You don’t need money, you need BALLS!

Listen up because the lives of your unborn children depend on it. (Seriously).

Warning: This blog post is going to be blunt and in your face.

I’ll tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you want to hear.

You don’t need people telling you bullsh*t like, “You’re a nice guy and deserve a nice girl.”

Or, “Just be yourself and you’ll find someone.”

Plus, you don’t need money to attract women. I have several millionaire private clients that come to us because they struggle with women.

Don’t get lost in the crap! What you need is to grab your manhood and go get the girl.

I just had a conversation with a girl who was PISSED OFF that she couldn’t find a GOOD GUY THAT ALSO HAS BALLS.

“I meet lots of good guys but I am not sexually attracted to them. They aren’t aggressive and they don’t lead. They expect me to make all the decisions. It feels like I’m their mom….”

“The guys I am sexually attracted to are ones that sleep with lots of women and are not looking for a committed relationship. Where do I find GOOD strong men?”

She is not the only girl that is frustrated with finding a great guy. Most single women are DESPERATELY wanting you to make a move, approach her and assert your manliness.

Check out this video clip of Bar Refaeli and her frustration with men not approaching her…


She is beautiful but most guys are too scared to approach her. This is why we created The Attractive Man Academy… so you can build the confidence and charisma to approach and seduce the women you want.

You already have balls of steel inside of you – you just don’t use it as often as you should. I always talk about the 2 things you need to become an attractive man – Power and Tenderness.

Most guys focus all of their efforts on the tenderness side – trying to make her feel comfortable. They try to be very friendly and nice, and make her laugh.

That is great but if you want Sex Appeal, then you must add the “POWER” ingredient.

So, let me give you 10 ways to exercise your masculinity, your power and your balls when you are around women.

10 Ways To Assert Your Masculinity

[If you really want to be confident with women, take one of our 7 Day Seduction Bootcamps.]


If you see a women that is absolutely stunning, don’t be afraid to chase her down and tell her that.

Many so called “dating gurus” will tell you to never compliment a girl. They are right if the only reason you are complimenting her is to seek a positive reaction from her. That is being “needy.”

Women are repelled by “neediness.”

But, women love a man who is bold enough to tell her why he wants to talk to her. NO woman wants a man who “beats around the bush,” hiding his intentions.

2. Qualify Her To Make Sure She Fits Your Standards.

Women want you to show your desire, but only if they have earned it first. When you are talking to her, make sure she fits your standards. For example, if you don’t like lazy girls, then you find out she sits around watching Jersey Shore all day long – send her packing!


Most guys will agree with anything that comes out of a beautiful girl’s mouth. They are too afraid of the tension that a disagreement would create. Beautiful women are not used to hearing the word “NO,” so when you say it, you will stand out.

For example, I approached a beautiful bombshell the other day on the street and after I went direct she said, “Thank you so much but I really must go.” I said, “No, what you have to do is tell me one cool thing about you first, then you can go.” You should have seen the look on her face! I could see in her eyes her attraction to me skyrocketed.

4. Touch Her

Touching her shows that you are not afraid of her. And if you are afraid to touch her then she’ll see you as a wimp.

Touching also releases oxytocin causing her to feel more connected to you. So, put your arm around her. Pull her in close. And don’t be afraid to touch her. If she pulls back or away, then move a little slower.

5. Take The Lead

Take her hand and lead her. Say, “Come on, let’s go.” Always be in control of the situation. Even if she is not initially attracted to you, the power you assert will make her want you.

6. Tease Her

Most guys are afraid to tease women because they are afraid of getting a bad reaction. Bad reactions will happen. Deal with it and do it anyway.

Note: don’t tease her in a way that cuts her self esteem. Tease her in a playful and lighthearted way.

For example, tell her “Shut your pretty little lips.” She will be confused with different emotions but she will love it.

7. Challenger Her To Be A Better Person

Don’t “neg” her. Don’t try to bring her status down just you can raise your own value. The way to demonstrate your status is to challenge her to step up.

For example, if she is complaining about her dead-end job, tell her to quit complaining and find a new job because she has much more potential.

8. Escalate The Relationship

A woman appreciates a man who moves things forward. Find out her boundaries, and then respectfully back off. A woman does NOT respect a man who is too afraid to even try.

When in doubt, make a move… you stud.

9. Have Your Own Boundaries

Don’t be afraid to call a girl out if she says or does something you don’t like.

For example, if a girl is showing a lack of interest on a date or repeatedly pulls away from my kiss, I may say something like, “Okay, what’s the deal? If you aren’t interested that’s totally okay; I’m a big boy and can handle it. Just tell me.” Most guys are too afraid to say something like this for fear of causing tension.

10. Don’t Apologize. Stop saying “sorry” all of the time!

Especially you English blokes. Say sorry when you really do something wrong and it’s your fault.

Don’t say sorry when you first approach a woman. Don’t say sorry when you didn’t hear what the other person has to say. When you do that you appear apologetic and weak. You are not a sorry person. Be a man and own up to your actions.

At first it will take lots of inner willpower to be assertive and use your balls. However, it is a muscle that will strengthen over time and your dating life will prosper because of it.

Make sure you check out the program “Triggering Sexual Chemistry”, for more secrets on being a challenge for women.

Matt Artisan
Intl. Dating Coach & Founder @ The Attractive Man LLC
Matt Artisan is considered one of the World’s Top Dating & Attraction Coaches.

For the last 5 years Matt has personally conducted Live Trainings and Workshops in over 36 countries, helping thousands of men all of the world build confidence and succeed with women.

He has been interviewed by ABC and featured on MTV.
6 replies
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    sylvester says:

    Thank you so much for this wonderful tips…I must said that I try it my self and it work. ….but am still on the process because is a gradual process .

    Bravo! Bravo!! Bravo!!! Matt ardisson

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    sylvester says:

    Yeah thanks once again Mr matt ardisson
    Well I most confess that this tips ((balls)) work perfectly…. .

    yeah am into a relationship not up to 3 month now……
    I love this lady so much I care for her but she never call me on phone to know how am doing not alone of flashing me on phone. …Mr matt the amazing thing is that there was a day I call her on phone she didn’t pick up the phone to answer my call, I call her more than 6 times……accidentally I was going to a friend place it happen that I will pass her house before going to my guy’s house…
    Hmmmm matt do know that I saw this young lady with another man walking together. ..
    What I did was to call her on phone immediately but she look at her phone and didn’t pick the phone to answer me because she was with another man

    Huh! Am in love with her but she is not showing me love too…each time I ask her if she loves me she keep on telling me yes she do love. ……

    Dear Mr matt ardisson please I need your advice. Should I continue with the relationship or should I quite…..but Mr matt a have spend for this lady other wise

    • Matt Artisan
      Matt Artisan says:

      To me it sounds like you are a lot more invested in the relationship than her. I recommend backing off a little bit and give her some space so she can miss you. Be more of a challenge. When you are calling her non-stop like that it shows her that you essentially “need” her. It’s needy behavior even in a relationship. Focus on your Purpose/Mission instead of on her for a little while and see what happens. If she starts initiating communication and expressing interest in seeing you then that’s a great sign. If not then it may be time to move on. I’m assuming this is a committed exclusive relationship right?

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    starburns84 says:

    Society has created this small element that if a guy tries to go after after woman he’ll get labeled thirsty. You women publicly shaming men on social sites now by snapshotting their inbox chats and tagging the guy and calling him out. I wouldn’t say it’s about fear now, but more like it seems like most women act as if they don’t want to be bothered by men. Not all, but most.

    • Matt Artisan
      Matt Artisan says:

      I agree that society has helped to create a lot of women like that. I recommend on focusing on the women who are not like that and search for them. And logically some may think they don’t want a confident masculine man, but deep down instinctually her biology will drive her towards confident/masculine men.


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