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How To Deal With Flaky Girls (Picking Up Girls In Colombia)

I was recently coaching a student in Colombia, and I decided to shoot a vlog while I was there. Then I noticed there were some flaky girls around. Despite that, I went in and approached hot girls anyway!

Colombia is one of my favorite places to go… mainly because the women are so beautiful.

However, they are also some of the flakiest girls around the world, so in this vlog, I’ll reveal how to deal with flaky girls.

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Here’s What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her…

Now that you have her number, do you know THE BEST WAY to text her and get a date?

In this video, Nicole reveals how girls actually want you to ask them out on a date.

She’ll also reveal some huge mistakes guys make when it comes to texting.

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What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her

Hey, it’s Nicole with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to reveal how a girl ACTUALLY wants you to text her and ask her out.  I’m going to be telling you all the do’s and don’ts of texting a girl those first few times after you’ve gotten her number to make sure you don’t send her running away and so you can actually get a date fast.

I’m gonna show you some real-life examples of texts I’ve received and then break them down for you based on the good, AND the bad. Then at the very end, I’ll tell you the absolute BEST way to secure a date!


What Kind of Texts Do Girls HATE?!

I’m gonna show you a few texts that were big fails, so you don’t make the same mistake…

#3. The drunk text/the pointless text

This guy did both, All in one text. A guy’s FIRST text to me was at 4 in the morning. On a Sunday night. And it was nonsense. Just an emoji next to a random letter. Not only was this text completely pointless, but it also woke me up at 4 in the morning. Meaningless texts that say nothing are a waste of everyone’s time and make you seem like you’re not very interesting.

#2. The texts that will get you destroyed in her group texts

These can include anything from excessive emoji/meme usage (are you 12?!) to horrible grammar/spelling, to inappropriate messages or pictures. If your first text to girl includes bad spelling and 15 emojis, it doesn’t matter if you told her she’s the most gorgeous girl in the history of the earth, she’s going to think you’re an idiot.

That might be harsh, but it’s true. And inappropriate texts are not ok when trying to get the first date. You’re going to make her feel creeped out, and she’s not going to give you the time of day. It’s the biggest turn-off. No girl wants this. Look, it’s great you think we’re attractive! And we love to hear it! But just straight up asking for pics from someone that you literally met yesterday comes across as super creepy.

Pro tip: If you really want to see us that bad, make actual plans to do so!

#1. The noncommittal text

If you want to see the biggest collective eye-roll from any group of girls, ask them how they feel about a guy sending the “we should hang out sometime” text.

“We should hang out sometime” translates to “I’m going to make as little effort as possible.” and isn’t going to lead to a date unless that girl is REALLY desperate. Plan a freaking date! A lot of guys seem to have this idea that if you call it a “date” and actually suggest a day and time, it’s suddenly something serious. But any normal girl does NOT think that you’re imagining wedding bells because you called it a date.

If you can’t say anything more than “let’s hang out sometime” you’re going to lose her interest immediately. And let’s face it, there’s always the slight possibility that she may be just gave out her number to be nice. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she was just super drunk, or maybe she’s not in a place where she wants to date anyone. Being straightforward with your intentions will help weed those types of girls out, so you’re not wasting your time with someone who’s gonna flake anyway.

What Kind Of Texts Do Girls LOVE?!

Moving on to the things that WILL get you a date…

 #3. Unique compliments

It’s amazing how many guys actually forget to flirt via text or don’t know how to do it properly. Before asking her out, it can be a great buffer to send a few flirty texts. You can always send something a little cheesy like “it was great to meet you, I can’t wait to see your pretty face again” or “you’re so beautiful” but, while those are nice and flattering, it sounds like a cookie cutter compliment.

If there’s something specific about us that you liked or ANYthing we did or said that you thought was cute, tell us! Girls eat that shit up. (A guy pointed out how he thought I had a cute sneeze. No one is cute when they sneeze unless you’re a baby panda, but the fact that he said this was really endearing and cute.)

A unique comment or compliment about THAT girl specifically is not only a surefire way to let her know you’re interested, but it also shows that you paid attention to something other than her boobs when you met her, and that really matters!

#2. Actual plans

Okay, the flirting is going well, and you want to ask her out. Even if you left your balls at home that day and can’t bring yourself to call it a date, take control and make real plans with her. (A guy was asking me to drinks where he suggested a location and two-day options. He even picked a place close to me because he remembered I lived on the opposite side of town from him. Good stuff.)

Girls want a guy who is confident and is able to make decisions. If you’re wishy-washy or “I dunno, it’s up to you” then it seems like you’re not confident or not even that interested. Girls love a guy who can take charge and pursue them. Setting the day and location also gives you the freedom to choose a place where you’re in your own element and comfortable.

#1. What’s the number one way to stand outCALL THE GIRL!

I feel like this should come up in a big giant text when I say this!

So I’ve shown you a couple examples of guys who did everything right via text…great flirting, great decision making… but spoiler alert. I didn’t go out with any of them. Why may you ask? They lost out to the one guy who actually had the balls to CALL me to ask me out.

It wasn’t a long conversation; it was very concise “Hey, I really enjoyed meeting you this weekend and would like to see you again. Can I take you out tomorrow night?” He then told me there was a new restaurant he’d been wanting to try, so we should go there. I said yes in a heartbeat!

He displayed a level of confidence and courage that no one else did, without even having to come up with witty flirtatious texts and that was so incredibly attractive! Calling someone is nerve-wracking. Everyone knows that. But even if you hate talking on the phone, and even if SHE hates talking on the phone, or even if you barely had the chance to talk to her when you got her number, a quick call to set up a date will make you seem like you have your shit together and you will stand out every time.

Not all girls will actually answer the phone, especially if you didn’t get a chance to talk much when you met. But that’s okay! It’s totally fine to shoot her a text afterwards because it’s more about the ACT of you calling than the actual phone conversation itself. If she doesn’t answer, texting her after to say why you were calling is totally cool.

That gives her the option to return your call or just text back. If she doesn’t respond then, you’ll know that maybe she’s just not that into you.

Getting a girl’s number is just the first step. If you follow these do’s and don’ts, you’re sure to score an awesome date!

To help you out with what you need to say, I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

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How To Use Social Media To Get Dates

Is having her social media BETTER than getting her number? Are your random messages or comments on Facebook helping you get the girl? Can you meet hot chicks on Instagram even if you’re not Dan Bilzerian? In this video, I’ll show you how to use social media to get dates!



How To Use Social Media To Get Dates

Facebook, Instagram, Snap chat, Twitter, Badooo… the list goes on and on! Can you REALLY use social media to your advantage to get more dates and make women like you?

Today’s topic is all about how to use social media to get more dates.  

Phone Number VS Social Media

Well, they’re pretty much one in the same nowadays since the popular Social Media platforms Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat all have messaging capabilities.

The benefit of Social Media is that she can see your pictures. That’s right – she can remember how damn sexy you are! She can clearly see your attractive lifestyle (yep, you better show off that Ferrari in every picture… just kidding, don’t do that, that’s just douchey.)

Also, when she sees your embarrassing frat party pics she’ll see that you have friends, so she can safely assume you are not a serial killer or leader of an elite terrorist organization.

Social media can actually be better than a phone number as long as you have a pimped out page. So make sure to post cool pics regularly. Avoid boring pics of that disgusting cheeseburger you just ate, you animal killer you. (Actually, burgers are great, just don’t post snaps of them, okay?)

Social Media Is Also A Great Way To Stay On The Girl’s Radar

She can see what you are up to and get super jealous that you were front row at Justin Beiber. Or that you went to the movies with another girl instead of her.

Whereas through SMS if you want to stay in her mind you have to send her an individual text and only she gets it. It’s a one-off communication and who has time for that these days?

On social media when you post something hundreds even thousands of girls can see it. That’s freakin’ awesome!

Most Girls are also more likely to give out their social media profile over there phone number because they know they can easily block you if you end up being a weird creepy psychopath who sends her a bunch of dick pics. (Stop doing that!) Plus she probably wants more followers so she can pump up her ego and feel better about herself.


You Can Even Use Social Media As A Way To Approach Girls In Clubs

Just say, “Snapchat!” and then ask them for their snap. Every time you post something you can check to see who viewed it. When you see a particular girl has been viewing all of your snaps then send her a message. There’s a great chance she’ll be willing to meet you since she’s always checking out your snaps and is basically your fan.

I personally use Snap chat as a way to interject more fun into the interaction. I just whip out my phone and say let’s take a snap and command everyone in the group to do a silly pose. This is fun and women are likely to comply with a snap that only lasts 24hrs compared to Facebook – which lasts an eternity. And then you have a perfect reason to add her to Snap chat and then just message her later.   

Social Media Can Also Make Women Feel More Connected To You

Think about it, when she’s following you on Social Media, she’ll have more sense of who you are and what you are all about because she’s already seen a bunch of your pics, videos, and posts. She’ll actually feel more comfortable meeting you and she’ll likely feel like she has known you for a while unless you have tons of creepy pics.

I once met a girl and they didn’t speak to her for 4 years because I had a girlfriend at that time. After I broke up with my girlfriend, I sent the girl a message on Facebook and we met up. She told me she’d been following me on Facebook – so she knew all about my travels and adventures for the last 4 years bc she saw my posts. Now if I only had her number, I doubt she would have even remembered me. She probably wouldn’t have been willing to meet up again.

Social Media Is Great Social Proof

How else can you use social media? Well if you have an active profile and a lot of follows then it’s great for social proof. Social proof is when someone’s thoughts and actions become influenced by the thoughts and actions of the masses.

Which basically means if a girl sees that you have a lot of fans and followers who think you’re cool, she will be influenced by the crowd and will also think you’re cool.

As a reminder, this is not about how you build up your Instagram and Facebook page. There are plenty of other resources and videos for that. A reasonable goal is to reach 10 million followers and then you’ll always be surrounded by hot Instagram models that want to be Instagram famous.

What about meeting girls on Social Media?

Well if you have an awesome profile full of traveling, adventure, cool people, professional pictures, etc. then it’s possible that random women will add you and actually message you first. Now if you’re not at that stage of the game yet should you message them?

Well here’s the deal. It doesn’t hurt to randomly message or add a girl out of the blue. However, if you actually want to meet girls online then I recommend a dating app like Tinder or Bumble because those girls are more likely to be single and are actively looking for a date. You just have better odds and it’s just a better way to utilize your time.

By the way, have you ever been in that situation where you see a beautiful girl but you don’t know what to say?

Well, that’s why I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.

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How To Get A Girls Number: 3 Best Ways

You’ve approached the girl, she seems into it, and now you don’t know how to get a girls number from her. Suddenly you start to get nervous. Is it because you don’t know the best approach? Should you try to make her laugh? Just be straightforward about it?

What’s the best way to go for it, so she’s more likely to say yes? Here’s how to get a girls number the right way!


How To Get A Girls Number In 3 Simple Ways

#1 Don’t ask, Command.

The usual blunder…

Most guys ask for her number. Big mistake. That shows a lack of confidence. When you ask, it presupposes the fact that you aren’t sure if she likes you. It tells her that you aren’t sure if she actually wants to give you her number. When you’re being insecure in front of her – that’s going to be a turn-off.


So instead of asking “So…can, I get your number?” display your confidence and assertiveness. Rephrase it as a command like Here, put your number on my phone. That way, you’ll come off as an Alpha male. Not showing any signs of weakness and staying in control.

#2 Make it fun and exciting

Try and get a giggle out of her while you get her number.


What I like to do is this: I tell her: Hey let me see your phone, I’m going to give you my number. Then I go to her SMS app, and I send myself a text: “Hey Matt you are so hot ;)” And sign her name. I’ll just wait a few minutes and text her “aww thanks you are so sweet,” and she will crack up. This is fun, flirty and it works great.

The best part about this is she’s very unlikely to object to you putting your number on her phone. It seems harmless, and she can always just not text you if she doesn’t want to. But presto! You just got her number through the text.


Another funny move is to save your number in her phone and just call your phone, so you have her number. Here I’ll give you my number… and I’ll just call myself, so you have mine.

But actually, pick up the call and use this opportunity to do a funny role play like: “Oh hey mom? Hey, I just met this girl she’s kinda cute, but she’s kind of a dork. I might give her a chance though, we’ll see.”

#3 Go for it like a Boss

If all of this seems too gimmicky or silly for you, here’s how to get a girl’s number like a boss.

How you’re going to do it: BE THE BOSS

Say something like, “You seem cool. Here, you can put your number on my phone.” and remember to stand beside her, so you get in more touching. That way, you’re already breaking the touch barrier even before you get her number.

So try that out, man. And remember to be assertive. Asking for permission to have her number shows uncertainty and you should assume that she likes you, unless she communicates otherwise.

Now if you just want to be better with women, we created a “Free Escalation Cheat Sheet” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sensual tension, turn a girl on, and escalate the relationship to the next level.

It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sensual– “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.

This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl, but it’s going nowhere.

Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level! 

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How To Get A Girls Number: Know Her Logistics

It’s not all about how to get a girls number. You’d have to know her logistics, too. How else can you go for “Day 2” and close the deal? You might never get to see her again.

Here’s the story:

Who wants to come with me to switch IDs?” Fortunately, it was the most beautiful one in the group that said, “I will!”

The bar I was at last weekend in NYC had foosball where you had to exchange your ID for the ball. As we walk over to the bar for me to get my ID back and for her to swap hers, I whisper in her ear, “I’m glad you’re the one that came. You’re the one I wanted.” As her eyes lit up, I put my arms around her waist and guided her through the crowd (as a masculine man always leads).

While we waited at the bar, I took the opportunity to spike some attraction and getting her comfortable with my touch.

Fast forward 30 minutes later, after playing some foosball and grabbing a drink with her friends, I asked her if she had a chance to explore the restaurant upstairs. Why? Because I wanted to get her alone where I can escalate to the kiss and get to know her without the interruptions or distractions of her friends.

As we’re talking and getting to know each other, I feel it’s time to go in for a kiss. So I do. For the rest of the night, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Things are going perfectly! We’re spending all night together, going back and forth and the chemistry is electric.

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“I definitely have to see her again.” I thought.

After spending all night with a beautiful girl, I realized I made one of the biggest mistakes… I didn’t get her logistics. Waking up the next day, I thought for sure I’m going to make things happen with this girl. After some texting back and forth to set up a date, I found out she lives two hours away…

Instead of spending the night meeting girls who live near me, I spent the night with a girl I’m never going to see again.

Getting a girl to drive 5 minutes to meet up for coffee is easy. Trying to convince a girl to drive 2 hours for that same coffee is difficult; no matter how much she loves pumpkin spiced lattes from Starbucks.

In case you don’t know, one of the most important aspects of meeting women and dating isn’t just how to get a girls number but getting a girl’s logistics.

What are logistics?

Getting her logistics is when you ask the girl questions to figure out what her situation is. The purpose of this is to figure out the likelihood of steering the interaction where you want it to go.

For example, does she live 10 minutes away or 2 hours? That little bit of information would’ve told me, “Alright, I can set up a date for tomorrow, or I need to push to make things happen tonight.”

Whenever and wherever you meet a girl, you need to figure out the girl’s logistics.  

For this email, I’ll focus on day time logistics. For those interested to learn more and how to apply it to the night time, here’s a previous blog I wrote: Night Time Logistics.

As I said before, logistics is figuring out what you need to know to set up an instant date, bring her home, set up a date later this week or any other result you want.

Say you see a beautiful girl on the streets and walk over to say hello. One of the most important bits of information you need to know is “How much time will you have with her?

Let me ask if this ever happened to you. You approach a girl, things are going well, and then suddenly she says she has to go because she’s late to meet friends. Then you’re left fumbling at the last minute, trying to figure out how to get a girls number.

What mistake did you make in this situation? You never figured out how much time you have to work with.

I want to help you avoid this problem. Next time you go out approaching, I want you to answer the question, “How much time do I have?”

Here are some questions you can ask the girl to answer that question:

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Ask the right questions.

  • What are you up to right now?
  • Where are you headed?
  • Are you free for a bit?
  • What are your plans today?
  • What are you doing after this?
  • When are you free next?

Based on her answer, you know how to pace the interaction. If she says, she’s actually late for work you know to go for the number and set up a date. If she tells you she’s going shopping today, you may be able to spend a bit more time getting to know her.

These questions are to get you started, but I want you to be able to come up with these on your own. In the first couple minutes of the approach, I want you to think, “what relevant information do I need to know?”

For example, I live near NYC and meet a bunch of girls on the train. If you approached a girl on a train, what is a good logistical question to ask? The answer to the question should tell me, “how much time am I working with?”

If you said, “What’s your stop?” then congratulations! That’s the best relevant logistical question to ask in this scenario. Now you know if she gets off at the next stop, you need to speed things up. If she gets off to a much later stop then you know you have some time to cement the interaction.

Another example. Say you’re on vacation and meet a beautiful girl. What’s a good question to ask? The first one I like to ask is, “How long are you here for?” If she’s leaving soon then no matter how good my game is, it’s most likely she isn’t going to ditch her flight to go on a date with me.

Alright, I hope these two examples give you ideas for coming up with your own relevant logistical questions.

Now, say you approached a girl out on the streets, and things are going well. The mistake most guys make is to settle for the number.

Sorry to burst your bubble but a number is sometimes a stairway to heaven with nothing on the other end.

If you have the time, the goal of your day gaming approaches should always be an instant date.

You go from a random guy she met on the corner to a guy she’s getting to know over a coffee, a drink or bite to eat. This extra time to build comfort establishes you as someone she’ll want to see again.

If she has enough free time, which you determined from her logistics, ALWAYS go for the instant date.

To increase your odds of success, be aware of some nearby venues like coffee shops, cafes, bars, etc.

The good thing about Starbucks is it’s everywhere! Plus, most girls love Starbucks, so this is a great default to have in your back pocket if you can’t think of anything.

Your odds of a second date are always higher when going on an instant date compared to being a guy meets on the street for 2 minutes.

Once you figure out she has good logistics, say, “We should go to a [coffee shop, bar, etc.] nearby.”

If she gives you objections like, “No I can’t,” here are some things you can say:

  • “I want to get to know you more.”
  • “We will only go for 1 cup of coffee (or one drink).”
  • “It’s nearby.”

The first line justifies why you want to bring her to get coffee. The last two lines lower the level of commitment. For example, it’s easier asking to borrow $1 than $100 because it’s a smaller commitment.

If she still says she can’t, that’s ok, because this makes going for the phone number easier.

Because she can’t get coffee with you now, saying, “Alright, let’s get that coffee next time, what’s your number?” is a smooth transition.

When you go for the number, be sure to ask her, “When are you free this week?” You want to set up the date then and there. It’s a lot easier to set up the date in person, than over the phone. Trying to set up the date over text is an uphill battle that you want to avoid when possible.

Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)

Beginners: Make 3 approaches and be sure to use at least one logistical question in every approach. The interaction only counts if you remembered to ask a logistical question.

Advanced: Make 5 approaches and be sure to use at least one logistical question in every approach. In addition, try to bring 3 girls on an instant date. It doesn’t matter if she can or not. What matters is that you went for it.

Alright, guys, there’s the tip of the week!

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