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Ways To Turn A Girl On INSTANTLY (Honest & Ethical Attraction)

I’m going to tell you 5 surprisingly simple ways to turn a girl on instantly. If you’re interested, you can make a woman want you, and you can start doing these right away to attract more women and spark romantic, and even sensual feelings the moment you meet them.

I call it the five P’s.. And the last one is by far the most powerful. It can either totally creep her out if you do it wrong way or it can turn a girl on instantly when you do it the right way, which I’m going to show you:

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WAYS TO TURN A GIRL ON INSTANTLY

I really liked this quote by Dan Brown. He says,

“Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”

-Dan Brown

Quick lesson about ways to turn a girl on instantly: One common mistake. Most guys avoid all tension in life. And we call these “nice guys” or “pleasers.” They never want to rock the boat or look bad or cause any friction.. And women find them sweet and adorable and they befriend them, but they’re not turned on by these types of men. Or should I say boys? For that matter.

You see, a man who avoids all tension is just not attractive because he’s kind of a wuss and women are not attracted to terrified men who avoid all tension and play it safe in life. They want a guy who’s a little bit of a risk taker, which is why they sometimes like arseholes because a-holes don’t live in fear.

They do and say what they want despite the tension that it often creates. But the good news is you don’t have to be an arse-hole. You just have to be willing and comfortable stepping into tension. So how do you do that?

Think of it like this. You’re probably attracted to very feminine women.

Gorgeous, beautiful women who are also attracted to masculine men, which sometimes looks like muscular man or tall men or men who are CEOs of a big company. Successful men, because being masculine is about conquering, fighting, hunting, being a leader, being driven.

Fortunately, unlike our ancestors who were literally conquerers, hunters, and killers, warriors.. We don’t actually have to do any of those things nowadays, which is great. We live in a much safer society, which I think is awesome, but of that because we live in such a safe world now, and we don’t have to step into that tension and fight for our food or fight other men. We become soft. We don’t step into tension. We live in our comfort zone for our entire life. You know, working in a cubicle or working from our house, getting Uber eats delivered to us.

Again, it’s very convenient, but to become more masculine, and increase your attractiveness, you need to build courage. You need to step into tension, especially the tension of a beautiful woman, because if she’s gorgeous and you’re getting nervous, there’s a lot of tension there, which is why, of course, we bring in models on our live workshops and have you role play with them and have you ground yourself.

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Now we’re going to go over the five P’s. You have to understand that sexual tension is all about pressure and then releasing the pressure. Most guys think crumble under the pressure or the tension of a beautiful woman. And so they cannot be attracted to that type of guy — one who’s nervous and fumbling and fidgeting and breaking eye contact.

It makes her want to get out of that situation right away. But when you practice and you master these five things, then when you approach a beautiful woman, you can be calm, confident, and grounded in that pressure. And she’ll therefore feel like you must have a lot of beautiful women of her caliber in your life.

Make sense, right? Because if you didn’t, you would crumble under that pressure. But since you’re calm, common, confident talking to a beautiful woman like her, you must have a lot of women like her in your life, which is not only sub communicates that you are an attractive man, because you have women like her in your life, or you’re comfortable around women are like her.

At least you might not have any women like her in your life,

But the fact that you’re comfortable around her, it’s basically pre-selection. She knows that you are the type of guy that women like her would date. Not only that, but she will feel this intensity. She will feel this spark of romantic sensual and sexual tension within seconds.

Sometimes it’s instantly. So the first thing that I want you to practice the first P.. can you guess it?

First P – PROMIXITY

First up. Ways to turn a girl on instantly, 5 P’s – Proximity, how close or how far away you are from her matters. A lot. For example, if I stand this far away, it just seems like I’m afraid of her and she can feel that. Plus when I shake hands with her, I have to lean in kind of, or likF here pull her if I am standing normal, it’s just weird. (I demonstrate this in the video I embedded)

And a lot of guys make this mistake. They stand really far from her. Cause they don’t want to like step into her personal space. But her personal space is really about shoulders’ distance apart.

(Demonstration in the video embedded) Like this is no big deal. She’ll be fine. If you’re standing like this, there’s definitely more tension than when I was way back there. But not really a lot. The key is to be about two inches further. This has a lot more tension. And if you can get even closer than that, now there’s even more tension.

Obviously the closer you get, the more tension there is either the club. You can be really close when you talk, because it’s so loud in the daytime. I definitely wouldn’t get this close to a girl. She’s going to freak out. So I’m going to be about an arms distance away at first. And then when I shake hands, I usually take a step forward.

And then I notice her reaction.

Her reaction was pleasant. She enjoyed it. But if she took a step back when I did that, then I would take a step back too.

Because you definitely don’t want to think, “Oh, I need sexual attention.” So I better take a step forward. And she keeps taking a step back. She’s going to want to get out of there right away. It’s going to feel really creepy and strange for her. Don’t do that. If she takes a step back, take a step back as well. Give her lots of space.

Even though this is more than arms distance apart, at least she feels comfortable now. And that’s most important. You want her to feel comfortable and safe first, then create sexual tension later. So I might give her the space at first..

And then as we’re talking, I might take a step forward again. And now we’re arms distance apart again. And I’m going to notice her reaction again this time she didn’t take a step back.

Second P – PAUSING

Number two of the ways to turn a girl on instantly. The second includes a problem – most guys speak really, really fast and they break all the tension that’s there. They don’t even allow any tension in there because they said, *In a really fast and high-pitched tone* “Hey, I just saw you here and I thought you were really cute and hi, my name is Matt, what’s your name?” And there’s no tension at all.

She can feel how nervous you are and how you’re just not used to a woman of her caliber. And remember, women don’t date down. If she can feel like you are beneath her, like you don’t date women like her, then instantly, she won’t be attracted to you.

So the second thing you need to do, is pausing. You need to pause.. not just slow down. Because if you talk slow and monotonous, it’s really boring and it’s just going to put her to sleep.

Pausing. It hooks the person in. They want to know what’s coming next. When you pause at the right time, there’s a wrong way to pause of course. Just like in public speaking, by the way.

Pausing also shows confidence. It shows that you expect her to sit there or stand there and listen to what you have to say because you believe what you have to say has merit. It’s valuable confidence.


Third P – PITCH

Next number three in our ways to turn a girl on instantly is: Pitch. Most guys again, their tonality is very high and pleasing and they talk like this:(Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi, I just saw you here. And I thought you’re really cute, please like me. I really hope you like me. I don’t want to offend you. I know I’m disturbing you from walking down the street and I don’t want to offend you.

That’s nice guys. So their pitch goes up and I know I gave it away. Number three is pitch. And what I mean by that is your pitch needs to go down in tonality sounds more authoritative authoritative. Always think of this when thinking of ways to turn a girl on instantly:

Lower tonality. It sounds more commanding, more sure of yourself. Again, that displays confidence versus the nice guy pleasing. We want to go down in tonality. (Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi. -pause + lower tonality- I just saw you here. -pause- And I thought you were really cute.” versus “Hi!! -high tonality- I just saw you here!! A-and I thought you were really cute and.. and..!”


I’m kind of overdoing it, but this is what I see or hear rather all the time on the first day of boot camp. And as we’re working on this in the field and working with models and they’re practicing this over and over again, then they get it down Pat. And then by the end of day, one, all of a sudden the women that they’re approaching are no longer going – “Okay, thanks.” They’re now saying “Ooh, hi! Wow, thank you.”

The reaction is like night and day.

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Fourth P – PROLONGED HAND HOLDING

Number four of the 5 ways to turn a girl on instantly. This one, probably not going to guess, but most guys have no touching during the daytime, which typically is fine because it’s kind of weird to be all touchy.

It’s fine to do that at a bar or club, but in a daytime situation at the mall or at the park or wherever, it’s a little tricky. BThere are ways to increase that physical intimacy, even within two or three minutes when you meet a woman. But one of the best ways to create sensual, sexual and romantic tension is through prolonged handshakes, because that is where you’re going to touch her.

There might not be any other touching in that first two or three minutes when you meet a woman during the daytime. But that handshake can really create a moment with her. Most guys, shake hands like this. (Demonstration in the video embedded) “Hi, nice to meet you!” One, two seconds pass, and then release.

Instead – What I want you to do is shake her hands like a man, not like a limp fish. Squeeze it like you would a man’s hand. (Demonstration in the video embedded) Don’t squeeze it and like make her fingers uncomfortable and bend, cause that’s gonna feel like you’re the type of man that would hurt her. Obviously she doesn’t want that unless she’s into like BDSM [which a lot of women are, surprisingly] But even then, she doesn’t want to be physically and totally abused, obviously. But if you do a weak handshake, then she assumes you’re a weak man.

And that is not attractive either. It won’t be one of the ways to turn a girl on instantly.. That that will kill all attraction immediately. Use a strong handshake.. one, two seconds, then let it linger, soften your hand after that the two or three second handshake so that she can easily pull away if she doesn’t want to linger with your hand. So one, two, now I’m softening it. (See video embedded for demonstration)

Now we’re talking and we’re just creating a moment. And there’s an intensity here, right? It’s a romantic movie moment. As long as we stand here. That’s great because really the longer it is, the more romantic and intense it will be.

Fifth P – PIERCING EYE CONTACT

Last, but definitely not the least in our 5 ways to turn a girl on instantly, piercing eye contact. Most guys kill the tension by looking down. Instead, you got to maintain that eye contact. And I don’t mean piercing eye contact like being creepy and weird. I’m talking about a gaze.

You’re looking at her like you know she wants you. As if she meets your standards, that you guys are gonna have the most romantic, intimate and sensual experience, maybe you’re even looking at her like you would rock her world in bed.. if she’s so lucky, because that is very powerful eye contact versus looking down.

And most guys have no idea that they’re even breaking eye contact until we film them and we review the footage back and they can see, Oh wow. I looked away like three times during a crucial moment of the interaction.. In the very beginning and just something so simple like that, just looking down just for a split second, it’s like a millisecond. She can feel that you’re just not comfortable and it breaks the sexual tension and most of them, just lose attraction and lose interest that quickly.

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Now, if you do this wrong, you can literally repel women and creep them out. I want you to really look at her.

Yeah, I know it sounds simple. But you’d be surprised at how many guys really mess this up – because what type of message would it send her? If you just look at the ground a few times, or you look at the wall or even, even just breaking eye contact subtly a few times. This shows her that you can’t handle the tension of that interaction and that she is out of your league.

And basically you don’t deserve a woman like her, or you’re not used to women like her in your life. Now I’m not saying that you should stare at her the entire time with a crazed look in your eye. You don’t want her to think you’re a serial killer.

But what I can tell you is that using piercing eye contact correctly is one of the most powerful ways to turn a girl on instantly, and also to connect with a woman on a deeper level.

Social psychologist, Zick Rubin, discovered that two people in conversation normally make eye contact only 30 to 60% of the time. However, couples that are in love look at each other 75% of the time or more. When you look at your partner, you’re showing that you’re totally focused on what she is saying and that you feel relaxed and open to this person. And you’re comfortable around this person.

You’re used to this person, how much we look into someone else’s eyes not only helps us establish intimacy. And of course, it’s another way to release oxytocin, which is known as the love drug, but it also reveals how much intimacy might already be present. So when in conversation with a woman that you really like maintain strong eye contact with her about 75% of the time, I can’t stress this enough.

I want you to understand just how seductive and endearing and powerful piercing eyes really is when talking to a woman, just picture yourself in an everyday situation. Like you’re at the grocery store or you’re at Starbucks and you meet a cute woman. Now imagine you’re glancing down at the floor a few times looking to the side, I think she’d see you as a competent and honest guy? Of course not.

If you can’t even look her in the eye, then why would she trust you? When you think of ways to turn a girl on instantly, ask yourself – Why would she give you her phone number or go on a date with you? Now, imagine you’re giving her piercing eye contact. How would that make her feel? She’ll probably trust you more, which means she’s more likely to talk to you and go on a date with you.. maybe even sleep with you.

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Now, if this seems like a lot to take in, I understand. And remember, you’re not alone. A lot of guys out there feel the same way until they sat down with them, with my team. And in fact, I recently had a student who was completely unaware that he was looking down to avoid eye contact and the women felt like he was looking at their breasts and he wasn’t, he wasn’t a weird creepy guy. (But he definitely had little to no experience with the ways to turn a girl on instantly..)

And he was just, he just couldn’t handle the eye contact, but his interactions were ending very quickly and he was getting really frustrated. And as soon as he fixed just that one subtle thing, it’s such a small thing, but at the same time, it’s huge. And when we pinpointed that blind spot, his interactions completely took a 180. And all of a sudden women not only were having two, three, four minute interactions with him in the supermarket or here on the beach, for example, but they would just melt in his presence.

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– Matt

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How to Get Girls if You’re UGLY

Hey guys! Not gifted in the looks department? Don’t worry. Here’s how to get girls if you’re Ugly..

The belief that men need good LOOKS to get girls is complete B.S.

The REALITY of it is, most girls don’t even put looks ON TOP of their criteria list.

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How To GET GIRLS If You’re UGLY

Have you ever wondered how much easier your life would be if you had that six pack? If you had a chiseled jawline or you could add a couple of inches to your height? Imagine all the chicks you could get with a physique like that… Now get rid of all those fantasies and read on to find out how an average guy like you can score the girl of your dreams without any of those things.

So, you didn’t win the genetic lottery. That’s okay. The reality of it is, the majority of girls don’t put “looks” at the top of their criteria list anyways. Someone can transform from just “OK looking” to “pretty cute” just based on their personality.

The main reason behind this is because evolutionarily speaking, women are attracted to particular characteristics, that will promote the development of healthy offspring. Having good looks is one way to advertise your good genes, but there are many others.

Now don’t get me wrong, looks matter, but it isn’t the most important trait when women search for a mate. Personality has a much higher effect on how women will perceive a man as opposed to how a man will understand women. In other words: women care less about looks than men do. That being said, the key here is accentuating the internal characteristics that you CAN change as opposed to just focusing on your unchangeable external characteristics.

So now you might be wondering: “Matt, what are the most important qualities that women seek out?”. Don’t worry; I’m going to countdown the top 5 qualities you need to master, to become irresistible, regardless of your looks.

5 QUALITIES

Physical characteristics you can change

Starting with the basics, you guys need to look at the physical attributes that you actually can change. Things like facial structure, height, and body build are not things you can alter, but there are some easy fixes for some other physical characteristics.

If you have yellow teeth, get some whitening strips. Or if that’s too expensive, look up a concoction that will help whiten your teeth for cheap. If you have acne, buy an acne treatment or look into the cause of it to eliminate it. Make sure your hygiene is up to date, so you don’t smell like a trashcan. Lastly, look into your style. If you are still wearing the same clothes you graduated high school with, then good news; you’ve found the root of your dating problems. Look up some fashion bloggers or watch some fashion videos (we have some of this channel) that will help you look more mature and put together.

Develop a Deep Strong Voice

The next characteristic that you need to focus on is developing a deep, loud voice. This is one of the simplest things you can do to make you more desired by women.

It’s found that women prefer lower pitched voices whereas higher pitched voices are preferred for males. This has to do with the fact that a low voice is caused by higher levels of testosterone (male hormone) whereas a high sound is produced by higher levels of estrogen (female hormone). It is this masculine-feminine polarity that brings the two sides of the spectrum together. Therefore, if you fail to develop a strong, confident voice, it may subconsciously signal to her that you are weak, more feminine, and automatically turn her off.

Additionally, attaining deep, strong voice signals to others that you are more likable and competent. There was a study that took 125 participants and asked them to rate two versions of a voice and express their opinions on a variety of elements such as trustworthiness, intelligence, and dominance. It was found that the majority of the participants favored the deeper voices on all levels. This is why many politicians, news anchors, television hosts, and other television personnel speak in a lower register to be received well by an audience. You can use this information in your own dating life to appear more likable and competent to the girl you are trying to date.

Perform Altruistic Behaviors

The next characteristic trait that you must embody is the ability to perform altruistic behaviors. Altruistic behaviors are selfless acts or undertakings that put the welfare of others before one’s own. When I think about an altruistic behavior, my mind immediately goes to Jack from the TV show “This is Us” saving his family from a house fire, and then quickly going back in to save their beloved dog. Now, I’m not saying you guys have to risk your life like that because there are simple things you can do on a daily basis that make you appear more altruistic that are far less dangerous.

For example, opening doors for people, picking up the bill at dinner every once in a while, holding her hand, pulling out her chair, giving her a message… etc. These are things that ideally both parties should do for each other in a relationship; however, they are going to be valued more by a female because it gives the girl a sense of safety when she is with you.

Income

Next, we’re going to talk about money. Yes, you are going to have some income, I mean who wants to date a guy who lives in his parent’s basement? But this is usually where guys get it wrong. You don’t have to be Daddy Warbucks or the next Bill Gates to score a high-quality girl. For some reason, guys think that having a plethora of money is going to solve all of their dating problems and that chicks will just flock to them, but the reality of it is, you can be the wealthiest man in the world but if you have a shitty personality, women are not going to date you.

The key here is having enough income so that you can provide for yourself, your girl, and possibly a potential family in the future. This is important because a girl wants to feel secure in a relationship. If you make some sustainable income, it gives the girl security in knowing that you can contribute to the economic prosperity of your relationship.

Work On Your Charisma

The last characteristic I’m going to talk about is charisma. This magic word is something that anyone needs to master to build relationships, but especially for you boys who are lacking in the looks department. Looks fade over time, but no one can deny how someone makes them feel. That being said, work on your social skills, so you get better at communicating with people and winning them over.

If you guys severely lack this category, go out and socialize more to get comfortable talking to people. Go out on the weekends, strike up conversations with strangers when you’re out running errands on the weekdays, or try to make that conversation last a little longer with your waiter or waitress. Nothing comes easily without a bit of practice.

Charisma doesn’t just rely on conversations though, your gestures and emotional expressiveness are essential too. A specific way you can do this is with postural expansiveness, which means expanding the body in a physical space. A researcher looked at people’s choices on online dating apps like Tinder and found that individuals were twice as likely to choose prospective dates whose pictures displayed this postural expansiveness due to the act that these positions communicate high status and rank. This body language technique is easy to master and immediately gives you a more charismatic aura.

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Attract Women that are Out of Your League

How do you Attract Women that are totally Out of Your League?

We’ve all seen that absolute stunner walk by, making your mouth drop and your eyes practically pop out of your head. 

It may seem like a fantasy. It may seem like she’s light years out of your league. But what if I told you that a normal guy like yourself could date the best looking women in your city? Well prepare to have your mind blown because I’m Matt Artisan from TAM and this is How to Attract the Best Looking Women in Your City. 

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So here’s the deal. Women rarely, if ever, date down. They will never date a man they deem is lower status than them. So you must act and behave in a high-status manner to attract the best women around. 

Now I know that term gets thrown around a lot but it basically means ranking highly in a social hierarchy.

High status doesn’t mean that you have to have millions of dollars, wear the most expensive clothes or be a famous celebrity. It means that you embody the traits, body language, attitude and mannerisms of someone who is high status. It’s the way you act and behave around others and it means you don’t put her or see her as being above you. Which I’m going to tell you how to do in just a second but of course step number 1….

 

TIPS:

This means….

 

1. You need to GO WHERE THE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ARE:

 – hottest nightclubs

– don’t go to dive bars hoping to get the best women

– competition and how it’s hard to compete; unless you are in the social circle

 – events like modeling events (befriend models, photographers, high-end restaurant or club owners, makeup artists)

-high-quality Hotel lounges, Cultural Events: Art shows, gallery openings, museum events, charity events, Theater events

-wine Bars

-wine tastings

-high end restaurants/ openings 

-high end casinos

-daytime situations – high-end shopping or health food stores

 

2. DON’T TREAT HER DIFFERENTLY

Most guys get overly reactive and caring way more when it’s a really attractive women. She is used to people treating her special. She’s used to guys being nervous, boastful and trying to impress her! Women can sense when you are being fake even if you don’t mean to be..

So what do you do?

Treat her like a normal person because she is a normal person. She is equal to you. Remember that she has fears and insecurities and imperfections just like everyone else!

 

3. PRESELECTION

She needs to perceive that you have women of her caliber in your life. Remember what I said about women don’t date down? If she see’s that you have women like her around you then she automatically knows that she is in your league. You have to make use of the following:

– Preselection and acting like you have women like her in your life

– bringing girls to the club with you.

– being comfortable around her and being okay losing her;

– acting like you have a lot of women challenge/qualifying

– disqualifying yourself and disinterest

 – You’ll be the one guy who doesn’t fawn all over her and that will intrigue her. She will want to know why? This doesn’t mean that you are mean to her.


4. LIFESTYLE

You don’t have to be Dan Bilzerian because a lot of these girls just want a normal life with kids and travel once in a while. They have a 9 to 5 job they love and they don’t want to live in some dudes mansion competing with other girls for your attention. So stop comparing yourself to celebrities, because you can still have a total 10 knockout without being rich and famous. 


But you can’t just work 60 hours a week then come home to play video games and expect a high caliber woman to stick around watching you stuff your face with potato chips. 


You need to have an interesting life and a decent job; a lot of women want just a normal life. 

5. GIVE EMOTIONAL VALUE

But a lot of guys have a normal life, why would she pick you over them? It’s because you are the one providing her with emotional value. Even if you have a cool lifestyle but you are boring or predictable then she’ll lose interest, and really this goes for any girl but especially the most beautiful ones who have more options.  

  • Making her laugh, having fun!
  • Be Random, exciting, unpredictable, tease her; 
    • But it’s not about all positive emotions either…
  • Maintaining the dichotomy of showing desire and being a challenge = emotional ups and downs like an emotional roller coaster that you are her strong rock that can protect her against the storm of the world and the waves of her own often unpredictable emotions. 

Now to give emotional value takes practice, getting out of your own way, often improving your personality and strengthening your own masculine identity which isn’t an easy task and will take more than just watching a few YouTube videos. 

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How to Impress a Girl on the First Date | 5 Things Women Instantly Look For in Men

Dating is like a dance between the prey and the predator. You may not know this, but women actually want to be caught and devoured but by the right man!

To find the right man, women are instinctually and subconsciously looking for specific traits in men they meet.

So all you need to do then is know what those things are and how to embody them so that you can have her wanting you more without having to try and convince her!

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How to Impress a Girl: The First Date

Ok so first dates really matter and here’s why; this is where you are giving your first impression. And just because you like the girl and want a second date, doesn’t mean she is going to feel the same….UNLESS you know what she is looking for and able to tap into that, triggering her response to want to know you more.

Not going to lie, what I’m about to reveal to you is pretty much what most women are looking for in a first date, and truth be told it’s not as complicated or as scary as you think.

So let’s unlock the vault and jump in:

Here is what women are looking for – someone who can protect, provide, lead, love and listen ( in a nutshell) and here is how that translates to the first date:

1:  Confidence – not just in your appearance and body language but also in your actions, words, and decisions. We don’t want ego, but we do want a man who we feel has a sense of direction and is able to take charge and lead. This really comes across more in your energy and presence …if you can walk into a room and have a sense of confidence and leadership about you without coming across as arrogant, then we will swoon.

2: Decisiveness – nothing sexier than a man with a plan who can just make decisions and lead the way.  We want to know you are able to help us and be the man we crave and that comes across so easily if you take decisions ( like ordering the wine or choosing the restaurant etc) …again you come across as a leader who can take control. And it makes us feel like a damsel…it also gives us a hint you can take control in the bedroom

3: Security – we want to feel safe to be ourselves and not be compared to other women. Whilst we also want to feel you could protect us physically and care about our safety. If you come across too domineering then we can feel unsafe in your presence and want to retreat. But if you shrink back from the confrontation hiding behind us then we won’t see you as a man who can fulfill our primal needs to be kept safe.

4: Listening skills –  If you can actively show interest in what we are saying it makes us feel like a priority. It also sends the signal that you care about what we say and who we are which are indications of the ability to love.  And listening also makes us feel safer around you and being able to trust and open up to you.

5: Chivalry – we don’t want a hero, but we do want a man who makes us feel like a lady. Simple things like opening the door for us, pouring the water, taking the bill, are all signs that you want to make us feel valued and special. It’s also an indication that you have the possibility to give us romance which is what women crave.

Final Thoughts

The thing is guys, tapping into what makes us tick makes us also want to do the same for you. Relationships aren’t just about giving so you can get, but by stepping up and playing your role so that you can build a solid foundation right from the first date.

The amount of women that are literally out there looking for just these 5 basics is incredible. So if you want to set yourself apart from the others and get her thinking about you, all you have to do is focus on those 5 things to create a lasting first impression.

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7 Clothing Hacks For Men

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And in today’s video, we’re discussing 7 clothing hacks to combat everyday style problems.

Broken zipper? Shrunken clothes? Busted Iron? We’ll tackle the most common fashion and style problems, and provide you with quick fixes that will save you time, effort, and money!

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7 Clothing Hacks for Men

How to fix a stuck zipper?

Sometimes a zipper gets stuck, it happens.. — usually at the worst time like right before that big presentation, or when you’re getting ready for a date, and your zipper decides “eh I’m not gonna work today.” Well a quick and easy fix that I have discovered is that if you rub the teeth of the zipper with the led of a pencil, the graphite acts as a makeshift lubricant, and your zipper will work just fine!

How to wash denim?

To wash jeans without shrinking them, set your washing machine on the gentle or delicate cycle and fill the load with cold water. Then, turn your jeans inside out to avoid damaging the other clothing. And also, if you notice people refusing to stand downwind of you, stick your jeans in the freezer to kill smelly bacteria. Then wash them inside out.

How to tell if jeans fit without trying them on?

Have you ever had to stand in line for a changing room, or you couldn’t even find the changing room? No worries. One simple way to tell if your newfound favorite pair of pants will fit is to use the length of your forearm. The length of an arm from your fist to the elbow roughly correlates to your waist size (for the bigger guys, flatten out your fingers and add a fist). Ensure the button and fly are zipped and buttoned all the way and if your arm slides in comfortably, so should your tush. Try this with an existing pair of pants if you’re still skeptical – clown pants not applicable.

How to make a basic T-shirt stylish?

I see too many guys just wearing basic t-shirts out and about especially now that it’s summertime, one way to enhance the look of your t-shirt is to roll up the sleeves twice, this will show more of your tricep and bicep and make you look more muscular. This is a quick and easy way to show off your physique and your fashion sense!

How to take care of your belt?

Belts may look tough, but they need love too. Hang your belt vertically and away from direct light. (Coiling it can crack the leather; sunlight fades it over time.) The right sized belt has a few inches of leather to the left of the buckle after fastening — enough to reach the first belt loop, but no more. Err on the side of shorter.

How to take care of T-shirt shrinkage?

If you find that your t-shirt shrank in the wash, soak it in a bath of hot water and hair conditioner for five minutes, then stretch it back. Afterwards, let it hang dry and voila, your shirt is back to its original size!

Too lazy to iron?

If you hate ironing or always forget last minute to iron in the middle of doing other things, here is a quick 5-minute fix. Throw your shirt or pants in the dryer with a damp washcloth and let it run for 5 minutes or so. The steam from the wet washcloth will relax the shirt’s fibers and release the wrinkles. When the cycle is finished, take it out of the dryer immediately. Lay the shirt out flat, smooth it out with your hands, and hang it up. This should take care of most, if not all, of those stubborn wrinkles. If you don’t have a dryer, then turn on a hot shower and hang your shirt up in the bathroom for about 5-7 minutes and the steam from the shower should relieve some of the wrinkles.

Well guys that is it for this week’s Fashion Tips, don’t forget to like and subscribe to the channel and click that little bell for notifications about our new videos. Until next time, it was good to have you! Oh, and remember – if you look good, you feel better!