I bet this has happened to you — you text her, and suddenly you’re glued to your phone, waiting for her to reply. The longer she doesn’t, the more anxious you get.
There’s a way to flip the script, and make her be the one checking her phone and waiting for your reply…
And no, it’s not just about ignoring her. That’s what everyone one else says to do but they forget that high-value women have options and they’ll just move on to someone else who doesn’t ignore them because that’s only a part of the bigger picture.
Watch until the end to find out my 3-step system to get her to be the one chasing you. and go over exactly what goes through in her mind when she senses this change and how you can leverage this to your advantage.
Step 1: Make a Move
You’re the man, so it’s your job to initiate, lead, and take action. When you see a beautiful woman, you need to approach her—because most of the time, she won’t approach you. From there, you need to lead the interaction and be the one to go for her phone number. That means you’ll text her first, ask her on a date, and lead the date from one venue to the next—eventually back to your place if that’s where you want things to go. You also need to lead physically, make the move to kiss her, and initiate intimacy.
Again, you’re the man—it’s your job to lead and initiate. None of this works if you don’t take action.
Before we move on to step two, let’s address a big issue: so many guys struggle with making the move properly and end up losing the girl. I’m going to help you avoid this by giving you three free dating courses, plus access to weekly coaching calls and a community of awesome guys like yourself. You’ll even be able to find wingmen in your area. So keep watching.
Step Two: Pull Away
You need to pull away during every phase of dating. Let me explain. Whether it’s when you approach her, go for her number, text her, make moves, bring her back to your place, or initiate intimacy—you must show interest but not be 100% sold on her. Women can sense when a guy is overly invested or desperate, and it’s a turn-off.
You need to be a man with standards, someone who knows what he wants and looks for qualities beyond her looks. Think of it this way: until she’s your wife, you shouldn’t be completely sold on her.
What non-physical qualities are you looking for in a woman? Maybe you’ve never really thought about it and only focused on finding a “hot” girl. But if that’s your only criterion, you’ll come across as a low-value guy who just wants to get laid. Women can sense this. On the other hand, a man with high self-worth, standards, and purpose is far more attractive.
This isn’t a “technique”—it’s a mindset. You’re a busy guy with a mission, and you’re looking for a high-value woman who adds to your life. You don’t have time for just anyone, and women will notice this confidence and self-worth. They’ll also know if you’re faking it. Women are incredibly intuitive—it’s a survival mechanism. So pulling away isn’t about playing games; it’s about genuinely knowing your worth and being selective.
How to Pull Away
Here are some practical examples:
- When you first approach her: Be direct and honest. Tell her you think she’s gorgeous—because, let’s be real, that’s why you’re approaching her. But after showing that initial interest, don’t overdo it. If you keep saying, “I like you, I like you,” you’ll seem desperate and without options. Instead, take a step back. For example, say something like, “Tell me one cool thing about you. I’m kind of picky about who I spend my time with.” It’s playful, flirty, and shows you’re not sold on her yet.
- When texting: Don’t text her all day. Send the first text, let her reply, and if she doesn’t respond, wait at least three days before trying again. Women often forget to reply or get distracted, so don’t assume she’s uninterested. Trying again shows persistence without being needy. However, don’t chase endlessly—there’s a balance.
- On the date: Show interest, but don’t smother her. Tease her, joke around, and keep things light. For example, say, “This is never going to work out between us,” then kiss her five minutes later. It creates fun, flirty tension.
- When making a move: Be the one to go for the kiss first. After she reciprocates, pull away and say something like, “That’s all you get for now. You’re so bad.” This playful push-pull dynamic drives her wild.
- Back at your place: When you invite her over, say something like, “Okay, but we’ve got to behave. Pinky promise—no hooking up tonight.” This playful boundary-setting creates sexual tension, and chances are, you’ll end up breaking that “promise” together.
Step Three: Repeat the Process
Dating is a balancing act of showing interest and pulling away. It’s fun, flirty, and builds attraction. Women love a man who is a challenge—someone they have to win over. Don’t be the guy who’s immediately won over just because she’s attractive.
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