As one of the top dating coaches in the world for over 15 years, one of the most common questions I get is: What is the ultimate best first text that practically guarantees she will reply back?
Most guys send really lame first texts like: “Hey, so nice meeting you earlier. Let’s hang out sometime soon.”
It is really bad.
So I am going to give you what I think is the ultimate best first text ever for when you first meet a girl. It gets about an 82 percent reply rate, which is really good. Nothing else I have found works better. If you have something that works even better than the text I am about to give you, put it in the comments. I do read them.
Are you ready for what I think is the best first text when you meet a girl?
By the way, you must meet her in person. This text does not work if you meet her online. I know a lot of you guys are too afraid to meet girls in person. What the [ __ ] Why are you relying only on online dating? Nothing wrong with online dating. I do it too. But if that is all you depend on, I hate to say it, you are kind of a [ __ ] [ __ ]. Be a man. Meet women in person.
Yes, swipe and send copy and paste messages online. I will make another video on that because I have some great strategies for meeting women online. But you still need to meet women in person because there is no competition, especially in the daytime.
Bars and clubs have competition. But during the day, there is practically zero. Online is where all the competition is. It is the hardest place to meet women. So go where there is no competition. Meet them in person.
And when you do, after you get her phone number or Instagram, here is how you send what I consider the best text of all time.
The Technique
You say: “Do you have a phone?”
She says: “Yes.”
You say: “Cool, let me see it. I am going to give you my number.”
This is great because if she is on the fence, not fully sure about you, or maybe dating someone else, she might not want to give you her number.
But you are not asking for her number. You are giving her yours. She will think, I can decide later if I want to put in the effort to text him.
So she will almost always say yes. You will get more contacts this way. That is the side benefit.
So you take her phone, open her SMS app or WhatsApp or whatever you prefer. If you cannot find it, ask her where it is. Then you send yourself a message from her phone. That way you also get her number.
The Text You Send Yourself
You send: “Hey, you are so hot.”
Signed with her name.
This also helps you remember her name. Hopefully by this point you remember it, but if not, repeat her name a few times during the interaction so it sticks.
After you send yourself the text, close the app. Do not let her see it. Give her phone back. Talk a little more, maybe set plans.
Then after you leave, sometime between 30 minutes and about 3 hours later, you text her back. Remember, it now looks like she texted you first saying, Hey, you are so hot.
You reply: “Gee, thanks. You are not too bad yourself.”
Add either LOL or a tongue out emoji. Do not use the winky emoji. Some girls think it is creepy.
What happens next? She will see the message she supposedly sent you, plus your funny reply. She will laugh. She will probably message something like, That is the funniest thing a guy has ever texted me or That made me crack up.
This starts the interaction on a high note. You make her laugh. You give her good emotions. You stand out from every boring guy trying to set up a date in the first message. If she is on the fence, this massively boosts your chances of a reply and of getting a date.
From there, I just figure out logistics. When is she free, when am I free, where do we meet. That is it. I am not texting all day trying to build a connection through text. [ __ ] that [ __ ]. I am busy. You are busy. Use texting only to set dates.
Just do not try to set the date on the first text. It does not work. Instead, use this technique and watch how many girls reply. Try it and let me know in the comments.
And of course, first you need numbers to text. You need to meet girls. If you need help, DM me on Instagram at @mattartisan or click the link in the description to book a free consultation so we can see if our coaching program is a good fit for you.