In my 10 years of teaching guys how to get better at approaching and attracting women, I’ve seen the same 7 mistakes men make over and over again that women hate.
Most guys have these subconscious behaviors that they’re doing.
that completely turns women off without them even realizing it.
And if you’re watching this video right now, then I can guarantee that you’re doing at least one of these things, or more likely you’re doing a good number of them, if not all of them.
And if you’ve ever been friend-zoned or rejected or just flat-out ignored by women that you really want, then be sure to watch until the end because Right now I’m going to uncover the seven most common mistakes men make that women hate and how to fix each and every one of them.
Mistake 7: lOOKING DOWN TO AVOID TENSION
My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man and the first thing that every girl is thinking about when she meets you is your eyes.
Like I said, women first notice your eyes.
eye contact or lack thereof.
And most guys look down to avoid tension, which is really, really creepy because, to her, it looks like you’re checking out her body and looking at her breasts, which of course is going to creep her out.
Of course, you’re just innocently avoiding tension, but she doesn’t know that.
And if you’re approaching women and trying to talk to women and you’re not getting a lot of good reactions, this may be the reason and most guys make this mistake without ever realizing it because the only way you’re gonna ever realize that you’re doing it is if you have a wingman looking at you or you’re filming yourself or you have a coach like myself or one of our teammates actually critiquing your approaches and figuring out what you’re doing wrong and giving you feedback but figure this out because you don’t want to keep pushing women away over and over again and never realizing it because that can sabotage your success.
Mistake 6: wAITING TOO LONG TO APPROACH
The next mistake men make that women hate that is super common, it’s just waiting too long to approach and overthinking it, over analyzing it.
Also talking themselves out of it most of the time thinking, “Oh, maybe that guy is with her or she looks like she’s in a bad mood or all those people are around.”
or “This is going to be too awkward and uncomfortable for me and for her.”
So then they typically talk themselves out of it.
Or if they actually do approach her, they’re already in a really nervous state because they’re analyzing the situation.
they’re thinking about what could happen, which are typically worst-case scenarios instead of waiting to approach her, go right away.
Five-second rule.
If you guys have heard of Mel Roberts, she has a book called the five-second rule says countdown from five to one and then go take action because that will help you overcome that nervousness and help you get grounded because before you even have a chance to get nervous, you’re taking action, you’re starting to walk towards your goal.
In this case, it’s a beautiful woman.
Now, of course, there’s a few situations that wouldn’t be a good idea.
Like if she’s at a bar, she’s buying a drink in that situation, wait, or she’s at a store and she’s talking to somebody that works there.
Wait until a better situation.
But other than that, go for it.
Five seconds, count down from five to one, and just start walking.
Mistake 5: tALKING TOO FAST
The next mistake that men make that women hate is talking too fast. Speedy Gonzalez is not attractive.
It actually makes it seem like you don’t believe she would be attracted to you.
So you have to talk as fast as you can to get out what you have to say because you don’t believe she’s going to stay there and listen to you, which is the opposite of confidence.
So it doesn’t work.
And of course, the reason you’re doing that is because you probably do want to get out of that situation soon because you’re not comfortable.
You don’t have the experience.
So you want to, you know, get back into your comfort zone.
So you need to get used to talking to beautiful women.
So talking to beautiful women is your comfort zone and then just slow things down because that creates a lot of tension, even sensual tension, romantic tension and sexual tension, which of course is going to turn her on a lot more than talking as fast as you can, because you’re really, really nervous.
mistake 4: aSKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS
The next common mistake that men make that women hate, like every man makes this mistake, including myself at times, or at least in the past when I wasn’t very good at women with women is asking too many questions, especially logical questions, trying to extract information from her because we’re men, we’re logical.
That’s just how we think.
We think in terms of what are the facts, but that doesn’t do anything in terms of attraction or connection or building rapport.
And it’s really just draining.
Think of two glasses of water.
Every time you ask the question, you’re pouring… her glass into yours and pretty soon she’s empty.
She’s drained, but you need to fill the glass back up.
So all you need to do is make statements after you ask a question, for example, where are you from?
Make a statement about it.
Tell her your experience of that place.
If you’ve never been there, maybe you know somebody who’s been there.
If you don’t know anybody who’s been there, then talk about how you’ve never been there and you always want to go there and then ask another question.
Another option instead of just asking questions is making statements and assumptions.
For example, instead of where you’re from, you could say, you seem like an East Coast girl or you seem like you’re from California.
Even if you’re completely wrong and she’s from like China or something, she’s going to tell you, she’s like, no, I’m from China.
And you still got the information you wanted without having to ask a question, which works much better.
mistake 3: tALKING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF
If you’re one of those guys who loves talking about yourself and who doesn’t because let’s face it, you, me, we’re our favorite subjects, but she feels the same way.
And guess what?
She wants to talk about herself and she’s going to feel more comfortable with you if she’s talking about herself and you’re getting to know her versus you just telling her everything about yourself, which gives away all the mystery anyway, which you don’t want to do because you want her to want to see you again.
and want to get to know you more because she feels like there’s still more about you to discover.
But people feel more comfortable with whoever it is that they’re talking to when they express themselves and when they feel that the other person is really listening and intrigued with them
Because like I said, I’m my favorite subject.
You’re your favorite subject.
So let her be your favorite subject, at least in that moment, show her that you actually care and show her.
that you want to get to know her and it’s going to build a lot more rapport if she’s talking about herself more than you are or at least 50 / 50, but don’t be hogging the conversation, and especially don’t be bragging and not getting her to open up.
As I said, it doesn’t have to be just asking questions, making assumptions about her, and cold-reading her as well.
mistake 2: nOT HAVING FUN ON A DATE
A huge mistake that men make that women hate on dates is not having any fun.
Also at bars and clubs when they’re trying to meet women there.
But on dates, guys have this mentality that they’re just getting to know her, which is true.
You are getting to know her.
You’re qualifying her.
You’re trying to see if she fits into your reality or not.
But also have fun.
Don’t forget to go to multiple venues.
Pick fun venues.
And of course, banter, tease, roleplay, and just have fun and play games on the date.
If the date’s not enjoyable, if it feels like an interrogation or a job interview, she’s not going to want to go on another date.
And the first date, second date, or third date, probably not going to lead to intimacy.
So pick fun venues and think of what are some fun things, whether it’s games or role playing or teasing or whatever that you can do on your dates to make them more memorable and more exciting.
And here is a link to a video I made on how to have more fun and how to flirt because flirting is basically showing interest in a fun way.
So you know exactly how to have fun and create that fun, flirty, romantic vibe on a date, or really anytime you meet a beautiful woman.
mistake 1: NOT MAKING A MOVE
the next thing that is the biggest mistake men make that women hate that can creep someone out is not making a move.
whether it is that you see a woman at a bar or during the day and you keep making eye contact with her, you keep looking at her and you don’t go talk to her, you don’t make the initial move of approaching her or you’re already in an interaction with her and you don’t make the move, whether that’s going for her phone number or going for an instant date or you’re on a date with her and you don’t take it further, you don’t go for a kiss.
or you don’t even try to take her home.
I actually taught an event that had 17 women in Singapore.
And I asked them, what’s your biggest gripe or challenge when it comes to dating.
And they all agreed that men don’t make the move soon enough.
Even if they get the phone number, they don’t go for a date soon enough.
They do go for the date.
Then, like I said, they don’t go for the kiss or intimacy soon enough.
And it just shows her that you’re afraid.
to make a move on her.
You’re afraid to take things to the next level, which is unattractive.
If however, let’s say you’re on a date and you don’t wanna take her home.
Maybe you think she’s girlfriend material and you think moving things too fast might ruin things.
That’s fine, but then tell her, tell her you have a no-first-date rule as far as intimacy, or tell her you don’t kiss on the first date, that it’s your decision.
Based you know on your preferences and your choice or your morals, not because of fear.
Because if you’re afraid to make a move How can she be attracted to you that shows that you don’t have confidence if you’re afraid to make the move.
What else are you afraid of how can you protect her?
Listen, guys, to make sure you don’t make those mistakes, especially when it comes to escalating with women, make sure to download my free escalation cheat sheet so that you how to make the move, how to go from a platonic vibe to a more intimate vibe without messing up because chances are, like I said, you’re messing up in more ways than one.
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Again, my name is Matt Artisan from the attractive man.
I’ll see you next time.
Peace.