The ONE THING YOU MUST DO when flirting with women…

In today’s video, I’m talking about the ONE THING GUYS leave out when flirting with women. Click the link below to help you master how to flirt with women.

If you leave this part out, she won’t feel special. She’ll feel like you only want her for her looks.

She will see you like all the other guys.

Yup, we’re talking about qualification.

I go into the details in this video.


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Qualifying. It shows that you have standards, shows that you are a challenge, which presupposes that you must have other women in your life, other women at her caliber.

Here’s what to say to qualify: I don’t know anything about you, so I don’t know if we can hang out yet, but tell me one cool thing about you because I’m very picky. What are you, what are you passionate about it? Like what are you?

I imagine she’s gorgeous, knockout, right? The supermodel. But you normally date average looking women. What do you do? You treat her like every other woman.

But, most guys wouldn’t do that. They’d be, wow, yeah, I’ll take you to your favorite restaurant. I’ll take you out anytime. I’m free all week. Most guys would throw themselves at her. Do you want to be like other guys? Just treat her like normal and qualify her. You’re not sure of her and you want to find out if she’s the right fit for you. That shows that you must date women of her caliber, of her quality and of her status. And women want a guy who has higher status than them.

So, if you have the body language and you communicate that you date women of lower status, she’s not going to be interested. No woman wants to date a guy who dates women of lower status.

When you approach her in this relaxed way that I just showed you, it shows that you’re comfortable around her.

You’re comfortable around beautiful high quality women and that you expect them to like you. You wouldn’t approach a girl if you didn’t think she wouldn’t like you. You wouldn’t approach a girl if you expected rejection, you know, a guy wouldn’t do that. It doesn’t make sense, oh, this girl’s not going to like me because I don’t date women like her. She’s way too beautiful for me, but I’m gonna go talk to her anyway.

When you qualify, right away, she’s going to think you are high status. You are telling her, I don’t even know if I want your number because I don’t even know if you’re up to my status.

I don’t even know if you’re worthy enough for me to get your phone number and this isn’t like an egotistical thing like you’re better than her, but it’s just you don’t know.

You don’t know what she is. You don’t know if she can be a great woman, she could be a terrible woman. You don’t know. You’re just trying to find out. In the daytime situation, you don’t have time to find out everything.

Her looks got her foot in the door. That’s why you’re talking to her, but now she has to win you over so that you actually want her phone number.

First. You got to have standards. You’ve got to have what are the non-physical attributes that you’re looking for in a woman, so your homework assignment and write this down: make a list of 10 nonphysical qualities that you want in a woman and be specific.

Don’t just say, I want to grow with a good personality. What does that mean? What kind of personality do you want to grow with? A great sense of humor? What kind of sense of humor?

There are types of humor that you wouldn’t be attracted to. Do you like kind of offbeat, sarcastic humor? Slap-stick? Have five non-physical qualities that are non-negotiable. She must have those five. Then you could have five that you’d like in a woman but are okay with them not having those qualities. Like, I love a girl that can cook, but if she can’t cook, that’s not a deal breaker.

Qualifying does make her like you. It does make her see you as higher status. It gets her to qualify herself to you. Then, therefore, she’s investing in the interaction. She’s working for you. We as humans, we appreciate what we have to work for.

Think about if somebody just gave you a free car here, here’s the keys to a brand new car. It’s yours. You think you’d take care of it as well as if you had to work for two years to save up for that car,

Appreciate what you have to work for. Take care of it more. You value it more. If you don’t make her work for it at all, she’s not going to value it. The number’s not going to be solid. Qualifying is a technique that gets her to like you more, but it’s not just the technique. It isn’t a trick or a gimmick. It should be real. You should actually want to see if there’s something more about her. Qualifying is about finding and connecting to the woman of your dreams.

Now sometimes I get guys that are like, well, I don’t care. I haven’t gotten laid in so long. I just need a girlfriend or I need a date.

I tell them to qualify anyway because if they keep doing it, they keep asking those qualification questions, eventually, they’ll care about the answer. Maybe not the first couple of times, but eventually you will care and meet a girl who just gives you some crap answer and you’ll be like, oh, I don’t like that.

And you’ll leave… when you leave a beautiful woman because she didn’t match your qualifications. That’s a powerful moment. It’s like, Whoa, I have a choice.

Thanks for being here, man! If you want to know more, or you want us to train you – click here.


-Matt Artisan

How To “ACTUALLY” Overcome Approach Anxiety – w/ Josiah Prise

Approach Anxiety….

Almost every single man on this planet has experienced this nervousness around approaching an attractive woman.

Most guys will actually never overcome this fear, and they’ll only approach a few women in their entire lifetime while sober. However, the men that are able to overcome approach anxiety, are halfway there to a life filled with the women of their choosing.

So in this video, Josiah Prise breaks down a simple way to help you overcome Approach Anxiety. Josiah is a lead trainer with The Attractive Man.

Watch this video…

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12 Fast Ways To Boost Your Confidence With Girls

Bottom Line: All confidence is acquired and developed. No one is born with confidence.

The lack of confidence stems from fear.

Fear stops men from approaching beautiful women. Fear stops men from going for the kiss. Fear stops men from taking charge when they know they should.

Want to explode your confidence with women? Below are 12 great ways.

Note: Here’s a 10 Day Plan to increase confidence while conquering fear.

12. Get good at sex

Imagine you had the ability to satisfy any girl in bed. You’d hardly fear approaching women because you know you’d rock her world in bed.
Most guys have NO IDEA what they’re doing in the bedroom… And so most women end up having a mediocre sex-life.

But what they really want is a guy that knows exactly how to please women in bed.  So arm yourself with techniques for amazing sex.

11. Lift Heavy Weights

This will boost your confidence two-fold.

First of all, testosterone is released when you lift heavy weights. And with more testosterone flowing through your system, you’ll have more drive to push through fear.

Secondly, the stronger you are – the more confident you’ll feel. As men we tend to correlate strength with status. Our brains our constantly comparing and sizing up the other men around.

Start lifting heavy.

10. Learn how to fight

Here’s the deal: Women don’t sleep with cowards. Women sleep with men that make them feel safe.

Their unconscious sex drive revolves around safety and they prefer the man best able to protect them from danger. If a woman knows you can fight, she’ll naturally feel much more attracted to you.

Plus, knowing you can defend yourself will skyrocket your confidence because people will no longer intimidate you.

9. Dress like a Winner

Don’t you feel like a stud every time you put on well fitted suit?

That’s because whenever you step into a high-class outfit, you get a shot of Seratonin which is a happy chemical associated with status.

In other words, you can trick your body into feeling high status just by looking the part. So dress like you are super successful and you’ll feel much more powerful.

8. Stop listening to sabotaging music

If you are constantly listening to songs that put girls on a pedestal, then you too will put girls “above” you.

Your unconscious mind is powerful. You are influenced by the ideas you expose yourself to.

So pay attention to what music you listen to. Are the lyrics talking about “girls cheating”, “not having money”, or “women being out of your league”? Change it.

>>> Get the full course on Confidence here.

7. Master the Victory Pose

Science has proven that your posture affects the way you feel and your level of confidence.

Studies show that by posing your body in a way that emulates power, your testosterone increases and your stress hormones will decrease.

For example, stand up tall with your head up and your shoulders back, and notice how you feel. After a couple minutes of being in this pose, you’ll feel more confident.

It is important you master powerful body language.

People that are timid tend to make themselves smaller. They hunch over, cross their arms, look down, and keep their feet together. Don’t do this.

Confident and powerful people have an open body, head up, eyes straight ahead, and a straight back.

*Set a reminder in your phone to check your posture every day.*

6. Have Selective Memory

Guys that lack confidence tend to dwell on past failures. They hardly ever dwell on their past successes.

What do you dwell on?

From this point on, forget your failures and focus on all of your successes.

5. Conquer your insecurities.

What is stopping you from having “10” level confidence? What are you ashamed of?

Is it a lack of sexual experience? Is it a lack of money? Is it the way you look? Is it your height?

Whatever it is, conquer it.

If you feel your height is preventing you from getting the girl, find evidence of short men dating beautiful women.

If you are ashamed of the way you look – get in shape, buy better clothes, groom yourself and most importantly, realize that looks are only a small fraction of attraction.

If the girl of your dreams is a “10” but you see yourself as a “7”, then it won’t work between you two. You have to see yourself as a “10”, starting today.

4. Visualize success

Word Champion Athletes visualize success. Do you?

This is a secret weapon for sports psychologists because sometimes you have to see it inside your mind before you can do it in real life.

Studies show that the same neurons are activated in the brain when one visualizes an activity as opposed to actually doing the activity.

Are you afraid of approaching beautiful women? Take a few minutes every day to see yourself CONFIDENTLY approaching and flirting with women.

3. Get Centered

Whenever you feel rattled, take a second to get grounded and centered. Here’s what you do.

Breathe. Take a few deep and long breaths. Make sure you have a long exhale because the exhalation is when your body relaxes. Your exhale should be for at least 5 seconds.

Bring your thoughts back to the moment. Stop worrying about what she will say. Stop worrying if she has a boyfriend. Stop worrying if she will like you. Focus your thoughts on what is happening in the present moment.

>>> Get the full course on Confidence here.

2. Develop Jedi-like MENTAL STRENGTH

With a strong mind, you can actually TURN OFF FEAR.

Yes, recent scientific studies show that certain mindfulness exercises help control our fear center of the brain (amygdala).

Have you noticed how Buddhists monks are always so calm and carefree? That’s because they have the mental strength to not let anything faze them.

Here’s an example of how to strengthen your mind:
Sit back, relax, and close your eyes. Focus only on your breathing and count to 100 breaths. Every time you lose track or another thought enters your mind, start over. Doing this as a daily meditation will give you supreme mental strength.

We give you supreme mental toughness inside “Balls of Steel.”

1. Destroy Fear through Action

At some point, YOU HAVE TO JUST DO IT!  Real transformation happens when you push out of your comfort zone.

Every time you approach a beautiful woman when you are scared, you cultivate courage and confidence.

Every time you do something that scares you, your comfort zone expands and what once was difficult, becomes easy.

Start doing easy approaches like asking for directions. Then build up to bolder approaches. This is called progressive desensitization and our Academy program will walk you through this process.

In the academy, we’ll get your approach anxiety handled for good. Plus, you’ll have the ability to spark sexual attraction within seconds of talking to her. Check out The Academy here.

There you have it… the truth about confidence.

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how to touch a girl to make her want you

How To Touch A Girl in a Way That Makes Her Feel Comfortable

How to Touch a Girl

Touching releases the chemical Oxytocin, a powerful bonding hormone that makes her feel connected and trust you. A woman must be comfortable with your touch in order for her to sleep with you. Learning how to touch a girl to make her want you is essential! My name is Matt Artisan and here are 7 Ways To Touch A Girl To Make Her Want You!

Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level!

Before I get into the demonstrations. There are 3 crucial tips you must know.

3 Touching Tips to keep in mind:

#1. Always Make Sure She is Comfortable 

Never do anything she’s not comfortable with. If she doesn’t seem comfortable then stop right away. But don’t be too afraid either. Now there is definitely a time for a gentle touch but there’s also a time to use stronger touch so she can get turned on by your masculinity. (Never be agressive though!)

I can just see all the comments now… “So you are saying to push her and force yourself on her?” NO numbnuts! I’m saying don’t be afraid to shake her hand like a man, women hate a limp fish. Don’t be afraid to give her a good bear hug! Most guys do the lame “pat on the back.”  

Be powerful without overpowering her. Be dominant, without being domineering.

#2. Break The Touch Barrier – Don’t wait too long

Break the touch barrier sooner than later. If you wait too long, then that first touch will seem awkward and weird. So make sure to touch her when you first meet.

For example: During the day usually, a handshake, and/or a kiss on the cheek might be appropriate. At a bar, you might give her a high-five or put your arm around her. On a date, you would give her a hug when you greet her.

#3. Don’t Let It Linger:

Make sure to take it away at first. Touching releases the bonding hormone Oxytocin, and that’s why it feels good. But if you let it linger, that feel good vibe will soon turn into a creepy one.

A good rule to keep in mind in advancing your touch is: “Two Steps Forward, One Step Back”

Remember that if you keep putting on the gas, then she will eventually put on the brakes.


  1. Put your arm around her and tell her you like her, and then turning away from her.
  2. Kissing her and ending the tongue wrestling before she does and saying, “That’s all you get, no more for you.”
  3. “I would so throw you against the wall and have my way with you right now. Too bad there are all these people here.” 

….Okay now let’s get to the 7 ways to touch her:

7 Ways To Touch A Girl To Make Her Want You

  1. Conversation

    Using your hands as you talk and touching her arm, shoulder or hand to emphasize a point. Example: “And you won’t believe what happened next” as you touch her arm for emphasis. Touch her waist, which is a very sensual spot of her body, as you lean in to tell her something.

  2. Inquiring

    Touch her hair, nails, or something she’s wearing and make a comment about it.  Example: “Wow those are some interesting nailsas you hold her hands and examine them. Complementing her figure works as well, just like how women use “have you been working out?” as an excuse to touch your biceps. You can say the same line as you touch her abs.Wow, you are so fit” “Flex your arm Make sure she has a flat stomach before you do this. Pinching her belly flab won’t be such a turn on.

  3. Leading

    While leading her from one place to the next you can hold her hand, go arm-in-arm or place your hand on her lower back.

  4. Correcting

    Fix something about her like her clothing, hair or posture. Example:Hold on let me fix your shirt. Okay there, much better.

  5. Playful

    If you are at a bar or on a date you can play a Fun game like thumb wrestling or slap hands

  6. Rewarding

    When she does or says something you like, simply reward her with a hug, high-five or kiss. Example: “Nice, high-five!”

  7. Direct

    Where she just knows that you are really attracted to her so you make your move. You typically need a higher level of attraction and compliance for this to work.

    There you have it, 7 ways to touch more without being creepy so you can release some Oxytocin, deepen your connection and lead things to a more intimate level!


Now if you just want to be better with women we created a “Free Escalation Cheat Sheet” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sensual tension, turn a girl on, and the relationship to a more intimate level.

It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sensual – “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.

This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl but it’s going nowhere.

Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level!

And if you want us to personally show you how to meet women, click here for a free 1-on-1 breakthrough call.

I’m out! Cheers!