Are you tired of never getting matches on dating apps? I’m about to hit you with five no-nonsense steps that you can start using today to get more matches. And I know these tactics work for a fact because every student that goes through my Online Dating Mastery course and implements these changes almost instantly starts getting dates even when they thought they weren’t good looking enough.
Step One: Adopt an Abundance Mentality
This is the number one mistake I see guys make on dating apps, they don’t have an abundance mindset. Tinder is basically like a never-ending buffet of women, so don’t get hung up on that one girl who ghosted you after saying she liked your dog. Spoiler alert: Some women are just on there to collect compliments like Pokémon cards. If she’s not replying or she drops off mid-chat, hit the eject button and keep swiping. She’s not worth your time. There’s always another girl right around the corner. Also your mindset for online dating should be your just having fun and not taking it seriously because that’s how most women view dating apps, as a silly game, more about this later. If you seem like you are taking it too seriously it convey that you are desperate for a date.
Step Two: Get Better Photos (Seriously)
This will triple or even get you 10 times more matches online. Look, your photos are EVERYTHING. No, really—everything. If your profile pic looks like it was taken in a cave on a 2005 flip phone, you will not get any matches. And no photoshoot pics like you went to glamour shots at the mall. Remember, you don’t want to seem too serious about online dating. Here’s the fix: Grab a buddy, head outside, and get some good shots. Three or four outfits, a few cool locations, and just snap away. Don’t worry about feeling cheesy—girls just want to see that you know how to dress and don’t live in a basement. Plus, natural lighting is your best friend.
Also, just a quick PSA: If you’re thinking, “But I’m not attractive enough!”—stop it. You can always step up your style, hit the gym, and boost your looks. And what’s most important is do you look confident in your pics or is the sun in your eyes and you have a cheesy fake creepy grin across your face? Make sure you are smizing because your eyes are what will turn her on or off. BTW we show you exactly how to do that in our online dating mastery course.
Step Three: Keep Your Bio Short and Sweet
When it comes to online dating apps, Let’s get one thing straight: Your photos are doing the heavy lifting here. Your bio? That’s just the little cherry on top. Don’t overthink it. Keep it short, catchy, and a little intriguing and original. Don’t be like everyone else and put “I’m adventurous. I love travel.” Bro everyone loves that shit. What makes you unique?
Here’s mine: “Business owner by day, stripper by night. I prefer girls who like girls.” It’s simple, its playful and it shows I’m not afraid to be honest and say what I want.
You want to spark curiosity without giving away your life story. And if you’re feeling like a mysterious badass, you can even go with no bio at all. Because remember, you are not taking this too seriously. Trust me, it works. Just don’t write an essay, unless you’re trying to bore her into swiping left.
Step Four: Keep Your Opening Message Simple
Now that you’ve got some killer pics and a solid bio, it’s time to make the first move. Your goal when sending your opening message on a dating app? Just. Get. A. Response. You’re not auditioning for a comedy special or writing Shakespeare. A simple “Hey [her name] you seem like trouble…” or “you seem pretty adventurous” works like a charm. I even tried just sending [Her Name].. And it works because it gets her attention. Save the witty banter for later, once you’ve actually got her attention. Trying to be too clever upfront is like performing a backflip before you’ve learned to walk—you’re just gonna crash and burn.
Now, that being said, here’s a clever first online dating message. Just send “Want to hear a secret…” it has a huge response rate because she will be eager to know what the secret is. After she asks “what is it” just send “I kinda have a crush on this girl who [describe her] but shhhh don’t tell her :)” Works like a charm.
Step Five: Close the Deal (Like a Boss)
Here’s how you get a date from a dating app quickly and seal the deal without being weird about it. Don’t rush to “Hey, come over!”—unless you’re aiming for the creeper award. But also don’t get stuck in texting purgatory for 30 messages straight. Find that sweet spot: exchange a few messages, get a little rapport going, and then hit her with something like, “Alright, let’s cut the BS—I think you’re cute. Want to grab a drink sometime?” or do what I do which is wait a while after she responds to the first message because I honestly only open dating apps once or twice a week because I already have way too many options and then reply with “Hey I’m never on here, whats your number we can chat there”
Just be direct, respectful, and confident. Once she says yes, get that number and move the convo to text. Boom, done.
There you have it—five simple steps to go from Tinder Ghost to Tinder King. Follow these tips, and you’ll be booking more dates than you can handle so increase those standards king. If you want access to my Online Dating Mastery course then just click the banner below and you’ll get it for free, because I love you guys and truly want to help you out!
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