, men are genetically wired with an inner drive to achieve and create BUT most guys.. We don’t unleash it. We get stuck into what society tells us that we should do such as working a dead end job. And this, in my opinion, causes a lot of depression and self doubt. This drive and passion from a man on a mission is what women crave. And it’s what they’re naturally drawn towards. So find something that calls you and go for it.
And by the way, a lot of men make the mistake of making their woman, their mission. They make her the center of their universe because they think that’s what she wants..
But this is the quickest way to repel a woman.
Your woman does not want to be your number one priority, even though he probably will tell you that she does, but instead she wants to help you achieve your purpose. David Deida also said in Way of the Superior Man, every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship.
If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, we can, some self dis serves the universe and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer his full undivided presence.
For example, when I was in high school, I was really like scared of everybody. I was super timid. I didn’t have a lot of friends. I was afraid to not only talk to girls, but just people in general. I saw everybody as above me and I saw myself at the bottom of the social totem pole.
So to speak.. Until I started a band, which raised my confidence because I started seeing myself as more and more worthy. The problem was that it was like external status. I only thought I was cool because I played in the band. And then when the band broke up, I felt like all my status went away.
And a lot, if not, pretty much, all of my confidence went away as well. Fortunately, I didn’t let that stop me, and it was one of the key steps I had to learning and understanding what women find attractive in a man.
And that leads us to probably my favorite and one of the most attractive “trait” a man can have:
THE KING
Women want a man not just to lead, but to be a fcking King of his domain. Think about it. How do Kings act? Like they’re entitled for greatness, right? Like they deserve the best.
And they have nothing to prove to anyone. They’re Kings. They don’t try to impress people. People try to impress the King and Kings do not act with hesitation or doubt. They move confidently in the direction of their beliefs and values.
Now that doesn’t mean you’re cocky or egotistical or boastful in any way. It just means that you speak with power and conviction that resonates throughout the entire land.
It was being in the band that really gave me my first wins and gave me some confidence. I saw myself as a leader, someone that could succeed because I was getting some success, which brings us back to what I just talked about, which is having your purpose and edging towards it, moving towards it every single day.
That is something that gives you confidence and helps you become more and more of a leader and a King. So I want you to pretend that you have crown on your head and you just fcking own your domain, have dignity and be the leader of your kingdom, both in your social life and in your career.
Be the kind of guy that people seek out, both for fun and for business or whatever, be the social connector. And the easiest way to become the leader of a group is to start your own group. It’s really as simple as just inviting a few people out and then being the person that leads the way deciding when and where you go throughout the night or at a party or a social social gathering, be the hub where people are hanging out and joking telling stories, be the facilitator of fun, or pick a topic that you enjoy and start an organization or a meetup group around that topic, go to meetup.com and just start an account.
And on a date, you’re the one in control. Now that doesn’t mean you’re controlling and making her go to places she doesn’t want to go. Don’t do that. It just means that you have a plan for the night, instead of just saying, “Hey, what do you want to do?” “I’ll take you wherever you want to go.” And putting all the pressure on her.
Women love a man that’s a leader and that can lead her through a fun adventure.
So there you have it, man. These are the four ingredients that will naturally draw to you. Not even the richest guy with hot chiseled, abs can trump a high value multi-dimensional man who possesses all four of these traits.
He is a very rare man, indeed. And she knows that. Now you probably noticed that all four attributes, the King, the Gandhi, the Lover, and the Hero are all rooted in being confident. So to help you become a naturally confident man, instead of someone who uses tricks or tactics to just appear confident, I created a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives you 18 different ways to boost your confidence and eliminate fear. So make sure to click that and download it, man, cause it’s absolutely free.
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Its always up to debate whether or not there’s a secret method to make women love you. You want to turn a girl on? You have to do this psychologically proven mindset that increases your confidence and status. All the things that attracts a woman more to you!
This amazing mindset will affect you if you’ve been living your life afraid to approach a girl. A good first step to learn how to talk to women curing that anxiety that comes even before you start talking to girls.
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MAKE WOMEN LOVE YOU: #1 Mindset
Get rid of the weird one liners. Those won’t turn a girl on naturally. Get rid of the awkward pickup lines, those won’t make women love you. Start embodying this ONE mindset:
You are a KING.
That’s it. Stop thinking you’re not good enough and that women don’t like you because it’s just not true. Women do like you.They just don’t like the sad, insecure, depressed version of yourself that you are portraying. Hopefully that’s not you, but just saying.
You see, a high quality woman doesn’t want a guy who swipes right on every chick’s picture hoping to get a match. You won’t turn a girl on that way. Women wont want the kind of guy who tries to cater to every girl at the bar.
She wants a guy who has a full exciting life with or without her in it, and he ultimately chooses her to enrich his life, not complete it. I’ve seen it over and over again what happens to a guy who doesn’t embody this mindset.
I recently had a client who would constantly agree with everything a woman would say to the point where it just didn’t seem genuine. I was with him at a bar listening in to his conversation and the girl brought up a movie that she loved, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas. And he said it was one of his favorite movies as well. She seemed suspicious and asked what his favorite scene was and I could tell he was starting to get nervous and he said, “when they arrived in Vegas” Then she asked him who his favorite actor was in the movie and he couldn’t answer and he just tried to change the subject. Uhh Johnny Depp! So after that, the conversation ended very quickly.
He was a really nice guy but at the end of the day a woman wants a man who isn’t trying to cater to her every whim. She wants to have playful arguments with a guy. The problem was that he was insecure, ashamed, and lacked any sense of masculine identity.
He didn’t have the king mindset and as a result he tried to conform to the woman’s ideas on things instead of just letting his own personality attract those who are right for him.
Thankfully I set him straight and now he’s figured out who he is and is unapologetic about it and is dating a gorgeous high-quality woman.
So, stop trying to be a replica of the guy you think women want you to be and start being 100% you.
Start seeing yourself as a King and watch how you filter out the people who you don’t click with and find the ones who you do. Now, I know this is a lot easier said than done, but don’t worry. I’m going to give you three practical ways so that you can start embodying the king mindset today.
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The first step in order to embody this mindset is to stop caring about what people think of you. This is so crucial not just to turn a girl on but on your overall confidence. Think about it like this. A good King isn’t gonna worry about pleasing ever person around him. He’s going to do what’s best for himself and his people no matter what.
Understand who you are as a person and just be confident in that because at the end of the day, no matter who you are, no matter what you do, and no matter what you look like, some people are just not going to like you.
That’s just how it is. Accept this rejection as a part of life and stop wasting your time on people who don’t matter. Because once you do, the people who do matter will be naturally attract into your life.
Look, I know you guys have probably already heard this before, right? But it has a lot of credibility. I mean, just think about some of the most popular celebrities. A lot of them say and do the most outlandish things, but at the end of the day it is their willingness to completely own their character, which makes us feel drawn to their presence.
My favorite example of this is Keenu Reeves. He’s not the most outgoing person. In fact, he seems like a shy introvert at times but he just owns it.He doesn’t apologize for who he is and women go crazy over him.
Another example is Chris Pratt. I mean it’s pretty obvious that he’s one of the most charismatic actors on this planet, but it doesn’t have anything to do with his good looks or wealth. It has everything to do with his ability to be completely himself, no matter what. I mean just watch any one of his interviews and you’ll quickly realize how he isn’t afraid to make fun of himself. He completely own this about himself, which is why we feel drawn to him
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The second way in order to embody this mindset is to..
Make a list of the characteristics you want the woman in your life to have.
Think about it, is a King going to hang out with women who are clearly not a match for him? No, instead, he has a clear idea of the type of queen he wants in his palace. You’ll be surprised how much you can turn a girl on by knowing what you want.
Use this analogy in your own life so you can be aware of the types of women that you want in your life. So go ahead and make a list either on a piece of paper or on your phone or computer.
Do it right now. Stop reading. I’ll wait.
Write down the qualities that you want the woman in your life to have. Now, this isn’t about being picky. This is just so you can be aware of the types of people that you want in your own life.
You may realize that some people you meet actually aren’t a good fit for you and that’s okay.
Don’t transform into the guy that you think they want you to be. Instead, see yourself as a prize and move on and find someone who does meet your standards.
The third step in order to achieve this mindset is to..
Find your purpose and pursue it.
Go ahead and take some time to think about what your purpose in your life is and do not answer women or relationships. Constantly placing people above yourself like that is going to severely weaken your character.
Instead, see yourself as a King and build your kingdom. Do some soul searching, find your purpose and go pursue it.
This one is powerful because it’s actually proven that having a purpose in life makes you appear more attractive.
This is because purpose-driven people naturally radiate this positive, ambitious attitude that people around them also want to have. There is actually-gin a study that looked at different yearbook photos and they would attribute different positive or negative character traits to each of the photos.
At the end of the study it was actually found that those photos with the positive characteristic traits were seen as more attractive.
So whatever your purposes in life, go out there and do it.
Maybe you’re an aspiring musician, then go find an open mic you can perform at. Or maybe you’re an entrepreneur, then find a mentor who can help accelerate your business.
These are things you can do to help you get to that next step. And actually going out and taking small steps is going to help you make progress.. As opposed to just staying stagnant doing nothing.
On the plus side, as you are working on yourself and discovering your purpose and pursuing it. It is going to force you to say no to her more often because you’ll be busy.
That’s okay. This will just prove to her that you’re actually doing something for yourself. It’s gonna make you more passionate and make you more desirable.
So just to recap, number one, stop caring about what people think of you. A King does what he wants. Number two, List the characteristics of the people you want in your life. The King hangs out with royalty. And number three, find your purpose and pursue it. A King rules his kingdom.
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With the rise of the hashtag – Me too – are there changes to the “rules” on how to touch a woman? Here are our 10 Ways to touch a woman to build trust faster, create attraction better, and hopefully not get slapped in the process:
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There are literally thousands of ways to touch a woman. But only a handful of them are the right way. For all we know, you’ve been doing it your whole life – natural touch can come across as attractive if you’re confident and grounded. However, for most men, touching doesn’t come natural to them.
All those awkward handshakes. All those flaccid high fives. All those hovering hands over the shoulder – you know what I’m talking about. As I’ve always said, when you touch her – don’t be a “limp fish”.
Handshakes need to be firm. Hugs tight. Touch her like a man.
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We’ve been asked so many times how to approach women during the day. This video shows you how to approach them in the streets, how to approach a girl in the store, how to approach women in the shop or park. It’s all about the daytime approach guys. Guys always think the best way to meet women is in clubs and bars after a few. But, the reality is, women prefer guys that take the time to talk to them during the day. If you want to meet amazing women then watch this video on how to approach women during the day. I promise, you won’t regret it.
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