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How To Keep The Conversation Going

Have you ever sparked a conversation with a girl only to have it fizzle out? Want to know how to keep the conversation going?

You get it going, but then you’re not sure what to say next. Then there’s that dreaded awkward pause that lingers in the air making every second feel like an eternity.


So what do you do? Maybe you asked a question. And then another question. And then another. As you keep going, you know you should stop, yet you don’t know what else to say… So you just keep asking question after question.

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That’s when the girl says, “I have to meet up with my friends” or any number of excuses to escape.

Last week I found myself in a similar situation. The first few approaches are always the hardest to get out of the way. Going from working all week to being a sociable fun guy takes me a few approaches.

My best advice is to treat the first 3 approaches when going out as throwaways. They don’t count. Your goal is to get them done as soon as possible.

Secondly, you want to build momentum in-between approaches by asking yourself, what do I want to focus on in my next approach?”

When I found myself awkwardly standing there with nothing to say, my focus for the next approach was to “keep the conversation going.”

For this week’s tip, I thought it would be useful to share some ideas that will take you beyond how to approach a girl. And that’s how to keep the conversation going and never run out of things to say.

The Two Tips are:

(1) Multiple Threads

(2) Conversational Hooks

“Multiple threads” is when you have multiple conversational topics (threads) going on at once. This is better than moving linearly from one topic to the next. This is one of the best ways to never run out of things to say.

We naturally do this with our friends. We don’t just stay on one topic all the way to exhaustion. The conversation usually switches between different subjects.

For example, say you meet a girl who has a dog and say, “I love dogs, what type is it?” A linear conversation would be sticking to the subject of “her dog.” Which, would look like this: “I love dogs, what type is it?…..Where did you get it from?…..How long have you had it?…..What’s his name?”

You can see how sticking to the same topic quickly gets boring.

“Multiple threads” is the idea of introducing new subjects to the conversation. Building off our example, it would look like this: “I love dogs, what type is it?….My family actually has two dogs. One for my sister and one for my dad. You look like the type of girl who’s the youngest sibling….You know what I just noticed, you look like the adventurous type. Are you?

In the second example, I introduced new topics such as family and if she’s adventurous.

When you introduce topics, you can either build off something she said or just change subjects.

“Conversational hooks” are what help you introduce new conversational topics. It supplements our first tip to help you never run out of things to say.

Hooks are something a girl says that you can comment, ask about, relate to or share a story on. Listen for “keywords” to come up with new hooks.

These “keywords” aren’t necessarily the most important words she said. They are words you can use to introduce new conversation topics.

Essentially, you are using conversational hooks (keywords) to start multiple threads (topics/subjects).

These ideas will help you transition into deeper conversations, never run out of things to say and make the conversation more interesting for both of you.

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Here’s an example that explains both ideas:

Imagine you’re telling me about your recent trip through Europe. You say, “My favorite country was Italy because of the amazing food, the romantic ambiance and the beautiful cafes on every street corner.

While I’m actively listening, I’m paying attention to any “keywords” that I can build off of and introduce new topics (threads).

In this example, I can ask a question on “What were some of your favorite dishes?” I can comment on how it was the Italian coffee bars that inspired the CEO of Starbucks to make it what it is today. I can relate by sharing my experiences traveling through Italy. I can also share a story of my recent trip through Europe.

Most guys get ahead of themselves. They make the mistake of thinking about what they are going to say next opposed to listening to what the other person said.


 

If you really are listening, the other person usually gives you everything you need to keep the conversation going.

In the example above, there are many “keywords” I could’ve used to start a new “subject.

That one sentence alone, the “keywords” are Europe, traveling, favorite countries, Italy, food, romance, and cafes. You could use anyone to keep the conversation going.

Now, back to the idea of using multiple “threads.” (See what I did there? I’m revisiting a previous conversation topic)

One thread is how Italy was your favorite country while traveling through Europe.

If I use “traveling” as a “keyword,” I could share a story of my recent travels through Europe. Doing so, I introduce another topic. That way I will never run out of things to say!

I could share how I recently did a cruise through France, Italy, and Spain and by far my favorite city was Barcelona.

What are some “keywords” you could use to keep the conversation going?

Some ideas to talk about are traveling, Europe, France, Italy, Spain, favorite cities, Barcelona, beaches, and cities. All these ideas can be used to start another topic.

So far we have two conversational topics: your trip through Europe and my trip through Europe.

Once we continue to talk about Barcelona and I start running out of things to say, I can easily jump back to our first “topic” about your travel through Europe and say “What other countries did you visit on your trip?

When you’re paying attention to keywords, whenever the convo starts to die you can easily start a new topic.

If you remember from our first example of you traveling through Europe, the potential keywords are Europe, traveling, favorite countries, Italy, food, romance, and cafes.

Whenever the convo starts to slow down, I can make a comment, ask a question, relate to or share a story based off any one of those hooks. I can keep the conversation going, and will never run out of things to say.

Here’s another example before you go:

Imagine I tell you, “Last weekend I met up with a good friend from high school that flew into NYC from San Diego. I had a great time showing her around the city.”

What are some “keywords” that can give you ideas on how to keep the conversation going?

You can ask, comment, relate to or share a story about: Old friends, high school friends, flying, traveling, NYC, San Diego, California, East Coast, West Coast, what did we do, and exploring a new city. You have so many things to talk about; you can never run out of things to say.

You could ask, “What did you two do in the city?” You could comment on how great it is that I still stay in touch with an old high school friend. You could relate to how an old friend showed you around a new city and how much more fun that experience was. You could share a story about the last time you were in California and how much you loved it.

If you are actively listening, you’ll find it’s easier than you think to keep the conversation going. And you’ll never run out things to say anymore!

Remember, DON’T think of what to say next… just listen and pay attention to any “keywords” you could use to add a new “topic.

Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)

  1. Beginners: Make 3 approaches with the focus of keeping the conversation going through the use of multiple threads and listening for hooks. Aim to make the next approach longer than the one before.  
  2. Advanced: Same as beginners but 5 approaches. They only count if you can make the conversation longer than 5 minutes.

Alright, guys, there’s the tip of the week!

Be sure to go out there and start implementing it RIGHT AWAY. Success loves the speed of implementation.


If you like tips like these, then I would highly recommend you check out The Language of Attraction or attend a BOOTCAMP.

Don’t know what The Language of Attraction is?

This is all about the conversation. You’ll know how to attract beautiful women anyplace, anytime, and in any situation.

This is the only program that uses your own unique personality to attract women.

Other “gurus” will try to mold you to be exactly like them…. They’ll have you dress like them and act like them even if that’s not who you really are.

We’ll show you what naturally attracts women.  Click Here For More Details

Interested in a BOOTCAMP?

We’re going to be in Las Vegas, Cancun, New York City, Los Angeles, Miami, Brazil, Argentina, Colombia, Spain, Germany, Sweden, Bulgaria, Cyprus, Thailand, Dubai, India, Australia and that’s us just getting started.

If you’re serious about getting results with women FAST, then this is your ticket.

Here are a few things we’ll cover:

  • Discover a POWERFUL way to approach, attract, number close, and get dates during the day!
  • Destroy your approach anxiety and spark instant attraction with your body language as you get women to CHASE YOU!
  • Get Tons of infield practice, real-life drills, role-playing, and instant feedback on your interactions to make approaching women completely second nature!

Click Here To Find Out More


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How To Approach A Girl & Make An Amazing First Impression

I’m currently re-reading “The Way Of The Superior Man” and it’s a MUST read for ALL you guys. It has everything you need to know about the best way to approach a girl… And to start things off:


The BEST FIRST IMPRESSION is made by a man who is Masculine.

One of the biggest takeaways from the book is the idea of male and female polarity. In the book, David Deida says, for there to be romantic attraction, you need the polarity between the feminine and masculine energy.

It’s like magnets. What happens if you try to push two positive sides together? They repel. What happens when you bring opposite sides together? They naturally attract. Let me repeat that in case you missed it.

Opposites (Masculine and Feminine) NATURALLY ATTRACT.

I hope you get how profound that line is because it’s the foundation of all attraction. If you portray masculine qualities, the girl will naturally be attracted.

If a woman is naturally attracted to a masculine presence, then the best way to approach a girl and make a solid first impression is by expressing your masculinity. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be an aggressive alpha male. This just means, when you approach, the woman should feel your masculine presence. This could be the way you look deeply into her eyes, the tonality in your voice, or your positive body language.

Not too long ago, I was helping out one of the students in the Philly boot camp and every time he made an approach; I noticed there was no oomph behind it. He was half-assing the approach. He was approaching with the intention of not losing rather than WINNING. And this wasn’t working.

One of the biggest mistakes I see guys make on boot camps is approaching half ass.

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They’re afraid of rejection, and so they don’t fully commit to the approach. Ironically, this makes it even more likely that they’ll get rejected.

And what do you think the girl thinks? She’s thinking, “Here’s a guy that assumes I’m going to reject him so I probably should. If he doesn’t think I’ll be interested then why should I?

This is where most guys mess up the approach. They lose before the game even started.

After I had this discussion with the student from Philly, this idea became the focus of his next approach. And guess what? He got WAY better results.

Girls were not only stopping but intrigued to hear what he was saying. After all, what type of guy would have the balls to come over and give her a direct and genuine compliment? Right off the bat, she knows this guy is different than most guys.

And the reason why is because he demonstrated one of the most masculine qualities a man can exude. He showed her he’s the type of guy to go after what he wants when a girl sees that from you, she can’t help but be attracted.

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Next time you approach a beautiful girl, you must fully commit to the approach. The best way to approach a girl is to be the type of man that goes for what he wants. Don’t worry about what could go wrong, that’s called pre-analysis when you try to determine the outcome before you take action.

It’s much better to just dive into the interaction, expect things will go well, and then adjust accordingly.

One thing that helps limit these mental gymnastics: “The 3 Second Rule.”

This rule means you approach the girl you want within 3 seconds of seeing her. The reason is that the sooner you take action, the less time you have to overthink it. If you take action right away, the fear of “what if” doesn’t have time to take root.


Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)

Beginners: The best way to approach a girl beginners mission. Use the 3-second rule to approach 3 beautiful girls that you see. These will only count if you approach right away (within 3 seconds of seeing her). Approaching right away actually makes it easier. If you’re not sure what to say, use one of the openers from last week’s email.

  • Warm up opener: “Where is Starbucks?
  • Once warm, go direct: “Hey, real quick, this is completely random, but I had to come over and say you look really cute. My name is…”

Advanced: The best way to approach a girl advanced mission. Use the 3-second rule to approach 10 beautiful girls that you see. These will only count if you approach right away (within 3 seconds of seeing her). On top of that, emphasize the fact that you’re approaching because you WANT her. That feeling of desire will be demonstrated through your body language, eye contact, and tonality. carry through on your approach. Approach with the idea, “I want to say hello to this beautiful girl” not, “Hopefully she doesn’t reject me.”


If you like tips like these, then I would highly recommend you check out The Language of Attraction or attend a BOOTCAMP.

Don’t know what The Language of Attraction is?

This is all about the conversation. You’ll know how to attract beautiful women anyplace, anytime, and in any situation.

This is the only program that uses your own unique personality to attract women.

Other “gurus” will try to mold you to be exactly like them…. They’ll have you dress like them and act like them even if that’s not who you really are.

We’ll show you what naturally attracts women.  Click Here For More Details

Interested in a BOOTCAMP?

We’re going to be in Las Vegas, Cancun, New York City, Los Angeles, Miami, Brazil, Argentina, Colombia, Spain, Germany, Sweden, Bulgaria, Cyprus, Thailand, Dubai, India, Australia and that’s us just getting started.

If you’re serious about getting results with women FAST, then this is your ticket.

Here are a few things we’ll cover:

  • Discover a POWERFUL way to approach, attract, number close, and get dates during the day!
  • Destroy your approach anxiety and spark instant attraction with your body language as you get women to CHASE YOU!
  • Get Tons of infield practice, real-life drills, role-playing, and instant feedback on your interactions to make approaching women completely second nature!

Click Here To Find Out More


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Turn A Girl On – Say THIS To Make Her Rip Your Clothes Off

In this video, I share one phrase I used that turned a woman on so much it made her rip my clothes off. I also reveal the psychology behind why this works, and how you can use this to attract women you like. You can turn a girl on instantly with this!

So I want you to start using Command words in your interactions so she sees you as a real man who is clear in communicating what he wants. Now, I’m not saying you should be overly commanding and always tell women  what to do, but women love a guy who is in control and knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to tell her. (Insert video clips of famous men using command words with ladies. Look at craig fergason, russel brand, ryan gosling, etc)

– So stop asking her questions about what she wants to do and instead make statements. For example instead of saying, “hey want to go play pool?” say “let’s go play pool” And instead of “is it okay if we go to another venue?” say “I want to go to another venue let’s go”  or “how about we go get a drink” can become “come on let’s get a drink”; or “where would you like to go next?” can be “I know this great place we can go to next.”

This keeps you in control. And of course if she doesn’t want to do the thing you suggest don’t argue just suggest something else.

– Now I like to use this as a joke sometimes.  If she makes a command like “let’s go shoot some pool” I might say, “we’ll go play pool when I’m ready to play pool” then I’ll wait like 3 seconds and say “Okay I’m ready to play pool” And I’ll say it with a cheeky smirk. This get’s a nice little laugh and allows you to take the lead.

– Now this applies throughout the entire dating interaction all the way to the bedroom. Have you ever had a girl get really aroused when you are fooling around and she says “fuck me now” well most guys respond with an –overly enthusiastic “OK!”. Which isn’t bad but what would be a lot better is to say, “I’ll fuck you when I’m ready to fuck you”. This will really turn her on because it shows her that even in bed you are still in control which allows her to surrender to your pleasure. And as a bonus it creates tons of anticipation because she knows it’s going to happen but she doesn’t know when.

So the point is stay in control of the situation at all times AND instead of asking questions make statements.  A lot of girls on dates don’t want to make too many decisions so just make the choices for her.

But like I said earlier. Allow her to give input. Don’t be a dick.

Also, we have a free training video where I break down hidden camera footage of me going from an approach to an instant date in under 3 minutes. Yup, I show you exactly what I say to create an sexual vibe from the beginning and escalate to a date quickly.

There is a link in the description down below and also at the end of this video. Go check it out now.

Also, make sure to subscribe to our channel for more tips and check out our boot camp schedule.

Cheers!

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10 Rules to Charm anyone like James Bond

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When you think of James Bond, a few things will spring to mind – a dapper appearance, relentless charisma, and raw sex appeal. It’s no surprise that millions of men want to emulate the world’s most famous spy. We’ve all looked enviously across the room to that guy with a beautiful woman on his arm, who oozes confidence and sophistication; just like 007.


So if you aspire to be an international man of mystery, here are ten rules of how to charm anyone like James Bond.

The Rules

 1. Dress Impeccably

Dressing well is a gift to others. It shows self-respect; a mark of a man who cares enough about himself to make a concerted effort. It is also a talking point which sets you apart from the crowd. Imagine helping a woman carry her groceries. Now imagine the fun she’ll have sharing the story of how a sharply dressed man swooped her shopping from the ground, compared to some random guy, dressed casually, who just picked up her cereal in the car park.

 

2. Hold your Space and Relax

Don’t fidget and shuffle aimlessly when you’re faced with a negative situation. For example, if your joke falls flat or people are rude, the best reaction is no reaction. Maintain your space to show you’re in control, relax and sustain your Bond-like response.

 

3. Master your Status

There are two types of status – high and low. High status people keep their head up and blaze a trail. Low status people make friends but don’t lead. James Bond types are able to be high status when they get people to do things, and low status when they get people to open up. Your ability to change relies on body language signals. When you’re in high status, sit up and straighten up. When you’re in low status smile, and lower your head & shoulders.

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(Danjaq LLC/Sony/MGM)

 

4. Practice Good Manners – Not Politeness

Politeness conforms to social rules like asking how someone is without actually caring. Good manners, however, is being present and fully focused on someone. James Bond makes a woman drop to their knees simply because he is attentive – making her feel like she is the only girl in the world. Holding open a door, commenting on a small detail, remembering something she’s said – these are all signs of good manners. Remember where attentions goes, energy flows.


 

5. Deliver Compliments Correctly

Surface-level compliments fall flat because women are bombarded with superficial commentary all the time. Acknowledging character is so much better. To set you apart, compliment what people are doing or feeling. Say why you complimented them and add a question to extend conversation.

You really have a playful edge. I don’t see that often – have you always been like that?

 

6. Take Responsibility for the Situation

People want to follow someone who has a purpose and who knows what they’re doing. Someone who takes responsibility makes decisions. So if you see a lady struggling with her bags, make it your responsibility to help and decide to pick them up for her.

 

7. Edge towards the Naughty

Innuendo is one of Bond’s most powerful tools in seduction. If the innuendo is sophisticated, women will flirt back and even if it is cheesy, they will still laugh. Little phrases like “…if you know what I mean” can add a little spark to a conversation. Misinterpreting comments in a sexual way can be fun. Imagine responding to “that’s a hard one” with a sly smile, or when she says she was up all night replying with “I bet you were, you saucy minx!” Add a twinkle in your eye for added titillation.

 

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(Danjaq LLC/Sony/MGM)

8. Surprise them and take Risks

Create a ripple in someone’s day by doing the unexpected – hold your umbrella up over a woman, give a passer-by a flower. Random acts of kindness brighten everyone’s day (yours included!) and create magic moments that are memorable.

 

9. Don’t seek Approval

Maintain delight in what you’re doing because you enjoy it, otherwise you act for the benefit of others and their whims. Remember that the act is in the deed and not the result. So, if you want to compliment her, just do it without an ulterior motive.

 

10. Finally…Be Adventurous and be in Control

There are two ways to achieve both these things. Saying “Yes” leads to adventures and opportunities. Saying “No” leads to purpose because it keeps you focused on your current task. Men often say yes when they mean no – agreeing to go shopping for hours, or they say no when they mean yes – turning down a party. Find the balance between saying yes and no.

Being an international man of mystery isn’t easy, but these ten rules will break down all you need to align yourself with 007. Try practicing one rule at a time until you’re consistent with it – soon it will be second nature and you will be going out there and living the life of James Bond!

You can get more expert advice on increasing your charisma by heading over to Marcus’ blog, where you’ll also be able to download a FREE copy of his popular eBook: “How To Talk To Anybody Without Fear Of Rejection: 21 Secrets To Conversation Mastery”.


10 Power Questions To Get Her To Open Up You

How do you move from being complete strangers, to being deeply connected with someone?

How do you make her feel like she has known you for years, even though you have only been talking for minutes?

In order for her to have a sexual relationship with you, she needs to feel a connection with you.

Most guys ask questions to get to know her, but they don’t really “know her,” and she can feel that. They may ask her about her parents, favorite activities, and job, but they don’t dive in to how she really feels about the topic.  They don’t find out what really makes her special. Every girl knows she is different and special, and she wants a guy to see that. When you are the guy that truly understands her and sees her as a one-of-a-kind girl, then she will fall for you.


Express that you really care about who she is, instead of just trying to get into her pants.

I have below some powerful questions that will help you build a intimate connection with a girl in the least time possible. First let me give you some guidelines.

  • Draw out her emotions and use the word “feel” in your language. For example, “what one thing about your home town makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside?”  I am basically asking her to feel “warm and fuzzy inside” and by doing this, you will see a noticeable shift in her emotions. She will light up.
  • Don’t jump to solve her problems.  When women feel connected to you, they will want to share everything that is going on with their life, including problems.  Don’t try to fix them.  As men, we want to solve the problem, but she really just wants you to listen.
  • At first, she will give you the standard answer to your question, like she gives most guys.  What you need to do is probe more to find out what is really important to her. Good follow up questions are, “Tell me more about that?” or “How do you feel about that?”
  • To truly create trust and  connection, you must be vulnerable and share something revealing about yourself. Take the facade off and let her see who you really are inside. Make sure you yourself have good answers to the questions you ask her because she may ask you the same question in return.

The Questions

Note:  These questions are not intended to be asked consecutively like an interview.  Weave them into the conversation naturally.


1. Imagine you could have your ideal day, what would it look like?  Where would it be, who would it be with, and what would happen on this dream day of yours? This is a great question to elicit values.  Within this one question, she will tell you about the man she wants in her life, what she likes doing, and the people that are important to her.  Let her speak. Then go back and dive into the topics that really made her light up with joy.

2. What one thing are you really proud of that you don’t openly share with people? Many people are proud of certain accomplishments or traits but they don’t share them because they don’t want to seem boastful.  Here you are giving her permission to boast and will find out something interesting about her.

3. Tell me something personal about you that not more than 10 people know? This is a powerful question and after she answers will make her feel so connected with you. After all, she is sharing something she doesn’t share with most people and almost instantly you are in her closest circle of relationships.  Make sure you have some level of rapport or she will not want to answer this one.  You may get traumatic stories about rape, abuse, death etc.  That is okay, just be ready for it and empathize with her.  Remember, you are getting to know her so it is good if she opens up to you in this way. Your personal answer to this question should demonstrate good qualities about you.

4. What is your vision? Women have goals too, not just men. Most guys get so wrapped up in their mission that they forget to listen to the needs of their woman.  Ask her what she wants in life as well.

5. How are you?  No really, how are you? When asked, “How are you?” or “How was your weekend?” most people give the short and generic “good” response.  They didn’t really answer the question. So challenge them to answer the question. Tell them, “No really, how are you?” or “No really, how was your weekend?”  By doing this, you are demonstrating your power and concern for them. You will also learn more about them. Get into the habit of also giving a real answer when asked these questions.  If you don’t have time to dive into their weekend, say “Good morning,” “good afternoon” or “good evening” instead.

6. Tell me something interesting about yourself. My go-to qualification question.

7. Where did you grow up?  What did you like about that?

8. Who has been an influential role model to you?

9. What’s the most memorable book (movie, concert, etc.) you have ever read?

10. What are you passionate about in life right now?

11. Tell me about your family. What are they like?

12. What was the happiest day of your life?

13. What do you think I am like?” You’ll get useful feedback on how you’re doing and how she perceives you.

14. What role would you like to play in a movie?


And if you want us to show you how to meet women personally, click here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call.

Remember, find out who she REALLY is.  Do you have some great questions that have worked well for you?  Put them in the comments down below?