Do Girls Want You To Shut Up – Or Keep Talking? (How To Talk To Girls)

Most guys have NO IDEA how to talk to girls.

Here is the deal:  If she can predict what you are about to say, then her brain will shut off in an effort to be efficient.  

In other words… If you are a typical, boring, and predictable guy,  she will dismiss you.

And that is a big problem because you can’t seduce a woman if she is not listening to you.

Want to know why the Loud and Obnoxious ASSHOLE gets the girl?  Because he keeps her on her toes.  He is unpredictable. He is exciting.

You see, if you talk like every other guy, if your opinions are like every other guy, if you dress like every other guy… then she will just see you as another guy.


BORING!

Here’s the Magic Key to success with women:  Do the opposite of what the majority of guys do.

This applies to your conversations also.  We don’t want to have the same boring conversations.  We like excitement, drama, surprise endings,  and action.

So, the most obvious way to spice up your conversations is to have an interesting life so you have compelling stories. Yes, do that.

However, if you know what you are doing, you can make ANYTHING interesting.

Let me explain what I mean.

When conversing, it is not what you say, but HOW you say it.  You can be talking about the paint on the wall (possibly the most boring topic ever) but depending on how you say it, she will either be bored out of her mind, or hooked like a baby hearing music for the first time.

So how do you talk to girls in a way that isn’t BORING?

Use Pattern Interrupts.

Pattern Interrupts are things that jolt you out of your current mindless state. For example, let’s say as you are here reading this, a SHOTGUN FIRES inside the room!!

Would you stay in a carefree and relaxed attitude or would you perk up with alertness and fear?

That is a pattern interrupt.  It gives you a sudden shift in your emotional state.  There are a few ways to do this during your interactions with women.

1.  Use Vocal Variety

At a basic level, this means to not speak like a robot.  Vary your volume, your tone, and the pace of your words to captivate your listener.

In general,  it is best to speak louder because it shows confidence and power. Right now, start the habit of speaking about 20% louder. Speaking slower and softer has its time too, especially when you are getting intimate with a woman.

While you speak, emphasize some words and then deemphasize others.  This keeps your listener paying attention.  Speed up, slow down… change it up.


2.  Use Emotional Power Phrases

Words have the power to trigger emotion… some more than others.  So when speaking, use words that stimulate emotions.

For example,  what phrase triggers your emotion more –

– fish  vs  great white shark?

– a tree fell on my house  vs  A monstrous three-story tree came crashing down on my house

– I want to kiss you  vs  I want to pin you against the wall and kiss you all over your body

What you want to do is shock their emotional system just a bit.  Some people do this by being vulgar and offensive, however, that is not necessary.

If you want to hear an example of how to do this, listen to Dane Cook. He is not the funniest comedian, however his words are strong and in your face. He almost commands that you pay attention to him.

Use Pattern Interrupts.

Remember, stand out and be bold. You got this.

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Showing Too Much Interest Will Blow It

You may know that I advocate being very direct with women.

Here is the deal. If by being direct, you show too much interest right away, you will lose her. You see, women want a man to desire them, however, that desire must be earned.


In other words, if you go up to a girl and are immediately amazed by her when you don’t know anything about her, she will dismiss you completely.

So in this video, I go over some practical ways to show your interest, the right way.

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How To Flirt To Make Her Want You

Alright, I am going to give you a rundown on how to flirt.

Many guys make the mistake of thinking flirting is all about making her laugh.  Laughter is great, however, do it the wrong way and you will be sent straight to the friend zone.


The Rules

Here are the basic rules and then I will give you some examples later down.

1. Have FUN For Yourself – When you are with a girl, you should be flirting because it is fun FOR YOU.  You don’t flirt because you want to please her.  You flirt because you enjoy it… as a result, she will have a good time and she will want you more.

2. No Self Deprecating Humor – This can be funny and you see comedians doing it all the time, but it is not attractive when someone makes fun of themselves. This is one of the Biggest Mistakes guys make.  They make her laugh but at the expense of their own attractiveness and value.

3. Be slightly Cocky – Highly Attractive Flirting is done through the right combination of being Cocky and Funny.  Too much “funny” and she won’t take you seriously.  Plus, she will start to see you as a clown.  Too much “cocky” and you will look like an arrogant asshole.


4. No Value TAKING – In other words, don’t make fun of her just so you will make yourself look better.  Many “guru’s” teach this but it often doesn’t work and it is not a respectable behavior.

5. Flip The Script – In general, your flirting should be in the frame of, “She is trying to seduce YOU”  (You’ll see some examples later)

6. No Approval Seeking – When you say something flirtatious or intimate, don’t wait for her reaction to see if “she liked it.” Just keep doing what you were doing, knowing that she loved it.

7. How You Say It Is Everything – It really doesn’t matter what you say. What matters is how you say it! When flirting, have a slight smile (like you have a secret) when you speak.  This shows her you are having fun and that look is very sexy to women.

8. Body Language –  Women love guys that are fun, dominant and confident. And these attributes are all sub communicated through your body language…..not your words. To help perfect your body language, take one of our advanced training courses.

Examples on How To Flirt

Here are some fun “games” or “frames” to use when flirting. Some of them may seem out there, but just think about in what situation you can use it.

– If you can take me anywhere on a date where would it be?

– What’s up punk, do you want to fight?  I’d so take you.  I’d tickle you until you pee your pants.

– On our first date, make sure there is ice cream involved.  Cookies and cream preferably.

– Will you do me a favor?  Follow me around and when girls start trying to pick me up, jump in like a cute cat ninja and shoo them away.

– You look like you’re trouble.

– Did you save this seat for me?

– Stop trying to undress me with your eyes.

– I’m not that kind of guy, okay? Geez

– Where’s your off button? Because I really want to push it right now.


– That’s it, we are getting a divorce. You can take the kids and I will take the lake house with the private helicopter.  I will call you later for some break up sex.

There you go… Have fun.

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How To Touch A Girl in a Way That Makes Her Feel Comfortable

How to Touch a Girl

Touching releases the chemical Oxytocin, a powerful bonding hormone that makes her feel connected and trust you. A woman must be comfortable with your touch in order for her to sleep with you. Learning how to touch a girl to make her want you is essential! My name is Matt Artisan and here are 7 Ways To Touch A Girl To Make Her Want You!

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Before I get into the demonstrations. There are 3 crucial tips you must know.

3 Touching Tips to keep in mind:

#1. Always Make Sure She is Comfortable 

Never do anything she’s not comfortable with. If she doesn’t seem comfortable then stop right away. But don’t be too afraid either. Now there is definitely a time for a gentle touch but there’s also a time to use stronger touch so she can get turned on by your masculinity. (Never be agressive though!)

I can just see all the comments now… “So you are saying to push her and force yourself on her?” NO numbnuts! I’m saying don’t be afraid to shake her hand like a man, women hate a limp fish. Don’t be afraid to give her a good bear hug! Most guys do the lame “pat on the back.”  

Be powerful without overpowering her. Be dominant, without being domineering.

#2. Break The Touch Barrier – Don’t wait too long

Break the touch barrier sooner than later. If you wait too long, then that first touch will seem awkward and weird. So make sure to touch her when you first meet.

For example: During the day usually, a handshake, and/or a kiss on the cheek might be appropriate. At a bar, you might give her a high-five or put your arm around her. On a date, you would give her a hug when you greet her.

#3. Don’t Let It Linger:

Make sure to take it away at first. Touching releases the bonding hormone Oxytocin, and that’s why it feels good. But if you let it linger, that feel good vibe will soon turn into a creepy one.

A good rule to keep in mind in advancing your touch is: “Two Steps Forward, One Step Back”

Remember that if you keep putting on the gas, then she will eventually put on the brakes.

Examples:

  1. Put your arm around her and tell her you like her, and then turning away from her.
  2. Kissing her and ending the tongue wrestling before she does and saying, “That’s all you get, no more for you.”
  3. “I would so throw you against the wall and have my way with you right now. Too bad there are all these people here.” 

….Okay now let’s get to the 7 ways to touch her:


7 Ways To Touch A Girl To Make Her Want You

  1. Conversation

    Using your hands as you talk and touching her arm, shoulder or hand to emphasize a point. Example: “And you won’t believe what happened next” as you touch her arm for emphasis. Touch her waist, which is a very sensual spot of her body, as you lean in to tell her something.

  2. Inquiring

    Touch her hair, nails, or something she’s wearing and make a comment about it.  Example: “Wow those are some interesting nailsas you hold her hands and examine them. Complementing her figure works as well, just like how women use “have you been working out?” as an excuse to touch your biceps. You can say the same line as you touch her abs.Wow, you are so fit” “Flex your arm Make sure she has a flat stomach before you do this. Pinching her belly flab won’t be such a turn on.

  3. Leading

    While leading her from one place to the next you can hold her hand, go arm-in-arm or place your hand on her lower back.

  4. Correcting

    Fix something about her like her clothing, hair or posture. Example:Hold on let me fix your shirt. Okay there, much better.

  5. Playful

    If you are at a bar or on a date you can play a Fun game like thumb wrestling or slap hands

  6. Rewarding

    When she does or says something you like, simply reward her with a hug, high-five or kiss. Example: “Nice, high-five!”

  7. Direct

    Where she just knows that you are really attracted to her so you make your move. You typically need a higher level of attraction and compliance for this to work.

    There you have it, 7 ways to touch more without being creepy so you can release some Oxytocin, deepen your connection and lead things to a more intimate level!

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Now if you just want to be better with women we created a “Free Escalation Cheat Sheet” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sensual tension, turn a girl on, and the relationship to a more intimate level.

It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sensual – “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.

This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl but it’s going nowhere.

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