Most of your life, you’ve been told: “Be polite. Be nice. Don’t rock the boat.”
But here’s the truth… This will only get you friendzoned.
If you’re not clearly asking for what you want with women
– You’re not being polite…
– You’re being passive. And passive men don’t win.
So how can you ask for exactly what you want?
Unapologetically, directly, confidently…
Without coming across like a jerk or a creep?
The “Polite Guy” Trap
Look, most of us were raised with this idea that asking for what you want is rude.
You were taught to:
- Keep the peace
- Avoid confrontation
- Wait your turn
And somewhere along the way, that turned into:
- “Don’t tell a woman you’re into her.”
- “Don’t ask her out too directly.”
- “”Don’t flirt too boldly — you might come off as aggressive.”
Sound familiar?
Well here’s what that mindset gets you:
- Flaky responses
- Friend zone treatment
- A whole lot of waiting around hoping that women will notice you
Meanwhile, the guy who says what he wants — He’s the one she sleeps with.
The Shift: Asking is Power
Here’s the mindset shift I want you to adopt: Clarity is confidence.
When you say what you want clearly and confidently, without apology, you become the kind of man women respect and desire.
Think about it. Saying things like:
- “You are fucking sexy.”
- “I want to see you again.”
- “I don’t do the ‘just friends’ thing.”
Simple. Direct. Powerful.
That kind of clarity shows you’re a leader — not just with women, but in life.
How to Train This into Your Body
This next part is key. Because if you’re not used to speaking this way, it’ll feel awkward at first.
So here’s your challenge — It’s called the “I Want” Exercise.
Every day for the next 7 days, say “I want…” out loud at least 5 times.
Seriously. Practice it with:
- Your barista: “Um uh can I have the…” say “I want a medium coffee, no sugar.”
- Your friend: “I want to meet at 7pm, not 8.”
- Yourself: “I want to go out tonight.”
Why?
Because until you train your voice and nervous system to get used to claiming what you want…
You’ll keep holding back when it matters most like when you’re standing in front of a woman you’re attracted to.
Examples to Use With Women
Now let’s apply this to dating.
Here are a few simple “I want” phrases you can start using today:
- “I want your number.”
- “I want to take you out next week.”
- “I’m not looking for a friendship — I want something real.”
- “I want to kiss you right now.”
And no, you don’t say them like a robot! You add your own vibe, your own tone, your own timing.
But the structure stays the same.
Clear. Confident. Intentional.
This is What Women Crave
Let me make something clear:
This isn’t about bulldozing over her preferences or ignoring what she wants.
It’s about bringing your truth forward first.
That’s what strong men do.
Women don’t want a guy who tiptoes around them, hoping they’ll figure it out.
They want a man who:
- Knows what he wants
- Says it without apology
- Respects her space, but never hides in fear
Be that man!
So if you want to keep building that kind of confidence and become the man women chase
Click the link in the banner below and check out my full training on how to lead, flirt, and attract from a place of pure power.
This is about more than dating — it’s about becoming the man you were meant to be.
Let’s go.