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Top Tinder Tips for Men (Get MORE Matches!)

Tinder is still one of the fastest growing dating apps in the world.

But there’s a huge problem you’ve probably experienced already…

There are so many single men swiping and competing for the same beautiful women on Tinder, that it’s hard to match with the women you actually want.

So how do you stand out from all the other guys?

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I’m going to be brutally honest with you men, in today’s time and era we now have more single people than ever before, so if you are feeling like the fishing pond is a little crowded that’s because it is!

So, the competition is high and it means that you can’t just rely on the casual photo to win her over anymore. Truth is you literally have 1/10th of a second before she decided if she will swipe left or right on you. Like literally that’s a split second #ouch

So here are my tips to help you leave an impression before and after she chooses you:

# 3 Choose a Great Primary Photo

Your first photo is everything, it literally is the deciding factor of whether or not she will read your profile or even look at your other pics. And don’t scoff at this guys because we all know that you do the same. We are human and it’s normal to be drawn to someone or not purely because of how they look.

So here are the rules with profile photos:

A Photo of You

make sure it’s you of you right now, close up with natural lighting and nothing covering your eyes, because to a woman this doesn’t help build trust. And don’t forget to smile, statistics show that profile picture with a smile get more engagement

A Photo of You in a Group

Group photos helps show you have a social life and are fun plus it doesn’t make your profile seem like you’re too into yourself. Just make sure this isn’t your opening photo as then it becomes a guessing game!

A photo of You Dressed Up

Women love a man in a nice collared shirt, we think it looks sophisticated and classy. You don’t have to be in a tux, a simple white button up shirt always works a treat!

A couple Photos of You Doing a Hobby

This is a great way to help communicate who you are and what you like, which will get a girl with similar interests to you wanting to know more. Plus it shows that you are active and fun!

#2 Make Your Bio Original

Now of course aside from your pics you also need to make your bio interesting. Because after she sees your face she will then want to know a little about you.

The first rule is to not lie about your age or open up with a cheesy one-liner. Keep it short and simple but make sure it has something to laugh about in there. Humour, intelligence, and originality will set you apart from every other man out there.

Your bio should be a brief idea of who you are, what you like and what you’re looking for. No one needs to know your life history or needs to be lectured. Play it cool, but don’t take yourself too seriously.

They work because they have humor behind them and aren’t too full on or serious!


#1 Initiate a Date Straight Away

And lastly, if you want to really get ahead of the crowd, then initiate a conversation straight away. Don’t wait to say hello and introduce yourself, step up and send her that message.

But make sure it’s more than a one worded conversation like “hey” …. crickets**

If you’re stuck for conversation then all you need to do is follow the following flow:

Introduce with confidence  – Hey’s what’s up ….as opposed to Hi my name is Rob, it’s great to meet you! ..are going to get two different responses. Own who you are and stand up!

Compliment – Telling her she’s hot…or has a great body as opposed to saying “You have a great smile, or your eyes are quite stunning are again sending two different messages – If you are complimenting stay away from anything overly sexual, make her feel beautiful not hot!

Ask Questions – get the flow going and try to get to know her straight away , show your interest. If you are stuck for conversation then download our cheat sheet, but the general rule is to ask about her day, interests, friends and what she likes!

Keep it casual and light

If you start going hardcore  like ”I think you are really full of soul and I feel a connection and I would love to discover how we can really get to know each other intimately“ ….as opposed to “You’re fun to talk to, this has seriously made my day “ ….again two different reactions. The goal with any woman on any first encounter or date is simple: MAKE HER LAUGH AND FEEL SAFE.

Ask her out!

Be bold and ask her out.  Take control and start to lead her straight from the get-go.

You want to get in before the other chaps she’s speaking to, so be the one to actually start to organize a real date or drinks.

There’s no point just spending weeks chatting, get her number and go out on a date and get to know the girl in person.


Other men don’t have to be your competition if you know how to set yourself apart right from the start. And all of the above is easy and achievable ways to do it.

But if you need help with knowing how to talk to a woman either in person or on a dating app then download our free conversation cheat sheet by clicking on the image on the bottom, right now!

-Download the Conversation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to her. 

You get:

  • Our top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man and I’ll see you in my next video!

Bye for now!

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How To Deal With Flaky Girls (Picking Up Girls In Colombia)

I was recently coaching a student in Colombia, and I decided to shoot a vlog while I was there. Then I noticed there were some flaky girls around. Despite that, I went in and approached hot girls anyway!

Colombia is one of my favorite places to go… mainly because the women are so beautiful.

However, they are also some of the flakiest girls around the world, so in this vlog, I’ll reveal how to deal with flaky girls.

Check out the video.

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Here’s What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her…

Now that you have her number, do you know THE BEST WAY to text her and get a date?

In this video, Nicole reveals how girls actually want you to ask them out on a date.

She’ll also reveal some huge mistakes guys make when it comes to texting.

Make sure you watch the video.

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What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her

Hey, it’s Nicole with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to reveal how a girl ACTUALLY wants you to text her and ask her out.  I’m going to be telling you all the do’s and don’ts of texting a girl those first few times after you’ve gotten her number to make sure you don’t send her running away and so you can actually get a date fast.

I’m gonna show you some real-life examples of texts I’ve received and then break them down for you based on the good, AND the bad. Then at the very end, I’ll tell you the absolute BEST way to secure a date!


What Kind of Texts Do Girls HATE?!

I’m gonna show you a few texts that were big fails, so you don’t make the same mistake…

#3. The drunk text/the pointless text

This guy did both, All in one text. A guy’s FIRST text to me was at 4 in the morning. On a Sunday night. And it was nonsense. Just an emoji next to a random letter. Not only was this text completely pointless, but it also woke me up at 4 in the morning. Meaningless texts that say nothing are a waste of everyone’s time and make you seem like you’re not very interesting.

#2. The texts that will get you destroyed in her group texts

These can include anything from excessive emoji/meme usage (are you 12?!) to horrible grammar/spelling, to inappropriate messages or pictures. If your first text to girl includes bad spelling and 15 emojis, it doesn’t matter if you told her she’s the most gorgeous girl in the history of the earth, she’s going to think you’re an idiot.

That might be harsh, but it’s true. And inappropriate texts are not ok when trying to get the first date. You’re going to make her feel creeped out, and she’s not going to give you the time of day. It’s the biggest turn-off. No girl wants this. Look, it’s great you think we’re attractive! And we love to hear it! But just straight up asking for pics from someone that you literally met yesterday comes across as super creepy.

Pro tip: If you really want to see us that bad, make actual plans to do so!

#1. The noncommittal text

If you want to see the biggest collective eye-roll from any group of girls, ask them how they feel about a guy sending the “we should hang out sometime” text.

“We should hang out sometime” translates to “I’m going to make as little effort as possible.” and isn’t going to lead to a date unless that girl is REALLY desperate. Plan a freaking date! A lot of guys seem to have this idea that if you call it a “date” and actually suggest a day and time, it’s suddenly something serious. But any normal girl does NOT think that you’re imagining wedding bells because you called it a date.

If you can’t say anything more than “let’s hang out sometime” you’re going to lose her interest immediately. And let’s face it, there’s always the slight possibility that she may be just gave out her number to be nice. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she was just super drunk, or maybe she’s not in a place where she wants to date anyone. Being straightforward with your intentions will help weed those types of girls out, so you’re not wasting your time with someone who’s gonna flake anyway.

What Kind Of Texts Do Girls LOVE?!

Moving on to the things that WILL get you a date…

 #3. Unique compliments

It’s amazing how many guys actually forget to flirt via text or don’t know how to do it properly. Before asking her out, it can be a great buffer to send a few flirty texts. You can always send something a little cheesy like “it was great to meet you, I can’t wait to see your pretty face again” or “you’re so beautiful” but, while those are nice and flattering, it sounds like a cookie cutter compliment.

If there’s something specific about us that you liked or ANYthing we did or said that you thought was cute, tell us! Girls eat that shit up. (A guy pointed out how he thought I had a cute sneeze. No one is cute when they sneeze unless you’re a baby panda, but the fact that he said this was really endearing and cute.)

A unique comment or compliment about THAT girl specifically is not only a surefire way to let her know you’re interested, but it also shows that you paid attention to something other than her boobs when you met her, and that really matters!

#2. Actual plans

Okay, the flirting is going well, and you want to ask her out. Even if you left your balls at home that day and can’t bring yourself to call it a date, take control and make real plans with her. (A guy was asking me to drinks where he suggested a location and two-day options. He even picked a place close to me because he remembered I lived on the opposite side of town from him. Good stuff.)

Girls want a guy who is confident and is able to make decisions. If you’re wishy-washy or “I dunno, it’s up to you” then it seems like you’re not confident or not even that interested. Girls love a guy who can take charge and pursue them. Setting the day and location also gives you the freedom to choose a place where you’re in your own element and comfortable.

#1. What’s the number one way to stand outCALL THE GIRL!

I feel like this should come up in a big giant text when I say this!

So I’ve shown you a couple examples of guys who did everything right via text…great flirting, great decision making… but spoiler alert. I didn’t go out with any of them. Why may you ask? They lost out to the one guy who actually had the balls to CALL me to ask me out.

It wasn’t a long conversation; it was very concise “Hey, I really enjoyed meeting you this weekend and would like to see you again. Can I take you out tomorrow night?” He then told me there was a new restaurant he’d been wanting to try, so we should go there. I said yes in a heartbeat!

He displayed a level of confidence and courage that no one else did, without even having to come up with witty flirtatious texts and that was so incredibly attractive! Calling someone is nerve-wracking. Everyone knows that. But even if you hate talking on the phone, and even if SHE hates talking on the phone, or even if you barely had the chance to talk to her when you got her number, a quick call to set up a date will make you seem like you have your shit together and you will stand out every time.

Not all girls will actually answer the phone, especially if you didn’t get a chance to talk much when you met. But that’s okay! It’s totally fine to shoot her a text afterwards because it’s more about the ACT of you calling than the actual phone conversation itself. If she doesn’t answer, texting her after to say why you were calling is totally cool.

That gives her the option to return your call or just text back. If she doesn’t respond then, you’ll know that maybe she’s just not that into you.

Getting a girl’s number is just the first step. If you follow these do’s and don’ts, you’re sure to score an awesome date!

To help you out with what you need to say, I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.

And if you want us to show you how to meet women personallyclick here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call.

I’m out! Cheers!

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How To Use Social Media To Get Dates

Is having her social media BETTER than getting her number? Are your random messages or comments on Facebook helping you get the girl? Can you meet hot chicks on Instagram even if you’re not Dan Bilzerian? In this video, I’ll show you how to use social media to get dates!



How To Use Social Media To Get Dates

Facebook, Instagram, Snap chat, Twitter, Badooo… the list goes on and on! Can you REALLY use social media to your advantage to get more dates and make women like you?

Today’s topic is all about how to use social media to get more dates.  

Phone Number VS Social Media

Well, they’re pretty much one in the same nowadays since the popular Social Media platforms Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat all have messaging capabilities.

The benefit of Social Media is that she can see your pictures. That’s right – she can remember how damn sexy you are! She can clearly see your attractive lifestyle (yep, you better show off that Ferrari in every picture… just kidding, don’t do that, that’s just douchey.)

Also, when she sees your embarrassing frat party pics she’ll see that you have friends, so she can safely assume you are not a serial killer or leader of an elite terrorist organization.

Social media can actually be better than a phone number as long as you have a pimped out page. So make sure to post cool pics regularly. Avoid boring pics of that disgusting cheeseburger you just ate, you animal killer you. (Actually, burgers are great, just don’t post snaps of them, okay?)

Social Media Is Also A Great Way To Stay On The Girl’s Radar

She can see what you are up to and get super jealous that you were front row at Justin Beiber. Or that you went to the movies with another girl instead of her.

Whereas through SMS if you want to stay in her mind you have to send her an individual text and only she gets it. It’s a one-off communication and who has time for that these days?

On social media when you post something hundreds even thousands of girls can see it. That’s freakin’ awesome!

Most Girls are also more likely to give out their social media profile over there phone number because they know they can easily block you if you end up being a weird creepy psychopath who sends her a bunch of dick pics. (Stop doing that!) Plus she probably wants more followers so she can pump up her ego and feel better about herself.


You Can Even Use Social Media As A Way To Approach Girls In Clubs

Just say, “Snapchat!” and then ask them for their snap. Every time you post something you can check to see who viewed it. When you see a particular girl has been viewing all of your snaps then send her a message. There’s a great chance she’ll be willing to meet you since she’s always checking out your snaps and is basically your fan.

I personally use Snap chat as a way to interject more fun into the interaction. I just whip out my phone and say let’s take a snap and command everyone in the group to do a silly pose. This is fun and women are likely to comply with a snap that only lasts 24hrs compared to Facebook – which lasts an eternity. And then you have a perfect reason to add her to Snap chat and then just message her later.   

Social Media Can Also Make Women Feel More Connected To You

Think about it, when she’s following you on Social Media, she’ll have more sense of who you are and what you are all about because she’s already seen a bunch of your pics, videos, and posts. She’ll actually feel more comfortable meeting you and she’ll likely feel like she has known you for a while unless you have tons of creepy pics.

I once met a girl and they didn’t speak to her for 4 years because I had a girlfriend at that time. After I broke up with my girlfriend, I sent the girl a message on Facebook and we met up. She told me she’d been following me on Facebook – so she knew all about my travels and adventures for the last 4 years bc she saw my posts. Now if I only had her number, I doubt she would have even remembered me. She probably wouldn’t have been willing to meet up again.

Social Media Is Great Social Proof

How else can you use social media? Well if you have an active profile and a lot of follows then it’s great for social proof. Social proof is when someone’s thoughts and actions become influenced by the thoughts and actions of the masses.

Which basically means if a girl sees that you have a lot of fans and followers who think you’re cool, she will be influenced by the crowd and will also think you’re cool.

As a reminder, this is not about how you build up your Instagram and Facebook page. There are plenty of other resources and videos for that. A reasonable goal is to reach 10 million followers and then you’ll always be surrounded by hot Instagram models that want to be Instagram famous.

What about meeting girls on Social Media?

Well if you have an awesome profile full of traveling, adventure, cool people, professional pictures, etc. then it’s possible that random women will add you and actually message you first. Now if you’re not at that stage of the game yet should you message them?

Well here’s the deal. It doesn’t hurt to randomly message or add a girl out of the blue. However, if you actually want to meet girls online then I recommend a dating app like Tinder or Bumble because those girls are more likely to be single and are actively looking for a date. You just have better odds and it’s just a better way to utilize your time.

By the way, have you ever been in that situation where you see a beautiful girl but you don’t know what to say?

Well, that’s why I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.

And if you want us to personally show you how to meet women, click here to check out the live Bootcamp Schedule.

I’m out! Cheers!

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How To Get A Girls Number: 3 Best Ways

You’ve approached the girl, she seems into it, and now you don’t know how to get a girls number from her. Suddenly you start to get nervous. Is it because you don’t know the best approach? Should you try to make her laugh? Just be straightforward about it?

What’s the best way to go for it, so she’s more likely to say yes? Here’s how to get a girls number the right way!


How To Get A Girls Number In 3 Simple Ways

#1 Don’t ask, Command.

The usual blunder…

Most guys ask for her number. Big mistake. That shows a lack of confidence. When you ask, it presupposes the fact that you aren’t sure if she likes you. It tells her that you aren’t sure if she actually wants to give you her number. When you’re being insecure in front of her – that’s going to be a turn-off.


So instead of asking “So…can, I get your number?” display your confidence and assertiveness. Rephrase it as a command like Here, put your number on my phone. That way, you’ll come off as an Alpha male. Not showing any signs of weakness and staying in control.

#2 Make it fun and exciting

Try and get a giggle out of her while you get her number.


What I like to do is this: I tell her: Hey let me see your phone, I’m going to give you my number. Then I go to her SMS app, and I send myself a text: “Hey Matt you are so hot ;)” And sign her name. I’ll just wait a few minutes and text her “aww thanks you are so sweet,” and she will crack up. This is fun, flirty and it works great.

The best part about this is she’s very unlikely to object to you putting your number on her phone. It seems harmless, and she can always just not text you if she doesn’t want to. But presto! You just got her number through the text.


Another funny move is to save your number in her phone and just call your phone, so you have her number. Here I’ll give you my number… and I’ll just call myself, so you have mine.

But actually, pick up the call and use this opportunity to do a funny role play like: “Oh hey mom? Hey, I just met this girl she’s kinda cute, but she’s kind of a dork. I might give her a chance though, we’ll see.”

#3 Go for it like a Boss

If all of this seems too gimmicky or silly for you, here’s how to get a girl’s number like a boss.

How you’re going to do it: BE THE BOSS

Say something like, “You seem cool. Here, you can put your number on my phone.” and remember to stand beside her, so you get in more touching. That way, you’re already breaking the touch barrier even before you get her number.

So try that out, man. And remember to be assertive. Asking for permission to have her number shows uncertainty and you should assume that she likes you, unless she communicates otherwise.

Now if you just want to be better with women, we created a “Free Escalation Cheat Sheet” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sensual tension, turn a girl on, and escalate the relationship to the next level.

It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sensual– “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.

This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl, but it’s going nowhere.

Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level! 

And if you want us to show you how to meet women personally, click here to check out the live Bootcamp Schedule.

I’m out! Cheers!