Want to know how to make a girl kiss you first?
Going for the kiss can be nerve-wracking… What if she pulls away? Gives you a disgusting look? Or just flat out denies you? Those experiences are never good…
Which is why in this video, I’m going to reveal 3 ways to make HER want to kiss YOU first – so you can avoid the embarrassment of possible rejection and enjoy watching her make the first move.
So here’s the deal. It’s a natural human response that when one person creates tension the other person will typically try to release it. Think about a crowd laughing at a comedian’s joke.
Romantic tension is key. Without it, well you can trick her into kissing you but that’s not going to help you score any points.
But, when you create romantic tension with a woman, as long as you do it the right way that I’m about to show you, she will want to break that tension and she’ll usually do it by kissing you.
So let’s start off with the least tense and we’ll move on to the most intense.
- If you just want a kiss and you don’t really care about how well it works well there’s always the old Ninja sneak attack. This is a classic and well, sometimes classics should die. Simply tell her to kiss you on the cheek and then turn your head. Bam sneak attack! It’s a little cheezy but hey it works. But you will only get a small kiss at best. So here’s what I would do: as long as she doesn’t look totally disgusted, just say something like, “hmm tastes like vanilla, let me find out” and go for a full on makeout.
Now let’s move on to something a little better.
- Next you can Play a game that you are sure to win. And the prize is that she has to give you a kiss. So you could say “let’s play a game if i lose i’ll buy you a drink and if you lose you owe me a kiss” This is a great way to find out how much she likes you. If she gives you a face like this then you might have your work cut out for you.
Now you can play any game you want but I recommend something simple, like…
- Thumb wrestling. And you better beat her at thumb wrestling. If not that’s just really sad. Come on she’s a girl!
- Another game you can try is a Staring contest. Make sure you are really good at it or just make up your own rules.
- I have a fun version of a staring contest that I like to do. I say the rules are that you are allowed to blink, but you can’t laugh, look away or move your head. Then I just get closer, and closer, and closer until we are either smacking lips or she loses. Hey, either way, I win!
- Now my favorite way to get a girl to kiss me is called The Almost Kiss
At any point in the date you can say, “you know what, it’s time for an almost kiss. This is how it works, we get really close like we are about to kiss but we can’t kiss. Ok promise you won’t kiss me” and explain to her that you can get as close as you can without having your lips touch.
This has the added benefit of creating a really intimate memorable moment and creates a lot of romantic tension. Make sure you pull away after a few seconds and don’t actually kiss her.
Then after several minutes go for it again. “It’s time for another almost kiss” This time the romantic tension will likely be too much for her and she will usually end up kissing you.
So try that out man. And if all else fails, just grab the girl and kiss her.
Girls love it when the guy goes for what he wants!
Now, want to see how I apply romantic tension within seconds of meeting her? Well, I have a free training video where I show you exactly what to say to spark a romantic vibe immediately.
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People also ask
The key is creating romantic tension so she feels drawn to close the distance herself. When attraction builds naturally through teasing, playfulness, and comfort, many women will initiate the kiss on their own to release that tension.
Romantic tension is the emotional and physical anticipation between two people when attraction is present but not immediately resolved. This tension builds excitement, and in many cases, one person naturally tries to release it through physical closeness like kissing.
Yes, playful games can help create fun, flirtatious tension that lowers pressure and increases comfort. Simple challenges like staring contests or light competitive games can shift the dynamic from casual conversation to romantic interaction.
The “almost kiss” technique involves intentionally getting very close without actually kissing, which builds anticipation and emotional tension. When repeated at the right moment, it often increases the likelihood that she will initiate the kiss herself.
It depends on the situation, but building attraction and letting her initiate can feel more natural and low-pressure. However, if the chemistry is strong and timing feels right, taking initiative can also be effective—confidence matters more than strict rules.