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How to Touch a Woman | 5 Rules

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5 MUST KNOW Rules

#5. ALWAYS MAKE SURE SHE IS COMFORTABLE 

Never do anything she’s not comfortable with. If she doesn’t seem comfortable then stop right away. Take a step back if need be. But don’t be too afraid either. Now there is definitely a time for a gentle touch but there’s also a time to use stronger touch. (Never be aggressive though!)

Some girls are more touchy than others (girl in london story who didn’t want to touch at all)

#4. DON’T WAIT TOO LONG

Break the touch barrier sooner than later. If you wait too long, then that first touch will seem awkward and weird. So make sure to touch her when you first meet. 

For example: During the day or at a bar usually, a handshake, and/or a kiss on the cheek might be appropriate. On a date, you would give her a hug when you greet her.

#3. HAVE A REASON TO TOUCH HER

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Dinner is a bad idea because it is harder to touch her. 

#2. DON’T LET IT LINGER:

(story of student in Vegas putting is arm around the girl and then leaving it there and then she pushed it off)

Make sure to take it away at first. Touching releases the bonding hormone Oxytocin, and that’s why it feels good. But if you let it linger, that feel-good vibe will soon turn into a creepy one.

#1. MAKE IT NATURAL

Remember that if you keep putting on the gas, then she will put on the brakes.

It should be natural, it should be normal and no big deal and it should be in context to what is happening in the interaction. For example, don’t reach across the table to touch her shoulder out of nowhere (talk about why dinner is a bad idea because there’s no touching which can make the date feel too platonic).

Practice by touching everyone, even guys. 

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How to Date Alpha Women (Here’s What It Takes)

If you are someone who is drawn to the magnetic strength and sexiness of a strong woman, and you want to learn exactly how to date Alpha Women… then you will know that these type of girls won’t respond to run of the mill dating protocol.  

Again.. I’m talking about how to date an Alpha Woman, and in this video, I’m going to reveal how to win her over and handle her strength so that you still come out as the hero she is looking for!

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HOW TO DATE ALPHA WOMEN

As an alpha woman myself, I can testify that what I am about to tell you in this video are vital inside secrets on how to win us over and still be the strong male that she wants.  And to clarify what I believe an Alpha woman is , it s a woman who has both strength and femininity and is able to lead and love at the same time. 

So, if you are ready to learn about how to date strong Alpha women who keeps you on your toes, then make sure you stay right to the end, because the last point is the most important! 

Alright let’s do this!

 

1: Initiate and communicate – we don’t waste time on trivial conversation 

The first thing you should know about Alpha women is that we don’t have time to waste. The majority of us are building careers, leading companies, pursuing our passions and filling our life with meaningful actions and achievements .

We want a man in our lives, but only if he is on the same page and is ready to add value to us.   Meaning he is ready to head in the same direction of building a strong , loving relationship and he can communicate that through the way he treats us and make us an even better version of ourselves.

So when it comes to talking with us , we want to build some rapport but then we want you to cut to the chase and just ask us out. 

If you have started a conversation online, then don’t wait weeks till you finally ask her out. She will get bored, assume you aren’t interested and basically swipe you away. 

Be assertive and confident by asking her out after a few conversational messages back and forth. 

A strong woman will also initiate conversation and dates, but she appreciates a man who does the same and isn’t afraid to just be a grown up and communicate. 

Which brings me to the second part in this first point. Clear communication is vital with an Alpha woman. She isn’t into games and she likes certainty and transparency. 

I had a client who was a millionaire and gorgeous woman and she had this man in her life who earn less than her and lived with his grandmother . Now this guy was actually an awesome guy the only issues was , was that he keeps being indecisive and was always hot and cold. I told my client to let this guy go and thankfully when she did that he stepped up , got his act together and was able to bring all his value to her. 

The reason I’m telling you this is I don’t want you to delay or lose a good woman like this guy almost did just because you think you have to have the same status as her or need to try and play hot and cold to keep her on her toes. 

So, if you want to date an Alpha woman make sure you are open and honest with her all the way.  

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2:  Always be leading – even when we try to take over 

So typically, Alpha women have leadership qualities and therefore will have the default behaviour to want to take control and lead. For example, she might open the door instead of letting you, or try and organise the date or just take the initiation herself. 

At times an Alpha woman can be seen as too assertive, almost bossy  because she has a strong conviction about herself and is assertive by nature. But this is where you need to take the reins back!

If she goes to grab the door, step in front and say gently “I think that’s my job” and then open the door or pull out the chair etc. 

If she starts to step too much into the masculine role, take over by gently placing your hand over hers and then saying “here I’ll do it” or “Let me do that” it’s that gentle assertiveness that will make her feel like you are someone who can take control and be there to lead her. That’s something to keep in mind when knowing how to date alpha women. 

 

3: Tell her no- don’t be a doormat 

An alpha woman will most likely have an opinion and a strong energy, so the last thing she wants is a man who she can walk all over. We aren’t looking for a puppy dog, we are looking for a man who can equal us in strength whilst also making us feel weak at the knees. 

Don’t be afraid to disagree with her or tell her that you have something else in mind if she suggests something different. Show her that you also have standards and strengths and one of the easiest ways to do this is to not become a YES man or someone who just passively agrees with whatever she wants 

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4: Add some romance in – we crave to feel feminine 

Just because we are strong women, does not mean that we don’t appreciate being made to feel girly or giggly. Truth is we love being made to feel special and feminine. 

Now wanting to be romanced doesn’t mean we want you to do ridiculous gestures like buying one of those giant teddy bears and a heart necklace saying “you complete me “, but rather we appreciate thought that goes into gestures or dates.

 Like remembering her favorite wine, or organizing a sunset picnic.

You see being romanced offers us a rare opportunity to switch off from being the strong woman all the time and just indulge in being vulnerable, so If you can create that for her, you will win her over!

 

5: Be organised with your dates – we have higher standards  

Ok let me just say higher standards doesn’t mean we are high maintenance, we just don’t put up with no or little effort.

We want to know that we are a priority not just an option because we will not settle for second best

So, don’t leave things to the last minute, plan in advance and dress to impress, because an Alpha woman will always bring her A Game and so she expects the same. 

 

6: She wants you to be her hero – even if she pretends she doesn’t  

How to date alpha women right off the bat with probably most important lesson – we may look like we don’t need saving, but secretly we want a man to go to at the end of the day to hold us and tell us everything will be ok. 

We will put on the brave face and are used to doing a lot of things in our own strength, but every strong woman wants a man who makes her feel like she is special and that she can rely on him to be her strength at times. 

Now the best way to communicate that you can be this man for her is by asking her “do you need help with that? “or being an active listener when she wants to talk and if she says “sorry I shouldn’t be talking so much or saying all this “smile and softly encourage to keep talking. Make her feel like it’s ok to be human and that you are there for her. 

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Attract Women that are Out of Your League

How do you Attract Women that are totally Out of Your League?

We’ve all seen that absolute stunner walk by, making your mouth drop and your eyes practically pop out of your head. 

It may seem like a fantasy. It may seem like she’s light years out of your league. But what if I told you that a normal guy like yourself could date the best looking women in your city? Well prepare to have your mind blown because I’m Matt Artisan from TAM and this is How to Attract the Best Looking Women in Your City. 

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So here’s the deal. Women rarely, if ever, date down. They will never date a man they deem is lower status than them. So you must act and behave in a high-status manner to attract the best women around. 

Now I know that term gets thrown around a lot but it basically means ranking highly in a social hierarchy.

High status doesn’t mean that you have to have millions of dollars, wear the most expensive clothes or be a famous celebrity. It means that you embody the traits, body language, attitude and mannerisms of someone who is high status. It’s the way you act and behave around others and it means you don’t put her or see her as being above you. Which I’m going to tell you how to do in just a second but of course step number 1….

 

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This means….

 

1. You need to GO WHERE THE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ARE:

 – hottest nightclubs

– don’t go to dive bars hoping to get the best women

– competition and how it’s hard to compete; unless you are in the social circle

 – events like modeling events (befriend models, photographers, high-end restaurant or club owners, makeup artists)

-high-quality Hotel lounges, Cultural Events: Art shows, gallery openings, museum events, charity events, Theater events

-wine Bars

-wine tastings

-high end restaurants/ openings 

-high end casinos

-daytime situations – high-end shopping or health food stores

 

2. DON’T TREAT HER DIFFERENTLY

Most guys get overly reactive and caring way more when it’s a really attractive women. She is used to people treating her special. She’s used to guys being nervous, boastful and trying to impress her! Women can sense when you are being fake even if you don’t mean to be..

So what do you do?

Treat her like a normal person because she is a normal person. She is equal to you. Remember that she has fears and insecurities and imperfections just like everyone else!

 

3. PRESELECTION

She needs to perceive that you have women of her caliber in your life. Remember what I said about women don’t date down? If she see’s that you have women like her around you then she automatically knows that she is in your league. You have to make use of the following:

– Preselection and acting like you have women like her in your life

– bringing girls to the club with you.

– being comfortable around her and being okay losing her;

– acting like you have a lot of women challenge/qualifying

– disqualifying yourself and disinterest

 – You’ll be the one guy who doesn’t fawn all over her and that will intrigue her. She will want to know why? This doesn’t mean that you are mean to her.


4. LIFESTYLE

You don’t have to be Dan Bilzerian because a lot of these girls just want a normal life with kids and travel once in a while. They have a 9 to 5 job they love and they don’t want to live in some dudes mansion competing with other girls for your attention. So stop comparing yourself to celebrities, because you can still have a total 10 knockout without being rich and famous. 


But you can’t just work 60 hours a week then come home to play video games and expect a high caliber woman to stick around watching you stuff your face with potato chips. 


You need to have an interesting life and a decent job; a lot of women want just a normal life. 

5. GIVE EMOTIONAL VALUE

But a lot of guys have a normal life, why would she pick you over them? It’s because you are the one providing her with emotional value. Even if you have a cool lifestyle but you are boring or predictable then she’ll lose interest, and really this goes for any girl but especially the most beautiful ones who have more options.  

  • Making her laugh, having fun!
  • Be Random, exciting, unpredictable, tease her; 
    • But it’s not about all positive emotions either…
  • Maintaining the dichotomy of showing desire and being a challenge = emotional ups and downs like an emotional roller coaster that you are her strong rock that can protect her against the storm of the world and the waves of her own often unpredictable emotions. 

Now to give emotional value takes practice, getting out of your own way, often improving your personality and strengthening your own masculine identity which isn’t an easy task and will take more than just watching a few YouTube videos. 

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Top 10 Countries to Meet Beautiful Women

As you know, I’ve traveled all over the world meeting beautiful women. So it’s about time I tell you my Top 10 countries to meet beautiful women!

If you are a traveler like myself, then you may have wondered which countries are the best for meeting beautiful women. Well, I spent five years living out of a suitcase traveling to over 70 countries in search for not only the most beautiful women but also the best women to date for long-term relationships as well as some casual fun.

Here are my top 10 countries to meet women:

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Top 10 Countries to Meet Beautiful Women

First of all, these are just my opinions and I recommend traveling and doing your own research and please leave some of your own opinions in a comment down below because I’m sure there will be some countries that are great that just didn’t make my list.

So let’s get started.

JAPAN

I spent about 6 weeks in Japan and although women are extremely shy and reserved at first, they are also extremely attractive and dress sexy as hell. Mostly short skirts and school attire even in the colder months.

The women are also very educated but the language barrier can be a problem, not because they don’t speak any English but because they are often too embarrassed to try. The women are also very submissive to their men and are expected to submit to male authority. It’s no wonder Bukkake came from Japan.  

Now if you are a confident guy then you will kill it there because the local men are often too lazy and shy to approach women. In fact, the birth rate has been decreasing because less and fewer couples are having children. The same is true in Singapore which I think is almost a tie with Japan for beautiful women. In fact, Josiah and I once coached a class of 17 single women there and they all agreed that local men are too afraid to make the move. So if you strike up a conversation and are bold enough to make a move then you will do great in Japan.

BRAZIL

I spent 3 weeks in Rio and absolutely loved it. Not only are the beaches there amazing but so are the women.

Brazilians are well known for their love of sexy dance and wild festivals; the most famous is Carnival or as I like to call it, the Makeout Festival. You can easily make out with 10 girls in one day. It’s normal in Brazilian culture to be close and affectionate and kissing is no big deal. Kissing on the cheek is the most common greeting and being in someone’s personal space too is not as taboo as it is in some other countries. Brazilians tend to be very comfortable when in close proximity to others.

Women were actually walking so close to me that they would push into me. It’s one of the only places where I had a woman kiss me first!

Latin women, in general, have a strong sense of family, are generally more emotional and more possessive, and are raised to be feminine and do girly things and focus on looking good. All winners in my book.

Not all Brazilians know English, so that can be a challenge if you don’t know any Portuguese. I went on two dates with girls that didn’t speak a lick of English, which I don’t really mind, because they love to touch and body language is all you need.

SWEDEN

Swedish women, despite the fact that they don’t wear a lot of makeup, if any, are beautiful, open-minded, adventurous and very friendly. Since Sweden is a prosperous country, the women typically have good jobs and are able to support themselves.

To me, it seemed like there were more feminists here than any other country, which makes Swedish girls very open-minded and it’s not uncommon for them to even make the first move. Sex on a first date is pretty common as long as she’s into you of course. Because of the huge emphasis on equality and since they usually have a good job, most Swedes won’t expect the man to pay on the first date. But I think it’s a nice gesture anyway, but don’t be overly insistent. Also, Sweden is really expensive so keep that in mind as well.

Also, keep in mind that Swedes love to drink so she’ll probably drink you under the table.

Swedes generally speak softly and calmly. It is rare to witness a Swede demonstrating anger or strong emotion in public, which seems to be the opposite of Latin culture. They also take their personal space very seriously so don’t expect them to be as touchy-feely as Brazilians.

And don’t give her flowers on the date because it’s uncommon for a first date and will just put you in the courting role instead of the potential lover role.

RUSSIA

There is this myth floating around that there are a lot more women than men in Russia and E Europe (explain). If you want to date women who are over 80 then Eastern Europe and Russia might be the way to go. It could happen in a particular city if there’s an all women’s university.

Another myth is that the men look at women as the “weaker sex”, which is not true at all—but instead women are seen as “the prettier sex.” Therefore, women do everything they can to always look their best. Don’t be surprised if you see a young woman at the grocery store who looks like she’s dressed to go clubbing.

Unlike in Sweden where the men can often be a little feminine and the women are more in tune with their masculinity, In Russian culture, you’ll see a strong polarity between femininity and masculinity.

Women are always expected to look feminine and be reserved. This is why one night stands are less common.

Russian women love a gentleman and they expect the man to charm her into liking him by making romantic gestures, such as buying her flowers, paying for her expenses and buying gifts. It’s always expected that the man pays for the dates.

Unlike Swedish women who value career, Russian women put love and family above everything else. Most Russians marry in their early 20s. Once a woman hits 25 she’ll get a lot of pressure from her family to get married. This is why the bars and even the streets are full of gorgeous young single women, just waiting to be approached.

 


MEXICO

Mexico is one of my favorite countries to travel to not only because of the delicious, not so healthy food but of course the women. Even though Mexico is a highly religious country, the women seem to be very open-minded and sex doesn’t seem to have a huge stigma.

Mexican women are also very pretty because, similar to Russia, Mexicans put a great deal of value in appearance and usually dress up for a date. Just like in Brazil, men and women often kiss each other on each cheek as a greeting and stand quite close together while chatting. And this doesn’t necessarily mean there is any sexual intent.

It’s a traditional culture so you’ll be expected to pay for the date and make sure to be a gentleman. If you are a confident male, then you’ll do exceptionally well here as Mexican women, and basically, all women for that matter, love to be approached by a confident charming man.

SERBIA

I’ve taught two boot camps in Serbia and I must say the women are definitely some of the most beautiful in the world. And the stereotype that they don’t like Americans isn’t true.

But if you are going here for a short visit hoping for a one night stand, although it could happen it’s just not that likely because most Serbs are looking for long-term relationships. They are good wife material since they are traditional yet still focus on education and career. Wealth is important to them, and more so than having it, having the appearance of wealth is important.

When picking up a Serb make sure to be dominant with strong eye contact . They are a proud people and are suspicious of anyone breaking eye contact during conversation.  Similar to Russians, they take a lot of pride in their homeland so you will definitely score points by knowing about or showing interest in their country.

But keep in mind that Serbian women are masters of leading you on so even if she’s showing you a lot of interest and is talking to you it doesn’t mean she’s sexually interested.

But definitely check out the nightlife while you are there because Belgrade has some fun bars and cool club on the water.

PHILIPPINES

The Philippines is where I spend most of my time, because it’s super cheap, for example, I have a full time live in maid for only $150 a month, massages are $6 and the girls are the most beautiful in all of Asia in my opinion and are super open minded.

Of course, you will find plenty of traditional girls who just want a boyfriend, but a lot of girls are liberated and want to have fun, especially with a non-Asian foreigner. The countries slogan is it’s more fun in the Philippines and I think it’s true.

If you are a good looking white guy, then don’t be surprised if girls look at you and smile when you walk by. But it’s rare that they will actually approach a guy, unless they are drunk at the club, or a pok pok.

The downside is that they are generally less educated or focused on a career as some of the European countries on my list. They can also be really shy and a little uninteresting on a date with not a lot to talk about, which is pretty common in all of Asia. They might even seem totally uninterested but really they are just shy.  They also tend to get attached easily. So be careful showing too much interest. And don’t be surprised if she brings a friend on the date. But, it’s not always a bad thing.

Another plus is that pretty much all Filipinos speak English, since English is a subject they study throughout their schooling. In fact, all the movies are in English with no subtitles. But just like in any country you do score a few points if you know a few words in their language.

MOLDOVA

Moldova, which I’ve visited twice is one of the hidden gems of Europe when searching for stunning women, and since it’s not known for tourism, because there’s not much to do, it’s rare that you’ll see a lot of other foreigners. So it’s easy to get a date because they will be intrigued about your culture and why you came to visit their country.

It’s a very traditional culture even more so than Russia, so the courting process is going to take some time. Don’t expect a one night stand. You’re going to have to put some effort in. I recommend to be a gentleman and even show up with flowers. If not on the first date, then definitely the 3rd or 4th. It’s the poorest country in Europe so flowers will only cost a dollar or two.

Dates typically consist of walking, and this seems to also be true for Russia, Ukraine and Belarus, where even though your date will probably show up in heels she’ll want to go for a walk. Of course, you can stop for food and drinks, but the women love to go for long walks. Now I’ve only been to Eastern Europe and Russia in the summer months so I think it’s probably because it’s too cold to go on walks in the winter. Unlike the Philippines where a girl is happy to go back to your air-conditioned condo right away to escape the horrible heat, don’t expect a Moldovan to come back to your place on the first or second date.

So, Moldova is a terrible place for a quick fling but is a great place to find a beautiful wife. For dating, plan on spending a month or two at the minimum. And keep in mind, that even in Chisinau there’s not a whole lot to do. Which is probably why, according to Wikipedia Moldova ranks #2 for alcohol consumption in the entire world, only to be beaten by Belarus, which is another great untapped country full of gorgeous women.

COLOMBIA

I bought a condo in Medellin in 2016 and have spent a total of 5 months there and in all of Latin America, I think Colombians are the most attractive. Colombia still has a very traditional culture when it comes to dating. You’ll be expected to pay and be a gentleman.  It’s also a fairly macho society, similar to Russia, so expect a wider masculine-feminine polarity.

Colombian culture is very sexualized however Colombian women are not particularly fast or easy, I went on 5 dates with a girl in Medellin and she kissed on the first date but that was the farthest she was willing to go the entire time we hung out. Not all Colombians are that traditional, but either way, make sure to respect their boundaries.

Colombian women are also very flaky. Expats there often schedule 2 or 3 dates a night because of the highly likely hood that one of them might flake.

Colombians are also very passionate. And because of that passion, they can also get super jealous even on a first date. But that passion and craziness can also be good for other things. Just make sure your dates are fun and exciting, a boring dinner date will get you nowhere. Also make sure to sit side by side because, similar to Brazil, Colombians are very touchy-feely.

Definitely visit Colombia because prices are low, there’s a lot to do, great restaurants, fantastic culture, and amazingly beautiful women. They put a huge emphasis on beauty here and if the girl isn’t naturally beautiful or curvy then she’ll usually just pay for it.

UKRAINE

Because of the endless amount of model-like women and affordability Ukraine is my number one pick for meeting beautiful women. There is a reason most mail order brides come from Ukraine.

Just like Moldova and Belarus, Ukrainian dating is more traditional. Dress well, feel free to bring flowers and be a gentleman. Go to a restaurant first and then drinks or a long walk.

Unlike western culture, most Ukrainian women don’t talk about sex or sexual topics on a first date. I’ve had a Ukrainian girl say, “we don’t talk about those kinds of things”. So what I like to do is take my dates to this BDSM bar in Lvov, which makes it okay to talk about that subject.

You will really get a mix here. I’ve had about 60% super conservative and 40% not- so-conservative. So you really have the best of both worlds for casual dating as well as serious long-term relationships.

And make sure to finish all your alcohol. According to Ukrainian old wives stories, if you will leave the empty bottle on the table, you may become cursed with poverty.

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So there you have it my top 10 list of countries for meeting beautiful women. And don’t forget other countries like Argentina, pretty much all the Baltic, Scandinavian, Eastern Europe countries and Thailand and Vietnam, can also be really good options so pack your bags and start exploring.

By the way, the main way I meet women on my travels is not bars, clubs or online dating, because that’s where all the competition is. Instead, I meet them during the day just walking down the street or sitting in the park.

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