18 Rules To Raise Your Status So Women Are Compelled To You

Women pay close attention to your position of status.

There is a status ranking system that humans unconsciously run through their minds whenever they encounter anyone new in their life.  They try to figure out where they personally fit on the social ladder in relation to the other person in any given situation.


For instance, if Brad Pitt walked into the room, people would see him as having a higher social status.  People would gather around him, ask for his autograph, and pay attention to whatever he says.  At the same time, all the women would instantly start falling for him, and not just for his looks.

Women are instinctually attracted to men with high status.  You see, a high status man is better able to secure a good future for her and her offspring.  She is naturally attracted to him even if he hasn’t talked to her yet.

So how can you elevate your status without being rich or famous?  Here’s the rulebook. When applied, this will make you deadly attractive and very influential.

The Rules of Status

Warning: This is not about trying to out-alpha other guys.  Be respectful.  If other men don’t respect you then you have actually lost all status.

1. Have social intuition. If you act weird or awkward during social situations, you will automatically demote yourself from a high status position. It is very important not to get flustered or nervous during interactions. You must know how to talk to people. Before you can lead, you must learn how to finesse your way through social situations. The cool thing is you don’t need to be naturally funny, witty or clever. You just need to be comfortable in social settings. Don’t be the insecure guy standing against the wall watching everyone else have a good time. Just take a deep breath, get grounded and join in on the fun.

2. Lead your group. If others see you leading a group, they will automatically see you as a leader and place you in a position of status. If you are not the leader of your current social circle then start leading. You can also create a new group by simply finding a few friends and inviting them all out together. Make decisions quickly and take charge. And remember this, a good leader is always a leader of “self” first.

3. Be non-reactive. Men that have status are non-reactive. They don’t freak out when something disturbs the peace. The leader is supposed to protect the group so if you freak out, it shows you are not suited for the position. Stay calm, be present, and handle the situation. Women will test you in this quality. She will poke you and press your hot buttons to see if you can stay grounded and keep your cool.

4. Become the leader of leaders. When socializing, befriend the other men that are the leaders of the group. This will cause the females of that group to see you as a leader as well, and thus be more attracted to you. If you go out and there is a large mixed group, determine who is the leader and befriend him. You can tell who is the leader because people are usually circled around him and they all stop to listen when he speaks.

5. Win friends. When you can walk into a party and everyone stops to talk to you, that’s when women will really take notice. When people are fighting for your attention, she will want it too. You can easily win friends by giving value to other’s through empathetic
listening, remembering and using people’s names and showing genuine interest.

6. Work the room. If you don’t know anyone, the best way to raise your status is to start meeting people. Socialize with BOTH men and women. To the observer it will look like you know everyone.

7. Command attention. Want to shoot your status to the top? Quiet everyone in the room and give a toast. A man that can get people to listen to him demonstrates status. Note: Make your toast outstanding, after all, you have center stage, stud.

8. Don’t suck up to people. Does a king suck up to people? Definitely not. He may compliment someone but the intention is not to seek approval. Speak your mind and DO NOT be apologetic (although you should apologize if you do something really wrong).

9. Dress well. Studies have shown that people in a suit are automatically perceived as an authority versus a person who is wearing normal clothes. Now, I do not mean wear a suit wherever you go, however, dress sharp. If you look like a powerful leader you will not only feel like one, but people will see you as one.

10. Speak with conviction. If you hesitate or stumble when you speak, people will not deem you as a worthy leader. A high status man is decisive and speaks like he is sure of himself. Your voice should be loud, slow, controlled and project so that all can hear.

11. Powerful body language. Walk tall, take up space and have open body language. Don’t let people push you around. Walk like you own the place. Most people have mediocre body language, so when you stand erect, with your shoulders back, chest out, and head high, people notice. Bad body language will also demote you of leadership status.  Don’t fidget or move excessively.  Move your body slow and with purpose.


12. Be the first to act, always. When you are with your circle, always be the first to move. For example, when at the end of eating dinner at a restaurant, be the one to say, “alright, let’s get of out here.” When you do this, you are unconsciously framing in their minds that you are the leader and when you say let’s go, everyone goes.

13. Be in the know. When people are sitting around wondering what to do, say something. Don’t say, “what do you guys want to do?” Instead, say, “Hey how about we go do X because it…” Be the guy that has ideas and knows what to do. This is especially important with a girl because she expects you to take the lead and take her places.

14. Bring her into your world. When you are hanging out with a girl or even your friends, make sure you draw them into your world. Take them to all of your favorite places instead of going to places they have already been. When they follow you into your world, where you are already king, they will see you as the king.

15. Strong eye contact. If you are unable to hold eye contact with people, you will be demoted from the high status position. Strong eye contact is a sign of power. Take it further by blinking less.  A man that doesn’t blink while talking conveys power. Some guys get into “eye staring contests” to see who looks away first. This is child’s play.  It demonstrates you have something to prove.

16. Don’t let people interrupt you. While conversing with a group, sometimes people will unintentionally start speaking right after you have begun. If you spoke first, maintain eye contact with the listener and keep speaking. The other person will stop when you are speaking.

17. Give. High status men give value, they don’t take value. They have so much greatness in their life, they want to share with everyone. They don’t make people feel bad about themselves. They make people feel inspired, proud, and beautiful.  Give and ye shall receive.

18. Have high standards. A high status man has high standards for himself and everyone in his life. Be picky about the people you let into your life, including the girls you date. A king is not going make any girl his queen. He is going to CHOOSE THE ABSOLUTE BEST. That is why it is important to QUALIFY every girl and when you do this she will automatically see you as high status. Qualify men as well before you bring them into your inner circle. High status men have high standards.

19. Have fun. Okay so there is one more… When you and your group of friends are having fun everyone wants to be a part of it. This is why it is also important to find friends that you can have fun with.  Share stories, tell jokes, play pranks on each other, be self amusing and have a blast.

Tell me in the comments down below, what you do to raise your social status.


What It Takes To Be The Alpha Male

Do you want to automatically attract the most desirable women?

It’s simple… be the Alpha.

You see, we are herding animals and are genetically programmed to live in tribes.  We are also wired to give status and rank to the people in our tribe.  Have you ever noticed that you automatically rank yourself against the other people in the group?


Women naturally rank men the same way because at an instinctual level, the man with the higher status, is typically best able to protect her.  And as you may know,  women choose the man with the best ability to PROTECT and PROVIDE for her. Remember, women want you to make them feel safe.

The problem is that most guys don’t know what being an Alpha really is. Most guys believe being the Alpha Male is about belittling and manipulating others.  No, being the Alpha Male is about leading your group/tribe in a positive direction.  It is about pulling people up instead of pushing them down.  It is about sacrificing yourself for the group, instead of sacrificing the group for yourself.

Being the Alpha doesn’t mean you have to rule the world.  You just have to be the leader of your own circle. When your woman sees that your circle of friends follow you, she will appreciate and respect you.  If you are not the leader of your circle, then start a new one.

Also, don’t think of it as one leader controlling their followers.  It is a about being a leader that inspires other people to lead and contribute towards a purpose.

In the following video, leadership expert Simon Sinek reveals the hidden dynamics that inspire leadership and trust. This is an eye-opening talk that reveals what it really means to be the Alpha of your world. It’s long, but well worth your time on so many levels.


You have to see this…

4 Ways To Disarm People & Win Them Over

As I was walking through the hustling Market in Nicaragua, I realized that most people HAVE NO IDEA how to connect with another person and win them over (In a business or romantic sense).


This morning I decided to take a stroll through the market in Leon, Nicaragua and find some breakfast.  This market is full of life.  Immediately when you approach it, there is a noisy commotion of cars honking, people whistling, latin music blasting, and vendors barking.

The market is jam packed with rows and rows of hundreds of vendors selling everything from flip-flops, fresh-sliced mangos, toys, and cow liver.  There is hardly any room to walk and there is so much going on, my mind was racing trying to absorb all the surrounding chaos. It has a stench of raw meat that penetrates through the air.  Not my idea of a relaxing morning, but it is interesting to see it and a treasure chest if you are looking for cheap food.

This particular morning, I was on a mission for cheap and good breakfast.  One of the first things you’ll notice as a foreigner walking through the market, is that EVERY VENDOR is barking at you trying to sell you their goods.  I see the nicaraguan version of a food court and head towards the aisle, looking for a tasty dish to soothe my hunger.

Once they noticed I was a foreigner looking for food,  the vendors came at me like a pack of wolves, hungry for my money. No joke.  As I walked through the aisle, they would aggressively yell, “Hey handsome,  what are you looking for?” (In spanish of course).

Some would command me to come over and eat, one lady grabbed my bicep from behind with her wet hands, and another man tried to grab me and bring me over to his kitchen.

As they kept yelling at me, my mind and body shifted into defensive mode and I was no longer open to buying any of their food. My mind literally was drowning them out because they all sounded “the same.”

At that moment, I knew exactly what it feels like to be a beautiful woman walking through a club, with all the guys barking at her trying to get in her pants.  With all the guys bombarding her and eye-f**king her, she immediately becomes defensive. She dismisses and deflects every guy that approaches her. This is why meeting women at bars requires a different approach than meeting them at a coffee shop.

So where did I end up eating?  Which vendor won over my business?

I kept on walking, still being defensive,  and then came across this one lady who was able to completely disarm me, show me what she had to offer and get me to sit down at her table and eat.

How did she do it?

She did several things right that I will explain…

1.  SMILE

She smiled and greeted me, while looking directly into my eyes.  Most people don’t realize how disarming a smile can be.  All the other vendors were yelling at me with stern look on their face, hoping I would choose them.  She simply said, “Hi, what are you looking for?” but it was how she said it that was different.  The main difference was the smile on her face.


2.  Empathize

When she looked into my eyes, and smiled, I felt a sense of connection… like she knew what I was feeling. All the other vendors made me feel like they just wanted my money.  (I understand she does too, however, because she saw me as a person, I wanted to give my money to her).

3.  Lead

The woman that grabbed my arm with her wet hands was trying to lead but it was too aggressive.  The lady that won my business, led with a smile even though I was not smiling and actually, I probably had a very stern look on my face.  The other vendors were looking at me and waiting for my reaction.  If I would have smiled, they would have smiled.  That is the flat out the wrong approach.

The person who approaches or initiates the conversation MUST lead with a smile.  This applies equally to seducing women and a HUGE mistake guys make.  You see, when guys approach women, they usually have a neutral look on their face because they are waiting to see the reaction of the girl.  They are waiting for “her approval” of him.  From her reaction, they want to know if it is okay for him to be there.

In reality, she is looking at your facial expression to see if your presence is welcome.  If you look worried or nervous when you approach, she will feel weirded out.  If you look calm, peaceful, and happy, she will feel that too and your approach will be much more welcome.

4.  Be Vulnerable

In your interactions with people, being vulnerable is the MOST effective way to CREATE A CONNECTION.


How do you do it with a woman? Share something honest and true about you with the other person.  When you are talking to a woman, reveal something to her that you don’t share with most people.  She will appreciate it and immediately feel like she can trust you.

These four principles will help you maneuver social situations.  Remember, lead with a smile, empathize with the other person, and be vulnerable.