Why do girls like bad boys so much? Do nice guys always finish last? What you’re about to hear is controversial.. because you’ve probably never heard this before. So let’s get right to the interview, shall we?
WHY DO GIRLS LIKE BAD BOYS?
The Dark Side Of Attraction
Matt: I like how you said “be yourself,” because a lot of people have heard that advice.. And don’t understand it because they say, “Oh, I’m always being myself. I’m being so nice and sweet to women.“
And really, are they being themselves, do you think?
Robert: They are not. And you know that that applied to me as well. And yeah, that’s that’s the advice. You know, we used to hear from our mother or something like that “just to be yourself,” you know, and guys will tell me, you know, “I’ve heard that all my life and that sucks. That’s not accurate. I myself and women still don’t want to give me a number. I still don’t want to go out with me.“
And and what’s happened is how can a woman be attracted to a chameleon? How could she be attracted to something that has no life energy
about it? No edge to it? No. No darkness to it. Right? No fierceness to it.
Nice Guy vs. Bad Boy – The Truth Behind What Women Want In Men
Robert: The feminine is attracted to all of those things. And nice guys, just unfortunately. Nice, niceness.. nice is not a turn on to the majority of women, even though women say, “Oh, I want to be with the nice guy” even though they like the idea of being with a guy who treats them well..
And again, I’m not talking about guys being jerks, but unfortunately, oftentimes that is what women get attracted to.
They get attracted to the man that’s unavailable – that they can’t trust, that sleeps around on them, that steals their money, that doesn’t follow through. Why? Because there’s some energy to it.
There’s an edge to it. There’s a vibration to it. And women need that kind of emotional tension for attraction and attachment and sexual arousal. Niceness creates no emotional tension.
Matt: Flat line.. Like it’s so predictable, the asshole, even though, you know, we don’t want to actually become an asshole, but he’s like, nice at some times. But then he’s an asshole and he’s unpredictable and, you know, he’s sweet to her.. But then he doesn’t call her back for a week. He disappears.
Robert: But that what drives them crazy. A woman would rather be driven crazy than be driven bored. Right? And that’s a problem with nice guys, We’re born.. Trying to please other people is always kind of a one-down type of thing.
“Oh, I’ll do nice things for you. I’ll listen to you talk. I’ll do whatever you want, blah, blah, blah. Because I have you up here and I want you to want me.”
But it makes the woman the decider. It gives her all the power. It makes her the Alpha, you the Beta. And and so trying to, you know, be that nice guy to be what we think women want us to be, paradoxically just doesn’t work.
Now, part of the problem is we don’t know what else to do because we’ve been hiding all those other things about ourselves that might actually be a little bit attractive to women.
And what is amazing to most guys, like it was to me, is that women are drawn to the darkness in us.
They’re drawn to to the part of us that can be an asshole. They’re drawn to us. The part that that, you know, wants to f*** them to god, they’re drawn to us that would protect them from threat that, you know, would draw a sword and cut someone’s head off!
You know, they’re drawn to something fierce and bold and strong.
My wife is younger than me. Mexican woman, grew up in poverty, had to learn to fight. She grew up in her white bred neighborhood suburb of Seattle. And she even says, “I know I got bigger balls than you, but I don’t want to ever feel like my balls are bigger than my man’s.“
It is all in Spanish. And she’s telling the truth.
She is a strong, strong woman, but she wants to know that I’ve got some fierceness about me and she
likes the dark side of me. She likes me to tell her dark, nasty stories. And then this is all stuff I didn’t think, well, women more like that kind of stuff. And it’s been throughout my life as women that have begged for that kind of energy, that kind of darkness.
And finally, it kind of sunk in after a while. Well, why am I hiding that from them? Why am I afraid of them thinking I’m a bad man? They’re drawn to that, that they crave it.
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– Matt