must have items for single men

Must Have Items For Single Men

Own these 7 must have items for single men to be more successful with women. If you already have these, make sure you’re carrying them and making these items available for you to use – make them accessible! If not, then we recommend you get them right away:

7 Must Have Items For Single Men

There are certain things that every single man should own. Not only to get more dates with beautiful women, but also just live the best bachelor life possible, but.. mostly to get more dates. So the following list is my essentials that you must have your a single man.

Number 7 – Paid Version Of Tinder

Now online dating is NOT my preferred method for meeting women. However, if you’re traveling to different places, different countries, then you can actually set up dates ahead of time, like a week or two ahead of time. If you have the paid version of Tinder, because you can change your location and you can start swiping, matching, and messaging women ahead of time before you even arrive!

In fact, I’ve had plenty of times where I arrive in a new city and I already had a date that very same night, the first night that I arrived, but I also know how frustrating it can be when you’re swiping. You’re not getting a lot of matches and you’re sending messages. When you finally do get a match and she doesn’t reply, or she does reply, but then it just doesn’t lead to a date.

We actually have our online dating expert to help deal with that, so if you’re interested, we have our online dating programs ready for you.

In our program, She’s actually going to look at your profile and tell you which pictures to remove, what pictures that you need to add. What kind of pictures that you need to take the best first message to send. She’s going to totally redo your bio and just give you a whole profile makeover. So make sure to check that out because it’s absolutely worth it. And it’s a great feeling when you arrive in a city and you already have dates lined up.


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Number 6 – Osmo Mini Gimbal

Because my preferred way of meeting women is not on Tinder, I much rather meet women in person, but I want to see what I look like. I want to film my approaches. So I just use this thing. I hold it right about here and it’s filming my face the whole time.

It doesn’t even really look like a camera. And if she does notice that I’m filming myself, it’s not a big deal. It doesn’t look like I’m filming her. So she usually isn’t going to care. But this is a great way for me to analyze my approaches afterwards.

You can use your phone too. And it works just as well.

If you can just walk up to a random woman and go on a date with her right then and there, then you don’t have to worry about all the texting and writing each other back and forth.

Start going for instant dates with women that you meet in everyday situations and bring your Osmo pocket gimbal with you. So you can analyze your facial expressions, your tone of voice and all your verbals in nonverbals. So you can figure out what you’re doing, right, and what you need to improve upon.

Number 5 – Sunglasses

Now this is not just to keep the sun out of your eyes. This is when you approach a beautiful woman. It can actually make the approach just seem even more badarse and really create kind of a movie moment with her. Because when you remove your sunglasses, when you do it in a slow, confident way.

I know it’s a little cheesy, but I’ve had so many women actually compliment me on the way I approach them. And specifically like the way I took off my sunglasses. I know it’s kind of silly, but it really creates intensity. And it creates a moment like when you pull down your sunglasses, especially slowly, it shows her that what you’re about to say is important. Cause you had to remove your sunglasses to tell her.

And the key, like I said, do it in a slow way. If you say, Hey, I just saw you here. You’re really cute. It has no effect, but if you slow down, you’re like, Hey, real quick, I just saw you here. And I just thought, you’re really pretty. She’s probably going to melt now.


Just get yourself a pair of sunglasses. To me, it doesn’t really matter. I only spent 10 or 15 bucks on sunglasses because I usually lose them or break them. And honestly, I don’t think people really pay attention to the brands that much I could be wrong. So sue me, if you love spending hundreds of dollars on sunglasses, that’s totally fine do it. It’s just not my thing.

Number 4 – Condoms

Now this seems obvious. Of course, you’re a grown man. You’ve gone through sex ed. I don’t think we need to talk about that. But a lot of guys just aren’t prepared. In fact, when I teach workshops and we’re going out that evening, I ask guys, Hey, who has a condom? And only usually about half the room has they have one on them.

And when you’re not prepared like that, not only could you find yourself in a position when you’re with a beautiful woman and now you can’t take things as far as you might want to, but also you’re telling your subconscious that you don’t expect intimacy to happen, that you don’t think a woman would want to go home with you.

When you put this in your front pocket, when you go out at night, whether it’s going for a date or going out to the bar or club, you’re telling yourself, your subconscious like, Hey, I’m a cool guy. I’m an attractive guy. There’s always a chance it might happen. So not only is it for safety and for preventing unwanted pregnancies, but can also be a slight unconscious confidence booster.

Number 3 – Gums or Mints

On that same token, make sure to always have gum or mints on you at all times when you leave the house, even if you’re not expecting to go on a date or expecting to meet a beautiful woman, you never know when and where you might meet a woman and go on an instant date with her. Especially if you’ve been watching a lot of the videos on this channel and you’ve been implementing what I teach you.

Then every time you see a beautiful woman, you at least go up to her and say hi, and at least try to make her day. But there’s a good chance. You might end up on an instant date with her and you might be making out with her at least be very close to her. You don’t want her to be turned off because your breath be stanky.

So it’s kind of like that subconscious mental boost, having the condom in your pocket, having mince on you at all times provide a little bit of a mental boost to your psyche. Cause you’re telling yourself, Hey, I might meet a beautiful woman at any time and we might be on an instant date and we might be making out. So I better be prepared.

Number 2 – Instagram

You might already have Instagram, but you might not be using it properly because nowadays just about every woman, more or less under the age of probably 35 has Instagram. Because women are obsessed with taking and showing off their pictures. And when she meets a new guy, such as yourself, she’s going to want to do her homework and make sure you’re a cool, or at least a normal guy, basically make sure you’re not a psycho..

And an easy way for her to do that is to find you on social media. And nowadays, a lot of girls aren’t on Facebook because of all the privacy issues and because you know, their mom and their grandparents are on social media. So it’s just not as cool as it used to be.

Nowadays. It’s pretty much all about Instagram and not only that, but a woman’s a lot more likely to give out her Instagram versus her phone number because her phone number is a lot more intimate. Maybe only her really close friends or family have her phone number. Whereas lots of guys might have her Instagram, so it can be used as a stepping stone to get her phone number. For example, when I first meet a woman, I say, Hey, do you have Instagram? Cool, what’s your Instagram here? Put it in my phone.

And I say, here put your number in too. And sometimes they put both other times they just put their Instagram and they say, they’re not comfortable giving out their phone number, which is totally fine. Cause then you can just message her or even better yet send her voice messages on Instagram and just go back and forth and get a date that way.

But of course the best option if you’re not busy and she’s not busy is go for an instant date. So I’m going to give you a copy of my free conversation cheat sheet, so that you know exactly what to do, what to say when you first see a woman that you want to approach, how to get an instant day and what to do when you’re on that date so that you don’t out of things to say, and that she sees you in the best light possible, and that you have a great date:


Number – Magic Wand Massager

And then finally, number one, my personal favorite is the magic wand massager. Because not only is it great to use on yourself when your legs are aching or you have any type of joint or muscle pain, but you can use it with a woman at the end of your date.

I usually just keep it out next to my bed and she’ll see it and say, what does that do? Then you just say, let me show you. And then you start massaging her back.

You can start massaging her legs. It feels really good. And it can definitely help lead things to intimacy, but not only that, but if you’re with a woman who has trouble having an orgasm, the magic wand massager will definitely do the trick!

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how to talk to a woman

How to talk to a woman – 5 Things you should NEVER say

Quit saying this to women, its a big turn off. When understanding how to talk to a woman, you don’t memorize and say everything. Instead, you keep it short, powerful, memorable. Less talk, less mistakes – and these are 5 things you should NEVER say to a woman.

HOW TO TALK TO A WOMAN
5 Things You Should Never Say to Her

Talking to girls shouldn’t be complex. When you want to master how to talk to women, you should always start with yourself, because its not about learning more things to say, its first learning what NOT to say in the first place.

Think about it, would you want to bombard her with all these useless words or lines only to increase your chances of turning her off? (If you keep yapping to her, sooner or later you’re going to say something that completely turns her off!) Or do you want to say the least amount of things with the maximum attraction effect?

All right, let the countdown begin with..

Number 5 – “Where do you want to go on our date?”

I know you’re thinking.. why not? It seems logical. I want to take her to a place that she wants to go so that she’s happy so that she enjoys the date. If I take her to her favorite place, it’s going to be a good date. She’s going to enjoy it.

And yes, logically, that makes sense.

But women don’t want to be the one who decides everything for the date. She wants you to do that. Have you ever heard that a woman likes a man with a plan? She wants a leader, a man who takes charge, who steps into his masculinity and leads the way.

Now, It doesn’t mean that you can’t allow her to make decisions or make choices. When it comes to picking the venue, you can definitely include her in that decision process, but just flat out asking her, “where do you want to go?” Or saying, “What’s your favorite place? I’ll take you.”

It just seems like you’re trying to impress her. It sounds like you have no plan. You have no clue of where to take a woman, which implies you haven’t been on a lot of dates and it’s coming from a place of pleasing. Of neediness.

Not only that, but it puts her in her masculine, which there’s nothing wrong with that, right? If she’s a CEO or something like that, she has to make a lot of decisions. And she’s in her masculine beingness when she’s at work. But when she’s on a date, she wants to be feminine. She just wants to be a long for your plan. She wants you to be a man and take charge. You be the leader. Now it’s fine to ask her, do you prefer this? Or do you prefer that maybe you love to take your dates to sushi and you want to find out if she has a fish allergy or not.

So find out relative information, but you be the one to decide where to go on the date.


Number 4 – “CAN I have your number?”


Asking her if you can have her number implies and presupposes that you don’t know if she’s attracted to you or not, which is why you’re asking the question – basically the definition of a lack of confidence: You don’t believe in yourself.

You don’t believe that this beautiful woman would be attracted to a guy like you. So you have to ask her if you can have her number. It sounds too nice. Again, it sounds like the logical thing to do, but it usually comes off as very unconfident.

Just remove the word “can”.

Instead of saying, “can I have your number” say either “let’s exchange numbers” or say “You seem cool. What’s your number?” When you say “what’s your number” or “let’s exchange numbers” it presupposes that you believe that she likes you, that you believe she’s going to give you her number.

She can still say no, just like if you asked her a question, but it just makes you seem a lot more sure of yourself. And on that note, make sure to say it with certainty.

If your tonality is going up and you see same uncertain she’s probably gonna say no. If you seem really uncertain, even if she gives you her number, when you say it like that, she’s probably not going to text you back.

As a side note, if she says no because she has a boyfriend, or she doesn’t feel comfortable or she doesn’t know you well enough to give out her number.. The main thing is to just remain calm. Don’t say, “why not?” Or start getting mad or upset. Just remain cool. Like it’s no big deal. And instead go for her social media.

Number 3 – “You are sooooo beautiful!!”

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving a woman a compliment and telling her she’s beautiful, gorgeous, stunning, cute, adorable, pretty.

But when you say it like “You are soOoOooo beautiful!” it literally looks like I’m putting her on pedestal. So the key with this phrase is that you say it with confidence, not like she’s above you.

When you give a woman a compliment, especially if that’s the way you’re going to open the conversation, which is a logical way to open a conversation, you should be direct and tell her the truth. The real reason why you’re there, women appreciate it. They appreciate your honesty. And they appreciate the courage that it takes to go do that. Plus if you beat around the Bush and use some indirect, weird pick up artist opener, she knows that you’re there because you’re attracted to her.

So it actually makes you appear less confident, so you have to say it the right way.

She can be attracted to you within seconds, even aroused. Now I know that sounds crazy. You walk up to a woman and tell her she’s beautiful. How is that going to actually make her turned on and aroused. Trust me, man. It can. And it does happen. It’s not every time of course, but oh man, when it does happen, you can feel the electricity. And it’s just pure fire.

Now in our live workshops, when we take guys in field, they pretty much always on day one, too much of that, “please like me” energy and women can feel that and they appreciate the compliment, nevertheless. But of course it’s not a super solid interaction where the girls was melting in front of them.

Until we bring in models and practice the approach over and over again and transform that neediness, “Please like me kind of energy” to “I want you, but I’m cool if I can’t have you” kind of energy. And then it’s literally like night and day, when they start approaching, after they do the model work, you can see the reaction of the women that they approach completely change instead of a nice, like, “Oh thank you for the compliment.” It becomes her amazed and steamy “Wow. Thank you.” And of course, when you see those kinds of reactions over and over again, it’s going to increase your own confidence when it comes to approaching.

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Number 2 – “Can I buy you a drink?”

Hear me out. There’s nothing wrong with buying a woman a drink at a bar, even if you just met her.. But saying that as the first thing that you say to her as your conversation starter is not a good idea because it creates the frame that you’re paying for her time or paying for her attention, which puts your value down and hers up right from the start – which is not the dynamic you want.

If you want to talk to her, just go talk to her. Don’t send her a drink from across the bar or go over and say, “Hey, can I buy you a drink?” You don’t know anything about her. Why the heck would you even want to buy her a drink? It’s kind of like saying “Here! here’s some money! Can I buy five minutes of your time?

No, no, no, never do that. Now. Maybe you’ve done it in the past and you say, “Hey, it works. She talked to me afterwards!” but trust me, man, she didn’t like you. A woman in her twenties is probably not going to say no to a free drink.

So then should you even buy a woman to drink at all? Well, yeah, definitely IF you want to, and IF you’re not using it as a bargaining chip. If you want to get a drink yourself and it’s just the customary thing to do, it’s the social norm to say, “Hey, I’m going to get a drink at the bar, You want one?

There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s even a good way to just move things further by just moving her from one place where you met her to the bar. Cause if she moves away from her friends and comes with you to the bar, then it’s just you and her. You can have a more intimate conversation and make a deeper connection with her.

Number 1 – “Can I kiss you?”

Again, just like asking for her phone number, it’s presupposing that you don’t believe she would be attracted to you, which shows you that you’re just not confident in yourself that you don’t believe women should like you.

I understand why you might do this because you’re trying to save face.

You don’t want to go for a kiss and then she’s turns her head or just says she’s not ready yet. And then it creates all that awkward tension because maybe you just don’t know if it’s the right time to go for it or not. So I get that. Sure.

I’ve gone for the kiss many times and it was the wrong situation, but who cares? It’s better to go for the kiss out of the blue and her say, no, I’m not ready yet or her turn her head or just back up. Know that you’re a man knowing that you go for what you want. In this case, it’s her. Instead of her seeing you as weak and the kind of guy who asks for permission every time he wants to do something, “Can, can I kiss you? “

AND no, no, that definitely doesn’t mean force yourself upon her in any way. Always make sure she’s comfortable. And if you want to go for the kiss, you don’t want to do it out of the blue. You want to say something just to know her and see if she’s ready.

Then instead of asking “can I kiss you” you could just tell her, what do you want to do? Say, “You know, kind of want to kiss you right now.” And just notice her reaction if it’s anything other than no, no, no. Then slowly move forward and go for it. Or you could ask her if she’s a good kisser. “I bet you’re not even a good kisser, but I’m tempted to find out.” And if she says, no, you could still say, “Well, then you need to work on it and still go for the kiss.

You could also ask her if she would like to kiss you, which is a lot more powerful. It presupposes that you think she likes you and you think she wants to kiss you, which presupposes that you believe she wants to kiss you. And if she says, yes, obviously kiss her. If she says, I don’t know, say, “well, let’s find out” and slowly go in for a kiss. And if she says no, then you could just say, well, it seemed like you wanted to, or it seemed like you had something on your mind and then just change the subject.

And by the way, if you ever lean in for a kiss and she pulls away, or you say one of those statements to kind of prime the kiss and she doesn’t seem ready yet, it’s no big deal. It doesn’t mean necessarily that she doesn’t like you. It just means she’s not ready yet. So just don’t be all emotionally affected. Don’t complain about it. Don’t get angry about it and just change the subject, move on. And then try again later that might be later in that date or that might be on the next day.


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Understand that your conversation is immensely important for attraction, because when you get her attention, and you have her in front of you – what you say to women will make or break your chances of getting the attraction right.

You can either attract her with what you have to say, or absolutely turn her off. Which is why Matt and the team has always focused on conversations as part of the crucial attraction triggers – how to talk to women the right way.

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STOP being needy

How To Silence The Inner B*tch Voice Inside Your Mind [3 Ways to STOP Being a Needy Person]

Do you get a voice in your head? Do you ever get a voice in your head? Has this ever happened? Man.. You ever get it to talk to you really loud and obnoxiously and call you all sorts of incredibly mean things and tell you all the things that you can’t do?

It’s not going to go away until you learn how to either not listen to it, not buy into it, or how to silence it more and more and more so that it gets weaker.

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How To Silence The Inner B*tch Voice Inside Your Mind
[3 Ways to STOP Being a Needy Person]

Your boy Jules Bia, mind science, dating coach with The Attractive Man team here. I’m going to be give you three life-changing tips today that are going to absolutely transform that little inner b*tch that is stopping you from going and doing and having him being the things you want in your life.

I know what it’s like to have an insane mind. Okay. Back in the day, like I said, it’s still, it’s still true today. Okay. I just got more control over it. My mind said so many negative things to me all the time that it was in a state of radio silence in a state of numbness. And it wasn’t until I really started diving deep into that, pulling up all those streams of thinking, pulling up all those really heavy feelings and surrendering them and disidentifying from all these stories and these thoughts that I was telling myself that I really started to make changes in my life.

I used to go out to the club for years wanting to talk to women when I was in high school and in college, I was fine, but I started getting in my twenties and kind of going my own way. Cause you don’t have, everybody goes to their own way after school? You know, you have some friends and stuff, but all the, all the groups break up, I would go out with the intention to talk to women and I would never talk to women. I was so numb in the club. I had no idea why I had no idea. I was like, what’s wrong with me? But at the end of the night, I’m at home with my D**k in my hand, literally.

All right, I’m sorry about THAT thought. But it sucked. It really did. Um, I didn’t know what it was and it wasn’t until I really started looking, you know, I would go into these environments like a club and I would look close my eyes and look, and just start to try to become more and more aware of the thoughts.

More and more aware of how much the inner bitch was crippling me. And here’s the secret guys. The inner bitch IS NOT REAL. It’s just a series of thoughts and feelings. Feelings are what trigger the thinking. I’m going to give you the first tip and it is so, so, so powerful. And this is going to create more self awareness. So here it is right here. First of all, I need you to subscribe. Okay? I need you to click that big red subscribe button. Cause if you don’t, if you don’t see my future videos, I’m going to miss you. Matt’s going to miss you, everybody on The Attractive Man team’s gonna miss you. So click that subscribe button, hit the like button and hit all notifications so that we never miss each other, right?

Turn “I can’t” into “I can”

Tip is really, really simple. Guys, turn your I can’t into an I can.

Anything you don’t have right now is most likely an I can’t, it might not be, it might be an I can. That’s in the process of becoming an I have, but it’s most likely an I can. It was like when I was going into the club, for example, and not talking to a single freaking woman. Even though that’s what I desperately wanted inside.

That was a very heavy I can’t. So first of all, start saying I can, because I can’t is not just one emotion, by the way. It’s apathy, grief, fear, less anger. That’s all I can’t — apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, pride are all variations of I can’t and they are lighter versions of I CANT, right? Courage is when you start saying I can’t.

Somebody that wanted to come into my new inner transformation program, unshakable, which has been going incredible by the way..

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And he’s like, “Jules.. I really want to be in your program. I don’t have the money. Ah, man, like what do I do?” I was like, first of all, I want you to do it starts saying I can. And here’s the reason guys, as soon as you say I can’t, and it’s an automatic conditioned reflex. As soon as you say, I can’t.. the opportunity to get when you actually want, it could be really literally right in your vicinity would be that obvious.

But as soon as you say, I can’t, you, you put blinders on no matter how obvious the way to get that thing is it’s literally right within your reach. But the I can’t blinds you. So start saying I can, when I coach them and start saying, I can, I said, I just want you to keep saying all day, I can get this money. I can get this money.. Say it, say it, say it, say it, say it! He started seeing opportunities everywhere to get the money, to get into our program.

It’s powerful stuff. Just literally saying I can, no matter what I want you to say, I can, even if it feels like a lie, say I can all the time. And, but in your mind, because you open your reticular activating system, which is the part of your mind that focuses on things. It’s like the RAS is like, when you, when you learn a new word, right, that you’ve never heard before. And then you hear that same word, like three times that week, that’s using your RAS research it.. Your reticular activating system. It’s very powerful to utilize and you can utilize the power and magnetizes the things you want to you just by starting to say I can’t.

So keep saying I can. Don’t listen to that inner bi*ch.

Give your Inner B*tch a Nickname

Number two is kind of funny. Pretty damn awesome. And I learned this one from one of my favorite books written by David Hawkins, letting go, and it is give your inner critic, your inner bitch, a nickname. Don’t give us something like b*tch or, or like something really negative. Give it a cute nickname and use it all the time. Oh, that’s nice. Uh, David suggests fluffy and I just use fluffy. Cause I think that’s hilarious. I call my ego, my inner critic, fluffy.

Oh really? Fluffy. That’s thank you so much. And I talked to him like this is a little child. You’re so cute. Thanks for trying to help out. And you start taking that voice a lot less seriously. And you’ll also start noticing that when you do this constantly, you just allow it to say whatever it wants to say and express it.

So you’ll start actually noticing it dissolve. I had been in a very, very intense, emotional spin. I was about three and a half years ago. I’m going into a down spin. And I started saying, I remembered in the midst of this, that voice that was really beating me down, beating me up, was named fluffy.

I was like, Oh, fluffy, Oh, I forgot your name. I’m so sorry. Fluffy. Did I hurt your feelings? Did I hurt your feelings? Fluffy? I’m so sorry. This intense, emotional down spin that would usually have me at that point in my life. Probably depressive and messed up for, for a day or two. Right? You know what I’m talking about? You know, those downs spins that we go through. It dissolved. It was, it was unbelievable. I mean, this is just an easy way to take your inner critic, your inner b*tch, less and less and less serious.

And the less seriously you take it, you build that habit of not taking it so seriously. It’s going to have less and less power over you. And as you welcome it and you allow it, it just loses energy. It’s like a little child having a temper tantrum in a toy store. You just let it go and you let it go and you let it go. And you let it go. And eventually it runs out of energy and it disappears.

Hey bro, do you like these tips? Did you subscribe yet? Cause you’re going to make me really disappointed if you didn’t subscribe, you know what? The inner b*tch is starting to talk — I’m just kidding. Make sure you subscribe, man. Don’t miss this stuff. Ding, the bell like this video. Cause obviously you like my style. That’s been established. All right. My tips are fire.

That’s not so secret. I and David vibe have been running a brand new inner transformation program. So if you like these kind of mind science tips, if you want to learn how to get better and better and better with getting your emotions handled, changing your relationship to your emotions.. Understanding, knowing yourself deeper, loving yourself deeper.. Because you cannot have the quality women that you so desire until you get self esteem, stuff handled and still you get the self doubt handled it’s all in the mind. And in our reality is created in the mind. Make sure you sign up in the link below for a free masterclass and emotional freedom masterclass that I’m doing. That’s going to give you the number one process is simple technique that has transformed my life from welfare in a moldy basement room to the free and really damn cool life I live now.

So make sure you sign up in the link below. Do it now. While you still listen to my wonderful voice.

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Disidentifying

Give you tip number three. Cause you’ve come the distance, my friend. The third tip is so gloriously powerful. Are you ready? It’s disidentifying from the inner b*tch.

Disidentifying. What does that mean? It means that these thoughts in here? This right here, it’s not actually you, it’s not. You’re going to be like what? Of course it’s me, all these thoughts. All my life have been me. No, it’s not.

You want to bet that it’s not. You close your eyes right now with me. Look at your thoughts right now. Are you those thoughts or are you the awareness of those thoughts? I want you to look right now here in the present moment. Are you the thoughts in your mind or are you the awareness of those thoughts?

How can you be the thoughts if you’re also aware of them? If you’re an analytical guy, bro, just look, don’t try to figure it out. Don’t try to think more thoughts. If I pinch you, do you have to think to feel pain? No. So close your eyes. Are you the thoughts or even the feelings in your stomach and your chest right now, look at those or are you the awareness of them? And what happens when you notice that you’re the awareness of them?

Because you are the awareness of them. Trust me, no matter how much you think you are, the thoughts I’m going to give you the science behind it. It’s not really science, but I’m going to logically explain why you are your awareness and not your thoughts and why. The more you realize that every single day, the more you tap in and you keep checking and it’s in the checking.

It’s in the actual looking. If you’re the thoughts in the awareness, you intellectually know the answer now. The more you do that, the less you identify with this mind and the more power you will have over actually transforming your thinking, transforming your life because you won’t identify with this stuff anymore.

Now the logic behind this is very simple. So your thoughts are the object and you are the subject. There’s a subject object relationship between your awareness, which is what you really are and the thoughts. And the more you realize this, the more you experience this, the more you really step into this by just doing the simple habit.

Am I these thoughts or feelings? Am I this inner b*tch? Or am I that? Which is aware of the inner bitch? Am I the inner bitch or the awareness of the inner bitch? Right?

Then whatever is happening out there.. You start not taking so seriously.

It could be a terrible problem. And you’re spinning and you’re spinning. You’re like, wait, am I this problem that I, this are the mighty thoughts? Or am I the awareness of them? Boom! Starts releasing. It starts softening up and then you can get your mind right. Solve the problem. So you could get your grind tight.

So it’s really, really simple. It might be complex if you’re a really analytical guy, it’s really not that complicated. You close your eyes or you can keep them open and just notice right now, are you the thoughts? Are you even this body, are you this body or are you the awareness of the body?

Because we also believe we’re a body. I can go down a deep philosophical rabbit hole. And if you would like me to do deep philosophical rabbit hole talks, make sure you comment that below because I would love to make those videos what to make sure that our audience likes them kind of stuff.

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What Women Find Attractive in a Man – 4 Must Have Traits

Today’s topic will show you what women find attractive in a man. These are 4 MUST HAVE Traits if you truly want to be a man that women admire, plus people will even start to respect you more.

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WHAT WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN A MAN
4 Must Have Traits

Look, there are two types of attraction, conscious and unconscious attraction. Conscious attraction is all about things like the money, good looks and external status. And it’s what most guys focus on. Subconscious attraction is what really matters. And it’s what drives her inner emotions wild. It makes her want certain guys over others.

Unconscious attraction is a thousand times more powerful, and there are four primary traits or archetypes that will trigger her attraction towards you on a deep unconscious level.

Now, these are my four traits that all attractive men possess that get beautiful women to choose you. These are what women find attractive in a man.

I dissected this after studying men, that was just average in the looks and money department, but were dating super gorgeous women. I noticed there were certain things that all high value men do that naturally draws women to them. It’s like autopilot attraction. It’s like they have this secret sauce and it comes down to four different archetypes. And the most attractive men have all four.

THE HERO

Women are instinctually programmed to choose men that make them feel safe. So for centuries, women were dependent on men to protect them from hostile tribes, situations, wild animals, especially during the nine months of pregnancy when they were the most vulnerable and they needed protection the most.

Even though we now live in a very safe society, that instinctual need to feel safe and protected by a man is still prominent in women today. This is why women are generally attracted to men who are bigger and stronger than them, but it’s more than just physical strength.

A huge muscular man can still be a weak and fearful man. And she won’t be attracted to him. She might be attracted to him physically, but she’ll lose interest very quickly.

For example, I did a bootcamp in Cancun a little while back, and one of the students was this tall, muscular, really good looking bodybuilder looking guy from Sweden and the first night.. Before he really learned anything on the bootcamp, he didn’t get any success. He didn’t talk to anybody the entire night because he stood there fearful. And I could see women looking at him, but they’re waiting for him to make a move. Someone would even come up to him and ask him a question. And he just didn’t know what to do. He was just standing there in fear. And then the same night, we had a short little Indian guy who had pretty much no fear.

And he took just the few tools that we gave him. Cause it was only first night of the workshop and it was a seven day workshop and he crushed it. He had so many interactions. He ended up making out with the girl on the very first night because he was somewhat fearless. He looked like a lion, but on the inside he acted like a mouse. And the Indian guy was the exact opposite. So the point is she wants a man that is non reactive. And that is solid as a rock.

She wants to know that if there’s an emergency or a threat, he can take care of the situation and protect her because inner strength is more important than physical strength, which is why sometimes a woman will test a man and cause some friction in the interaction by questioning his character or by simply saying no to something or doing something that he doesn’t want.

The key here is to stay calm and grounded and not let it emotionally affect you in any way. She wants a man that isn’t afraid of her. I mean, how can she be attracted to you if you’re afraid of her, this is why women usually don’t approach men because they aren’t attracted to guys who are afraid to walk up to them and approach them. They just wait to see who will have the balls to say hi. “I’m not interested in a person who’s shy to come and say hi!”

Otherwise you can make her feel safe. Safety, security, is crucial when you’re thinking about knowing what women find attractive in a man.

For example, while walking down the sidewalk with her walk closest to the traffic is if you’re protecting her from the traffic or when you’re crossing the street, put your hand on her lower back or hold her hand and guide her across the street. When she’s having an emotional breakdown, hold her tight in your arms.

These little acts allow her to feel safe and will help make her actually fall for you. But I don’t want you to think of this as like techniques that you have to do to make her think you’re a good protector instead, work on developing mental toughness.

So you can actually become a more competent and solid grounded man. And that will always make her feel safe in your presence because it is just something that she will feel when she’s around you? Not an act that you can put on. It’s not something that you can necessarily fake. Now, before we keep going, please subscribe to this channel and give me a thumbs up. Because if you do then you’re the man.

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THE CASANOVA

When most guys first meet a girl that they’re attracted to, they quickly become very friendly and they try to get the girl to like them.

They try to hide their feelings. And so the initial interaction is often very friendly and yeah, it feels very platonic for her. Then later, when they try to go for the date or make a move on her, it doesn’t work because she just saw the guy as… You know, friendly. She just thought it was a friendly, nice conversation, not a sexually charged conversation.

Men that are naturally good with women often express their sexual desire very quickly, whether it’s verbally or non-verbally. And they’re just not afraid to show interest in her. Most guys are afraid to show their desire. And so they end up in the friend zone where they think they need some indirect excuse to talk to her. You don’t need an excuse to talk to women.

The excuse is that you are a man and she’s an attractive woman. So you want to meet her. That’s it. Furthermore, women yearn to be desired by a confident man. They absolutely love it. When a man wants them, our desire is a gift to a woman.

They get energized by it. If you show it in a respectful way, of course, that is both competent and charming. Like we show you on our live workshops.

It’s not what you say, but more importantly, the way you would look at her and how you communicate to her. When you see a woman that you’re attracted to, you naturally get feelings of sexual desire.

And most of us try to get rid of those feelings..

Instead, allow yourself to just feel those feelings throughout your body and just express them in a way that says, I appreciate your femininity and beauty. For example, when I approach a girl that I’m really attracted to, I look at her as if I’m thinking.. My god, you’re stunning.. But if you’re not interested, that’s cool too. I didn’t always do that. I didn’t always understand what women find attractive in a man..

When I first started approaching women, I looked like a deer in headlights. I’m sure I was like, I felt like I was bothering them. So to approach him like, Hey, hi, I just saw you here and wanted to say hi.

And of course that wasn’t very attractive, but once I finally just owned it, that I’m a man, I’m attracted to this woman here and that’s totally fine and allowed myself to just feel those feelings. That’s when I was able to start walking. So women and their eyes would light up. Little did I know then that these were one of the answers to what women find attractive in a man.

And this is really, really powerful. And when you do it right, you can see the girl melt right in front of you. And this confidence carries all the way into the relationship because women want a man that will desire them and show them a passionate, romantic, and sexual adventure from the moment they meet, which carries on into the relationship.

THE GANDHI

Most men have no purpose in their lives. Every morning, they go to a job that they don’t like, or that someone else picked for them. For example, I used to be that way because I went to school, college, UC Irvine, because I didn’t really know what I wanted to do, except I wanted to be a rock star at the time.

So it was a way for me to get to California, but I just picked what my parents wanted me to do, which is study computer science. And I did that for a while and I even wanted to change majors after like the first class, the first quarter. But I didn’t because I knew I would upset my family. So I stuck with it and I graduated, but I never got a computer job, thankfully, because I know that would have made me very unhappy.

So guys go to a job and they’re living a life that they didn’t even pick for themselves. And then they come home and they just watch TV or they go on the internet or social media just to escape their reality. And then they just repeat it again and again, over and over again, if you were to do that, what memories and what accomplishments would you have at the end of your life? How about a lot of living in someone else’s story? Not much to show for it.

The Gandhi is the guy who is working towards a higher purpose. David Deida wrote in Way of the Superior Man, that everything in your life, from your diet to your career must be aligned with your purpose. If you were to act with coherence and integrity in the world, if you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.

I know you guys hear me talk about purpose a lot in my YouTube channel, but that’s because it’s so damn important. Maybe you have a passion for music and your purpose is to be the best guitars in the damn world and share your talents with as many people as possible. Or perhaps you want to feed homeless in third world countries, or maybe you want to create a thriving business that helps people.

You see, men are genetically wired with an inner drive to achieve and create BUT most guys.. We don’t unleash it. We get stuck into what society tells us that we should do such as working a dead end job. And this, in my opinion, causes a lot of depression and self doubt. This drive and passion from a man on a mission is what women crave. And it’s what they’re naturally drawn towards. So find something that calls you and go for it.

And by the way, a lot of men make the mistake of making their woman, their mission. They make her the center of their universe because they think that’s what she wants..

But this is the quickest way to repel a woman.

Your woman does not want to be your number one priority, even though he probably will tell you that she does, but instead she wants to help you achieve your purpose. David Deida also said in Way of the Superior Man, every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship.

If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, we can, some self dis serves the universe and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer his full undivided presence.

For example, when I was in high school, I was really like scared of everybody. I was super timid. I didn’t have a lot of friends. I was afraid to not only talk to girls, but just people in general. I saw everybody as above me and I saw myself at the bottom of the social totem pole.

So to speak.. Until I started a band, which raised my confidence because I started seeing myself as more and more worthy. The problem was that it was like external status. I only thought I was cool because I played in the band. And then when the band broke up, I felt like all my status went away.

And a lot, if not, pretty much, all of my confidence went away as well. Fortunately, I didn’t let that stop me, and it was one of the key steps I had to learning and understanding what women find attractive in a man.

And that leads us to probably my favorite and one of the most attractive “trait” a man can have:

THE KING

Women want a man not just to lead, but to be a fcking King of his domain. Think about it. How do Kings act? Like they’re entitled for greatness, right? Like they deserve the best.

And they have nothing to prove to anyone. They’re Kings. They don’t try to impress people. People try to impress the King and Kings do not act with hesitation or doubt. They move confidently in the direction of their beliefs and values.

Now that doesn’t mean you’re cocky or egotistical or boastful in any way. It just means that you speak with power and conviction that resonates throughout the entire land.

It was being in the band that really gave me my first wins and gave me some confidence. I saw myself as a leader, someone that could succeed because I was getting some success, which brings us back to what I just talked about, which is having your purpose and edging towards it, moving towards it every single day.

That is something that gives you confidence and helps you become more and more of a leader and a King. So I want you to pretend that you have crown on your head and you just fcking own your domain, have dignity and be the leader of your kingdom, both in your social life and in your career.

Be the kind of guy that people seek out, both for fun and for business or whatever, be the social connector. And the easiest way to become the leader of a group is to start your own group. It’s really as simple as just inviting a few people out and then being the person that leads the way deciding when and where you go throughout the night or at a party or a social social gathering, be the hub where people are hanging out and joking telling stories, be the facilitator of fun, or pick a topic that you enjoy and start an organization or a meetup group around that topic, go to meetup.com and just start an account.

And on a date, you’re the one in control. Now that doesn’t mean you’re controlling and making her go to places she doesn’t want to go. Don’t do that. It just means that you have a plan for the night, instead of just saying, “Hey, what do you want to do?” “I’ll take you wherever you want to go.” And putting all the pressure on her.

Women love a man that’s a leader and that can lead her through a fun adventure.


So there you have it, man. These are the four ingredients that will naturally draw to you. Not even the richest guy with hot chiseled, abs can trump a high value multi-dimensional man who possesses all four of these traits.

He is a very rare man, indeed. And she knows that. Now you probably noticed that all four attributes, the King, the Gandhi, the Lover, and the Hero are all rooted in being confident. So to help you become a naturally confident man, instead of someone who uses tricks or tactics to just appear confident, I created a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives you 18 different ways to boost your confidence and eliminate fear. So make sure to click that and download it, man, cause it’s absolutely free.

And if you want us to work with you live in field to help you become the kind of man that attracts women effortlessly, and that embodies all four of these attributes, then make sure to check out our bootcamp schedule and get a free breakthrough session.

We’ve got free weekly content out and we discuss even more than what women find attractive in a man! We also cover how to text a girl, how to get a date, how to talk to a girl to turn her on, and lots more.

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How to Not be Boring (Especially During a Date)

Now’s the perfect time to learn how to not be boring (especially to a girl you like!). So don’t be the Boring Guy that gets Friend Zoned! Our top coaches show you how to stop being boring and how to carry the conversation with interest and charisma.

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HOW TO NOT BE BORING
Be Interesting Especially to a Girl YOU Like!

Are you the type of guy who goes out to the bar and you start a conversation with a girl it seems like it’s going really well but then she turned her back and leaves? Doesn’t talk to you for the rest the night? Well you know what? We’re gonna help you!

In this video we’re gonna teach you how to stop being so boring. Our top coaches from The Attractive Man Team are here to talk about why guys sometimes bore the sh*&t out of women and how you (a guy that’s watching our videos and reading our blog) can avoid making that mistake.

Listen to Matt, Josiah, Jules and David talk about their experiences with coaching men and what best to do to keep the conversation going, and how to never run out of things to say.

How do you stop being boring? How do you keep things interesting? How to be more interesting to women? Sometimes the key to not be boring lies in a mans ability to be comfortable with his emotions and his stories.

Matt talks about conversation flows, Josiah and Jules about being in the moment and making funny banter, and David about just not caring too much what others think because that creates mental barriers that are unecessary to begin with!

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