“I’m sorry if I’m masculine, but I’ve been forced to be masculine when I was married. Or when I was in my my past relationships and a man didn’t wear the pants, I had to take off my skirt and put the pants in the relationship. If a man can’t show up and can’t be a man and an alpha then guess what – A woman has to be that Alpha so a lot of men in my life forced me to wear the pants because they had their skirts on”
-@Real Woman
Let’s talk about this video. First, I do disagree with her on one point. I bet she has met the kind of man she describes as a “true alpha” or what I’d call a “true masculine man” at least once or twice in her life. Otherwise, she wouldn’t know what it feels like for that type of man to draw her into her feminine energy.
But the truth is, the kind of man she’s referring to—the true masculine man every woman dreams of and is instinctively attracted to—is extremely rare nowadays. And there are three reasons for this: porn, online dating, and Instagram.
How Modern Society Creates Weak Men
In the past, before these influences existed, men had to step out of their comfort zones. They had to approach women and face rejection head-on. Confidence was built through these experiences, and the men who succeeded were rewarded with a woman’s affection.
Nowadays, men don’t have to leave their comfort zones. They can stay home and get all the sexual gratification they need from OnlyFans and online porn. If they want interaction with women, they don’t have to meet anyone in person—they can swipe on dating apps or send messages on Instagram.
This creates a society of weak men who no longer need to be hunters, warriors, or conquerors. Many men now work from home, order food through Uber Eats, and live in a safe, comfortable world. While there are undeniable benefits to this lifestyle, the downside is a loss of masculine energy.
Masculinity is forged through stepping into tension, facing obstacles, and handling rejection.
It doesn’t come automatically just because you’re male. Both masculine and feminine energies exist in all of us, and whichever one we cultivate becomes stronger. If men aren’t doing things that push them out of their comfort zones—like going to the gym, playing sports, or approaching beautiful women—their masculine energy weakens.
As a result, men become depolarized. They lose the kind of masculine presence that most women, especially those with a feminine nature, are instinctively attracted to.
What It Means to Be a True Masculine Man
This brings me to the key qualities of a true masculine man:
Provider and Protector Energy
Women haven’t changed much in terms of what they instinctively desire in a man. A true masculine man is a provider and protector.
He takes charge and leads. For example, instead of asking, “Where do you want to go on our date?” he says, “I’ve planned something fun for us.” The first approach is indecisive, while the second demonstrates leadership.
He stands up not only for her but also to her when necessary. A masculine man isn’t afraid to disagree or poke fun in a playful way. He’s authentic, not trying to be someone he thinks she wants.
Ability to Handle Tension
Masculinity is about being grounded. A woman needs to know that you’re her rock. When she tests you—whether by turning her head away when you go in for a kiss or by being emotionally unpredictable—she’s checking to see if you’re solid and unshaken.
A grounded man doesn’t get overly emotional, whether that means becoming angry, sulking, or withdrawing. He stays calm and steady, which gives her the security to relax into her feminine energy.
When a woman feels safe and loved by a man who exudes true masculine energy, she naturally sheds her masculine energy and falls into her feminine. She becomes soft, playful, and open. Sadly, many women have been forced into their masculine roles because the men in their lives didn’t step up.
Show me a man who is fully in his masculine energy—not operating from wounded masculinity but true masculine confidence—and watch me become a sweet, soft girl. I need a man who embodies that energy, love, and stability.
Even women who spend much of their day in their masculine energy due to work or other responsibilities crave a man who can put them in their feminine energy. When you embody true masculinity, a woman will not only be attracted to you—she’ll become obsessed.
Unleashing Your Masculinity
The good news? That powerful masculine energy is already inside you. It’s your essence as a man. What often gets in the way are layers of shame, self-doubt, insecurities, limiting beliefs, and other roadblocks.
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