Struggling with what to text a girl after you meet her? Most guys mess this up by sending boring messages like: “Hey, nice meeting you earlier. Let’s hang out sometime soon.”
The problem? Texts like that don’t stand out. She’s already getting dozens of similar messages, and yours will probably get ignored.
As one of the top dating coaches for over 15 years, I’ve tested countless openers. Today I’m going to share with you the best first text to send a girl — one that gets about an 82% reply rate.
Why This Text Works
This isn’t just a cheesy line. It works because:
- You’re not asking for her number directly — instead, you offer yours.
- It makes her laugh and creates a fun first impression.
- You stand out from other guys who come across as boring or needy.
And most importantly: it only works if you meet her in person first. Online dating is fine, but the competition is way tougher there. If you really want better results, meet women during the day where there’s almost no competition.
Step-by-Step: Best First Text to Send a Girl
- Ask for her phone
Say: “Do you have a phone?” She’ll say yes.
Then: “Cool, let me see it. I’ll give you my number.” - Send yourself a message from her phone
Open her SMS, WhatsApp, or Instagram DM and text yourself:
“Hey, you’re so hot. – [Her Name]” - Hand her phone back
Keep chatting naturally and, if possible, make loose plans to meet up. - Reply later
Wait 30 minutes to 2–3 hours and reply to that text with:
“Gee, thanks. You’re not too bad yourself! lol.”
The Psychology Behind It
- She’ll see that she (supposedly) texted you first.
- It makes her laugh and immediately puts the interaction on a playful note.
- You’re different from the guys who just text “hey” or try to set up a date instantly.
By making her laugh and feel good emotions, you’re creating curiosity and attraction right away.
What to Do Next
After she replies, keep it simple. Don’t text her all day trying to build a connection over the phone. Texting should mainly be for setting up the date. Figure out when you’re both free, where to meet, and that’s it.
Remember: the goal isn’t endless texting. The goal is to see her again in person.
Key Takeaways
If you’ve ever wondered what to text a girl after getting her number, try this simple strategy. It works because it’s fun, different, memorable. Girls love it!
Action Step: The next time you meet a girl, use this technique and see how many replies you get.
And if you need help meeting women in the first place, DM me on Instagram (@MattArtisan) or book a free consultation through the link in the description.