Hey Guys, Matt Artisan here, today I am talking to with Attractive Man coaches Lynn and Kal to discuss whether or not you should date a coworker, so let’s dig in and see what everyone had to say:
Kal’s Thoughts
Should you date a coworker?
I do like having someone that I flirt with at work, but never ever cross a certain line.
Just because that makes me excited to go to work.
I remember when I worked in an office, there was this girl that we all went out as coworkers and we did end up making out, but we stopped it.
And from there, we just had that boundary and it was so fun to go to work.
Like we would flirt all the time, just that’s it.
It was exciting.
All the other relationships, I meet girls outside.
I don’t want it to get messy.
I wanna feel comfortable where I work, so.
MATT’S THOUGHTS
Should you date a coworker?
The risk is usually higher than the reward.
Of course it depends, there are exceptions and plenty of people have met in the workplace.
I would just be very, very cautious.
In fact, it depends on the environment.
Some environments like Kal’s, you can flirt.
but most work environments you can’t flirt or you can flirt but it could be risky.
So I would say just veer on the side of safety.
In fact, I would make her a great friend and say, hey, do you have any cute single friends that you could hook me up with?
Introduce me to.
Make her your wing girl.
That’s what I recommend.
And then if you’re totally like friend zoning her, but she is the one escalating on you and flirting with you, hey, then maybe consider it.
But I wouldn’t be the one being proactive in that situation.
Outside the workplace, yes, be proactive.
You need to approach, you need to escalate, but in the workplace, if she works close to you especially, then I would not be approaching and escalating and flirting and giving her compliments and all that.
Unless it’s an appropriate place where you work in a club or something like that, then by all means.
Lynn’s thoughts
Should you date a coworker?
To me, the answer is a very clear, definite no.
And I’ll tell you why I say that.
I’m gonna be a realist.
I’m gonna tell you that in my opinion, the chances of your relationship working out are pretty slim.
Let’s just look at the statistics.
Let’s just say that everything goes great, you date and you get into a relationship.
Oh my God.
Chances are pretty high that one day it’s going to end.
And if you’re still working together when it ends, then even if both of you are very mature and aren’t that upset.
which you probably will be about the relationship, it will still be really awkward.
You want to avoid having any kind of unnecessary turmoil or mess or drama or gossip.
You wanna keep work as professional and clean as possible.
So remember, women and men, by the way, are like buses.
There’s always another one coming in the next 10 minutes.
Try and leave your work colleagues alone in their own little world.
I mean, sure, you can interact with them, but definitely nothing romantic.
And then go and connect and utilize all the tools that we’re teaching you with people that are not associated in terms of anything professional.
If you like your job, then no, don’t try to hook up with her.
If you don’t like your job, then by all means, go for it.
But then the question is, why are you working a job that you don’t like?