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How To Get The Girl YOU Want this 2019

Want to finally know how to get the girl you want this 2019? Use the 6 best and most effective ways to get the girl – all explained and illustrated in today’s video!

I’m Renee Slansky for the Attractive Man and in this video, I’m going to give you 6 dating resolutions for 2019 that will actually get you the girl you want!

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6 Most Effective Ways

There are currently 4 billion single women in the world who are wanting to meet a man, so if you think there are no fish in the pond, then you are wrong.  But what I want to do, is teach you how to attract the fish that YOU want and make this year the year you can confidently approach dating and women.

So let’s learn how to fish!

6) Choose quality over quantity to avoid dating burnout

The first thing you need to do is not turn this into a number games, but instead a quality quest. The more dates you go on, doesn’t mean the closer you are to finding the one.  You can sift through hundreds of women, but if none of them are what you want then you will just get dating burnout and choice fatigue.

My advice is to limit your options to finding women through two ways – 1) through sparking conversations with women in real life and two by joining only one online dating site or app.

And here’s why.

Talking to women in real life forces you to start identifying and creating opportunities around you, instead of feeling that there are no good girls out there. Stick with me because I will tell you how to do this in number 2!

Secondly, when it comes to online dating sites or apps, going on more than one just means you are giving yourself too many women to choose from. Truth is if you can’t find enough dates on just one site, then you are doing it wrong!

Too many choices blur the lines of what you want and makes it harder to commit to who or what is in front of you because you are distracted by the fear of missing out of someone greater.

You aren’t going to know the full potential of a girl if you are too busy comparing her to another stranger.

5) Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses

Just as you are attracted to a confident woman, women attracted to confidence within a man. If that is something you have been struggling with then it’s time to start building more of it into your life daily.

We often lack confidence because we focus too strongly on our faults or what we don’t have compared to what other men out there do have.

Stop thinking that you need to be an alpha male in order to get the girl and start harnessing what strengths in your characteristics you have that make you stand out.

I want you to write a list of all the things you are good at and also what great qualities you bring to a relationship. If you are unsure then ask your mates or mum! Put that list somewhere where you can see it every day.

The next thing I want you to do is make an accomplishment board of all the things you have achieved that are worth noting. If you become too focused on what you want to gain instead of what you already have accomplished you can forget your current value.

Thirdly: If you know that you have one physical feature or characteristic that really charms people then enhance that when you go on a date with a girl.

For example: if you have great smile – then smile more

                     Beautiful eyes? Then wear a color that brings them out.

                     Leadership skills? Organise a date where you can lead her through a crowded space and come across as someone in control.

4)Let go of the ones who rejected you

Alright this is something we have to deal with. You can’t keep going into a new year carrying the same crap, as it warps your perspective and blocks the right women from wanting to invest into you.

Rejection happens to the best of us, and some of those Hollywood stars you see out there get rejected just as much as the rest of us normal folk.

The best thing to do is to see rejection as a redirection. What I like to do, is every time someone rejects me, I see it as confirmation that they aren’t meant to be in my life and therefore it means I am not entertaining who I shouldn’t

Delete photos of exs and old messages of dates that didn’t work out and start clearing your mind of women who don’t deserve a place in your life!

3) Put some effort into your dating profile

Ok, you have to realise that you have one third of a second to impress a woman online. So, if you haven’t already checked out my other video on Tinder profile tips, then make sure you do so straight after this video!

Guys just because there is an abundance of women, doesn’t mean they are all worth your time. You have to use the right bait to catch the right fish. And I will tell you right now that if you put more effort into your profile, then you are likely to get more quality options to choose from.

So, here’s what I want you to do; I want you to set aside 20 mins to actually sit down and update your profile so it doesn’t look like every other geezer on there. Select a few photos and send them to some trusted female friends and ask them which ones they think work best.  

Put some effort into your bio by talking about who you are and what you are looking for and make it sound interesting and fun!

If 20 mins can up your chances of finding the right woman, then my question is why haven’t you already done it?

If you get stuck, then look at successful profiles and simply base yours off there’s without copying word for word! You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, just know the basics and how to enhance who you already are.

2) Approach more women in real life

This brings me back to point number 1. Talk to women in real life but without an agenda.  

What I mean by this is, often we are scared to talk to a random girl because we think she will flat out refuse us. But if you make the conversation the goal rather than the rejection or acceptance of you, then technically you can’t really fail.  

Having a casual conversation as opposed to straight asking her out, means you have less chance of rejection and also makes things seem more natural.

Truth is women love being approached in real life, as long as it is done under the right circumstances. You can literally accelerate the process of meeting someone and set yourself apart from the others if you simply take the initiative to open a conversation with a girl.

If you struggle with conversation, then I suggest downloading our conversation cheat sheet, because it will tell you what to say, when and how to say it so that you can approach a girl confidently. The link for that is in our bio or click the image on the screen right now .

The second thing to do is watch my other video “ Here’s How She Wants You To Approach Her”

1) Learn more about women

It’s pretty crazy how many of the comments I read on this channel that say women expect too much. You guys have standards, right? Well so do we, and instead of getting angry at women because you haven’t met them , try to understand how we function .

You have to realise that there are two people in a relationship, therefore there are two needs and wants and both are as important as each other . If you want your ideal woman , then get to understand how she works, what she’s attracted to and what she also wants.

The more you take the time to understand women, instead of assuming they all want too much or are too complicated , the more you have an advantage over other men!

I would start with actively listen to women and asking them what they want instead of guessing your way. I would also watch several of our other videos like 7 Signs a Girl Likes You , How To Flirt With Girls or 5 Things Women Instantly Look For.

You see if you know how to fulfil her desires then she is going to want you even more , so it’s a win win situation.

Give up the guessing game , that is so 2018 and instead start working smart in love so that you can accelerate the girl of your dreams into your life .

Now if you are someone who still does struggle to talk to women , then download our FREE conversational cheat sheet!

In the meantime drop a comment down below for what video you want us to do next ! Don’t forget to subscribe and give us a big thumbs up!

Until next time , good luck and tell me all about your sexy fish once you have caught her!

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Founder of one of the top 30 global dating blogs and Australia's number 1 dating and relationship blogs The Dating Directory, Renee Slansky has been educating men and women on love since 2013.

Renee contributes advice to some of the largest online publications in the world including The Huffington Post , The Good Men Project , Your Tango , Elite Daily and more. She is a dating and relationship advisor for eHarmony , Plenty Of Fish , Happn , We Date and and continues to fuse the gap between technology and finding love. And her teachings have been written in educational textbooks that are distributed throughout the whole of North America.

Renee is often called to present as a relationship expert for Channel 7, Channel 10, SBS, talkshows, podcasts and commercial radio globally.

Her methods are based on providing a strong foundation of self love and sustainable solutions. As a love advisor for over 30 thousand women , Renee still works 1-2-1 with men and couples to help them cultivate strong, healthy relationships.
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    John smith says:

    Great article. I used to have lot of trouble picking up the hot girls. But your article helped. I also recommend Eisner Fjord’s “how to get any girl you want”, which is a great guide to what kind of men women desire


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