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How To Approach A Girl & Make An Amazing First Impression

I’m currently re-reading “The Way Of The Superior Man” and it’s a MUST read for ALL you guys. It has everything you need to know about the best way to approach a girl… And to start things off:

The BEST FIRST IMPRESSION is made by a man who is Masculine.

One of the biggest takeaways from the book is the idea of male and female polarity. In the book, David Deida says, for there to be romantic attraction, you need the polarity between the feminine and masculine energy.

It’s like magnets. What happens if you try to push two positive sides together? They repel. What happens when you bring opposite sides together? They naturally attract. Let me repeat that in case you missed it.

Opposites (Masculine and Feminine) NATURALLY ATTRACT.

I hope you get how profound that line is because it’s the foundation of all attraction. If you portray masculine qualities, the girl will naturally be attracted.

If a woman is naturally attracted to a masculine presence, then the best way to approach a girl and make a solid first impression is by expressing your masculinity. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be an aggressive alpha male. This just means, when you approach, the woman should feel your masculine presence. This could be the way you look deeply into her eyes, the tonality in your voice, or your positive body language.

Not too long ago, I was helping out one of the students in the Philly boot camp and every time he made an approach; I noticed there was no oomph behind it. He was half-assing the approach. He was approaching with the intention of not losing rather than WINNING. And this wasn’t working.

One of the biggest mistakes I see guys make on boot camps is approaching half ass.

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They’re afraid of rejection, and so they don’t fully commit to the approach. Ironically, this makes it even more likely that they’ll get rejected.

And what do you think the girl thinks? She’s thinking, “Here’s a guy that assumes I’m going to reject him so I probably should. If he doesn’t think I’ll be interested then why should I?

This is where most guys mess up the approach. They lose before the game even started.

After I had this discussion with the student from Philly, this idea became the focus of his next approach. And guess what? He got WAY better results.

Girls were not only stopping but intrigued to hear what he was saying. After all, what type of guy would have the balls to come over and give her a direct and genuine compliment? Right off the bat, she knows this guy is different than most guys.

And the reason why is because he demonstrated one of the most masculine qualities a man can exude. He showed her he’s the type of guy to go after what he wants when a girl sees that from you, she can’t help but be attracted.

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Next time you approach a beautiful girl, you must fully commit to the approach. The best way to approach a girl is to be the type of man that goes for what he wants. Don’t worry about what could go wrong, that’s called pre-analysis when you try to determine the outcome before you take action.

It’s much better to just dive into the interaction, expect things will go well, and then adjust accordingly.

One thing that helps limit these mental gymnastics: “The 3 Second Rule.”

This rule means you approach the girl you want within 3 seconds of seeing her. The reason is that the sooner you take action, the less time you have to overthink it. If you take action right away, the fear of “what if” doesn’t have time to take root.

Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)

Beginners: The best way to approach a girl beginners mission. Use the 3-second rule to approach 3 beautiful girls that you see. These will only count if you approach right away (within 3 seconds of seeing her). Approaching right away actually makes it easier. If you’re not sure what to say, use one of the openers from last week’s email.

  • Warm up opener: “Where is Starbucks?
  • Once warm, go direct: “Hey, real quick, this is completely random, but I had to come over and say you look really cute. My name is…”

Advanced: The best way to approach a girl advanced mission. Use the 3-second rule to approach 10 beautiful girls that you see. These will only count if you approach right away (within 3 seconds of seeing her). On top of that, emphasize the fact that you’re approaching because you WANT her. That feeling of desire will be demonstrated through your body language, eye contact, and tonality. carry through on your approach. Approach with the idea, “I want to say hello to this beautiful girl” not, “Hopefully she doesn’t reject me.”

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Turn A Girl On – Say THIS To Make Her Rip Your Clothes Off

In this video, I share one phrase I used that turned a woman on so much it made her rip my clothes off. I also reveal the psychology behind why this works, and how you can use this to attract women you like. You can turn a girl on instantly with this!

So I want you to start using Command words in your interactions so she sees you as a real man who is clear in communicating what he wants. Now, I’m not saying you should be overly commanding and always tell women  what to do, but women love a guy who is in control and knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to tell her. (Insert video clips of famous men using command words with ladies. Look at craig fergason, russel brand, ryan gosling, etc)

– So stop asking her questions about what she wants to do and instead make statements. For example instead of saying, “hey want to go play pool?” say “let’s go play pool” And instead of “is it okay if we go to another venue?” say “I want to go to another venue let’s go”  or “how about we go get a drink” can become “come on let’s get a drink”; or “where would you like to go next?” can be “I know this great place we can go to next.”

This keeps you in control. And of course if she doesn’t want to do the thing you suggest don’t argue just suggest something else.

– Now I like to use this as a joke sometimes.  If she makes a command like “let’s go shoot some pool” I might say, “we’ll go play pool when I’m ready to play pool” then I’ll wait like 3 seconds and say “Okay I’m ready to play pool” And I’ll say it with a cheeky smirk. This get’s a nice little laugh and allows you to take the lead.

– Now this applies throughout the entire dating interaction all the way to the bedroom. Have you ever had a girl get really aroused when you are fooling around and she says “fuck me now” well most guys respond with an –overly enthusiastic “OK!”. Which isn’t bad but what would be a lot better is to say, “I’ll fuck you when I’m ready to fuck you”. This will really turn her on because it shows her that even in bed you are still in control which allows her to surrender to your pleasure. And as a bonus it creates tons of anticipation because she knows it’s going to happen but she doesn’t know when.

So the point is stay in control of the situation at all times AND instead of asking questions make statements.  A lot of girls on dates don’t want to make too many decisions so just make the choices for her.

But like I said earlier. Allow her to give input. Don’t be a dick.

Also, we have a free training video where I break down hidden camera footage of me going from an approach to an instant date in under 3 minutes. Yup, I show you exactly what I say to create an sexual vibe from the beginning and escalate to a date quickly.

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10 Rules to Charm anyone like James Bond

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When you think of James Bond, a few things will spring to mind – a dapper appearance, relentless charisma, and raw sex appeal. It’s no surprise that millions of men want to emulate the world’s most famous spy. We’ve all looked enviously across the room to that guy with a beautiful woman on his arm, who oozes confidence and sophistication; just like 007.

So if you aspire to be an international man of mystery, here are ten rules of how to charm anyone like James Bond.

The Rules

 1. Dress Impeccably

Dressing well is a gift to others. It shows self-respect; a mark of a man who cares enough about himself to make a concerted effort. It is also a talking point which sets you apart from the crowd. Imagine helping a woman carry her groceries. Now imagine the fun she’ll have sharing the story of how a sharply dressed man swooped her shopping from the ground, compared to some random guy, dressed casually, who just picked up her cereal in the car park.


2. Hold your Space and Relax

Don’t fidget and shuffle aimlessly when you’re faced with a negative situation. For example, if your joke falls flat or people are rude, the best reaction is no reaction. Maintain your space to show you’re in control, relax and sustain your Bond-like response.


3. Master your Status

There are two types of status – high and low. High status people keep their head up and blaze a trail. Low status people make friends but don’t lead. James Bond types are able to be high status when they get people to do things, and low status when they get people to open up. Your ability to change relies on body language signals. When you’re in high status, sit up and straighten up. When you’re in low status smile, and lower your head & shoulders.

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4. Practice Good Manners – Not Politeness

Politeness conforms to social rules like asking how someone is without actually caring. Good manners, however, is being present and fully focused on someone. James Bond makes a woman drop to their knees simply because he is attentive – making her feel like she is the only girl in the world. Holding open a door, commenting on a small detail, remembering something she’s said – these are all signs of good manners. Remember where attentions goes, energy flows.


5. Deliver Compliments Correctly

Surface-level compliments fall flat because women are bombarded with superficial commentary all the time. Acknowledging character is so much better. To set you apart, compliment what people are doing or feeling. Say why you complimented them and add a question to extend conversation.

You really have a playful edge. I don’t see that often – have you always been like that?


6. Take Responsibility for the Situation

People want to follow someone who has a purpose and who knows what they’re doing. Someone who takes responsibility makes decisions. So if you see a lady struggling with her bags, make it your responsibility to help and decide to pick them up for her.


7. Edge towards the Naughty

Innuendo is one of Bond’s most powerful tools in seduction. If the innuendo is sophisticated, women will flirt back and even if it is cheesy, they will still laugh. Little phrases like “…if you know what I mean” can add a little spark to a conversation. Misinterpreting comments in a sexual way can be fun. Imagine responding to “that’s a hard one” with a sly smile, or when she says she was up all night replying with “I bet you were, you saucy minx!” Add a twinkle in your eye for added titillation.


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8. Surprise them and take Risks

Create a ripple in someone’s day by doing the unexpected – hold your umbrella up over a woman, give a passer-by a flower. Random acts of kindness brighten everyone’s day (yours included!) and create magic moments that are memorable.


9. Don’t seek Approval

Maintain delight in what you’re doing because you enjoy it, otherwise you act for the benefit of others and their whims. Remember that the act is in the deed and not the result. So, if you want to compliment her, just do it without an ulterior motive.


10. Finally…Be Adventurous and be in Control

There are two ways to achieve both these things. Saying “Yes” leads to adventures and opportunities. Saying “No” leads to purpose because it keeps you focused on your current task. Men often say yes when they mean no – agreeing to go shopping for hours, or they say no when they mean yes – turning down a party. Find the balance between saying yes and no.

Being an international man of mystery isn’t easy, but these ten rules will break down all you need to align yourself with 007. Try practicing one rule at a time until you’re consistent with it – soon it will be second nature and you will be going out there and living the life of James Bond!

You can get more expert advice on increasing your charisma by heading over to Marcus’ blog, where you’ll also be able to download a FREE copy of his popular eBook: “How To Talk To Anybody Without Fear Of Rejection: 21 Secrets To Conversation Mastery”.

10 Power Questions To Get Her To Open Up You

How do you move from being complete strangers, to being deeply connected with someone?

How do you make her feel like she has known you for years, even though you have only been talking for minutes?

In order for her to have a sexual relationship with you, she needs to feel a connection with you.

Most guys ask questions to get to know her, but they don’t really “know her,” and she can feel that. They may ask her about her parents, favorite activities, and job, but they don’t dive in to how she really feels about the topic.  They don’t find out what really makes her special. Every girl knows she is different and special, and she wants a guy to see that. When you are the guy that truly understands her and sees her as a one-of-a-kind girl, then she will fall for you.

Express that you really care about who she is, instead of just trying to get into her pants.

I have below some powerful questions that will help you build a intimate connection with a girl in the least time possible. First let me give you some guidelines.

  • Draw out her emotions and use the word “feel” in your language. For example, “what one thing about your home town makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside?”  I am basically asking her to feel “warm and fuzzy inside” and by doing this, you will see a noticeable shift in her emotions. She will light up.
  • Don’t jump to solve her problems.  When women feel connected to you, they will want to share everything that is going on with their life, including problems.  Don’t try to fix them.  As men, we want to solve the problem, but she really just wants you to listen.
  • At first, she will give you the standard answer to your question, like she gives most guys.  What you need to do is probe more to find out what is really important to her. Good follow up questions are, “Tell me more about that?” or “How do you feel about that?”
  • To truly create trust and  connection, you must be vulnerable and share something revealing about yourself. Take the facade off and let her see who you really are inside. Make sure you yourself have good answers to the questions you ask her because she may ask you the same question in return.

The Questions

Note:  These questions are not intended to be asked consecutively like an interview.  Weave them into the conversation naturally.

1. Imagine you could have your ideal day, what would it look like?  Where would it be, who would it be with, and what would happen on this dream day of yours? This is a great question to elicit values.  Within this one question, she will tell you about the man she wants in her life, what she likes doing, and the people that are important to her.  Let her speak. Then go back and dive into the topics that really made her light up with joy.

2. What one thing are you really proud of that you don’t openly share with people? Many people are proud of certain accomplishments or traits but they don’t share them because they don’t want to seem boastful.  Here you are giving her permission to boast and will find out something interesting about her.

3. Tell me something personal about you that not more than 10 people know? This is a powerful question and after she answers will make her feel so connected with you. After all, she is sharing something she doesn’t share with most people and almost instantly you are in her closest circle of relationships.  Make sure you have some level of rapport or she will not want to answer this one.  You may get traumatic stories about rape, abuse, death etc.  That is okay, just be ready for it and empathize with her.  Remember, you are getting to know her so it is good if she opens up to you in this way. Your personal answer to this question should demonstrate good qualities about you.

4. What is your vision? Women have goals too, not just men. Most guys get so wrapped up in their mission that they forget to listen to the needs of their woman.  Ask her what she wants in life as well.

5. How are you?  No really, how are you? When asked, “How are you?” or “How was your weekend?” most people give the short and generic “good” response.  They didn’t really answer the question. So challenge them to answer the question. Tell them, “No really, how are you?” or “No really, how was your weekend?”  By doing this, you are demonstrating your power and concern for them. You will also learn more about them. Get into the habit of also giving a real answer when asked these questions.  If you don’t have time to dive into their weekend, say “Good morning,” “good afternoon” or “good evening” instead.

6. Tell me something interesting about yourself. My go-to qualification question.

7. Where did you grow up?  What did you like about that?

8. Who has been an influential role model to you?

9. What’s the most memorable book (movie, concert, etc.) you have ever read?

10. What are you passionate about in life right now?

11. Tell me about your family. What are they like?

12. What was the happiest day of your life?

13. What do you think I am like?” You’ll get useful feedback on how you’re doing and how she perceives you.

14. What role would you like to play in a movie?

And if you want us to show you how to meet women personally, click here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call.

Remember, find out who she REALLY is.  Do you have some great questions that have worked well for you?  Put them in the comments down below?

How To Seduce A Girl

How To Attract the Hottest Girl

Here’s how to Attract the Hottest Girl and specifically – the one every guy wants.

Okay so look, this article is for guys that have high standards but if you apply these principles, you’ll be able to attract nearly any girl you have your eye on.

Do you remember that one super hot girl in your high school that every guy wanted?

All the guys were dying to get into her pants but she wouldn’t let them. She didn’t date just anybody and she didn’t sleep with many guys. Her boyfriend was most likely the highest status guy in the entire school. Or she may have not even dated guys in her school but older men instead. I am also going to bet she didn’t talk to you much either.

If you want to attract the most beautiful and sought-after girl, you need to do what the super hottie from high school did.

How To Attract Any Woman? Be the guy every girl wants, but can’t get.  

When you do this, your status will leap tenfold. Most guys will screw this up because they will want to sleep with as many girls as possible, but if you want the best girl, then you need to be very selective.

You see, women have status too. And if she is the alpha female, she only wants to be with the Alpha Male.  And if you start sleeping with women that are below her, she will perceive you as having lower status than her.

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So here is what you need to do to attract the hottest woman around.

First, exercise SOCIAL PROOF. Social proof is the principle that people tend to follow the tribe.  If the tribe approves of you, then he or she will approve of you also.

So, if a girl notices other women like you, she will almost automatically want you too.  This trigger is the fastest way to short-cut attraction and get women wanting you. Demonstrate that you have lots of women to choose from and she will want you to choose her.

Next you need to exercise EXCLUSIVITY. Flirt with all women but only date and sleep with the BEST.

As we already talked about, High Status Men have high standards with women. They qualify women. Be very selective about whom you sleep with, how you spend your time, and how you spend your money.  High Status Men are very selective about who gets to be in their “Inner Circle.”

Be a challenge for women and don’t sleep with just any girl. People want what they can’t have. And if all the girls can’t get you, they will literally fight over you.  Once she see’s that women are fighting over you, she’ll want to be the “one” who gets you.

When you apply the concepts of Social Proof and Exclusivity, you literally will have women magnetized to you and they will fight for you.

Application: Specific ways to attract a woman…

This strategy applies whenever you enter any social environment or social circle e.g. the gym, work, sports league, school, club etc… Specifically a place where there are lots of women to choose from… e.g. Yoga Class 😉

Be friendly AND flirtatious will all the girls, but don’t date or sleep with any of them right away.  Sometimes it is better to take your time and choose the right one.

After you know which girl you want, then it is time to light some fires.  The key is to not give all of your attention to her right away.  This is the law of supply and demand of Attention.  The more attention you give someone, the less they want it.  On the contrary, the less attention you give someone, the more they want it. (Exclusivity)

So, flirt with all the other women but don’t make any advances.  You job is to get them to want you and talk about you behind your back.  As days and weeks go by, they will start to wonder if you are going to choose any of them and it will literally drive them crazy. (Be careful, you may break some hearts in the process)

Girls love to gossip and talk about guys, so you better believe the girl you want knows that all these girls want you.  She will naturally join in the race to win you over and you will know because she will start making advances on you.  Yes, the most desired woman will start attracting you.

At this point, play it cool and let her come to you stud.

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This way works best when all the girls know each other so they can talk about you, but with skill it can be applied to the bar scene too. If you already have a social circle filled with beautiful women then all you need to do is take them out with you.

But, most guys don’t have a social circle full of women yet so here’s another way.  When you are out, chat up all the girls in the club but don’t make any moves right away.  Then introduce the girls to each other (merge groups) and create your own “instant social circle” full of girls, with you as the hub.  When girls surround you you immediately attract the attention of every girl in the room, including the one you really have your eye on.  Then all you do is get her attention and signal her to come to you. This works so well, it is almost cheating.

Remember, flirt and have fun with ALL girls, however, only sleep with the quality ones.

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