Think you need a wingman to meet women?
Well, think again.
I’ve been a dating coach for over 15 years, and believe me when I say going out alone is one of the biggest advantages you can have if you know how to work the room.
In this video, I’ll tell you exactly why going out solo is often way better than bringing a buddy, what to say if she asks you, “Wait a second, are you here alone?”, how to turn a complete stranger into an instant wingman, how to handle groups of girls like a pro to even screening for a threesome, and make sure to watch until the very end because I’m going to share a crazy little secret that’s landed me free VIP table and bottle service even when I showed up to the club for the first time completely solo. So why is going out to a bar or club alone actually a massive advantage?
Here are 4 reasons that most guys never even consider.
1) Most wingmen just hold you back.
I mean, let’s be real. Most guys are just terrible with women.
Instead of helping, they either kill the vibe, say the wrong thing and turn off the girls, or get sloppy drunk and become your problem.
You end up babysitting instead of flirting.
Or worse, the guy’s actually decent with women, and then he starts competing with you for the same girl.
2) If you’re out alone, you just seem way less threatening.
Imagine a group of three guys going over to approach three girls. That’s going to feel overpowering to them.
They’re going to be like, “Wo, too many guys, too much masculine presence.”
It just feels threatening and even a little unsafe for them.
Versus, you’re by yourself and you go approach three girls.
Not only is that not threatening anymore, but it’s also really confident.
She knows that three guys, you know, they’re out with their buddies. It’s just not that big of a deal to go approach girls versus a guy who’s by himself approaching girls.
I remember the first time I went out by myself.
I hit up this bar called Malarkey in Newport Beach on a Wednesday night.
I walked in, I saw that everybody there was with somebody. I was the only guy solo.
So, I walked up to the bar, ordered a drink, and this girl left her group to come order a drink, and she’s next to me.
I started chatting her up.
She asked me, by the way, why I was there alone, and I gave a good answer, which I’ll give you in just a second.
But because I was there by myself and that’s not threatening, she invited me to join her entire group of six or seven other girls.
I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t have happened if I was there with a couple of buddies.
3) No Wingman Drama
You don’t have to worry about her friend liking your friend or him messing up the energy or trying to split up the group awkwardly deciding like who’s going to go with who.
You’re just in complete control of your own results.
4) You can always find an instant wingman.
You’d be surprised at how easy it is to team up with another cool guy at the venue.
Here’s the move.
Scan the room for another guy who seems cool who’s also there solo.
If you can’t find any, then find either a small group, like two guys, or a guy who’s clearly not having luck with his group.
Then strike up a quick convo.
Or, hey man, do you see those girls over there?
You know, dude stuff.
If he’s chill, team up.
And the beauty is you can actually pick somebody that your target’s friend already finds attractive.
Here’s how.
I was out in Hollywood one night.
I was there solo and I approached these two girls and I started really vibing with one and she said you got to find somebody for my friend.
So I asked the friend, “What kind of guys do you like?”
And she pointed at somebody and said, “I like guys like that guy.”
So I just went up to that guy and I was like, “Hey man, I approached these two girls and one of them thinks you’re really cute. You want to come talk to her?”
Of course, he said yes.
And then the two of them started really vibing.
And within a few minutes, we left the club.
And I remember another time that I did this same kind of scenario, I became best friends with that guy for like a few years.
We were going out together all the time and he was a great wingman.
So, you never know, you might find a great wingman or a lifelong friend.
By the way, if you want to get your dating life handled and start having the skills and confidence to approach women solo like I do, then click the link down in the description to book a free consultation with me and my team.
Now, when you’re out solo, how do you come off as a cool, confident guy, not some weird loner lurking in the corner?
Well, I’ve got three easy shifts that change everything.
1) Own the place like it’s your kingdom.
Before you even walk in, you got to have the mindset, “This is my place. I belong here. I’m here to enjoy the night. I don’t have to prove anything.”
Make sure you’re dressing sharp.
Smile. Nod at people. Cheers. Make strong eye contact.
This kind of energy is absolutely magnetic.
2) Talk to everybody
Don’t just hit on girls.
Talk to guys, talk to couples, the bartender, anybody.
You can give genuine compliments or you can ask simple questions like, “How’s your night going?”, “What are you celebrating?”, or “What kind of trouble are you guys getting into?”
Quick 30-second interactions, they build momentum and they warm up your energy for the right moment to approach that girl you’ve had your eye on.
And when you’ve been warming up with everybody, approaching that girl you’ve had your eye on is no big deal anymore.
It’s just one of many interactions for the night.
And imagine if it actually was your club, you probably want to make sure that everybody was having a good time, right?
And that’s why everybody’s there, to have a good time.
So when you have that mindset and energy, everybody wants to be around you.
3) Match the vibe of the venue
If you’re at a chill lounge, don’t be that guy bouncing around trying to create a party.
Just kick back like James Bond. Enjoy the music and sip on your drink.
When you’re comfortable in your own skin, that’s when people are drawn to you.
That’s real confidence.
And then when you’re just enjoying yourself and then you see a beautiful woman you want to go talk to, you just do that.
You go talk to her. It’s no big deal.
So, what do you do when you’re out by yourself, you’re talking to a girl, but she’s with her friends?
Here’s how to handle it like a pro.
Whether you’re into one specific girl or you think a few girls in the group are cute.
1) First, make sure to approach the entire group.
Even if you’re into one specific girl, approach the whole group at first.
It’s easy. Just say something playful like, “Who’s the ring leader here?” or “You all look like trouble. I just had to come over and say hi.”
When you approach the whole group like that, it shows social intelligence instead of them thinking, “Why is this guy trying to steal our friend already?“
Now, obviously, if it’s a super loud mega club, this rule can be flexible.
It’s a little bit too hard to address the entire group.
You can barely talk at all in places like that.
So, here’s a pro tip. Scout out quieter spots within the venue.
Maybe near the bar or the outside patio or the lounge area and approach there where you can actually have a conversation.
Now, what if you approach the group, but you don’t know which girl you like right away?
You could just say something like, “I bet most of you are taken, huh?”
And they’ll usually tell you which girls are taken and which are single.
Or if you want to find out who would be most likely to go home with you, you could ask, “Okay, I’m curious. Who’s the wildest one in the group?”
This not only helps you break the ice, but it helps you see who’s most receptive, flirty, and open.
Now, if you’re only interested in one girl in the group, the one that caught your eye, then focus your attention, your teasing, and your flirting with her, but still keep the others in the group involved.
Don’t just try to take her away immediately.
That’s not going to work usually.
Instead, when the moment’s right, isolate her naturally.
When you see that she loves a song, you could just say, “Hey, let’s go dance.”
If she just finished her drink, just say, “Let’s go grab a drink.”
And here’s a pro tip.
Tell the friends where you’re taking her so that they’re not worried.
Say something like, “Hey, we’re going to go grab a drink. We’ll be right over there.”
So then the friends know exactly where you’re taking her and they don’t have to worry.
If you’re talking to two girls at a bar and you’re picking up a flirty vibe, here’s a great way to screen for a threesome.
Ask each of them, “I’m curious, what’s your favorite thing about your friend?”
If she says something physical, like her ass, her boobs, or her lips, then there’s a solid chance they’re open for it.
If she says a non-physical quality, like her personality, then it’s a little less likely.
But also keep in mind that girls don’t have to actually be attracted to each other in order to have a threesome.
That’s a myth.
Stay respectful, playful, and follow the vibe.
And even if they’re not down for a threesome, yes, you can definitely bring a whole group of girls back to your place and still have fun with the one you want without getting blocked.
I’ve done it many times.
When it’s two girls, the girl that I’m not into will just call her boyfriend or, you know, make a phone call or just play on her phone while I’m connecting with her friend.
If it’s more than two girls, if it’s like three or four girls, it’s even better because then all the girls can hang out with each other while I connect with the one that I like.
It’s no big deal.
The key takeaway is to lead the interaction, lead the energy, make it feel like an adventure for them, and women will just follow your lead.
Now, here’s the crazy VIP bottle service hack that I promised you.
There’s two ways to do this.
One is you find the promoter and you just ask him, “Hey, can you hook me up with a table if I have a big group of beautiful girls?”
If he says yes, then all you got to do is say, “Okay, hold on one second. My friends just arrived.”
And go approach a big group of girls and tell them, “Hey, would you girls like to join me at my table?”
Of course, they’re going to say yes.
And you might be thinking, why would a promoter just give out a free table?
Because he needs girls at the venue.
That’s all most clubs really care about.
2) The second way to do this is you see a group of guys that already have a VIP table and when one of them goes to the bathroom, you just introduce yourself to them.
“Hey, what’s up, man? I saw you over there partying. What are you guys celebrating?”
And then just ask them.
Say, “Hey man, I noticed you don’t have any girls at your table. I know a bunch of girls here. You want me to invite like like seven or eight girls to your table?”
Most guys, of course, they’re going to be like, “Hell yeah.”
Then just go up to a group of girls and say, “Hey, my friends have a table over there and they need help drinking their alcohol. Would you like to join us?”
Again, the girls are going to say yes cuz free alcohol plus status and they don’t have to stand anymore in their heels.
So then all you got to do is walk them to the table.
It’s super easy and effective.
You just have to have confidence.
Confidence plus high status equals access.
Now if a girl asks you, “Are you here alone?” or “Why are you here alone?”
Don’t make up some excuse like, “Oh, my friends bailed on me.”
Or, “Oh, they’re going to show up later,” or something like that.
Just own it.
Say, “Yeah, I wanted to come out by myself.”
And then just change the subject.
Talk about something else.
Show that it’s no big deal. And it will be no big deal for the girl either.
In fact, she’ll probably see you as more confident.
I remember I’ve told many girls this, and they usually respond with something like, “Wow, I can never do that.”
Implying that, I’m very bold for doing so.
And if you want me and my team to help you do this, then click the link down below because it’s easier than you think, man, if you have the right guidance.
And I can help you with that just like I’ve done for thousands of guys in the same situation as you.
